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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 303 (view)
 
On swallowing
Posted: 12/24/2008 8:36:06 AM

Does he kiss you after the deed? Cause that would truly be gross



then tell him to blow himself he is getting the same prize anyway lmao. Just kidding its great your at that stage and you both enjoy it i am truly happy for you. But i would brish my teeth first lmao


This right here gentlemen, is the number 1 reason quite a few ladies DON'T swallow, even those of us who enjoy it. I use to swallow for my man, was with him for 5 and a half years... he made me brush my teeth before he'd kiss me after, and it drove me nuts... sooo unromantic. "oh I love you baby... go brush your teeth!" come on now lol so he stopped gettin it, sorry bout his luck. It comes from YOUR body guys... if it's good enough for our mouth, it damn sure better be good enough for yours. As for anyone who may question it... nope, I don't have a problem with my man goin down on me and kissin me after.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 1064 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/23/2008 9:17:23 PM
making a relationship work for BOTH parties, doesn't include walkin out or cheatin if she won't suck your**** I'm sorry, but thats just low. There are other ways to please your mate. I feel for the OP, and any man (and I use this term loosely), that tried to make her do it before shes ready or they're gonna cheat or leave, after goin through that... is selfish, nasty and a horrible person. Also, I don't recall usin the word childish at all, towards anyone


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 1060 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/23/2008 6:25:15 PM
to ask once is not to browbeat, no. But in case you hadn't noticed, alot of the chat here has been about gettin head or dumpin the girl or gettin head or cheatin. I say... whatever, if cheatin, givin up or walkin out makes you a bigger man, be my guest. Theres nothin wrong with explorin your sexual appetites, I only see somethin wrong with a man who tries to insist a woman does it or hes movin on... wtf? lol thats not a real man imo


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 1053 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/23/2008 3:23:59 PM

And women wonder why men cheat?? You'd be hard pressed to find a cheating man that cheated for emotional reasons. Men that cheat do it because they have a sexual need/desire that their partner isn't or won't fulfill and isn't willing to learn/try


and you wonder why women cheat?? with men in the world with attitudes like this, it's a wonder the human race has continued to breed. men may cheat for sexual reasons, but women do it (generally) for emotional reasons. Therefor.. for every man browbeatin his woman into suckin him off when shes not into that (and then gettin it elsewhere), theres a lady out there somewhere... thats sick of bein browbeaten and is ALSO gettin it elsewhere... you act like you're the only ones that look elsewhere for things they need. I personally would never let a man threaten me in this way... you wanna be with somebody else? be my guest lol peace! As I've said, obviously not worth my time.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 1041 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/23/2008 8:10:44 AM

I don't think the issue is wheather or not men can't deal with it.... i think it's more wheather or not WOMEN can deal with it.

Men love bj's. That isn't going to change... ever! If im in a relationship and i'm not getting any and the future of our relationship is all about 'her' and there is no bj's from her in my future.. i get my bj's elsewhere.

Question is ... can SHE deal with it?


yup... ain't a "good" woman in her right mind gonna give a shit if you stick around or not with that kinda attitude.
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 157 (view)
 
Why are most guys attracted to pretty...um...b*tches?
Posted: 12/22/2008 2:05:45 PM

I always heard it meant: "Beautiful Individual That Causes Hardons


*adds this to her list* thanks guy, that works too! =D


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Sex using warm oils
Posted: 12/22/2008 12:40:30 PM
I love usin warm oils, however... I'm very picky about which kind I use. Any kind of oil I use MUST be edible. I love to kiss and lick on my partner and really don't want a health issue to be a result of it. lol


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
His little manhood problem is causing ME problems...advise?
Posted: 12/22/2008 12:33:38 PM
I've had this exact same problem before... I'll never forget him or the situation. After some time had gone by, I finally just had to look him in the face and say... "Look, I cum all over your****everytime we do it... not once, not twice, but many times. Can you please not ask me if I enjoyed myself so much and simply pay attention?"

I'm pretty sure thats about the exact way I put it, me bein the blunt person that I am, but thats just me. There are many other ways to say it. Worked out pretty well for me, but I do in fact feel your pain, so I hope you find somethin that works for you soon! Best of Luck!


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 96 (view)
 
Do not open this thread unless you are open to having meaningless one night stands
Posted: 12/22/2008 10:34:04 AM
I've had 1 night stands before, but never from any site. 2 I can distinctly remember.... 1 bein so bad I wish I hadn't done it, the other bein so good I wish I could have had a couple more nights, but accepted it for what it was.
I'm not into one night stands anymore, not because I think theres anything wrong with them, but simply because I'm a woman thats honest with herself. I've reached a point in my life, where it's harder for me to be sexually physical with no emotional attatchment of any kind. Not to say I couldn't do it, but I find it more pleasurable when theres some kind of emotion involved... I've found that a man who cares about me at least to a certain extent, will be more likely to care about the things I enjoy sexually, then a complete stranger simply lookin for that nut.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 169 (view)
 
are bellies sexy or not
Posted: 12/22/2008 9:52:13 AM
I'm not really all that picky when it comes to a man havin a belly or not... I could never be with an overly big man simply because I'm so small, but I've dated many men with love handles and a bit of a belly and definitely loved kissin on it, major turn on. I've also dated a couple in my day with the whole "washboard" chest thing goin on complete with a 6 pack, and that too was very nice to appreciate. I'm more into personality myself, but usually when I'm into a guy, I find him sexy... belly and all.

As for myself I'm 5'3-5'4, no clue clue how much I weigh but I wear a size 5. My belly is soft and flat, and really compliments my curves... especially my "baby makin hips" as some men love to call them. I'm proud to say my body still looks reasonably good for bein a mother of 2.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 512 (view)
 
oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it
Posted: 12/21/2008 10:56:43 AM

As already said.

How do you feel if a guy gets up after pleasing you, looks like he wants to puke, runs to the bathroom spitting the entire way.

Or.

Guy smiles, mmm taste good.


Which kills the mood more?


If it made him sick, theres no reason he'd be doin it in the first place. I wouldn't ask nor expect any man it made physically sick, to do it. As I have also already stated, in my last relationship I was pleased orally maybe once or twice every 6 months or so... he got it on a regular basis. Was it frustratin? yeah, a little, I'd be lyin if I said no... but it wasn't really his thing so, I lived with it and enjoyed other things with him. I don't understand how people can be so close minded that they can't enjoy the same luxary... it really is a very sexy thing sometimes :p


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 1019 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/21/2008 10:19:39 AM

But most girls can get away without having to please their man properly because most dudes are lame


There are many of us out there who do in fact do this among many other things to please our men, "most" women don't get away with anything, the women you've known do. Just because you've had a few bad experiences, don't blame all women for it. I just don't think a person should be made to feel like they have to. If you state in the beginnin thats what you're into, it's whatever... but theres really no need to be vulgar about it.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 1017 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/21/2008 9:01:10 AM
well I did find it a bit humorous lol sorry if you felt singled out =) my bad, no hard feelings :p


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 1015 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/21/2008 12:06:50 AM
beerbag you seem to think I'm attackin you or somethin, I'm certainly not lol I've singled no one out... what on earth are you talkin about? lol

As for the force thing... someone actually posted it quite nicely somewhere earlier... "If you really loved/liked me you'd...." we women get it alot. Or to simply dump someone because they won't do somethin sexually, makin them feel as though they're not worthy of you... ugh I just find it distasteful. Theres so many different ways to please your partner, I just don't get why this should play an important factor on a relationship.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 505 (view)
 
oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it
Posted: 12/20/2008 2:20:16 PM
I love how it keeps bein made about thinkin your partner is nasty... it's not about that at all. I see nothin wrong with swallowin for a man I'm into, so it's not an issue for me... however, I can see from their perspective as well.... say for instance someone thats not into swallowin cum but does enjoy lickin ass... just because that person enjoys lickin ass, doesn't necessarily mean they want someone to take a dump in their mouth... it's the same principle really. To find swallowin cum gross, isn't to find your partner gross... simply the slimy substance slidin down the back of your throat, and I don't see why it should effect someones relationship at all.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 137 (view)
 
Why are most guys attracted to pretty...um...b*tches?
Posted: 12/20/2008 12:26:17 PM

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An empowering name,
a compliment, a title that all
women should embrace;
It is a woman who is
proud of who she is,
stands up for herself,
knows what she wants,
and is willing to take risks,
all in a pleasant but
strong manner.


B. I. T. C. H.

BEAUTIFUL INTELLIGENT TOUGH CHARMING HONEST

BRIGHT IMPRESSIVE TENDER CLASSY HUMANE

BRAVE INDEPENDENT THOUGHTFUL CAREFREE HEAVENLY

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BRASH INTERESTING THANKFUL CHARITABLE HEROINE

In Other Words . . . proud to be a

BABE
IN
TOTAL
CONTROL
of
HERSELF


I couldn't have said this better myself. You're damn right!

However, I gotta say... she doesn't sound like a **** to me. She sounds like a selfish little girl that thinks of no one's needs but her own... and even if she does, she doesn't care. I had a good friend who dated a girl like that, all he did was complain to me... it was rather sad. He was such a good person and deserved so much better, yet he kept goin back. I remember in previous conversations him sayin how "hot" she was. Yeah, in today's society... I'm not shocked.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 297 (view)
 
Double Penetration
Posted: 12/20/2008 11:54:00 AM

Ok... That's because you see it from a woman's point of view, not a man's....
Do you honestly think most guys respect a woman who does that?


I'm not buyin into the whole man/woman point of view bit... when a man bangs 50 women, hes viewed as a "ladies man" hes THE man, oh how smoothe and awesome he must be. On the flip side... let a woman bang 50 men, shes a whore, no good, "used baggage" I've even seen some of you use many times. Now, in my personal opinion... if a man I decided to settle down with, use to partake in that kind of activity... so long as he A. was declared disease free B. it was in his past to stay and C. he treated me good... hell no I wouldn't hold it against him and he'd have every ounce of my respect. Respect isn't about your likes, it's about who you are and how you treat people, as far as I'm concerned. Anything and everything a person chooses to do or not to do, and many times even the things we have no control over... make them who they are today, and if I like someone... then I like them. I prefer to get to know someone for who they are and go from there, holdin someones past or likes against them has never had a good outcome that I've seen. So long as they aren't tryin to force or pressure you into somethin you aren't into, I don't really see why it should matter much on all of the terms I listed.



Ummm it's not my fantasy to see a woman getting it from both ends or two up her at once. And certainly wouldn't be my fantasy to see anyone I cared about getting DP'd...So for a start, that does exclude me from being hypocrite


I wasn't pointin fingers hun, nor did I say that is everyone's fantasy. What I was gettin at, is that I would figure a man would have alot of respect for a woman that would be willin to explore her body and do just about anything to please her man, regardless of what it may be. Now as I've said, I'm not into DP... nor do I ever see myself bein talked into it by any man... but thats kinda what I'm gettin at. I'm extremely open minded and willin to explore in other areas, without bringin someone else into play, where those women have no boundaries... do you see what I mean? They are willin to take it beyond the max and do whatever it takes to please their partner. Not a single one of these women, that I've seen (unless I missed somethin)... have said they HAD to have it or they won't be with a man, they've simply stated they enjoy it. I guess I just try to look at it from both points of view...


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 294 (view)
 
Double Penetration
Posted: 12/20/2008 10:20:32 AM
wow, look at all the hypocrits. This is seriously makin my day lol
I for one, have never tried DP... nor does the thought arouse me all that much... I'd rather focus on the pleasure of my man then the pleasure of all his friends.... if they need to get off, they can go find their own **** imo, I'm far from a toy to be passed around amongst "the boys".
However... if a woman actually enjoys DP and gets off on it, I'm not understandin how this makes her a dirty, a whore, a harlot, a strumpet, a tart, or someone you could never love/be with. If her ultimate goal is to make your fantasy come true, along with gettin herself a little pleasure in the process, you'd think this would more be a woman you'd be into because shes willin to be outrageous to please you. Some men really make no sense to me.
Just because a woman enjoys a little kink in her life, doesn't make her a whore and it doesn't mean she doesn't deserve a little love in her life... it makes her a strong, intelligent woman that knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go for it, thats to be respected where I come from.
Now like I said, this isn't somethin I'm into... nor does the thought even get my motor runnin... however, I know I'd be willin to try new kinky things if it made my man happy, I really just don't understand how a man could compare a woman to a ****in crapper of all things, simply because she has bigger balls than he does and can actually stand up and I say "I do it and I like it!!!".
All of you hypocrits sittin here preachin about how it makes these women no better then a 2 dollar hooker, shes not worth the love you'd waste on her..... yet I'm willin to bet it's you people, that have a wife/gf at home, at work, wherever she may be... trustin you, thinkin you're the greatest man in the world... and there you sit, strokin your 2 inch**** (if you're lucky) as you fantasize about, NOT your wife/gf, but the one woman you claim you could never love. "I'd **** her but I'd never marry her!" why don't you people grow up? lol seriously.... you don't have to be into somethin to be non judgemental and actually keep an open mind. It's the close minded people that miss out on alot of the good things in life. just my 2cp


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 998 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/19/2008 10:56:30 PM
I personally enjoy explorin my limits in the bedroom to the fullest, it has nothin to do with likin or dislikin someone for their tastes... I'm no one to judge someone else. Not sure how that came into play in the first place, and I certainly have no intention of "blowin" anyone lol. I said I'd never let a man force me or pressure me into doin somethin I'm not comfortable with. If I ran into a situation where a man just couldn't live without somethin I just couldn't live with, then so be it... go your way, I'll go mine.. but don't stick around and try to pressure it on to me, not cool. However, if you've been seein someone long enough for real feelings to have developed... and suddenly that comes up and you just walk away because someone isn't into somethin, how fair is that really? My question is... why weren't you both aware of it sooner, before time enough had gone by to develop feelings? Communication is the key...
For those of you who are up front about it and aren't rude, vicious and thoughtless about it... to each his own, I may even find you attractive... I personally have no problem with suckin any man I may choose to see.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
One position for 30mins?
Posted: 12/19/2008 6:30:23 PM

I think this would be very tiring for the girl because she pretty much does all the work and the guy just lays back and does nothing


I must say you haven't met a very experienced lover as of yet. When you do actually begin to get tired (30 mins is nothin cowgirl or reverse cowgirl), to have a man's strong hands reach up and grip your hips, controllin your every move can be extremely hot and somethin I hope you someday get to experience... it can be incredibly sexy with the right person.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 200 (view)
 
Horrible kisser = deal breaker????
Posted: 12/19/2008 5:48:40 PM

I would never buy an untrained puppy...


isn't that exactly what you claim to be? an "untrained puppy"? lol


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 198 (view)
 
Horrible kisser = deal breaker????
Posted: 12/19/2008 5:41:08 PM
I find it a little humorous that I'm seein some of the same posters on this thread postin "definite deal breaker!" or "deal breaker for sure!" (directed at no one imparticuliar), that I saw postin "why is not swallowin a deal breaker?". Come on now ladies, fair is fair... it's true kisses are alot more intimate in alot of ways, at least to me, but I'd never end a relationship over somethin like this simply because I'd never let just ANY man kiss me in the first place. I need sparks before I let him put his lips on mine, and when theres fire... it's usually never bad imo. However, takin the time to teach them would be great fun indeed if they needed a little somethin extra ;) hehe


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 497 (view)
 
oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it
Posted: 12/19/2008 4:02:17 PM

If she refuses to swallow it's because you have some work to do concerning the wooing of her heart and soul. Once you've broken her down she'll do anything you want -literally anything. Just concentrate on the spiritual and emotional intimacy and eventually she'll never say no


I agree with this to a point... someone that is special to me, that I have a good solid connection with, is defenitely more likely to convince me to try new things that I may have been too worried about tryin before.
However, this girl still has her limits lol I don't think any man on this green earth would convince me to let him whip me with a whip or pour hot wax on my tender flesh, or anything else that may inflict pain. lol I'd make sure you explore your boundaries before gettin too carried away guys.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 493 (view)
 
oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it
Posted: 12/19/2008 12:16:45 PM

Whatever. The forum is about blowjobs. Anyone get that? Yes there are more ways to please someone than that, but since this is the topic you all chose to post on, I am keeping my comments to that topic and not about any other type of sex or anything non related to that.


Correction... The forum is about blowjobs and SWALLOWIN, you really don't pay attention much do you? lol I was right on subject with what I had to say, no man will ever tell me I HAVE to SWALLOW, I do it by choice when I want to... and yes Ms. Best blowjob ever, some men do in fact enjoy ejaculatin on a woman's face, back, ass, tits, and sometimes even their feet, among many other different bodyparts/items (do you not read all the posts?). You know what they say about people who "assume" things, right?


Snide remarks made about what I am lacking in other areas is done only just to be snatches. Congratulations


This is the funniest thing you've said yet lol I've been called a****before, even heard a **** referred to as a snatch... but never, have I ever been called a snatch before. That made me giggle, thanks! =) As for what you lack... no one made snide remarks about it, we simply pointed out that if swallowin is the only talent you've got... well, I wouldn't expect very much out of life, sorry gal.


Obviously I struck a chord????


not quite, seein as how I've already admitted I suck****and swallow... at least when I want to. I just find people like you humorous. Maybe some women in the world enjoy feelin like nothin more than cum guzzlin pieces of meat, but me... I have way too much class and self respect to view myself that way.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
watch porn
Posted: 12/18/2008 5:45:46 AM
I'm gonna try to help you out from a different angle. Rather than try to tell you how to physically suck it, I'm gonna say this... It's worked out nicely in my experiences, while suckin my man off, to talk sexy to him or dirty to him while I did it. throw in things such as "do you like that baby?" or tell him how good he tastes... tell him how good he feels throbbin against your tongue, get creative with what you say... this method doesn't always work for everyone, and lord knows I'm no sexual expert, but it hasn't failed me yet, it's worth a shot. Goodluck to you =)



Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 480 (view)
 
oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it
Posted: 12/17/2008 10:43:16 PM

And yes, I am an expert at bj's. I could give you references. Seriously.


LMFAO! some people really trip me out. blowjob 101! hahahahaha Theres nothin wrong with suckin my man, nor tastin my man... I just won't be told I have to, end of story. Also, I don't need lessons either thanks... if I wanted to accomplish what you seem to have accomplished, I'd drop to my knees for the next available swingin****lookin to drop a load. Thankfully, I was raised with a bit more class and dignity, so... I'll pass! =)


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
 
If you had the perfect partner how often would you want sex?
Posted: 12/17/2008 4:09:27 PM
I'm gonna have to agree with the whole 4-6 times a day thing =X lol mornin, lunch break, after work, after dinner, before bed and sometime in the middle of the night if we can muster it hehe when I'm in a relationship I love to please and I have an insatiable hunger for love. It's not a must but defenitely a bonus! comin back down to reality... at least once or twice a day would be nice. lol


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 969 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/17/2008 3:58:33 PM
I prefer a man tell me what he likes and let me decide on my own if it's somethin I wanna do, if it's not somethin I'm into... so what? if a man really only enjoys 1 thing, life imo would get pretty boring. Explore other options instead of cryin about it... As I stated earlier, I'm all about pleasin my partner, I do this by choice because it turns ME on to turn HIM on... but when he makes me feel like I HAVE to do somethin, thats when all bets are off. I'm sure I'm not the only woman who feels this way, and we're completely justified as far as I'm concerned. If I wanna suck his****.. then I will, if I wanna swallow afterwards... I will, it's pretty crappy to try to make us feel like we have to or we might lose the interest of the man we're interested in. Keep steppin, thats what I've got to say about it.


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 967 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/17/2008 3:00:35 PM
thank you for the advice kitten, I won't be respondin to him imparticuliar again since he obviously likes to argue. Gotta love men like that. I've said my piece so it's all good lol He'll get a reality check someday


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 470 (view)
 
oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it
Posted: 12/17/2008 2:01:38 PM
thats not always true... I'm quite single just lookin to stay that way for a while too :p If it happens it happens but I'm certainly not lookin =)


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 958 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/17/2008 1:39:21 PM
rock hunter, I'm done quoting you because it's really growing tired... I'm simply gonna say this.... To discuss your likes and dislikes and determine you aren't for each other is one thing, but to tell a woman no blowjob or no swallowing after a blowjob = deal breaker... some of you men are so mean and callous it's pathetic.. and yes, some of you DO deserve violence. However, at this point, since you continue to cry about it... I feel the need to say I've never, nor at this point do I really have a plan to take my teeth to a man's genitals, although I've heard some men are really into that. As for my bein a hellcat or not, when it came to my relationship... really none of your concern, but the way you brought it up gave me the impression you like to beat up on innocent women so I figured I'd just throw it out there that I've been there and done that and it doesn't phase me, any man who touches me outside of pleasure again, that isn't an authority figure, will defenitely regret it. Just because I wanted to work out my relationship and did the best I could to be in it for the long haul, doesn't mean I'm not fiesty and can't be a hellcat lol you obviously don't know much about women. how sad


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 956 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/17/2008 1:08:43 PM

Why would I want to "handle" a hellcat like yourself? What makes you think that you're worth the bother of "handling" you?


I don't need to think I'm worth the bother... I KNOW I'm worth the bother. Thats not conceit my friend, I simply know how to treat a man. Any man that treated me good wouldn't ever want for a thing, I'm not always vicious... only when necessary, and I do try to be reasonable. I just won't be treated like some 2 dollar hooker on the corner, thats not me and I won't be treated as such. (not that I want you to handle me, I certainly don't).


So I suppose that if you tell a guy that you're not interested in him, he's justified in thinking that you deserve violence? After all, good for the goose...


Absolutaly not, again you mistake what I said... lol what else is new? I never once said a guy isn't justified in feelin like he couldn't be in a relationship with a woman who doesn't give BJ's... I just don't think men have to be so damn vicious about it. and I also never once said the man deserves violence because he feels thats way. Thats somethin that should be discussed long before a relationship ever begins to begin with. pay attention.


Am I supposed to melt or something because of your wisecrack comments?


not really no, but it was fun tryin to be cute for a minute :p


Until now, NOBODY has talked about "forcing" anything on you. Not even one of the guys have said that they will use violence on women. In the other hand, you are talking about YOU using violence on somebody as punishment for the non-violent crime of leaving you to find somebody who do meets his needs.


I don't think you men understand that there are many different types of force other than physical. If a woman really likes a man, and he tells her if she doesn't give him head he wants nothin to do with her... we generally tend to take men at their word. Sometimes, when we like someone enough, we go against our better judgement and beliefs to please our partner... which is fine to a point, but I've known many women who have done this and felt ashamed for it. so in a sense, yes some of you men ARE in fact forcin some of these women to do things they really don't wanna do. I just don't think a woman should have to feel ashamed when she makes love to her partner. Granted it's a her choice and hes not twistin her arm... but come on, think about it from a woman's point of view... sometimes we can be a little more sensitive than you men on certain subjects.


Oh, yeah? I wonder how much that "hellcat" would last with a guy who doesn't believe in the "you will never hit a girl, even if she hits you first" shield. It's very easy to talk tough, when you know that your victim won't defend himself


This hellcat lasted 5 and a half years with someone who thought just like that actually... and after 5 and a half years of puttin up with it, I walked away 5 months ago, and I'm so proud to say that I did. and you best believe I'll never put up with it again without removin bodyparts with rusty spoons. And trust me, it wasn't because I used my teeth on his manly bodyparts... some little boys just never grow up. I'm so glad I'm no longer blinded by love and realized he was really never gonna change. That, I'm sure has alot to do with why I am the way I am today. It's a part of life, you learn to deal with it and life goes on.


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 175 (view)
 
Spanking - What's the deal?
Posted: 12/17/2008 11:43:45 AM
spankin is defenitely about total domination for me, without havin to cross that complete BDSM line. I'm not into real physical pain outside of spankin, hair pullin and a little bitin here and there... whips, hot candle wax... I can't get into that. But to feel like I have no control over whats about to happen next and I might get spanked if I don't comply... really gets me goin. This doesn't work for me unless I know a man well and have been with him many times before, as I wouldn't want someone to think they could actually force me to do somethin I don't wanna do... but to have that sensation with someone who knows better is defenitely hot imo.


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 262 (view)
 
I am a man and I refuse to shave my pubic hair.
Posted: 12/17/2008 11:22:20 AM
This thread really is all just a matter of opinion.... I prefer to stay neatly trimmed, but I'd NEVER go bald... I tried it once and felt like a 10 year old tryin to make love to a man... now THAT...is gross. Never did that again *wrinkles her nose*

For me, a man who doesn't choose to trim or shave is sexy simply because hes natural. Not sayin a man who chooses to do so is wrong or not a man, I'd never insinuate that in any way, shape or form. I just personally love a man with hairy legs and a natural body. I don't seek out men with hairy chests, but if I happen to date one thats ok too. Natural men for the win in my book


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 954 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/17/2008 10:56:59 AM
and thats your opinion rock hunter, you obviously couldn't handle a hellcat like myself. some men love their women fiesty and freaky... thats not you, thats cool. It takes a special man to handle someone like me, I'd never say a "real" man, because I'd never insinuate someone who isn't for me, isn't a real man... I know better than that. I stand firm on everything I've posted thus far, and anyone who can't handle the truth... though it may hurt sometimes, is in for a rude awakening in the long run.



Tsk, tsk. Violence, violence. Why is that woman who won't get things her way = violence? What would you think if any of the guys here proposed to use violence to make women give BJs?


Any man who would ever tell me I HAVE to suck his**** or hes not interested in me... deserves violence imo. My ultimate goal in the bedroom is to please my partner, if hes not out for the same thing and tries to force his tastes on me, you're damn right he deserves it.



To those who think that you have the right to punish people because of their tastes.... I feel contempt for you


I have no right to punish anyone for their tastes, I never said I did... nor would I attempt to. To each their own. But again, any man that tries to force me to do somethin I don't wanna do, deserves just about anything he gets.



A pity such "won't insist, just enjoy when you get it" attitude doesn't apply to female demands


I've always loved the quote "It's better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid, then to open it and remove all doubt".
I just spent the last 5 and a half years with a man that couldn't be bothered to orally please me except maybe once every 6 months or so because he had to "be in the mood for that". He got blown on a regular basis. Fair? not if you ask me... but I lived with it anyway, I accepted it and enjoyed it when he WAS in the mood. So don't talk to me about that crap, many women put up with silly crap men do and still seek to please, as do men for women. If you haven't found at least one in your lifetime by now... I'm sorry, it's wonderful... you should try it sometime. =)



I'd say a "more teeth" woman will be lonely quicker than that


Only a man who tried to force it on me would receive this kind of treatment, and as I've said before... he deserves it too. A man that treats me as I deserve to be treated, will defenitely get it alot more often simply because I enjoy it... and he won't have to worry about teeth :p

I don't put up with mens crap... I take them for who they are and treat them as they should be treated, and I expect the same in return. If a man can't respect me for that, then he deserves to see the hellcat in me. They don't call me savage for nothin ;)


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 462 (view)
 
oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it
Posted: 12/17/2008 7:59:52 AM

Since it sounds like you girls need blow job 101 class, here are a few tips. Give a bj and a handjob at the same time. Focus your mouth on the head but coordinate your hand and mouth so that the guy goes nuts. Don't try to suck too hard. Do it gently and lovingly and sometimes tighten your grip with your hand. Remember to change it up a bit and not keep doing the same exact thing over and over. You can lead them to orgasm with increased motion, but do it gradually and very well timed. I like to rub the base of the penis on the side facing me with my thumb. Men seem to like that very well, but listen to your man to find out just the right spot that makes him respond more than others. I get so into it, I notice myself moaning along with them. That turns them on even more. Very simple with an interest to make them crazy with pleasure


ROFL! I think it's great when one woman tries to tell another how to give the best blowjob because SHE obviously does it the best. hahaha makes my day *grin*

As I've stated, I don't mind swallowin, so long as he doesn't mind kissin me. HOWEVER.... to state someone is not freaky or has no right to be near a penis if they choose NOT to swallow is just way too funny. a woman doesn't HAVE to swallow to be freaky.... trust me =D I've been with plenty of men who really got off on shootin all over my face, or all over my boobs, or all over my ass or all over my stomach for me to rub in. Not swallowin doesn't mean you're not freaky, it means you're into other things. It also doesn't mean you're worthless... if thats the only thing you can manage to do in order to be freaky and please your man... maybe it's you that needs a few lessons ;)


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 952 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/17/2008 7:33:24 AM

nope sorry, no bj's = no serious relationship


hahaha this is hilarious! no BJ = no serious relationship. Riiiiiiiiiiight what woman in her right mind would wanna pass up the opportunity to be "serious" with someone who INSISTS they get their flagpole sucked or it's over. I'd be crazy to pass up that opportunity! Whats wrong with some people today? LOL I say we start usin a little more teeth ladies, maybe it won't be such an "important" factor to a "serious relationship" anymore.

To those of you out there who wouldn't INSIST upon it, but rather enjoy it when you get it... my hat is off to you. Thats the kinda man I'd give a blowjob to regardless of time and location, AND I'd enjoy swallowin so long as he didn't mind kissin me after.

To those of you who think degrading women is the best way to go about things... I feel sad for you. You might get your wang sucked, if you degrade the woman you're with enough that is.... but I guarantee you this... unless shes MAJORLY into BDSM and gets off on bein degraded... don't be surprised if the woman chooses to leave over givin you a blowjob. I certainly would. no man in his damn right mind gives me an ulimatum like that. He'd be lonely real quick and in a hurry.


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 170 (view)
 
Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 12/16/2008 6:57:18 PM
I wouldn't even hesitate to say I'd exchange every single sexual act I've ever had (conception acts excluded of course), for 1 more night with my red hot virgin. Just thinkin about how eager he was to please me curls my toes. lol 6,7, sometimes 8 times a day... when they first get it, they can't get enough and mmm is it good when they're open minded like mine was ;)


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 244 (view)
 
I am a man and I refuse to shave my pubic hair.
Posted: 12/16/2008 4:22:28 PM
I think a man in his natural state is so much sexier then a man who shaves anyway. good for you


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 947 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/16/2008 4:04:28 PM
Well, otherwise, it's like pulling out before the "job" is done. Just think how it would feel if a guy was performing oral on you and just before you came he stopped and used another method. It definately disrupts the tempo.


I gotta disagree here Dave... sorry, I'm not buyin into that. When we give a man a blowjob, he gets off whether we swallow or not... and trust me it's very possible for a guy to lick you until you cum and then pull away when you explode without "swallowin". So to pull away BEFORE we cum is defenitely not the same thing. And if it's only to change the method, just before you cum... I say more power to ya, what woman doesn't love to be teased and aroused and played with before the final explosion?


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 438 (view)
 
oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it
Posted: 12/16/2008 1:07:55 PM
If I like a guy enough to let him put his love pole in my mouth, you best believe I like him enough to let him cum in my mouth. However, all of the factors already mentioned come into play... does it taste bad? will you kiss me after? etc...

I use to do it for my ex in the beginnin... then I discovered givin oral in return wasn't really his big thing (maybe once every 6 months), ok no problem... I worked around that. Makin me brush my teeth before he'd kiss me after was drawin the line for me. Thats just ridiculous... as so many have already said, it's good enough for my mouth, why isn't it good enjough for yours? It came from YOUR body! lol Needless to say... for the next 5 and a half years he got many many BJ's... but I stopped lettin him cum in my mouth. Sorry, whats good for the goose is good for the gander imo.


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 941 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/16/2008 1:01:57 AM
wow dave.... you're defenitely someone I wouldn't even consider givin a BJ to. it HAS to include cumming in the mouth? lol sure... we'll be happy to swallow when you men stop bein sissies and makin us brush our teeth before you'll kiss us... it's good enough for our mouths but not yours? pssh! not in this lifetime lol

and to the OP... any man that would tell you not receivin head is a deal breaker, rather than try to help you overcome your fear... isn't worth your time in the first place, move on girlfriend.


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Have you ever cried during sex because it was so good
Posted: 12/16/2008 12:56:07 AM
I've only ever had it happen to me once, and it wasn't with someone I was majorly "in love" with. we were 2 consentin adults, needin a little affection from one another. It happened just at the very end on my final orgasm, the tears started to roll and they just wouldn't stop... honestly, I think the orgasm was just so intense at that moment, that I needed a way to release. Not sayin this is your situation, but it's a thought =)


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Ladies, how do you let your partner know you're in the mood?
Posted: 12/16/2008 12:43:13 AM
If we were in a public place and I were goin for subtle, I'd probably use my hands more... i.e. softly rubbin his back and shoulders, usin my finger tips to draw small circles on the palm of his hand, then pickin it up and placin a soft kiss in the same area... things of that nature. If it were more of a light situation, I might go for the playful banter... a little frisky flirtation can go a very long way ;)


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 299 (view)
 
Do men think women women wearing glasses are sexy?
Posted: 12/16/2008 12:24:16 AM
I also get alot of the "librarian" comments... seems like that must be one of the major fantasies men seem to play on lol I get alot of comments about how innocent I look.... HA! if you oooooooooonly knew *grin* sorry guys, your fantasy is nothin more than that... a fantasy. When the lights go down and the glasses come off, the freak within comes out to play, we're not really so cute and innocent afterall... we just like to look like we are ;)


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 938 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/15/2008 10:18:47 PM
I'd be a fool to complain about oral, regardless of the reason =D


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 328 (view)
 
Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 12/15/2008 9:45:51 PM
I'm gonna go with those that say... I have no clue if this is somethin that can be learned or not. I haven't been one of the lucky ones to make myself do this on my own. In fact, the only way I've ever been able to squirt so far is while ridin. It's more than just a feelin of havin to urinate for me though... my entire body goes feverish hot, I begin to shake, and I couldn't scream nor make a sound if you paid me to... this generally lasts only for a few seconds (dependin on how steady the g-spot is bein tapped, it may last longer), after which the fluids begin to pour/squirt uncontrollably... anything beyond that is completely out of my hands... to orgasm like that to me is like bein outside of your own body, you hand complete control over to the man and submit to the desire your body won't allow you to refuse... if you just let yourself go =)


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 154 (view)
 
Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 12/15/2008 8:49:36 PM
I dated a virgin once a few years back... I must say from my own personal experience, I'd do it again in a heartbeat. The fact that he didn't know anything about a woman's body allowed me to mold him to my wants and needs, not that he minded lol he was quite willin to explore, fascinated with my body, and extremely eager to learn. and boy did I have fun teachin him *blush* he turned out to be the best lover I've ever encountered, even to this day. I don't hunt virgins down, but after my one incredible experience I must say theres somethin really sexy about a man that has saved himself for just the right moment, and then offers it to you. I gotta admit though, maybe this is just from my own point of view... but I don't really feel like I'm the one who impacted his life, I feel like he's the one who impacted mine.


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 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 936 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 12/15/2008 11:18:34 AM
I have no idea if you're into older men at all, but I've been talkin to a 40 year old guy and I'm 27... (thats not a hint fellas, I've known him for some time now :p) Altho the topic of BJ's have come up in conversation, now that I think back... I find it was more myself bringin it up. For whatever reason, I'm not sure if it's his seasoned age *grin* or just his style... but he seems to bring up pleasin me orally waaaaaaaaaaaaay more often then my doin it for him. Maybe you could look in that direction? just a suggestion from one lady to another ;)

and just a heads up... this doesn't mean I expect an e-mail from every 40+ year old man on POF askin "how much of a savage" I can be. I love men in general, and I usually date men a little closer to my own age. Unless you can seriously impress me (this doesn't include my bein the other woman because your wife of 20 years won't give you none and you're lonely), please don't bother. kthxbye =)


Savage
 sxysavage7
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 252 (view)
 
do women really know inthe first 5 min. if they will have sex with a man
Posted: 12/15/2008 8:39:33 AM
I never know within the first 5 mins if I wanna sleep with a guy or not... but as so many have said, I know if theres defenite potential i.e. he really turns me on. Honestly, looks have nothin to do with my decision on it in most cases. In some cases, yes I may find one man more physically attractive then another... but if I'm not feelin the chemistry, the magic, whatever you wanna call it, he doesn't stand a snowball's chance in hell of ever gettin into my pants. However, I do know within the first second who I just absolutaly could never see myself sleepin with. I also know within the first 5 mins of a man openin his mouth for the first time. If nothin intelligent comes out... it's time for me to move on.


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