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imagr8kisser

Joined: 11/14/2005

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Profile Review Posted: 4/21/2008 7:52:30 PM
I think your profile is short, sweet, and to the point. Now, go fishin' and best of luck to you!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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The Problem With Thongs Posted: 12/4/2007 7:57:08 PM
Best laugh I've had all week!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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emotionally unavailable Posted: 12/4/2007 7:49:47 PM
I was raised that who ever did the asking should pay. However, with all things being fairly equal, I usually at least offer to pay my own way. That way neither person is beholden to the other.

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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What occupations have you actually dated? Posted: 11/25/2007 10:44:51 AM
Let's see.... There was the auto body man, the gun smith, special ed teacher, the factory assemby worker, the newspaper delivery guy trying out for a pro sports team, construction worker, bus driver, and custodian. Yep, I'd date a blue collar worker!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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Do I just attract all the winners? Or am I setting the bar too high? Posted: 11/25/2007 10:18:29 AM
You are the same age as my son and I have always told him you have to have standards to live up to, not down to.

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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I just can't deal with this anymore! Posted: 1/14/2007 7:51:22 PM
Start with contacting your county attorney. There is a division of child support/child support enforcement. It will cost you nothing to very, very little money. They work on behalf of the child. They may require a paternity test and may require him to pay half of all your medical bills as well. Take everything you have on this schmuck (name, date of birth, pictures, social security number, place he works, places he frequents, where his parents or siblilings live, whether or not he answers the door if there is a person knocking, what kind of vehicle he drives & the license plate number) to your county attorney. Also, document in a log every single conversation you have with this guy (including dates and times and how long the conversation lasts, as well as note his tone of voice. These kind of logs ARE allowed in court. What you are doing is laying the foundation for collecting child support until your little one is of age. There will be no turning back and getting back together with this guy if you do this. It will also allow you to see that you are growing without him as you read back on your conversations logs. Good luck to you! Keep you chin up. Enjoy your little one but go on without him. Be pleasant. Don't talk bad about her father when she is old enough to understand and you will both be rewarded with a relationship beyond your dreams.

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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How do I get him to step up to the plate? Posted: 1/12/2007 11:05:32 PM
First of all - Is he paying child support? If not, what you need is a darn good lawyer to make sure he's paying child support and MAKE SURE IT IS ENFORCED! (You can also get one through the county attorney, division of child support for no or very, very little money.) Secondly - Make sure the court knows that you really want him involved but it has been his choice each and every time he has not showed up on DESIGNATED DATES AND TIMES. (Keep a log! It is admissable in court!) And, lastly - do move as you have planned and ENJOY YOUR LITTLE BOY! They grow up so quick! Don't allow that schmuck to give you grief for ANY reason! You are his son's mother and that entitles you to his respect. So, you two aren't together anymore. Okay. But HIS son is living FULL time with YOU because HIS interest still lies only with and for himself. He has not stepped up to the plate and now you are doing the job of two. Tell him that until he can speak with you and not to you with the respect you deserve, this conversation is at an end and hang up. The only reason I have ranted on like this is because I've been there, done that, and have the T-shirt in all sizes, shapes, and colors. I had to battle not only my son's father but the Commonwealth of Kentucky for two years before I got his check garnished because he paid "when the Spirit moved him". (I understand that is a legal term, too.) Now, my son is a healthy, well adjusted, grounded kid that just turned 18 and on every Father's Day, it's ME he wishes "Happy M.a.D. Day" to, not his father. (M.a.D. stand for Mom and Dad - He came up with that all on his own and has been doing that since he was 5!) Believe me! They know who loves them, cares for them, and who will be there for them whenever they need them at a very early age. Good luck to you! I wish you all the best and have a wonderful life with your little guy!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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How many 5' women are scared of a 6' over 200lb man? Posted: 2/25/2006 11:36:13 PM
I love big guys!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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Anyone have any good advice for dating SEPARATED people? Y or N? Posted: 2/25/2006 11:30:00 PM
Wait until the ink is dry on the divorce papers! The guy is still married! He wants his cake and to eat it too without having half a piece. You deserve a guy's attention 100%. If he can't give it to you, he's not worthy of you. Good luck!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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I Am New Here Posted: 1/20/2006 7:48:31 PM
Hello Romantic! Welcome to POF! You have a nice profile and you'll be corresponding and meeting someone real quick! Good luck and hope you have as much fun with this site as I have!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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Everett,Washington Posted: 12/31/2005 12:15:57 PM
Same goes for Monroe! It's like if you are not into the bars, you have no where to go unless it's Seattle!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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can anyone help? lol Posted: 12/10/2005 10:41:50 PM
Hi Mag! Your son sounds a lot like my son. He's now 17 and a great kid. First of all, take a very deep, long, slow breath. Let your son know in no uncertain terms that you are the mommy and mommies have the say about the house. If he doesn't want to pick up his toys, take his hands and "help" him pick them up. If he pitches a tantrum in a store, give him the option of stopping imediately or you will pick him up and carry him out of there. Don't check out. Just leave your cart. You might have to do it a couple times but when he gets embarrassed being carted out of a store because of his behavior, he'll stop. DO NOT BACK DOWN! He has to know who is the boss. With a hyper child, counting to five is way too long. Give him to the count of three. If you have the saying, "Don't make me get to three." when you start counting, they will think they are going to get into MAJOR trouble when you do get to three. They do. The ABSOLUTE WORST thing you can do to a hyper child, mine included, is to put them in an uncomfortable straight back chair for a minute per year. If they stand up, add another minute. Make them look at you and appologize for their behavior and ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS hug them and tell them you love them and JUST their behavior disappointed you. I haven't had to use the time out chair in seven years. Find positive ways to channel his behavior - take him to the park and let him run his little legs off. When he gets a little older try T-ball or soccer. Have him "help" you about the house. Three years old is NOT too little to start. Use terms like, "I could really use your help with ...." and "Could you help me with...." If they think they are helping, it will make your life SO MUCH easier!! Give him a few wash cloths to "fold" when you are doing laudry. Let him put the silverware on the table. Have him make his own bed. If you are dusting, you get the top of the furniture and let him get the bottom legs. What's a little dust compared to peace around the house? (Besides, when he goes for a nap or to bed for the night, you can go over the dusting.) And finally, if all that does not work, make an appointment with his doctor. He may have a food allergy that is making him act out. If the doctor suspects ADHD, get the book "Driven to Distraction". (That saved my sanity.) Good luck to you. I know exactly what you are going through. Big hugs! Caren

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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I need opinions and advice re. my elderly folks. Posted: 11/20/2005 8:59:12 PM
I used to work as a care giver through the state of Oregon. Go through your nearest senior services and let them know of your delima and their medical problems. Most of the time the state can either pay for or help pay for cooking, cleaning, medication management and personal care giving (including bathing) until you're there. The really good ones won't even wonder at dad's attitude. They'll know. People in Oregon have a background check and usually go through some sort of training program. (I didn't have to do the training program because I had so much experience.) They can even pay someone to take them to medical appointments or send a mini bus to their door. (Re: driving - a third option. Hide the car keys. You don't want them making headlines because they made a wrong turn, got lost, killed or killed someone else. He still has his "license" and you have the keys.) My very best to you! You are an angel. I know you have a full time job there! P.S. Remember to take care of yourself, too. More care givers get sick and depressed than you know. Find a support group for yourself, too!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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A really serious question here, need help Posted: 11/20/2005 8:30:44 PM
Thanks for the great laugh!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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What Makes You Decide To Post A Reply To A Thread?? Posted: 11/20/2005 8:28:29 PM
An interesting subject or headline makes me want to check out the thread and I'll ususally offer my two cents worth.

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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Some input, please............ Posted: 11/20/2005 7:54:05 PM
Nice profile! Call me nosy but I would have liked to know what your profession is (unless you work for the mob - lol!), what type of movies you like (since you are admittedly picky) and outdoor activities you like to do (since there are SO MANY of them). Good luck to you! I hope you find her soon!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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Request for Input Posted: 11/20/2005 7:46:15 PM
Your profile is excellent! Sooner or later someone will respond and the next thing you know, buddies! Until then, jump in and talk to someone! I'm usually very shy but I've had more fun in the last week getting on these forums. Come on in! The water is fine!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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Class action against Yahoo Personals and Match.com for fraud Posted: 11/20/2005 8:59:22 AM
gandalf3200 - EXCELLENT idea to contact your state's attorney general! Let's ALL do that! I feel foolish for subscribing. I, too, have had money I couldn't get back from True.com and had a couple people get real interested in me when it was time to renew with Match.com and POOF! they were gone. I will NEVER again subscribe to another pay site! I originally did it because I live in a small town and am not into the bar scene and, basically I'm a very shy person. This has been very enlightening and the more I think about it, it really hacks me off!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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Children and the parent who comitted suicide Posted: 11/19/2005 8:47:26 AM
My heart goes out to you and your kids. You didn't say how old your two older kids were but there really are some ages that are a little more sensative than others. You desperately need to get yourself and your family to some sort of therapist imediately! Your kids need to know, and not just from mom, that this was not their fault. This was a medical and/or social problem that was wrong with their dad and it was the only, and permanent, way he coped. If the first therapist doesn't work out, go to another. As a child of a parent that committed suicide 33 years ago; that was something my mother did not do. I'm now 40 and still have abandonment issues that it's taken me years to recognize and work on. I don't want that for you or your kids. Good luck to you!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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is there no hope for large guys Posted: 11/19/2005 8:13:17 AM
There is a lot of hope for large guys. You have to do just what any other guy has to do, keep yourself clean, shaved, dress up some, look a woman in the eye, open doors for her, treat her and yourself with respect and always remember the golden rule - treat others like you would want to be treated. If you are going to step out on a woman, expect her to do the same. If you shower her with love and attention, expect her to do the same. Good luck!

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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PLEASE HELP ME PLEASE Posted: 11/19/2005 7:51:03 AM
There are two words for what you are going through - domestic abuse. You don't have to be hit to be abused. Get your kids, get what you absolutely have to take, any important papers, and GET OUT! Go to a women's crisis shelter and get a restraining order. Do NOT look back and DO NOT CONTACT HIM EVER AGAIN! If he's treating you like this now, it will only get worse. You have three beautiful kids that are depending on you for their health and safety. The situation you are in is neither healthy nor safe. Please do not hesitate to go! I'll say a prayer for you.

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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where are all the old fashioned women? Posted: 11/17/2005 11:14:32 PM
June Cleaver is dead! Welcome to 2005! You CAN raise good kids and work outside the home. I am SO PROUD of my son! Since September, he called 911 twice - to help a comatose person he found in a field and another medical emergency and has had not one, but TWO kids from school call him for help because they knew could trust him and knew he would help or get help for their urgent situation. He just turned 17 this week and has had to make some VERY adult decisions and did ABSOLUTELY everything right. He couldn't have made those decisions without my guidance, support, and picked up on some of what I learned working outside the home.

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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Hard to find Posted: 11/17/2005 10:29:35 PM
Not all of us are into looks or money. We women want to be loved and accepted for WHO and WHAT we are. How many times do we women get overlooked because we're not model thin, don't have a DD cup, have kids, or we have a high powered job? I don't care what a guy looks as long as he knows what a shower, deoderant, and razor are for. If a guy is nuts about me, I've already seen his beautiful heart. Get out! Talk to women in the grocery store. Ask their advice on a cut of meat. Go to church and then to coffee afterwards. Take a walk downtown and smile at every woman that walks by and LOOK THEM IN THE EYE! Ask them, "Beautiful day, isn't it?" even if it's pouring down the rain. (It is a beautiful day. You're alive and you're looking at and talking with beautiful women!) You'll have a match in no time. Good luck! : )

IMAGR8KISSER

Joined: 11/14/2005

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Heres a question for ALL parents! Posted: 11/17/2005 10:06:39 PM
HANG IN THERE!!! I know this is REALLY tough. I went through the same thing with my son's father. When he started making noises that he wanted to come around and be with him I laid down the law to him. I told him if he wanted to come around, that was fine but he was to be there ON TIME and WHEN he said he was going to be because I was not going to stand by and pick up the pieces of a little boy's heart; that I'd rather he not show up at all if he couldn't take the responsibility. Deep down, your son knows who is there for him in the middle of the night during bad dreams, the monsters that live in the closet and under the bed, or when he's heaving and having someone hold his head. And deep down, your son knows that is not you that's keeping her away from him. Your son will love and respect you for the job you are doing and you're setting a fine example for him to follow. Yes, he's feeling a little abandoned and betrayed by one parent but that is HER loss, not your son's. He's got a heckofa second parent to be this concerned. Keep up the great job and hang in there!

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