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army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Seriously, is there any disarming/non-creepy way... Posted: 8/28/2009 3:22:28 AM
Lol- yeah, happens to me alot. I just mark them off as the ladies that are so blessed that they don't need to send an e-mail back, or they don't understand hat common decency is. Either way, better off without them.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Hobbies dilema...... Posted: 8/28/2009 12:56:07 AM
Ok, plenty of good advice and some good questions here. ok- we only exchanged a couple e-mails so far. Not enough to have a complete "feel" for each other. I hope that doesn't happen on here- I hope that happens when.... If we meet up in the real world. She likes doing nature walks- so I think we got a little common ground to work with. I just don't want to come across as only being into myself. If that happens then she won't be having too much fun and that means no photo oportunities out on the mountain and no big mouth bass out of the lake with my new buddy. I guess I probly shouldn't think about that end of the spectrum though eh? As far as bringing up the past- well mine hasn't exactly been filled with all of the best memories and stuff. But I did learn how to find the good parts. It's just the rest of the memory that makes people think I'm trying to be depressing before I get to the good part. Maby I'll throw that little disclaimer in there if our conversation goes that way.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Hobbies dilema...... Posted: 8/28/2009 12:13:28 AM
Ok, so theres a nice woman that actually took the time to e-mail me on here. Problem is that she doesn't have any of the same hobbies as me listed here. I already mentioned that to her, and still made it out like it didn't matter and started talking to her about one of mine. Thing is that I am still interested in her. I asked if she had any other hobbies to try and find some common ground. She has a couple kids and I'm thinking maby she doesn't have a whole lot of time for hobbies- but the great part about my hobbies is that they are more family friendly like backpacking, camping, hiking, fishing, and all kinds of fun stuff at the lake or ocean. Ok, so my question is do any of the ladies here think I'm barking up the wrong tree with trying to talk about my hobbies with her? I mean I'm interested but I don't want to come across as a waste of time as far as dating is concerned.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

Msg: 91 (view)

Does honesty hurt more than just dissapearing? Posted: 8/5/2009 9:43:31 PM
I can get over with honesty......... I would hunt down a woman that disappeared on me. Only for closure though. Honesty= closure.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Is being faithful a thing of the past? Posted: 8/5/2009 9:40:07 PM
Woah- don't drag religion into this. Religion doesn't mean much anymore. I am not really into any religion personally, but I have also NEVER cheated- an yet all of the women I was with identified with one religion or another, and thought cheating was ok- or at least it was ok if they did it to me. The fact of he matter is that uncle sam is taking away parental rights to discipline kids- therefore, more and more nasty people are raring their ugly heads. You are not too selfish. People are just too scared of getting hurt I think- or holding grudges against the other gender........ the problem ain't you- I can assure you of that. Religion taught me lies, so tit for tat on that. There are faithful couples. I think it has something to do with all of the freedom this and other countries embrace. In the military, adultary is a crime. Don't feel bad- I am right here with you. I am plagued by this question myself.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Can you fall in love with someone on line? Posted: 8/5/2009 2:51:21 PM
Um...... I don't think you can. If you can't see how they live, and can't visit them and have random experiences together, how well do you reall know them? One could get that butterfly thing going on, but that's just the chemistry. It needs time and interaction in order to properly develop. Otherwise, the thing you get online is used to what they say. What a person says could be diluted by many factors, or justa plain flat out lie. Love isn't real until you can work together for long sustained periods of time.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

Msg: 107 (view)

I'm not attracted to you Posted: 6/25/2009 7:52:49 PM
Lol- obviously he was validating his own moving on. Little hint- don't let people who mean nothing to you say something that means something.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Is this a game, or interest? Posted: 6/25/2009 7:50:27 PM
She didn't cancel any plans for me- she canceled her plans then asked if I wanted to see her: so I was the back-up for her original plans that particular day. Um...... a backup? I don't ever take back burner- but that's just me. They want to be treated like numero uno, so do I.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Women need to seal the deal as much as men. Posted: 6/15/2009 9:54:17 PM
See, in this army sanctioned class and R&R getaway I went to I learned that it's not all women, it's the ones you see. See, it's like differet worlds. I'm in the mil, which means that my life depends on the people around me and vice versa. The truth is crucial. Unfortunately, in the civilian world (the easiest place for me to go fishing) truth isn't a requirement, and trust is hard to come by. It is easy for me to just blindly trust people, while that waitress (for lack of a better geneal example) has a hard time finding guys tat tell the truth because she's hot and they aretrying to get her to bed as quick as possible. Well, waitress will hurt me with mistrust, or will take action on mistrust and hurt me, weather my intentions were pure or not. The thing I'm gettin' at is the fact that in order to know a person, you must walk a mile in their shoes and see the world though their eyes. Only then will you know them. Only then will you be safe with them. My best advice, you want celebacy till marriage- look in the extreemely religious mixed with old school bin. Good luck finding that though.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Emotionally unstable partner: how to deal? Posted: 6/15/2009 9:29:33 PM
Well, i my experience, people like that tend to drain the happy person. The see the happy person as an inexhaustable fountain. They will constantly come to that person in a bad mindset nd let them do everything in their power....... it's really quite sad. I'm sorry, I really wish I knew something better of your stuation, but this is my unfortunate experience.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Is there a good reason not to date someone who is bipolar? Posted: 6/15/2009 8:54:39 PM
Unfortunately, it does take a special type of person to deal with bipolar disorder. The person having to make that decsion needs to dig deep and question themself on a serious soul searching way.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Been single for too long Posted: 6/15/2009 8:47:39 PM
I have been divorced for a little over two years. If this i your thought process, you got self issues you should examine. There's no time limit unless you set it. If you do, you are limiting your own potential and stuff.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Your intentions when you Joined POF... Posted: 6/15/2009 8:40:08 PM
Origionally I was throwing my line out behind the boat and keeping an eye on it. I keep coming up with barracudas, suckerfish, blowfish........ nothing really worth keeping to me. I'm starting to wonderif I will ever find that fabled salmonthat's supposedly out there somewhere.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

Msg: 84 (view)

how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ? Posted: 6/15/2009 8:35:26 PM
Well, look for big red flags, like certain times of every day that he can't be reached, not fothcoming with address, dodging around like they are hiding something....... the usual stuff is what nails them to a wall.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

Msg: 44 (view)

Should I meet this guy ? Posted: 6/15/2009 8:31:07 PM
Well, if the trust just ain't there, then you sould move on. In defence of guy though, I've met plenty of women with phone issues. It frustrates me to the point of just letting them go back to the pond. My job feeds me so much stupid stuff that I don't have much patience left after work.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Some helpful dating advice please! Posted: 6/15/2009 7:48:20 AM
Ok, well 1) take women off the pedistal you have them on. They are human and can be as mean, nasty, and cruel about the guy they complain about. 2) They are human........ SO ARE YOU. Humble is good, but being to humble is being a pushover. A woman wants a guy to be a strong person in her life. 3) You have no clue how many guys that are like minded fail constantly. The guys that seem more successful are actually less successful due to the fact that they date all these women, but have nothing to show for it. To me that seems to be the true waste and can be considered a waste of time, money, and resources. Ok, so to recap, get cozy with the idea of rejection and heartache. It happens alot in todays world. Freedom of thought and choice has it's down side, but so does everything else. It will get really frustrating, and sometimes down right depressing. But finding the one is indeed the treasure of a lifetime and is worth the pain.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 6/12/2009 5:03:29 PM
Or you can go with the fact that you dated plenty of decent guys and turned them gay.................. or they found somebody that treated them with respect and got married. Either way you cut it, you just messed up with that question.

army3

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Msg: 64 (view)

Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 6/12/2009 4:57:48 PM
I'm an a-hole. Only because it repels people that don't realise what LTRs, LDRs, and the like are. It also repels people that think they know, but actually don't grasp the whole responsibilites portion of the rlp.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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What women really want from a guy Posted: 6/12/2009 7:43:36 AM
Look, women want a guy that cares in general. Being a few extra lbs isn't caring about one's self. Being too nice isn't getting the job done. Being too sweet can come across as overbearing. There are alot of things that a woman looks at. Another big one is having all your ducks in a row and ready to do something with them. It's not that hard to understand really. The hard part is maintaining a sweet demeanor while attempting to keep all the ducks in a row.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You? Posted: 6/10/2009 5:49:58 PM
Sounds like a very inconciderate person to me. Maby if you knew the whole story things would look different. Maby the woman thought she was the queen bee and needed to get knocked over to remember that she wasn't god's gift to men. Maby he was messing with her and she said something just as bad to him later. I've seen a good many couples that joke around like that these days. There are alot of unseen factors with this story. Was it their first date?..............

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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The Six Biggest Dating Mistakes Women Make Posted: 6/10/2009 7:55:11 AM
I personally find that these Men and Women posts shouldn't be labeled as such. I see the very same things in both sides of the tracks. Some people have different personality sets than others is what I've seen. Some people talk alot while others talk minimally. Some are reserved while others are more outspoken. The point I'm trying to make is that I think people should just be themselves. If you want to be availible, then don't be with 10 other people, be by yourself, cuz then theres actully a chance to learn something about other people instead of being distracted constantly by 10 other people. Also pay attention for that little "spark." If it ain't there, just be honest about it. It is true that sometimes there's an occurance where one person gets it and the other doesn't, but I find that when that happens, there are certain issues causing the spark for one person, instead of actual attraction. In a way it's a kind of manufactured attraction with things other than actual attraction causing it in a person. As for he guy talking more, that sounds like old school thought pattern where the guy always has the upper hand if the lady likes it or not. I personally don't like that Idea. I think the male and female should be partners, not one subservient to the other. In retrospect, the life story thing could be true, but I think it would be better done if the person with a bad story just warns the other persn before getting into it. A sort of opt out type courtesy. As for knowing from the get go yes or no, I prefer the calculating method as a sudden yes or no has gotten me hurt by a good number of bad women. Manners.............. well we all need to remmber those at all times. It's common decency people. What, are we still in the stone age? Wait, I'll just go get my club and drag whoever I want back to my cave!

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Freind zone Posted: 6/5/2009 4:13:46 PM
Ok, well I would tell her, and when she goes to laugh it off, just persue it. She sounds like she's playing hard to get and doesn't see it as serious. Maby you should tell her that you are serious. Of course that might push her away all together, but would you rather just keep sitting on things? If you can't chill out anymore, thenmaby the friend split is what is in the recipie. All you can really do is sit down and try to talk to her about it. Don't just let it get laughed off.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Ladies, Want to know what happened to all the Nice Guys? Posted: 6/2/2009 4:59:54 PM
I completely agree with this whole spiel OP. Women want perfection. They will settle for attraction. But good lord, don't ever treat them how they say they want to be treated. I'm in the army- automatic sex appeal there. Now the funny part is when I start talking to a woman, everything is going well, then I make the mistake of listening to them and attempting to go off o what they want. Then they turn into different people. Suddenly I'm not such a great guy anymore? Ok, next.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Manners Posted: 5/25/2009 9:52:05 PM
Look, the world is going strait down the tubes. Just take a look at television. What is on TV these days would have been concidered against the law in the 50s. It's just how the world progresses- at a degenerative self destructive sort of way.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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From Russia, With Love???? Posted: 5/25/2009 9:37:08 PM
Um....... russia has poor people just like the US, South America, Japan...... yeah pretty much the rest of the world. They also have women looking for a paycheck, scamers, and all of those other nasty things. My guess is block the person and release the thought of a hot russian babe in your bed.

army3

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My ex is engaged and has cheated on her with me Posted: 5/25/2009 9:32:40 PM
What if I said you both make really dumb decisions and that both of you are part of the overall problem of overpopulation? Would that be a genocidal point of view? Look, why are yo still sleeping with him or even thinking about him if he's 1) a lush, and 2) a cheater hat is 3) going off to the war and is just 4) using you to satisfyhis own male shovenist desires and nothing more. HULLO- this is reality screaming. You may not want to procreate if this is what you plan on teaching your children. Now that I have said everything I wanted to, I want everybody to actually read what I typed and answer one final question. Am I the mean one because I wasn't nice, or is she?

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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your forum posts... Posted: 5/25/2009 12:55:20 AM
Naw I don't censor. I try to hold some stuff back at times as I would rather make a point than get banned for flaming, but it's pretty much 100% whoopa....... oh, I meant 100% me lol. If a potential suitor sees who I am and they don't like it, I do believe they can kiss my fuzzy white behind while making shure that the door don't hit 'em where the good lord split 'em.

army3

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The lucipher effect mandatory in military Training Posted: 5/24/2009 5:27:26 PM
Oh man Iwould love to coment here. Too bad my discipline is too strong.

army3

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Is breeding the right thing to do these days? Posted: 5/24/2009 5:13:24 PM
Ok, to answer that final line question- we can. Just go find like minded individuals that can hack it against their primal urges.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Hypothetical dilemma for Vegans/PETA... Posted: 5/24/2009 5:10:40 PM
Ok, are we not part of the frigging food chain here? Quit trying to take my earned dinner away from me is all I have got to say to that.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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The truth of religion Posted: 5/24/2009 5:01:58 PM
Peronally I think religion was used to explain things mostly back in the day for people that needed an answer. Notice how it ties in with life and death so heavily. I know there is life after death, but as far as what actually is there is the part that I'm waiting to see.

army3

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Military guys a go or no-go in washington? Posted: 5/24/2009 4:26:59 PM
Different people have different tastes. There's just no telling, especially with so many bases in one area. I'm shure lots of women around here are tired of us.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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Freinds first? Are you nuts?! Posted: 5/24/2009 4:24:42 PM
Well, with this kind of attitude I myself wouldn't want to know you at all if I was a woman. Heck, I already wish you never posted this thread. IQ pointsare not needed for these forrums obviously

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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I don't want to be interviewed Posted: 5/24/2009 4:18:19 PM
Man, didn't I see another thread just like this a day or two ago? It's only an interview if you think of it like that.

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

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I guess I'm a real jerk... Posted: 5/24/2009 4:15:20 PM
Ok sgt. This kid of thing happens all the time. There's nothing you can do. Be a little more mindful of the red flags on those landmines from here on out eh?

army3

Joined: 11/10/2008

Msg: 106 (view)

First POF dating experience Posted: 5/24/2009 4:06:34 PM
Gotta love some of the FREAKS on this site. Yeah, just don't gettoo bent about it, she may have been in a guy mashing mood, or she forgot to take her meds. Either way drive on man. LOL, man I am busting a gut here

army3

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I seriously have terrible trouble APPROACHING women. Posted: 5/24/2009 4:02:56 PM
Well you seem like a guy that a good many chicks would dig. You just need to stop being afraid of getting hurt and toughen up a bit. Getting hurt is part of life sadly enough, so stop being a fradycat and getyour butt out there. Keep in mind that there are different types of women, but if you go for the right type, chances are that she will sense your self doubt and either think it's cute or think it's repulsive. Your choice- but that is true for confident men as well.

army3

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my boyfriend still has profile up on POF, what do I do? Posted: 5/24/2009 3:55:05 PM
I'd give him the ultimatum. Places like business wbsites and myspace are for networking. This place is a dating website. Not ragging on people that are here for just friends or anything, but he needs to go to a different site for networking. You may be happy, but that don't mean he's not still trying to have his cake and eat some on the side.

army3

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Need some advice on an interested woman........ Posted: 5/24/2009 12:24:00 PM
Ok, It's well past time to tie off this thread. I sent a final e-mail to her letting her know that I wasn't adverse to talking with her, or lending out a helping hand. I really don't think there's much more I can do. I guess you just gotta loose a few here and there eh? Ok, well time to get back to life.

army3

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Need some advice on an interested woman........ Posted: 5/24/2009 12:17:11 PM
Oh believe me, I know all about the dissappointments. What I don't understand is why she would go for the telling me what I wanted to hear if she already knew I was more open to helping strangers out than most people that I know?

army3

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Is it okay to ask someone why you are not a match for them Posted: 5/24/2009 11:28:36 AM
Look, she just aint that into you man. Drive on and forget about her. Don't think about what you need to fix if they don't get specific on you when they tell you no thanks.

army3

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why do a$$ holes always get the good girls? Posted: 5/24/2009 11:25:55 AM
Um.............. this question has been asked so many times. Some women make getting what they want a game. You ar going after thewrong people.

army3

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Men don't like TALL women Posted: 5/24/2009 11:10:28 AM
Um.......... yeah, I loves me a tall girl. Gimme legs, really long ones.......... Ok, I gotta go wipe the drool off now- sorry.

army3

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Need some advice on an interested woman........ Posted: 5/24/2009 10:32:16 AM
Are you calling me unstable Miss C.? Yeah, I might be a little unstable, but I'm in the mil, so I gotta be a little unstable in order to make shure the missions get done I read ya though. Normally I don't get like this about women, but the way things were going with this one and the stuff we were talking about........ well I guess I had the wrong idea either way so it don't really matter.

army3

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How to let a man down nicely? Posted: 5/24/2009 10:22:16 AM
Ok, after reading the OP, I do have to say that you should be alot more carful with things if you are worried about social standings. In my eyes, you are gonna hurt the guy no matter what, and your social standing will be affected. Now I'm a very blunt type of person by nature when dealing with this sort of thing. There's not going to be anything you can do to keep everybody happy with this one, so just out yourself. Try to explain that it was never your intention to hurt him before droping the bomb here because it's very likely that he ain't gonna want to hear another word from you after you tell him the news. Remaining friends may in fact be more painful for him after you tell him the news as you are now unavailible to him. See, this is why women should stop claiming to be smarter than men. We are all human, and nature is very random, which means smarts is all in the eye of the beholder. You can be IQ smart with absolutely no common sence which completely negates IQ points. To me, smart is a medium ammount of IQ with ALOT of common sence.

army3

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Need some advice on an interested woman........ Posted: 5/24/2009 10:08:04 AM
Hey chapter 1- nobody gets 5 mins with her till I do

army3

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Eharmony - Knowing What You Are Buying ? Posted: 5/24/2009 12:50:52 AM
See, this is why I don't use pay sites. How is a computer, something devoid of emotion or thought process, gonna be able to know enough to match humans up? Shure, use common interests and things, but what about attraction levels? What about the spark? You can't put things like that into words, they just sorta happen. And besides, what about sites like this, or myspace that actually give you free communication as well as allow you to personalize your page in many different ways so as to let people see your true personality? If you ask me, the stupid rich people use pay sites. I'm already paying an internet bill, why do I want to pay for it twice?

army3

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Why Does a Man need to act first? Posted: 5/24/2009 12:36:53 AM
Because women are control freaks. The way they see things, us men are "normally" stronger, faster, and smarter than women are. They are insecure about that and don't want to be seen as items that are here for our amusement- which I completely agree with as they are human. Men are the hunter gatherers, women are the ones that raise the young. This is true with many species of life here on earth. So they attempt to overcompensate by controlling us by uing the one thing we guys are unable to give ourselves. Babies. Yes I know, men don't like to admit it, but the fact remains that part of our most basic urges is the urge to procreate. So women have made dating complicated in an attempt to control men. Unfortunately alot of men need control weather they think so or not. If they had no control,they would live like slobs, not shower daily, not go see the doc when they should, and other basic things like that. They would simply revert back to their most basic instincts. Hunt, gather, scratch where it itches, and sleep whenever. This kind of behavior is counterproductive to civilization as we know it. The problem with the equation is that women have basic urges as well. They too fall prey to things like greed, vanity, thirst for power, and things of that basic nature. NOW, the problem with the whole big picture, is that the world is a very natural place- or at least it was when time started. Look at what we've done.

army3

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Looking for Friends vs Dating vs Long Term Posted: 5/23/2009 10:03:37 PM
YOU CAN'T MAKE EVERYBODY HAPPY! Look, life in the military has taught me that. One size does not fit all when dealing with personal preference. My advice would be to just put what fits you best up there, and say screw the haters.

army3

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do girls really want us to mail them when they view our profile? Posted: 5/23/2009 9:59:04 PM
How about if she wants to, she will e-mail you back. Just e-mail her, and stop what- ifing things till it gets to be too late to do anything about it.

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