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Thread: strong woman
bamabulldog
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strong woman
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1/16/2006 11:44:18 PM
Crazy8, agreed, but I think part of my problem may be I tend to be a little intimidating, or so I am told by both males and females. I don’t intend to be, but it is a good trait in my line of work. But I think sometimes it plays hell with my social life.
bamabulldog
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strong woman
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1/16/2006 11:25:57 PM
Well, I'd suggest you check out Texas women,,,,, but, just remember what they say sugah,,,,,, be careful what you wish for, cause you might get it! Question is,,,,could ya really handle it?
Yep, my ex is from Texas, in fact I left her there.
bamabulldog
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strong woman
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1/16/2006 11:23:39 PM
Dog mommy, good advice, I can see your point. My point in putting the fact I own two businesses in is simple, it takes a lot of my time. I am willing to slow down some but I still have a lot of obligations. that’s why I want a woman with her own life, one who’s not looking for a relationship to be her life. But your points are appreciated and I thank you.
bamabulldog
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strong woman
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1/16/2006 11:16:37 PM
When I say strong, I am saying that I know what i want in life and how to get it on my own. don't need a man to carry me in life, pay my bills, or tell me who my friends can be. I'm a grown ass woman and can make my own decisions. I have an opinion, and am not afraid to voice it. That doesn't mean that i won't listen to YOUR opinion and respect it, knowing that they may be different. But you must also be man enough to respect mine.
And there it is, that’s what I am talking about. Not a B**CH, just a strong woman. Different opinions and all, just who you are and willing to stand up to it, that’s the stuff that is so hard to find.
bamabulldog
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strong woman
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1/16/2006 2:16:04 PM
Nothing wrong with wanting someone to be themselves. If someone doesnt agree with me, then I would expect them to say so and not just bow down to every little thing that I want, or say. Happens to be a part of someones personality.
Bingo, you got it right, that’s what I am talking about as much as anything. I want someone who will express themselves even if it means disagreeing with me.
bamabulldog
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strong woman
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1/16/2006 2:13:26 PM
What is it? You want to be the female in the relationship, instead of the man.
Trust me sweetheart, I am and always be the man. I just want a woman with some backbone.
bamabulldog
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strong woman
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1/16/2006 2:11:03 PM
Listen, the type lady I am talking about can express herself. Doesn’t look to me to make decisions for her. Can take care of herself. I have a very strong personality and I go after what I want in life. I like a woman who is confident and can take care of herself. I want a woman who wants me in her life but doesn’t need me to step in and take care of things. I want a partnership where we both have lives. But I keep meeting these clingy, needy lady’s who seem to need someone to take care of them. Maybe its just my perception, I don’t know. I hear woman complain that men don’t like strength in a woman. Well, I do, I just cant seam to find it.
bamabulldog
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why do people think that's it ok to stand someone up??
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1/16/2006 1:48:04 AM
Its never ok, shows no respect and no class.
bamabulldog
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strong woman
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1/16/2006 1:46:49 AM
Ok, I like a strong woman, who can speak her mind and stand her ground. So why is it that every time I meet someone she turns into a total wimp? I like a woman who presents a challenge, not one who waits for someone to do the thinking for them. And guys, am I alone in this?
bamabulldog
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Relationships and differing religious philosophies - can it work?
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1/15/2006 4:58:23 PM
I think a lot of it comes down to weather you and that person are able to agree to disagree. Its been my experience that most will argue till blue in the face rather than agree to disagree. That’s when things go to far and such differences become deal breakers.
bamabulldog
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Someone help me please 3 men yet alone on a fri night
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1/14/2006 10:56:19 AM
Play with 3 and cant land one………….hmmmmmmmmm there’s some justice in that.
bamabulldog
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Turn the page and move on
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1/8/2006 8:23:47 PM
Well, its done, she moved out yesterday. I am sure some of you remember my last thread. Everything was great except for the fact she lied all the time. Left me wondering what was the truth.
In the grand scheme of things is this all really worth it? I mean, I have a full life. I own two businesses and that takes up a lot of my time. I have my friends, my dogs and a pretty nice life. I can afford most everything I want and don’t need much. It would be nice to have someone to share it all with but is that really worth the trouble when its all said and done? This is the first real relationship I have had in a long time and I was happier before it started than I am now. I worked seven days a week and was always on the go. I cut back the hours to spend time with her and in the end all I got for my trouble was misery. So again I ask, is this all really worth the effort. Do we truly need someone in our lives or are we just as well off alone?
As you can surly tell, I am a bit bitter right now. I’m just blowing off some steam and of coarse I will get it sorted out and move on.
bamabulldog
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Do you have the balls to apologize years later?
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1/5/2006 12:38:29 AM
I apologized to my ex 10 years after the divorce for not being the man I should have been. I wasn’t there for her the majority of the time. To this day she still hasn’t forgiven me, but I have done all I could.
bamabulldog
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Compatiblity by Sign
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1/4/2006 11:43:18 PM
All I know is I tend to prefer Leo's, I like a strong woman who's challenging.
bamabulldog
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I need help PLEASE
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1/4/2006 8:45:58 AM
You need to leave………………NOW! He doesn’t need to know where you go and you should have no more contact with him. This situation your in could turn deadly in an instant. Get out, just disapear from his life and move on.
bamabulldog
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Ok, moving on
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1/2/2006 10:24:34 PM
Well, I ended things this morning, needless to say it didn’t go well. But such is life, I will miss her but I wont miss the lies. I wish her the very best life has to offer, unfortunately it wont be with me.
bamabulldog
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do you prefer on line dating or just meeting someone natrual
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1/2/2006 10:20:38 PM
Natural, this online dating thing really sucks wind. Most the gals here wouldn’t give a guy a chance, at-least not an average guy.
bamabulldog
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Ok, moving on
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1/2/2006 12:49:12 AM
No offense taken, I never ask where she is going. I usually know where she is because I know so many people and I am constantly being told when and where they see her. I am not a jelous or needy person and I honestly make no effort to keep up with her. I do hate lies, especially when all she has to say is Ill see ya later, no need for the lies.
bamabulldog
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Ok, moving on
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1/2/2006 12:22:16 AM
For the last month I have been with a very beautiful lady whom I am crazy about. The problem is, she lies to me, often. Mainly about where she is going, I usually know where she actually is and its nothing that I would have a problem with. Its not that she is cheating, so why the lies? I am ending this, my only question is, am I over reacting? I just have a hard time dealing with the lies, I trust her and don’t keep tabs on her. But I am sick of the lies.
bamabulldog
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Are you intrested in jerks or nice guys
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12/27/2005 8:34:51 PM
Hhmmmmmmmmmmmm interesting, sounds like you want someone a little dangerous with a good heart.
bamabulldog
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Are you intrested in jerks or nice guys
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12/27/2005 8:31:47 PM
I was told recently that I am a nice guy with that proverbial edge. I asked her to explain and the answer was
“your nice but you don’t let people walk on you. Your quick to stand up for yourself”
So I ask you ladies, is that what a nice guy with an edge means? I have heard that term used many times.
bamabulldog
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Are relationships worth the trouble??
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12/27/2005 8:22:14 PM
Absolutely, I have learned and grown from every relationship I have had. The rewards are many fold.
bamabulldog
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Curiosity...
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12/27/2005 9:05:34 AM
Listen, when I am out with someone I am with them. No matter what our arrangement, it is simply a matter of respect. If I see someone I am interested in I never react when I am out with someone else. This guy has no honor so get away from him.
bamabulldog
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are both sexs here looking for perfection in a mate
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12/24/2005 11:58:01 PM
Not me, the love of my life is not perfect. But those imperfections in her only endear her to my heart. She is human, and I accept her as she is.
bamabulldog
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And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
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12/22/2005 10:58:06 PM
If you sleep with her on the first date how could you hold it against her, after all you were a willing participant.
bamabulldog
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I've taken him back and now I'm confused!???
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12/22/2005 10:55:06 PM
He is a looser, cut him loose.
bamabulldog
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To date a smoker.
Posted:
12/15/2005 7:17:48 AM
WARNING!
THIS IS A SMOKING AREA
If you persist in not smoking you will be asked to leave.
bamabulldog
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Can you forgive a one time cheater?
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12/13/2005 6:27:08 AM
Nope, no way! Once a cheater always a cheater, trust is totally blown and I am walking away. It does not matter how strong my feelings are for her, she cheated, I am out of there.
bamabulldog
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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
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12/12/2005 7:28:41 PM
Been on my own since I was 14, left and never went back, wouldn’t change that fact if I could. But in my line of work I see it with both sexes everyday. Dead beats who wont stand on there own two feet.
bamabulldog
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What will you accept to be with somebody ?
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12/10/2005 9:52:34 AM
I met one once that carries a loaded gun in her purse . ( As If mace wasn't enough )
Can I get her number, sounds like my kind of girl!
bamabulldog
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OUCH it burns real bad
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12/10/2005 9:44:00 AM
Do her a favor and stay out of her life. There is no way you will respect her from this day forward, so just cut her loose. Then I suggest you seek some help with your hang-ups. You cant respect and care for someone while looking down your nose at them. The past is just that, the past. We all have one and no one wants to be so harshly judged on there’s.
bamabulldog
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Are pets as important as people?
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12/9/2005 9:28:03 AM
I had a live in GF who told me either the dog went or she would. The next day I bought her a plane ticket back to Texas. I still have my dog.
bamabulldog
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does age really matter?
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12/8/2005 9:38:09 AM
Most of the time age is an issue. I have dated several 21 year olds and honestly, I was bored stiff. They were not mature or stable enough for me, but everyone’s different so I would still take a chance.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/7/2005 8:14:55 PM
First of all, an update, the chump is out of the hospital and in jail from trying to asault me. My friend decided this afternoon after seeing her therapist to press charges in the morning
. I would not hear of that, I drove her strait to the PD with the photographs and medical report. The first charge is a felony because he used a weapon while trying to strike me with a tire buddy, the second charge is also a felony because of the severity of the beating he gave her. He already has 2 felonies on his record, so three strikes he’s out. My understanding is that if convicted of both charges, he will serve at-least 5 years.
Secondly, I did maintain my cool , I didn’t lay a hand on him until he tried to assault me. Then, all bets were off.
As long as she fallows through and testifies, this guy should have a new boyfriend by spring.
Taurus, call it a lack of common sense or whatever, but I will still stand up and be a man, you be what you want.
bamabulldog
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What have you learned from your failed relationships?
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12/7/2005 11:53:16 AM
I have learned to accept responsibility for my actions. I have learned that each and every day I should try to be a better person. I was the one responsible for my divorce, I didn’t hit her, never cheated on her and I paid the bills. I thought this was the extent of my obligations, but I have learned that I should have been there for her as well, which I was not.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/7/2005 11:48:32 AM
Taurus516, I have seen it many times, they do often go back to the abuser. However, I have also seen it work out the right way. She left this jerk 2 years ago and has been divorced for 1 year now. I honestly don’t believe she will ever go back. But even if she does at-least my conscience is clear, I have done what I can.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/7/2005 9:12:52 AM
Taurus516, your attitude is the problem. If all men who don’t abuse would stand up to those that do, most of this sh** would come to a screeching halt. But no, you don’t want to get involved, guess what, if you know who he is and don’t do what you can, then the blood is on your hands as well. Only men can stop this behavior of men. We must do what we can if we have honor, for a man with no honor is no man at all.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/6/2005 4:46:26 PM
taurus516
Sorry, but I couldn’t turn my back on a stranger in this situation, much less a friend. I don’t think I could do that and consider myself a man.
To clarify folks, the ex in this equation was divorced over a year ago. She has been hiding from him ever since.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/6/2005 7:20:42 AM
I feel that if you have the ask this advice here you wouldn't be willing to do anything anyway
No sarahv, that’s not the case. I have just made a lo of mistakes in the past and I am trying to be a little more level headed. I am trying to do the smart thing instead of the snap decision. But think what you will.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/6/2005 7:11:26 AM
Ok folks, a little update. She woke up yesterday in severe pain, so I insisted on taking her to my doctor.
Diagnoses = fractured breast plate and bruised ribs, lungs and heart. Ruptured blood vessels in left eye and multiple contusions.
The law met me as I went to leave thinking I was the aggressor, the doctor had called them. She however refused to tell them anything and they wouldn’t proceed with charges unless she at least named the jerk as the aggressor.
She was told not to work last night and she stayed at my place. I took her car and went to talk to her boss around her normal quitting time. As I left the parking lot I noticed I was being fallowed so I drove to an empty parking lot. Upon entering the lot her ex jumped from the vehicle that was fallowing me and snatched my car door open. We proceeded to have a long chat which I enjoyed greatly. Apparently there was a witness that told police he was the aggressor and tried to assault me so when he leaves the hospital he will be arrested.
This morning I received a call from her ex’s father who asked me to drop the charges. In return he offered a guarantee that numnuts would leave her alone. I declined this offer and opted to prosecute to the full extent of the law.
that’s where things stand as of right now. I work with the local bail bondsman in this area and have put out a request that no one bond him. So we will see what happens next.
Whats your opinion? Should I have taken the deal or prosecuted?
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/5/2005 9:46:18 AM
As for responding with violence, I can't condone that either. For one, you can be charged and face legal consequences. Is this jerk worth it?
No, this jerk isn’t worth it, but the victim is always worth it. However I am maintaining self control. I will not touch this chump unless he becomes a threat in my presence. Then, all bets are off and its my time to kick a field go.
If I call the law and loose this friendship, then she will be on her own. I had him arrested for the threats he made to me, but he will be out within 24 hours. So I can only watch over her as best I can.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/5/2005 6:55:48 AM
Look, I have seen this to many times, go to court, get a restraining order, roll it up and swat him on the head with it. That’s how much good it normally does. And I am sorry, the standard intellectual crap of violence only begets violence doesn’t stand true. If your violent enough that’s the last violence necessary. It’s the whole house theory, blow up the house with him in it and the violence ends there.
But again, I am trying to be civilized here, self control, it’s a bit**
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/5/2005 6:42:11 AM
I am sorry, but part of me still believes a boot in the ass is exactly what the doctor ordered. Its worked for me in the past, but I was younger then and had less self control. I cant help thinking that if I step on his pecker a few times and thump him a little till he pisses red it might solve the problem. I wish I could let myself make him a personal project of sorts. But better judgment seams to be prevailing.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/5/2005 5:20:53 AM
I would also advise her to enroll in some kind of self-defense class.
I have already started teaching her, I taught self-defence for 3 years. I am trying to get her to press charges as well.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/5/2005 4:57:47 AM
Understand, that because of what I do for a living I know how to live below the radar. I am confident he will never find my place. And the security measures I have taken here are strong and in place all the time. I agree that the risk is strong, but understand that I am well prepared and equipped to deal with this chump. If I lay eyes on him I plan to step on his pecker a couple of times.
I hope that she will realize that she has to fight and take control. But whatever happens, I will be right here beside her.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/5/2005 4:42:53 AM
yeah, i saw Deliverance
Na,,,,,,,,,,,no squealing like a pig, maybe willow branches and whittling knives though.
I know its hard to go against a friends wishes, but in this case it is something that needs to be done. I think you need to call the police
I just don’t want to do anything that would stop her accepting the help she is getting from me now. But I do agree she needs to press charges.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/5/2005 3:33:59 AM
I think I will let my baby girl spend some time with her as well, that’s her in my profile pic. She is an 85lb pit-bull who has had extensive attack and protection training. Maybe she will feel safer with her at home.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/5/2005 3:15:28 AM
First of all, thanks for all the advice, its appreciated.
This chump just called my cell and threatened me, apparently he thinks I am sleeping with her. Anyway, that was his mistake, I just finished speaking with the police and he now has a warrant for terrorist threats. They are headed to his house now for an early morning wake up call.
The chump thinks he can intimidate me, lol. I deal with debtors and fugitives everyday so this punk had better step up his game if he wants me scared. And besides, I stand 6’ 3” and weigh 220, that’s considerably larger than his punching bag of choice. Not saying I am a badass but you don’t do what I do for a living if you cant handle yourself.
As for her, I will do everything in my power to see to it she gets the help she needs. I hope she is able to restart her life on the right path. Leaving him after a 7 year marriage was the first right step.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/5/2005 2:23:49 AM
so called "man"
Yeah, this guy is a real stud, he is 6’ and 200 lbs, she is 5’ 5” and weighs in at 112 lbs. takes a big man to beat on her.
bamabulldog
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whats a man to do?
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12/5/2005 2:18:03 AM
Well, she started seeing a therapist a couple of weeks ago. And for that I am thankful, finally working on cleaning up the mess this creep left in her head. No one deserves the things this lady has been through. I finally convinced her to move which she just did. So now the only way he can find her is at work. Nothings in her name and she hasn’t even let friends know where she is living. I am trying to get her to go to the police, but so far she refuses out of fear of what will happen next time. She also agreed tonight that for now on I will carry her to and from work. I am also putting one of my employees with her at all times until this jerk is dealt with. But I don’t know what more I can do.
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