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flown muse

Joined: 11/15/2005

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time heals... Posted: 7/4/2007 11:22:34 PM
Thank you for your post, dfwdude. It illustrates so much.

lollipop trollop

Joined: 11/15/2005

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Should I warn the new woman? Posted: 2/20/2007 6:36:07 PM
One never knows if the warner is truly the psycho-ex she's always depicted as being by the man in question and just being vengeful, or is sounding the alarm and telling the truth to spare another woman the pain of being involved with him? My ex-husband used to have a friend who routinely physically abused his women. Before we knew this, I had no clue and genuinely really liked the guy... after we knew this, I would purposely wear my "Take Back The Night 2003" sweatshirt when I knew he was coming to visit! But I never brought up the subject to him, or confronted him. He met a woman in 2004 and married her. They both came to a house party of mine while they were still engaged, and I wanted SOO much to pull her aside and give her the goods on him... but I chickened out. They divorced a year later. Suffice it to say - I would have lost nothing but the goodwill of an abuser (whom I disrespected at that point anyway), and run the risk of someone I didn't even know thinking that I was a liar. I doubt that she would have listened to me. But I still regret smiling and wishing her well, while knowing his history. >:( Catch 22.

Lollipop Trollop

Joined: 11/15/2005

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Can men and women be friends without sex? Posted: 8/14/2006 3:04:22 PM
According to the almighty Ladder Theory, those who think it can be done are only fooling themselves. http://www.intellectualwhores.com/foundations.html Whether or not I prescribe to the Ladder Theory is another story... but it definitely is interesting (and uber cynical)!

Lollipop Trollop

Joined: 11/15/2005

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Thai food Posted: 5/29/2006 7:21:29 AM
Pad Thai is the bomb! Especially with a wedge of fresh lime. I will try your recipe soon... my fave Thai restaurant closed awhile back, and none of its competitors can compare. A mild Musselman curry dish might be good for a Thai newbie, as well.

Lollipop Trollop

Joined: 11/15/2005

Msg: 39 (view)

How soon do you know when you click with someone? Posted: 12/9/2005 11:55:45 PM
I've known that I was gonna hit it off immediately with a few of my past flames before any words were even exchanged - and on sight alone, it just somehow ended up happening. Conversely, there have been a few guys that I initially thought that I'd have nothing in common with who have really ended up growing on me over time, once I've gotten to know them better... enough so that I've permanantly joined the "Don't Always Judge The Book By Its Cover" party. :)

Lollipop Trollop

Joined: 11/15/2005

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People that don't have~nor EVER want kids..what do you think? Posted: 12/9/2005 10:50:40 PM
I've not read the entire thread, as it's kind of lengthy... so I'll just reply to the submitter's question. I'm childless by choice, and the only people who've ever given me any grief about that fact have been... wait for it! ... people that already have kids? Or the elderly (who already have kids). Or the Jesus freaks (who already have kids). Go figure. I like to call it the "misery loves company" syndrome, LOL. ;) If you think that your prime directive in life is to just randomly reproduce without any thought to the potential consequences, then I feel sorry for you. Sure, the propagation of the species is biologically hard-wired into each and every one of us. Sure, kids are precious resources and they literally ARE our future... but until more of the breeders are able to practice responsible and sane parenting, and I don't have to read all of the abuse charges in my morning paper against them, then I sure as hell will continue to not bring any offspring of my own into this sorry-ass world. It's more of a selfless than a selfish decision IMHO, but feel free to disagree.

Lollipop Trollop

Joined: 11/15/2005

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Post one of your favourite poems Posted: 12/9/2005 10:07:16 PM
Way to kick it off with some Cohen... I love it. :) THE ALIENS you may not believe it but there are people who go through life with very little friction of distress. they dress well, sleep well. they are contented with their family life. they are undisturbed and often feel very good. and when they die it is an easy death, usually in their sleep. you may not believe it but such people do exist. but i am not one of them. oh no, I am not one of them, I am not even near to being one of them. but they are there and I am here. - Charles Bukowski

Lollipop Trollop

Joined: 11/15/2005

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Is gettin your dog high animal abuse? Posted: 11/24/2005 6:58:25 PM
Is getting your kids high child abuse? Hmmm, what a moral dilemma (NOT).

Lollipop Trollop

Joined: 11/15/2005

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What about Aliens, how do they fit in to Religion? Posted: 11/24/2005 6:45:35 PM
The story of Ezekiel's wheel in the Bible is a fairly well-known example of possible extraterrestrial activity... I always like to see how people choose to interpret it.

Lollipop Trollop

Joined: 11/15/2005

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Favorite Quotes Posted: 11/24/2005 4:51:25 PM
"The world is like a ride in an amusement park. And when you choose to go on it you think it's real because that's how powerful our minds are. And the ride goes up and down and round and round. It has thrills and chills and it's very brightly coloured and it's very loud and it's fun, for a while. Some people have been on the ride for a long time and they begin to question: "Is this real, or is this just a ride?" And other people have remembered, and they come back to us, they say, "Hey, don't worry, don't be afraid, ever, because this is just a ride." And we kill those people." - Bill Hicks

Lollipop Trollop

Joined: 11/15/2005

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Do men want more compliments? Posted: 11/24/2005 11:38:31 AM
I'm pretty free with my compliments with both men and women! I'm not into flattery or anything; but if someone's well-dressed, is wearing a nice scent, or is having a good hair day then I'll definitely give them a boost and let them know about it. There can be a lot of power in what you compliment people on, too... I always use positive reinforcement to accentuate the good traits in people's personalities. The best compliments don't always have to be physical. :)

Lollipop Trollop

Joined: 11/15/2005

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Have weird guys made it difficult for normal men to meet woman Posted: 11/24/2005 11:14:35 AM
Ahem... "weird" and "normal" are totally subjective terms, but I think I know what the submitter's talking about! The net environment is actually helpful by allowing you to pre-screen a little bit and weed out the obvious crazies, so I haven't let it predjudice me about meeting guys in RL at all.

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