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libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

Msg: 87 (view)

The person you are interested in is already retired ... you are not. Posted: 11/22/2009 7:06:26 PM
Sorry, my post was in response to countrymanisgentle. I guess my multi-tasker is not as multi as I thought.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

Msg: 86 (view)

The person you are interested in is already retired ... you are not. Posted: 11/22/2009 6:55:39 PM
Wow! You are my kind of guy. I am more interested in how happy my guy is with his life and his work than if he's retired or not. People who retire and don't have a plan to live seem to die sooner than necessary. So, if he's retired, does he do volunteer work, have a hobby he is actively engaged in, or working to start that small business he always dreamed of? Does he look forward to every day as if it were a gift? And if I'm teaching while he's at home, will he meet me at the door with a hot kiss and an iced tea? I'll work around his schedule as long as he is willing to work around mine until I do retire. He better stay in shape, though. I intend to enjoy his company a long, long time after we are both retired!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

Msg: 82 (view)

How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ???? Posted: 11/20/2009 6:16:15 PM
First time is the last time someone ignores or uses me. OP, you have to decide if you are afraid of being alone or if you have other issues bogging you down in a life sucking faux relationship.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Taking a Trip Down Memory Lane Posted: 11/18/2009 9:08:10 AM
My kiddo introduced me to digital music. As I love music, have no memory for names and artists, she keeps me supplied and the library is ever growing. This is one use of technology that my complete approval. Using Ipods and the comp really help me to manage storage and portability issues-not to mention not having to worry about how to sort out the music if a relationship goes sour (presuming I'll someday have a relationship!) I've been looking at my little shoebox house and how much stuff I still have. Joe's been gone almost two years now and it feels like it's time to share a bit more of him with the family. Christmas is coming and I think his neice would enjoy having his china for the holiday dinners. She always enjoyed that pattern and it will be one more way to share and make a new happy memory for all of us. When I look at inherited things from that perspective, a way to share old memories while making new ones, then it's easy to give things to people who will love and use them. Of course, I get the added benefit of free space and visitation privilages. As a teacher and artist, space is always at a premium. Admittedly, letting go of treasures is not easy for most of us. Seeing the joy others get from such gifts makes it all worthwhile.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

Msg: 114 (view)

Letting the walls down Posted: 11/14/2009 7:38:00 PM
Red flags are snapping in the tornado! Do not walk, run to the nearest exit, cut and dye your hair, change your name, move, get an unlisted phone, learn to limp, and speak with an accent. This guy is not ready for romance. He's not finished his divorce yet, is on drugs, abusing you, and trying to undermine your confidence and faith in your own judgement. Get away from this man. He needs to deal with some bad business and you are not his saviour, not his counselor. You can't cure him or fix him. Why would you allow yourself to become his punching bag?

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Taking a Trip Down Memory Lane Posted: 11/14/2009 7:30:32 PM
Oh this one makes me laugh. I had some stuff, not much. Got a divorce and he took most everything not nailed down. The girls got the photos, he got the rest. Got married again and moved into a big house-almost 3000 sq ft and it was filled with collectables-all his. I inherited the whole lot, but his kids got the house. There was a whole lotta stuff in that house. I moved home and into a 699 sq ft apt. Talk about downsizing! I do have one storage room, 5x10. The rest of it was divided amongst his family, given to his church, and auctioned off. I miss our house because it was our home. I don't miss the stuff. I only kept a few pieces and the pictures. My new rule is, one thing in and two go out. It's working-except for books. The books must breed like rabbits when I turn the lights out. I swear there are more when I wake up in the morning!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Childless men Posted: 11/14/2009 7:20:22 PM
Paumanok, every school everywhere needs volunteers. We need people to read to children, make copies, help in the classroom, and be a friend to children who are lacking role models. You want to be a grandpa? Volunteer. Tell the kids you want to be called Grandpa xyz or anything else. They will love you and you get to be a hero to a kid and to a teacher.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Widow/Widower-Wearing the wedding ring? Posted: 11/13/2009 7:20:22 AM
I love my rings. They are simply lovely jewelry in addition to a symbol of a great love and a great life. My rings remind me that there are a lot of wonderful men in this world, men capable of loving, sharing, laughing, and building solid relationships. And my rings are great eye candy. I can't imagine putting my jewelry away unless I'm digging in the garden or playing in the water. Enjoying my rings doesn't mean that I'm living in the past. I am all about living for the here and now with one eye on tomorrow!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Profiles: Prefer not to say Posted: 9/29/2009 4:39:10 PM
Experience has taught me that "Prefer Not to Say" means: 1. He's married 2. He's a drunk 3. He can't make it through the day without a hit of something illegal to get him reved up or chilled out 4. He's a deadbeat Dad, or "a registered . . ." See the trend? I know there are great reasons to use that label, but they don't shine through! As for missing my one true love? If we are supposed to be together, we will be.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Does your paranoia outweigh your want/need for a relationship? Posted: 9/28/2009 5:44:25 PM
Women who poison have learned not to do it at home in home cooked food. Much better to use commercially prepared drink or food, best to use otc medications so as to confuse the whole motive issue. This is all said tongue in cheek, of course. I don't know where I left my paranoia. Maybe in my other suit?

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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are you still sexually experimenting? Posted: 9/25/2009 5:51:19 PM
Please the Maker, not till I'm dead a buried a year or more. Just as I don't know everything about anything else, I don't know it all when it comes to sex, but I am most willing to study, study, and study some more! I do insist upon intimacy. Sex without intimacy and affection is just exercise and I can think of more pleasant ways to work out-like shopping!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Why do YOU still make the effort. Posted: 9/20/2009 10:28:14 AM
I like life. I like living. It's not easy. There are times, though, when I make myself go out, spend time with friends, and the memories we make just fill my heart with love and a joy that I cannot contain. Then the grandkids show up and ask me what I've been up to and I tell them about meeting up with a bunch of friends for a picnic at the zoo and free concert where we danced under the stars and laughed like loons. I make the effort because the alternatives are just not at all interesting.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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If you were to marry again, would it HAVE to be with your children's blessing? Posted: 9/16/2009 3:56:52 AM
Yes, my children would have to approve. I as married to their father for 29 yrs, 10 months. They knew it should have ended long before it did. I refused to date after the divorce. Then Joe came into our lives. He made me laugh, but I would not go out with him. The girls wheedled, begged, bargained, and then set us up. They loved the way Joe and I were when together. We met in July, married Oct 1 and had two glorious years together before he died. He did so much to heal all of us and I will always be thankful for the love he showed me and my children. So, if there is a next time, you bet my children will be involoved. They proved to have much better taste in men than I do. lol

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Why do YOU still make the effort. Posted: 9/6/2009 7:48:01 PM
I go the extra mile because of the memory of all the love I've enjoyed sharing in my life. Love takes little effort. It's in my heart and I allow it to shine through my life. I willingly give my affection to family, friends, and lovers who wish to share. Giving is easy, practically no work atall. Lucky for me, I don't believe in "the one". "The one" has twice blessed my life. One changed his mind. One died. Another one will someday cross my path.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Have you tried a work/travel combination? Posted: 9/4/2009 9:43:57 PM
Writer, artist, educator. Many professionals can hire out as edu consultants and stay in remote locales with minimal tax headaches. You need to be hired by an American Co that does business elsewhere to make this easy on the tax return. Some other countries have set up special circumstance visa's and tax programs for people willing to act as consultants or teachers in high needs areas. I think I've almost convinced myself to do this. I would love to spend some time in about 30 different countries.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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is falsifying one's profile age no longer taboo? Posted: 9/2/2009 10:22:28 AM
There are fibs and there are lies. I prefer honesty and I've worked to darned hard to survive this life to be coy about my age. I'm proud to have survived life in this world! Want to know anything about me? Just ask. I'll tell you most anything, and probably lots of stuff you could care less about!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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I am not a senior! Posted: 9/2/2009 5:41:42 AM
The Federal Govt defines "Senior Citizen" as any person age 65 or above while acknowledging that some business' now extend Senior privilages to younger people. Mom defines Senior Citizen as anyone who wakes up next to a warm body and rolls over to take another nap instead of having sex. Always listen to your Momma.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Did you think life would be like this at 50? Posted: 8/29/2009 6:06:18 PM
Topjack, here are a few reasons why some women are not into traveling alone. Consider that on average 3 women per day are killed by an intimate partner and 4.8 million intimate partner related physical assaults and rapes are reported every year. Conservative estimates double this number of actual acts of violence against women. The FBI reports more than 600 stranger rapes per day and estimate this is only one third of the actual rapes occurring in the US on a daily basis. Violence against women is so pervasive it is now classified and tracked by the CDC as an epidemic. Women are the primary targets of serial rapists, killers, muggers, and con-artists. Many of us are physically smaller, weaker, and less prepared to defend ourselves in times of physical danger. Is it any wonder many women are not comfortable undertaking adventures by ourselves? We are taught there is safety in numbers and we are safe with a man at our side. So, some of us wait for a group and some of us look for a man to share with and some of us never leave the safety of our hometown. I travel with friends!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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How important is sameness to you at this stage of the game? Posted: 8/19/2009 8:29:00 PM
Hubby loved and sang opera. Ouch. Everyone told me he was great and often in demand. Still-ouch. I want to listen to a wide variety of music that does not include opera or metal. Music, food, even politics, those things are not superficial, but aren't the core of the person, either. Compassion, tolerance, and respect are the essential elements for me. I learned that with the right person, the search for the middle ground, finding or developing shared interests was great fun. So, on Sunday's he sang opera while he made us a champaign brunch and I spent the morning in my studio wearing earplugs and making lots of noise with powertools that require a decent capacity compressor or welding and grinding on metals. We shared an appreciation for Big Band Music and Early Rock and Roll through the 80's. Like you, OP, I don't want to date myself, but do want someone with those core elements and an ability to enjoy the search for and the building of common interests. BTW, our politics didn't match, but our libedos did.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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if you are planning a major change Posted: 8/17/2009 8:07:44 PM
Holy cow! I was right about something? Somebody put a big red star on the calendar! I'm happy dancing.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

Msg: 69 (view)

if you are planning a major change Posted: 8/17/2009 9:52:39 AM
Well, phooey! I am guilt of not reading the whole thread before responding. Heart surgery, huh? Make sure they wash all the betadine off of ya asap. That stuff burns, ya know? As you will most likely be better than new asap, put anything you want on the forms. Share as much as you want with anyone you date. If you are looking for a LTR, say so. You can use the open space to clarify or define anything you deem important. Good luck!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

Msg: 68 (view)

if you are planning a major change Posted: 8/17/2009 9:46:58 AM
Now you give us a tad more information! Changing careers is always a challenge. In this economy, being out of work is scary, but starting a new business or completely changing fields can be exciting. I don't mind being broke, relatively speaking, when getting to share the energy and excitment that accompanies such change. I definitely want to know about this change, and being a curious person, will ask for details, even offer help if I see someplace my expertise is a good fit for. All my best man memories revolve around transitions of some sort. Good luck!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Parental Critique at Our Age?? Posted: 8/17/2009 9:31:38 AM
Op, you asked, "I guess my question is? How much do you folks let your parents influence your judgement in middle age? " Mom raises horses, paints, to be specific. When I'm looking to buy a horse, she's the one I ask and I always listen to her. She has that expertise. Dad is a car/truck guy. I don't buy anything without asking him first. He's great at digging out the reviews and test drives everything as it comes into his hometown market. When it comes to men? The parents have house rules about not sleeping in one bed under their roof unless you are married. They pay that mortgage and I respect their wishes; however, the only advice they give me about men is to be careful, keep some monies separate, and don't forget to floss. Cutting that last apron string can be tough, but it's sometimes necessary for your own happiness.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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ED in some form or another Posted: 8/13/2009 11:30:52 AM
Thanks in part to Lance Armstrong, scientists are now seriously studying bike riding and the impact on the male genetalia. You might want to read the Colorado study and if you aren't using a specially designed bike seat, consider changing. I have known several men, strong riders since we were children who suffered impotency, ed, and now testicular cancer. Their doctors all consider the bike riding to be the main culprit. All are in their mid 40's to early 50's and they still are riding, just using the spongy wonder seat now.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Did you really give it your all? Posted: 8/8/2009 8:11:24 AM
First marriage, 29 yrs, 10 months. Yes, I gave it my all and kept it working through his alcoholism and numerious affairs. We had a great counselor. That doesn't mean my all was what the marriage or he needed. My all was great, just not the right all for him. He has a new life and I hope he found the all he needs this time around. Second time around, wow. Life had taught us both so much and we had a great time right up to the day he died. He truely taught me what it looks like when someone is giving their all to a marriage. That gives me lots of hope for the next time!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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ED in some form or another Posted: 8/7/2009 5:39:02 AM
Off topic, I know. Boob droop is medically known as Coopers Droop, caused by the weight of the breast tissue overstretching the Cooper ligaments.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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ED in some form or another Posted: 8/6/2009 10:43:35 PM
The best, most considerate, compassionate, and amazing lover I've ever known had ED. I married him. It doesn't matter to me what equipment a man has or how it functions as long as the brain driving it all works extremely well.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Ladies, Is Walking You to Your Door Important? Posted: 8/6/2009 9:42:03 PM
I enjoy good manners and walking me to my door, or to the car is always good manners.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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the circle Posted: 7/19/2009 1:07:37 PM
Completely agree. No one person can fulfill the needs of another. Not to mention, there are very few men in this world who care to hear about pregnancy horomones and other girl gossip, just as there are only a few women who enjoy spending a week in deer camp with 6 men, no shower, and only beans, eggs, and beer for food. Even more important to a healthy relationship is the opportunity to talk about the things that make us crazy without putting any pressure on the partner. Letting off a bit of steam is a good thing when it's not taken to extremes. So, I am all for his playing poker or going deer hunting so that we can enjoy a great weekend getaway after I blow off steam at lunch with the girls over his borrowing my tools. This is another good thread, parrothead. Thanks!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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What do men vs women consider to be RED FLAGS?. Posted: 7/15/2009 9:45:20 AM
OH, thank you for the laugh! Tears are rolling down my chubby cheeks.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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What kind of man/woman do you think you attract? Posted: 7/12/2009 9:46:17 PM
I attract four types/groups of men. There are the married but lying about it group and the group of men who want to figure out how to use my brain to make money without having to pay me for doing the work. Both of those groups make me laugh. The third group is typically gay, and the fourth group is men who really, really like me, enjoy me, but have no interest in dating me. They would, however, like for me to find them someone to date, but they never know anyone nice enough to introduce me to. Go figure! They all just make me laugh and occassionally run like the wind! hehehe

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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how to get undepleted and re-energized? Posted: 7/12/2009 9:37:24 PM
Mark Twain suffered from periodic episodes of melancholia and would put himself to bed to rest and await the refilling of his creativity. He described the feeling as one of being like a well that has run dry and needs time to recharge. Twain smoked cigars, drank coffee, read books, lay in bed, played games with friends and neighbors while recharging. In short, he pampered himself. I started a new educational program, took a new job, started doing volunteer work with the schools so I was around children frequently, worked in a public garden, turned off the tv, read everything, visited neglected family and friends, but mostly, I learned how to breath again. I did anything that sounded like fun or a small pampering. Monthly pedicures, a Friday night meal with co-workers, wine and popcorn on a Saturday afternoon while watching an old movie, a new camera and weekend trip to the mountains to learn how to use it, coffee in a bookstore and a new thriller are all part of how I recharged. It worked because it was all about me and for me. Good luck to you OP. I hope you find your way to recharge.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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how soon for new relationship after death of partner Posted: 7/12/2009 9:18:06 PM
Statistically, the better the marriage was, the more often people begin a new relationship and the longer the first marriage, the shorter the mourning period. For many people married over 40 years with a loving relationship, the next marriage will occur within that first year after the death. Not so suprisingly, the new spouse is often in some way connected to the original family. An old family friend, someone from a support group, or even an old romantic interest from the school period is a likely candidate as the next spouse. It is not uncommon for people suffering long term illness to pick out and start the ball rolling for the next relationship for the surviving spouse. I have seen successful next marriages occur within 3 months of a spouse dying. This new spouse went to school with the deceased, had been a family friend for over 50 years, and attended the same church. The deceased had sealed letters waiting for both of these people giving her blessing to their future union. Not my cup 'o tea, but it worked for these lovely people. Life is short and many of us don't function as well alone as we do in partnership. The quality of the new relationship, the respect and love all parties show for one another is what really matters. I can think of no better way to honor a deceased spouse than to open the heart and mind to the possiblility of life and love beyond loss-no matter how long or short the time between death and new love.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Can a leopard change his spots? Posted: 7/11/2009 6:46:54 PM
Would you trust someone who could easily change their core values? What if you were in a line of work where you have to literally trust your life to another person and they changed from friend to foe? What if your doctor suddenly decided she no longer believes in saving people over a certain age or with certain diseases? Am I being silly? Of course. Yet, there is a good core to the question. I am looking forward to more discussion!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Over 40 crowd. Women calling. Do men like it??? Posted: 7/11/2009 6:13:38 PM
GentlemanJim, I want your number! Mostly because I am about to move to Florida and I haven't a clue what to wear, but that's another story. Now, about calling a guy-heck ya! I am on this blooming machine 12 to 16 hours many days right now and I get so tired of the click of the keys, I could scream, but it might wake the hooker who moved in next door and she sleeps days. Anyway, I so enjoy a good phone conversation. Thanks to the guys who understand and don't mind talking instead of reading!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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what have you learned from previous relationships about choosing a partner? Posted: 7/3/2009 8:35:27 PM
Thanks for the laugh, Ms. Divine. Things I've learned about dating: Always check his financials. Always do a background check if you even think you might think about getting involved above casual dating. Always check his story for holes and inconsistency. Always use protection. Always keep a spare key to your car and house at a neighbors. Always carry a cell phone. Always let someone know your plans and when you expect to be home. Always carry twenty dollars in small bills. Always use your best manners-not just when out on a date. Always enjoy and appreciate the person you are out with. Grins!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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how to take the first step Posted: 6/27/2009 11:03:56 AM
Oh, so many interesting points are being made! This is the best place to learn how to deal with that fear of rejection. I’ve not been on POF that long, so I’m not surprised that no man has been first to make contact. We all suffer “refrigerator blindness”, and POF is one big frig. With all the different packages on the shelf, it takes awhile to make it through the inventory. Add to that, it takes some men a long time to wake up and recognize that what they are looking for is in front of them because they don’t recognize the package it comes in. Whee! I am amazed anyone ever manages to meet someone that comes close to being compatible in the long run on these dating sights. Starman, you are so right about being friendly and courteous! NM is still quite rural and it’s more common to get a wave and smile than not. In fact, that’s one easy way to recognize natives and country kids. We still believe in courtesy and the old homily of catching more flies with honey than vinegar. I’ve not found such courtesy on POF. Some people here just make you laugh! Only twice has a man acknowledged a note and they were not terribly polite but were insulted I dared to communicate with them! Such silliness does not deter me. If I see an interesting profile, I’m going to drop a note. Speaking first is not asking a guy to marry you, but it is an invitation to a brief, hopefully intelligent exchange of pleasantries and a lovely way to introduce yourself. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Just remember to breath, smile, and enjoy the moment. Thank you, one an all, for the lovely distraction.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Which date left you laughing Posted: 6/20/2009 8:10:25 PM
I always forget. Do not drink anything while reading POF forums-unless ya like having to clean up the comp screen and the keyboard. Laughing while drinking is dangerous!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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What do men vs women consider to be RED FLAGS?. Posted: 6/13/2009 6:31:34 PM
Any guy who claims to have a pilot's license is waving a garrison sized red flag in my face and obscuring the view! I'm sure I've heard this tatic called Magicians' misdirection. Look here, look here, don't look there! Otherwise, why would anyone need to lie about that? I'm not impressed by such stuff. I do look for clean, caring, respectful, mannerly, smart, compassionate men who treat all people and animals equally well. I am not a 'shroom, was not born last night, and sure don't need anyone feeding me a load to cr*p to make me bloom! I am quite leery of men who claim to travel for work then don't care to share the name of their employeer. As for spelling, I am content to let the occassional mistake pass if the semantic content of any given sentence is greater than nill as I am prone to make mistakes when my brain and fingers get out of synch and as fast as my mind spins, this does happen-and then I laugh, make corrections, and resend whatever doc it is I was working on. Gosh, ya'll make me laugh and I love the fun!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Other places to meet guys our age (beides the internet) ?? Posted: 6/9/2009 9:54:48 PM
Volunteer at a VA, hospital, hospice, library, school, or other service organization. Most people meet through friends and family or work. So, ask everyone you know and tell everyone you are aquainted with that you are available to date. The local community centers have proven to be a great place to make new friends. I haven't met my future there yet, but I have met some really great guys! Good luck.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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NUCKING FUTS!! Posted: 6/3/2009 5:30:35 PM
Love the thread. Laughing is great exercise. I've met nearly every Nucking mentioned here, so thought I could surely come up with some colorful character from my past. I thought so hard my hair started smoking. Nope. No characters coming to mind. So I did the next best thing-I called the kid. "Kid," I asked, "do I know any Nucking Futs kind of characters?" "Of course you do, Mom. All of your friends are so Nucking Futs, you can't tell they're crazy! And don't get me started on your family! And, while I have you on the phone, would you please tell Uncle Scott to take off my wedding dress? He's gonna split the seams again if he doesn't stop horsing around. " Yes, that made me stop and think . . . the kid is the Nucking Futs one.

libby55

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How to talk to a widower Posted: 6/2/2009 8:40:25 PM
Hooray moraima! Been there, done that! You would have thought I was sugar in a fly factory the way men hit on me right after Joe died. Some were trying to save me from my grief. Others were really fishing for money. Thank goodness they finally all disappeared. I finally decided I was ready to date, met a guy, went out twice and knew I was not quite there. Now, if there are any nice guys in Alb, NM, I'm ready to meet you.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Just two weeks of Ecstasy, is it worth it? Posted: 5/31/2009 5:39:10 PM
Two weeks? That's not enough for me. Joe and I had 2 years, 3 months, 11 days together before he died. It was worth everything. He was that good and he gave me that much. I can and will love again because of the love he gave me in our short time together.

libby55

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At the drive-in movie, do you remember? Posted: 5/31/2009 5:30:04 PM
All the local theaters are now closed in Albuquerque, NM. It is a sad thing to think that I will not get to take my grandson to see a drive in show. He is just the right age to see a big screen show, eat a hotdog, drink a coke and fall asleep in the back seat with a light blanket and his pillow. Of course, I won't get to sit in the front seat and neck with some cute guy either. Why, with all the technology, nostalgia, and money floating around are there not some really good drive-in theaters? Lots of fun dates are still around, but ya gotta have a guy to share with!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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Made my heart skip a beat Posted: 5/23/2009 10:07:28 PM
Of course I want that kind of love back in my life. I miss that intimacy and that is what that is. The memory of that kind of touch, being so connected, so close is why I"m here. I hope you soon find your love.

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

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What will your kids find? Posted: 5/19/2009 9:43:22 PM
The kids decided I was much too staight, so they took me to the porn store for a shopping spree on my b-day. Oh my! I have never seen such stuff. I laughed, turned 7 shades of red, finally started asking questions about some of the devices. The girls are starting to put some pressure on so I'll pick a toy when the eldest finally asked what I really wanted. "Give me one of everything and a horny guy to demo it all!" That shut them up for about a minute before they fell down laughing. Now that was fun!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

Msg: 63 (view)

to women what's the difference dating and long term Posted: 5/16/2009 10:23:33 PM
Dear Dallas, I am often confused by the vocabulary used here. I once asked what the difference is in the different labels and no one ever bothered to answer. Trying to figure out the definitions of technobabble online is often frustrating to me. I still don't understand if an "activity partner" is a sex partner only, or if someone is looking for a platonic relationship and someone to literally share non-sexual activities. Why do so many people use the LTR label when they are looking for a lunchtime sex partner? You are a brave soul and I have enjoyed this thread. I did go check my profile and I did select LTR. I do wish to be in a serious monogamous relationship. It might take me awhile, but Joe's only been gone for 16 months and I do want to be really well healed before making any plans with another nice guy. Please keep asking the tough questions. It feels good to exercise the grey matter. Libby

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

Msg: 32 (view)

Physical attraction and chemistry over time Posted: 5/16/2009 10:09:55 PM
I like the info shared at therelationshipgym website. They talk about the three types of chemistry that make up a relationship and how each impacts the whole relationship. Physiologically speaking, most chemistry is based on your nose. Pheromones are amazing and they are mostly responsible for that immediate attraction we sometimes feel and enjoy. Gents, keep in mind that a lady has a much better nose than you do and when she says you smell good, she's not just talking about your aftershave. When a man smells good to a lady, she is much more likely to be in the mood, and you know what I mean! As for how long an attraction can last? I have friends celebrating their 60th and they still spend as much time together as possible. They are best friends and she is always talking about how sexy he is. He still brings her flowers every Friday and asks her out to dinner. That's what I want to share with someone. I want to like him, enjoy him, and feel glad everytime I see his face. It will last as long as it lasts and I will just enjoy every minute!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

Msg: 164 (view)

Age 45+ Ladies Posted: 5/16/2009 9:40:39 PM
At 54 I can say that it's been an amazing trip and one I would not want to repeat. I certainly don't wish to be younger right now with the economy and other social issues that are taking center stage. My life taught me how to survive economic upheaval, job loss, changing relationships, death, taxes, bureaucracy, and stupidity on most any level. My generation is one of the last with good manners and more than a smattering of common sense. I feel sorry for the younger women today. They will have to deal with ever increasing stress and decreasing resources. Some men are smart enough to appreciate women of my age and experience. Thank heaven for the nice guys and good luck to the men who choose women based on how much younger they are than the last one they dumped when she got her first wrinkle!

libby55

Joined: 11/14/2008

Msg: 40 (view)

Is a name too much information? Posted: 5/16/2009 9:29:29 PM
Guys, and I do mean the males involved in this conversation, stop teasing and answer the questions already! Curiosity is about to hurt me! We are STILL waiting for the addy for the other free dating site and what bad guy list? I need one of those to consult! I'm in a profession that frowns upon meeting online and dating people outside the profession, so any extra protection is welcome!

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