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Numbers1234

Joined: 11/17/2008

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Friends, Dating, Long-Term, Hang Out qualifiers Posted: 1/13/2009 9:35:30 PM
Just put down dating. You can specify in your profile that your willing to find that someone for long term but it starts out with dating. As for hang out....I don't even like the term. What is that anyway?

Numbers1234

Joined: 11/17/2008

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Would you like some cheese with that whine? Posted: 1/13/2009 9:33:05 PM
I can't belive this thread was even started. NEXT?!

Numbers1234

Joined: 11/17/2008

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How do you determine if a guy is truly interested in you??? Posted: 1/13/2009 8:53:42 PM
OP - until the 2 of you sit down and discuss the relationship, anything is fair game. That includes seeing other people. Don't "assume" when it comes to a relationship. Find out if the 2 of you are on the same page and choose to be exclusive. If you're not on the same page, then at least you know where you'll stand and you can make a choice to see him or move on. I completely agree with SueCat51. This sums it up. The only thing that I would add is: Do not sleep with a man until you know that you are exclusive, and you both have discussed it. I think this is one of the biggest mistakes women make today. Sleeping with a guy too soon, before they know where they stand with the man. This creates all kinds of anxiety, and heart ache. Very few women can sleep with a man without becoming emotionally attached. If you want something long term, possibly leading to marriage, then keep you pants on until the relationship is where you need it to be for you. If he is unwilling to meet your needs, then you have to be willing to walk away. It's the only way to maintian your self-respect. and he will respect you in the long run.

Numbers1234

Joined: 11/17/2008

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Instant Magic - anyone else find it? Posted: 1/13/2009 8:40:14 PM
The original post on this forum sounds soooo romantic. Alas, instant magic has never happened to me. Maybe I'm too much of a pragmatist. I have had instant, intense chemistry...of the physical kind - when I was in my twenties. You have to watch out for that kind of chemistry - you'll crash and burn.

Numbers1234

Joined: 11/17/2008

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Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 1/11/2009 10:58:57 AM
I dated and really fell for a gal who just could not get serious. Same issues... low self esteem and needing to be wanted continuously. It didn't make me feel real good to find out she was dating many more guys than just me. Learning experience. Figure out the warning signs and find someone who is real. In the moment with you to stay. Did you actually communicate to her that you wanted her to be exclusive with you, or did you just assume she knew this? Did you tell her that you had fallen for her? We can't read minds. People need to be able to verbalize what they want and need to be happy within the relationship. We can't just wish for what we want and expect the other person to just know. It's not easy to be vulnerable and risk rejection, but it has to be done in order to get ones needs met.

Numbers1234

Joined: 11/17/2008

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is there any way possible to figure women out? Posted: 1/11/2009 10:34:01 AM
Men will never figure out women, and women will never be able to figure out men. It's life, so enjoy it! However, if you want to try to understand the opposite sex, read books on relationships. Personally, I only find that these books confuse me more, but one can always try.

Numbers1234

Joined: 11/17/2008

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Why would you lie about your age? Posted: 1/11/2009 9:53:45 AM
Go get kpooks, kahakuloa60! Let'em have it.!! You're a goodlooking lawyer, by the way.

Numbers1234

Joined: 11/17/2008

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Why would you lie about your age? Posted: 1/10/2009 8:49:14 PM
My ex lied about his age when I first met him. He was 6 years younger than me, and when I found out about his real age, (from his mother, none the less!) he stated that he was afraid I wouldn't go out with him if I knew his real age. I felt flattered, and I found it endearing, and sweet, that he would do this to attract me. I eventually married this man but, throughout our marriage this man chronically lied. He embellished reality, and lied about his affairs. Our daughter even gets frustrated with his lies. She states that she does not understand why “he lies the way he does.” Personally, I really don't think that lying about your age on a profile is a good way to start off any relationship. A liar lies. Period. Lying about your age on a profile is usually a deliberate attempt to deceive. Deceiving someone is never a good beginning. I am truthful in my profile and I expect the same from the man I meet. There is no reason change your age to merely to attract another human being, none what so ever. If you’re older and want to attract someone younger, be truthful about your age and give the other person the opportunity to accept you for the person you truly are. It’s the only honest thing to do. By the way, if you accidently typed in the wrong year for your birthday, it's an easy thing to change. Merely click on the edit profile underscored on your profile and scroll down to the registation information section and change your date of birth. Then click the save profile button, and voila', your profile is now corrected. No excuses.

Numbers1234

Joined: 11/17/2008

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Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 12/21/2008 1:42:24 PM
That's right, Cal Ab. People (men and women) date until they find someone they personally want to spend more and more time with. Then the desire for exclusivity has to be communicated and agreed on by both parties. Until then, both people should still be out meeting/dating.

Numbers1234

Joined: 11/17/2008

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Omaha dating scene is weird? Posted: 12/21/2008 7:17:25 AM
In response to: "Omaha is a scathing criticism. An incestuous, highly limited pool of xenophobic egomaniacs. Not that i am critical :) I think this town just needs an influx of fresh blood." This is exactly how I feel about Lincoln, NE.....at times. (I think I finally figured out how this forum thing works!) :-)

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