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 Turn A Page
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Unread msgs
Posted: 11/1/2009 10:39:06 AM
I've a friend with the same problem. Started some time yesterday and is still going on now. The messages she sends aren't being received by anyone, including myself. Messages I send to her have the subject but sometimes the text is missing. She replies to the messages but I don't receive them.

Weird
 Turn A Page
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
suggestions please?
Posted: 10/29/2009 10:27:52 PM
I can't speak for your age group, but those of us who are older want to see some substance to the profile. When I look through profiles those that just have a few sentences are automatically rejected. Do talk about yourself some more.....add in things that you find attractive in a potential partner, etc. The Interest section is well filled in and the pictures you have are perfect. The dating section could be better. For example, would you want to sit in a dark theater for your first date or go somewhere so you can sit and talk and get to know the guy?
 Turn A Page
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
looking for intimate encounters on pof
Posted: 10/29/2009 9:05:19 AM
There are women here???? Where are they????
 Turn A Page
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Review requested
Posted: 10/29/2009 8:45:06 AM
Thanks for the honest critiques. I've made some of the suggested changes. Others, like pictures without the glasses and a new headline, I'll have to work on. Need to whack my hairs off again first. I hadn't thought that the Dorothy and Toto reference was too obscure, as I live in Kansas, but it's what the other persons sees and gets that's important. Pof's fish reference thing has always bugged me.....I don't get why it's needed on a dating website, but I had filled one in anyway. It's been removed unless someone feels otherwise.

Doyle
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Review requested
Posted: 10/28/2009 11:05:31 PM
I had been trying to think of a new nickname and settled on Night Owl as it's definition is 'a person who often stays up late at night'....which I describes me pretty well. I'm definitely open to suggestions for a different nick though.

What were the grammatical areas?

Doyle
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 190 (view)
 
Health issues and finding a partner at our age
Posted: 10/28/2009 2:41:43 PM

Health is everything

It makes you want to jump up, seize the day, be happy, and have morning sex


Hmmm, I must actually be healthy then.....
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 124 (view)
 
Sex during your period?
Posted: 10/28/2009 2:17:12 PM
It doesn't bother me. Just another bodily fluid. I've had GF's though ranged from 'move to another state during my period' to dragging me into the shower a couple of times a day.
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 188 (view)
 
Health issues and finding a partner at our age
Posted: 10/28/2009 1:39:00 PM
I'm one of those people with chronic health problems. Mine stem from a spinal cord injury in 1991. A few years ago I went through a period where my health declined severely and I needed someone to care for me. The Ex left as soon as I recovered enough to take care of myself again. For the last year and a half I've been actively trying to date again but women automatically reject me when they see that I'm disabled. They don't even bother to reply. I'm not in a wheelchair, can get around on my own, and everything still works, yet no one will look past that one word and I don't understand why. Sure, if you are highly active I can see why......you'd want to find someone with similar abilities and interests. But everyone?

Doyle
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Review requested
Posted: 10/28/2009 1:13:03 PM
I've made some changes to my profile recently and would like to know what everyone thinks of the changes.

Thanks in advance, Doyle

Hmmm......POF says this has to be at least 200 characters long AND have a unique subject......how many different ways are there to ask for a profile review??? LOL
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Is my profile broken?
Posted: 10/28/2009 12:49:34 PM
As others have said, the main profile picture isn't helping. Get a good close-up and be dressed nicely. I'm told that having "Nerd" and "Geek" in ones profile is a mistake as most see those as negative terms. Personally, I don't consider them negative but took them out of my profile anyway. Nix the stuff on your income. Women want a strong a provider. I'm not sure what "Game Testing" would be so expand on that.

Doyle
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
My profile
Posted: 10/28/2009 12:38:34 PM
Change your main profile picture and replace it with a good close-up.
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
curious about my profile...
Posted: 10/28/2009 12:36:49 PM
You need to have a good close-up picture of your face for your primary pic. POF will eventually delete the one you are currently using. Vague/distant pictures don't say 'Click me'. The other pictures are darkish and don't show what you look like.

Delete the "Being lazy at times" and "Vegetative State". If you want, expand on the things you like to do during downtime.

You say that you have a dark sense of humor. Show it. Add in some things that you think are funny. To quote Marilyn Monroe.....If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything.

Doyle
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
What's the average number of responses/messages?
Posted: 10/28/2009 12:27:14 PM
Let's see.....18 months, 3 dating sites (including POF):

Women that live within 50 miles of me:
200+ women contacted: 1 response, no dates
contacts from women: 0

Those that live in other states or countries:
50 contacted: 49 responses, 2 friendships
contacts from women: 2
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Ready to wade in again
Posted: 10/28/2009 12:58:54 AM
Your main picture is cropped WAY too close in the thumbnail view. It's just a nose and 2 eyes on a white background. Not something that, to me anyway, says 'click here'.

Change the 'friends' to 'dating'.

Otherwise, good profile. :)
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Help I sense something is wrong but I am not sure what
Posted: 10/28/2009 12:51:01 AM
Very nice profile. You come across as intelligent and goal-oriented....a fellow bookworm with good nerdy streak. You have brains and that is probably scaring a lot of guys off. Consider that a good thing. I would add some pictures and nix the group shot as you are lost in the background. I would also get rid of the yearbook shot. Add in at least one full body pic. Hand someone a camera and have them snap some action shots. Avoid the self-portrait in a mirror type pictures. To me that says that person could figure out how to use the timer function. But that's just my humble opinion.

Doyle
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
profile review
Posted: 10/27/2009 6:43:41 PM
I like the profile. There are a few things I could suggest expanding on. You could list some of the things on your Bucket List, some of the movies you like. Do you watch them at home or at the theater? What are some of your favorite books or Authors?

That's all I can think of.

Doyle
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Straight men and Anal play - yay or nay?
Posted: 10/5/2009 12:26:37 PM
Not a fan of it. After 2 Full-Flexible Sigmoidoscopies I've had my 'fill'. lol However, if my partner wants to play/experiement there I will, and have, let her. Tis only fair.

Doyle
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Bed Time
Posted: 10/4/2009 10:38:03 PM
Wow, I thought that I had weird sleeping habits till I read this thread.....
 Night 0wl
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
When Sex is on Your Mind..
Posted: 10/4/2009 10:01:39 PM
That was a major problem for a couple of years. A month ago, after finally coming to terms with the fact that I'll never date again, I reduced the dosage of my Testosterone shots by 90%. That leaves enough to prevent things like hot flashes and Osteoporosis while letting the testosterone levels drop low enough to turn off the sex drive. It'll be another month or so before it's gone completely but it's already low enough to no longer be an issue.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 232 (view)
 
Let's get naked
Posted: 9/23/2009 11:11:57 PM
Hmmmm.....Well, I've got a lot of scars from surgeries and 2 lumps that are implanted devices. One on my right abdomen and the other on the right cheek of my a$$. Would I be comfortable, HELL NO! It'd be a major mood killer If she were to start asking about or mentioning the lumps and scars. I'd hope she would be polite enough to wait until afterwords.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
 
What led to the downfall...?
Posted: 9/23/2009 10:51:08 PM
First of all, I was having medical problems, from a spinal cord injury, when we met. The last GF had dumped me several years earlier when the problems first started and I was VERY wary of going into another relationship. However, she promised that she would never leave me and I was stupid enough, or lonely enough, to believe her. Two years after we got together my condition took a major downturn. I spent nearly 3 years confined to bed in severe pain. (The pain never got below an 8 on a scale of 1 to 10) By the end of the first year I was so doped up that you'd have thought I was drunk 24/7. Would fall asleep while eating, sitting on the toilet, talking on the phone, etc. The pain kept getting worse. and somewhere in the 2nd year my body started shutting down. When I started begging the Doctors to put me down, one of them asked to try an experimental surgery. It worked and we were able to start getting the pain under control. Thats at the end of 2005. In 2006 I had a mild stroke caused by one of the medications I was on. I still lost some feeling down the left side, a lot of memory, and some short term memory problems). In 2006 there was an outbreak of Mumps here and, of course, I got it. In 2007 I found out that the mumps had destroyed the testosterone factory. IE, not only was there no sex drive but I wasn't even capable.....not to mention all the other symptoms that go with it. January of 2008 you've finally gotten to where you can take care of yourself again. The next month you notice some things that are odd and listen in on a phone call you were never meant to hear. The main reasons given for wanting to break up is your lack of emotianal availablity and Sex.

Note: 3 months after you move out the testosterone replacement therapy kicks in.....with a vengance. (Puberty was easier)

From her side.....what little I can get anyway. First there's watching someone you love get sicker and sicker until you are afraid to come home from work every day because you expect to find them dead. How he can stand that kind of pain, day after day, and keep from committing suidice is a mystery to everyone including his Doctors. Then there were countless trips to the ER plus the stress of having to deal with and argue with bad Doctors. ** (I have a number of very dim memories of waking up in the hospital and seeing her sitting beside the bed crying or hugging one of the nurses while crying)**. After 6 months of his being confined to bed you began to feel like he was something that you have inherited and had to take care of. Before the surgery, there was one week that he was in really bad shape and the Doctors told me to expect him to pass away. Then there is the surgery and things SLOWLY improve over the next 2 years. I've gotten to the point that I'm terrified of the ER but there are still occasional trips there. The stroke being one of them. As things improve you start to have a sex life again. Then he loses interest. Turns you down multiple times. After 6 months he wants to have sex but can't perform. You try another day and while he can perform his "O" is dry. He says he had an "O" and perhaps all the other signs were there but did he????? That happens a few more times. You start avoiding him at home. He comes out to the living room to see you periodically but he can only stay 10 or 15 minutes before he has to get back in bed. You go with him to his Doctor to discuss the sexual problems. This is when you find out what the mumps did to him and there's no garuntee that it can be fixed. You wait a year and half and there's no improvement. His medical condition improves to the point that he can take care of himself again. You've wanted out for a long time and now and decide to have an affair. He figures it out almost immediately.

What angers me is that the events were completely out of my control. There's nothing I can point to and say "If I had only done this differently"......"This is where I messed up"....."I shouldn't have done that". Although I have issues with the method and timing, I can't fault her for wanting out. She did take care of me when I couldn't take care of myself and in return I put her through an emotional wringer. There are a lot of details I left out because I only remember fragments or there's a paper trail from Doctors/hospitals and she will not discuss them. It took a long time to get what details I did get.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Does my handicap affect how they think of me?
Posted: 9/23/2009 9:06:39 PM
tina7578, unfortunately that approach doesn't work either. Between this site and 2 pay sites I've been contacting woman for 2 years. Not a single woman who lives near me has ever answered a message. Not one. Those that live too far away, like another state or country, 99% respond and I have made a few friends that way. Those women also tell me that I have a great profile and I'm a great guy, yadda yadda yadda. The cold hard fact is that women will not bother to look at beyond one word, like handicapped or disabled, and consider the rest of the person.

Doyle

PS, yes I've done the profile review thing....twice. Yes I follow the guidelines on contact messages AND am doing them correctly. At least that's what every woman tells me.....unless they live close enough to me to actually meet.

Ticka - Over the last month I've contacted a lot of women, at various places around the country, who are disabled in some manner to see if they have the same trouble with dating that Males who are handicapped do. Every one of those women reported that they get tons of contacts from healthy males and all have active dating lives. So, why the massive difference? If it's a simple matter of being afraid of the unknown then women should have the same dateless existences.
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Guys *must* bother women who aren't interested?
Posted: 9/22/2009 8:50:58 PM

That's a gamble to be sure.Women take it too, ya' know.I contacted men who didn't find me attractive and who would unread/delete me all the time.I didn't give up my search, but I certainly didn't keep going back to be slapped in the ego either.

Funny thing about my "bothersome" guy...lol....I didn't find him all that attractive and yet I still gave him a chance only to find out he was GORGEOUS on the inside...and that makes all the difference in my book.

Looks most certainly aren't everything.Nor is money.Character is.
Nothing sexier or more secure than a person with integrity!
Well...unless all you want is a FB to hit and quit....
Then who cares....right?

I was simply looking for someone not into casual sex and who had a heart.
That was a FEAT in and of itself in these days of instant gratification seekers!

I say people should try to give people a chance and not assume thier picture or thier looks are WHO they are inside.That's damn shallow if you ask me.Yeah we all have preferances but not at the expense of falling for someone without any substance I would hope.

Gorgeous does NOT always equal Emotionally Available or ready for a relationship.

Don't they say.......Persistance is a virtue...oh wait...that's patience!~

If you get blocked,deleted,left hanging,unresponded to, or walked away from....figure you should move on!Alot of women DO find it creepy if you don't take 'no thanks' for an answer.


I wish at least ONE more woman on this planet thought like you do. Until recently, I'd never have believed that women were so shallow as to automatically pass over someone on the basis of one word, such as 'disabled', without bothering to read any farther.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Electro Stim?
Posted: 9/20/2009 11:40:27 PM
I was talking with a friend about this thread and he gave me a link to a vid where a couple was playing with a home-made looking electric shock wand. The guy would hold the wand a 1/2 inch, maybe, from the womans flaps and the electricity would arc across. He moved up to her cl*t and held it closer....I think he turned the voltage up cause 3 arcs formed and one started a small flame on one of her flaps.

This is supposed to be fun??????
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 101 (view)
 
What is your number one fantasy?
Posted: 9/20/2009 11:03:53 PM
1. To be healthy again
2. Yes....2nd fantasy would be to have a at least one 1st date sometime this century
3. Fantasy #1 is impossible.........fantasy #2 appears to impossible as well
4. What partner?
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Electro Stim?
Posted: 9/17/2009 11:28:11 AM

Anyone use a TENS/EMS unit before... for physiotherapy or at the chiropractors?? That's the mildest form of e-stim on the market.


Yes, unfortunately. I've never thought to use one as a sex toy but the TENS units do their intended job VERY well. However, I can't use them any more as I now have 2 implanted medical devices and a TENS unit would likely scramble their electronics. One of the devices is a morphine pump, delivers straight into the spinal cord so no drugged effects, and the other is a Neurostimulator, which is like a TENS unit except the pads lay on the spinal cord itself.


may cause nerve damage (speaking clitorally


Why risk losing your feeling there????? Is the 'O' really worth it????


can potentially burn your skin


OOOOOOOOUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCCCCCHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Electro Stim?
Posted: 9/16/2009 8:58:22 PM
One word. WHY?!?!?!?!?!

I looked through some other stuff on the site.....like the urethral stims. How the hell does someone gets into stuff like that????

I'll be sitting with my legs crossed for a while. lol

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Why the nasty girl
Posted: 9/16/2009 7:00:31 PM

DUDE! Why would you say this???...Even if it is true?
Someone take his "man card"!


Thanks for that 2run. It's not for lack of trying. I'm disabled and have yet to find a woman that will bother to look past those 2 words. I've been actively looking for 2 years now......3 different pay dating sites and here for the last year or so. .....I've only had 1 woman, that lives within 50 miles of me, respond to a contact message. Women that live in other states or countries.....99% respond. A few of those are now friends.

No, I'm not in a wheelchair. I'm not missing any limbs. You can't tell there is anything wrong with me just by looking at me. Yes, everything does work. I did the profile review thing a while back and a couple of people suggested that I take the 'I'm Disabled" part off of my profile and tell women about it after a few dates. I declined to do that. For one, it would be dishonest.....and two, if a woman really is that shallow to start with, there wouldn't be anything there to hold my interest.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Why the nasty girl
Posted: 9/16/2009 11:54:10 AM
Even though it's been nearly 3 years I **STILL** wouldn't stick any of my body parts in a girl like that. Who knows what diseases you'd come out with.

Just my $0.02, Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
In Search of Dudes' Opinions
Posted: 9/14/2009 2:43:36 PM
Opening the memory vault

Hang on, gotta beat a couple of daemons back.......whoops, where does that skeleton think it's going? Get back in there! ....Stuff Stuff Stuff....

Phew, OK.......mid 20s. That would have been something to discuss during that first post-coital glow between round 1 and round 2.....and again between round 2 and round 3, and 3 and 4 and 4 and 5, etc.

Now, If there was a problem of any kind I would have wanted to hear that as early as possible in the relationship. Not because I would have dumped you but so I would know what NOT to do and so I could try to help you work through any issues.

Doyle

Closing the memory vault
....Whack whack whack..... Damn Daemon just does not want me to close that door...
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 538 (view)
 
Very long hair on a woman is very femine and sexy, but few women have long hair
Posted: 9/9/2009 10:31:50 PM
My Ex had really long hair, was getting close to her knees, and it was very thick and heavy. Heavy enough to cause some neck pain. Washing it took her about an hour. Once in a while I'd tell her to get it cut but she never did. In part because I liked long hair and it was beautiful. She'd get compliments from people all the time. And, as one lady pointed out, the long hair was quite useful in the bedroom.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Men: Would you notice if a condom came off?
Posted: 9/8/2009 1:39:05 PM

I was just asking because in my case it resulted in a pregnancy.
He doesn't beleive me when I told him I was on birth control but expects me to beleive him when he says it fell of. I don't beleive him.
And to this day he wonders how I got pregnant that night.


The only form of birth control that actually works 100% of the time is Abstinance.

Period.

BC pills have a stated effectiveness of 96-99%. However, the actual rate is about 87% because the pills are not always taken correctly. For example, taking them at different times of the day, missing a dose or 2 here and there, etc. We did have one girl who showed up at the ER with severe vaginal irritation and infection a couple of weeks after she started taking BC pills. Turned out that she had been INSERTING them. As with any dynamic system, you will have a few women at one end of the scale for whom the pill will work 100% and a few at the other end of the scale for whom the pill will not work at all. This is why it is advised to use at least 2 forms of birth control. Even then it's not a 100% effective. Especially if the guy takes the condom off because he doesn't like the decreased sensitivity and thinks it'll be OK because his GF is on the pill......

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Men: Would you notice if a condom came off?
Posted: 9/8/2009 1:50:45 AM
1. Yes, there is a HUGE difference in the feeling.
2. Unless the guy is hung like a light switch, those things do NOT come off of an erect penis easily.

I've had one condom break on me before. We both noticed it immediately. Me: It felt like she suddenly got REAL wet and slippery. Her: Felt a big change in resistance to me sliding in and out. We looked down and both of us could see the base of the condom still wrapped around me so it looked like it was still on. If I hadn't pulled out to check........
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Shaved Legs (Ladies need input)
Posted: 9/6/2009 6:02:06 PM
I used to ride a bicycle, competitively, and shaved my legs and forearms to decrease my wind resistance. Tis the only time I've done that. It is amazing how cold you'll get with that layer of hair removed.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 62 (view)
 
TITS: Proper breast stimulation techniques
Posted: 9/6/2009 9:20:46 AM
Great thread!!! I've not found a technigue that works for every woman.....each is as unique, and beautiful, as a snowflake. The fun part is finding out what makes each one tick. I've had GF's whose breast sensitivity were at opposite ends of the spectrum. One woman's breast were about as INsensitive as you could get. I swear that she wouldn't have noticed a cattle prod. LOL Then there was the one whose nipples were the most sensitive I've ever seen. Once I figured out the combination:

1. Pinch the Nipple between the Thumb and Index Finger
2. Squeeze hard
3. Rotate 90 degree's in either direction

....and she would have a small . Great fun to do in public.
She said that the nipple O's were different though..........shallower than the other types of 's
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
What would you like your SO to do for you?
Posted: 9/6/2009 3:23:42 AM
Oh YEAH........one of my favorite things to do. I've a weakness for Lingerie so I'd say to wear something in particular instead of 'be naked'.....and there'd be a lot more to the instructions.

Doyle OH YEAH
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Repulsive penis ??
Posted: 9/6/2009 2:47:36 AM


OMG! NO WAY!
I'm sorry I left that site now.....
I thought repulsive was a 'turn on' to you! lol
Maybe you'll get a laugh out of this one.......
http://www.littlemidgets.com/detail.php?type=1&sort=date&cf=1&content=138467



Closer2U, How did you get that pic of me?????
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Labia reduction surgery??
Posted: 9/2/2009 7:22:34 PM

I also saw a webite of a DR who is injecting your G-spot to make it bigger..


:OMG......I just HAD to go look that up. It's called G-Spot Amplification. Here's the particulars.

The G Shot®
The G-Shot® is painless and the procedure is performed in your doctor's office under local anesthesia. A specially designed speculum is used to assist to deliver a specified amount of collagen directly into the G-Spot. The actual injection usually takes less than 8 seconds and the total time in the examination room is usually less than 10-15 minutes. The G-Shot® creates a G-Spot about the size of a "quarter" in diameter with an internal projection of about 3-5 mm. The G-Shot last about 4 months (results may vary) and requires repeat injection every three months to maintain the effect.


If it's a painless proceedure why is it performed under local anesthesia????? LOL

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Starting email
Posted: 9/1/2009 10:11:34 PM
60%?? Wow. I think I'll stop following POF's guidlines and start using this guy's approach. In 18 months I've had exactly 2 replies from local women. That translates to about a 0.002% return.
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
New Fish in the pond ...
Posted: 9/1/2009 9:25:13 PM
Where is everyone getting all these dates from?
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
 
role playing..is it a turn on or no?
Posted: 9/1/2009 8:01:00 PM
The age play wouldn't go with me either......not into changing diapers. Although it's primarily a male fetish there are supposedly some females into it.

Otherwise, I absolutely LOVE role play.
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
 
acceptable time to ask man about sex?
Posted: 8/31/2009 9:25:35 AM
Unfortunately, male and female sex drives do not match with age. Women who are 35 to 50 years old are a better match with 18 to 25 year old males. Men in their 40s and 50s are a better match with 18 to 25 year old Women. This is why you see a lot of May/December relationships. They are more common in the European countries. Here in the U.S. we tend to call the Women "Cougars" and the Guys "Dirty Old Men".

OP: Most males your age tend to slow down and many have ED problems. There are some of us who still have high sex drives but you'll kiss a few frogs before you find one. If you want to weed the frogs out before kissing them you'll have to interrogate them first. Ask them to do the Seduction Guide and send you the results. Ask detailed questions to see if his sexual interests match yours. If he's bragging about his prowess he's most likely lying.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 8/31/2009 9:04:30 AM
If the relationship is new, then no. Once you've met and established an IRL relationship AND have been together long enough to progress to sex, then it depends on the relationship. Some men and women enjoy such things while others find it crude and disgusting to discuss anything sexual outside of the bedroom.

One thing that I have learned over the years is that women are FAR more sexual than men. We just go about it different ways. Want some examples, go to a bookstore and browse through the books in the romance section.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Is Porn OK in a marriage?
Posted: 8/27/2009 11:09:21 PM
First thing, you had to have known what her opinion was on the subject. Yet you were sneaking around to watch porn AND did it where you could be caught. Not very bright.

Second thing. To me, anyway, this seems like a rather extreme reaction to simply catching you watching porn. An argument I can see but leaving you??? So I'm gonna go out on a limb here and ask what else was going on?? Was it gay porn? Something truly disgusting? Were you the star and the girl was not your wife? Was it a tape of you and your wife that she didn't know you had recorded? Was your wife po'd at you for something else you were doing that you weren't supposed to and this was the last straw?

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 88 (view)
 
what do you feel is the most UNATTRACTIVE piercing commonly done today?
Posted: 8/26/2009 9:56:47 AM
I'm not big on the face-full-of-metal or the stretched look. Eyebrow piercings, to me, make the person look like they are in pain all the time. A few piercings are perfectly OK. If your genitals are so heavily pierced that I would need to bring a cutting torch and excavation equipment, we won't get along.

I don't mind tattoo's either unless you are doing something extreme like a full body tatt. If you are tattooing your face due to medical reasons, that's different. I only have 1 small Tatt which I got with an Ex-GF some years ago. (She wanted to mark me as hers, LOL).

Unless my name is on your Birth Certificate, it's none of my business what you do with YOUR body. Adorn it, or not, as you see fit. If my name is on your Birch certificate and we are dating then we have far more serious issues to be discussing. lol

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 62 (view)
 
How many of you actually have dates for the weekends?
Posted: 8/22/2009 4:52:52 PM
p~s

You shouldn't think your career disables you Doyle, the restaurant business is dam hard work and somebodies got to get their hands dirty. Too bad people don't appreciate those who work in the very places that provide them with services that are for their own comfort and convenience.
Dam shame.


I think you have me confused with someone else. I'm disabled. Haven't been able to work since Jan, 1999.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 129 (view)
 
The Four favourite questions guys love to ask....
Posted: 8/19/2009 8:53:47 PM

spank bank material


ROTFLMAO........I hadn't heard that one before.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
imposssible climax
Posted: 8/19/2009 8:47:00 PM
Closer2U - Does oral not work for you either?? (Presuming the guy knows how and where to lick and loves to, or is willing to, work at it for as long as it takes) If he isn't hitting the right spots, have you shown him what you like? You could always tie HIM up and make him watch you pleasure yourself. Be prepared to be ravaged when you untie him though.


I dream of being tied up and not having access...and having some persistant man not take "sorry it's not working" for an answer


I once tied a girl down, with a vibe strapped to her cl*t, and left her there for 4 hours. Would that get a or 2 out of you?

After reading your posts I understand you're not wanting to be tied up/give up control. If that is something you really do want to try again I would suggest getting some silk rope or bondage wrap and have him tie slip knots at your wrists and put the end of the rope in your hands. That way you only have to pull the rope to release yourself any time you feel uncomfortable. The silk ropes and wraps are smooth and supple enough to prevent the slip knots from getting a friction lock. It's a great way to build trust and confidence.

One thing I always suggest to anyone that is having problems or just wants to learn more about their body or their partners, is a series of "How To" video's by Nina Hartley.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
 
How many of you actually have dates for the weekends?
Posted: 8/19/2009 1:59:19 PM

Wow, guys!
How come so many of you aren't dating? Some of you say its been so many years since you had a date...why?
Just curious now


p~s, Part of the time I wasn't in any condition to be dating. I'v only been actively trying for last 2 years. Look at my profile and you'll see why I always get turned down.

Doyle
 goofius
Joined: 11/17/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
How many of you actually have dates for the weekends?
Posted: 8/17/2009 8:37:50 PM
Is that January of this year? You've got me beat. My last date was in 2003.......

Doyle
 
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