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Thread: Why??
Abbicci
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Why??
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9/4/2009 2:48:26 PM
Why? Pick a reason for any of your questions. A different reason for every woman or guy answering in AAG.
I respond with a no thanks and guys act like tools.
Most of the guys really answer your question and Manwich makes me laugh.
And to steal one from Tim Robbins: How long would it take a monkey with a wooden leg to kick all the seeds out of a dill pickle? I think that is just as valid as any question in AAG and it hasn't already been asked a million times....today.
Abbicci
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I wonder why....
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9/4/2009 10:33:15 AM
Maybe they figured out it's really all about the pictures.
Or maybe they leave their profile vague so they don't sound like they are eliminating half of the dating population.
Or they are lazy, don't care, doing this on a dare or want to see how many hoops a guy will jump through to get to know them.
Or they are just vague, wishy washy people who don't have anything interesting in their lives.
I have people tell me how great they think my profile is when in reality it's just a list of random things about me and it isn't very detailed about who I am or what I am looking for.
It still works.
Abbicci
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Ladies, does this list make sense to real women?
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9/2/2009 5:27:33 PM
I work in a very competitive sales industry. Most of the guys I work with have said that the books our companies buy for us to read as almost exactly like any PUA book.
Same techniques, different audiences, same goals. Selling ourselves.
What can it hurt to try? Give it a run and see what works for you.Like anything new, test it to see if it works for you. Take the leap, put yourself out there. What have you got to lose?
Is it any different than "he's not that into you" and "the rules"?
Abbicci
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Ladies, does this list make sense to real women?
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9/2/2009 4:49:14 PM
Based on pretty much ALL of your forum posts I am going to suggest really reading some of the books about this and giving it a go.
You can read the books, and take what you THINK will give you more confidence or whatever it is you are looking for.
On the surface PUA stuff makes me either want to laugh or vomit. But I usually have a pretty good bead on people and I am not easily fooled or lead. That's just me. I don't think the concepts offensive until someone starts to use the techniques to be a complete douche bag and use and hurt people. Use your powers for good and not evil :)
All people want to appear confident and comfortable in the company of someone new, if you think any of the techniques might work TRY them for yourself and stop speculating.
Sh!t or get off the pot dude!
Abbicci
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Going To Tell My Girlfriend It Is Over
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9/2/2009 3:16:54 PM
Okey Dokey, thanks for the heads up.
Do whatever you gotta do man. I am sure since she is way down on your priority list she might not even care or notice.
Just one question though, is she a real girlfriend or are you stalking some stranger and 'think' that she's your girlfriend?
You haven't met her family or friends because more than likely you are not her boyfriend.
And after reading your update about your family situation that is causing this break up, I wouldn't introduce you to my family either.That sounds like way more drama than most people will tolerate.
Abbicci
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What do women really want?
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9/2/2009 1:08:48 PM
I want crowd surfer to bring me coffee.
And that's because he's a clean cut young man.
Unless you are in a band or work in used record store, get a hair cut.
Abbicci
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How Many Times Do You Say GOOD BYE?
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9/2/2009 1:06:24 PM
Once should be enough.
Why would you give someone the chance to break your heart twice?
Ever hear the cliche "the devil you knwo is better than the devil you don't know"?
You stay because it's easy. Or you think it's easier than being alone
You stay because you are afraid you wont find someone better than the guy who treats you liek crap.
You confuse loyalty with putting up with crap that you would tell a friend to leave behind.
Take the advice that you would give to your best friend.
Abbicci
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How to tell someone they should be more careful
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9/2/2009 12:58:26 PM
If you feel the need to be the hall monitor of the internet have at it. It's actually very considerate of you to think about the safety of people you don't know. Just realize most people dislike criticism from people they love, never mind from strangers.
Unless they are over 70 I think just about everyone and their brother should understand the basic concepts of internet safety. Some people just don't have enough sense to save themselves from themselves.
Just make sure in your unsolicited emails to strangers about how they are doing things wrong you express just your concern for their safety.You might want to add that you wouldn't date anyone stupid enough not to have read all of the advice POF gives them when they created their profiles. If you read the forums for any period of time the most common question is about what interest looks like. Someone not smart enough to be concerned for their own safety is just as likely to find your polite rebuke as a come one. Just be prepared.
Abbicci
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Rules
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9/2/2009 12:35:38 PM
My only rule is not to get involved with douche bags.
Most are spotted well before a third date.
Abbicci
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They are showing online for hours & says it's not them doing it? It's automatic honey????
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9/1/2009 5:21:48 PM
He made up that story because he felt uber creepy that some broad he spent three hours having a coffee with admitted( without prompting) that she shows every single indicator of a bunny boiling stalking nut bag.
Nothing like telling a man you really don't know that you are crazy jealous and if he continues the relationship he wont be able to have any female friends or smile at waitresses in breakfast joints without you blowing a gasket.
Well played Sister, thanks for making women every where look mental.
Abbicci
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does the chocolate thing work for that time of the month...
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9/1/2009 12:07:56 PM
I am sure there are a billion studies that both prove and disprove this theory.But I am just too lazy to google today.
Is chocolate magic? Sure, why not. I think the Whitman Sampler company and See's paid for all available studies.
Now caffeine withdrawal is a real and horrible thing, any time you see me jumping ugly on a poster it's because my espresso level has dropped.
Abbicci
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He made me?
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8/31/2009 7:56:16 PM
Blame is always easier than ownership.
Or they are hinting they are open to a threesome with you but you have to beg.
This is the same as guys who complain about women who use them when they forget they did all the offering in the first place. It is selective memory/revisionist history.
I always suspect it's partly to be able to paint the newest guy as the knight in shining armor until she kicks you to the curb and then you become the douche bag who made her do ......
I understand not all relationships end well but I am leary of anyone who trash talks an ex. Someday you'll be the one that is subject of the trash talk.
Abbicci
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Ladies, does this prove anything about looks?
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8/31/2009 4:59:26 PM
To me it only proves MSNBC has the budget to keep repeating the same things over and over and acting like it's 'news'.
I do notice only the really ugly and the really attractive go on and on about looks, the rest of us just swallow the bitter pill, and get the hell on with our productive and happy lives since we aren't pissing and moaning about how much life would be better if we weren't so ugly or pretty.
Abbicci
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Your motivation for coming here?
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8/31/2009 4:42:51 PM
Wow, just goes to show you no matter how old they get men just can't stop b!tching about how women don't want them
For the love of all things holy man, whatever you are looking for is what you are looking for.
It doesn't mean women are jackasses because they don't want you. It just means they don't want you.
Things like this make me question the concept of survival of the fittest, I mean just exactly how do douches get through life without causing themselves terminal harm?
Abbicci
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If I place you on my favorite list?
Posted:
8/31/2009 2:59:28 PM
If someone adds me as a favorite and I do not recognize them from the forums and they have not sent me a message I delete them in 24 to 48 hours.
No message = no balls to me.
Abbicci
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Should I wait to respond?
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8/31/2009 1:54:24 PM
If you wait you run the risk of her thinking you aren't interested, which in turn will make her lose interest.
How about you just flipping respond when you read the message? Why play games? Why play by some rules set up by some idiot you have never met?
If you are interested, respond when you read the message.
Abbicci
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One Sided and it Hurts
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8/31/2009 10:21:28 AM
She said just friends, believe her.Just friends means just that.Friends do not go on date.
If I met someone and I have no interest in the romantically, I do not offer friendship as the runner up prize.
Wanting a romantic relationship with someone who only wants to be friends is just running to stand still. Do not waste your time. You will become one of those creepy guys who always pines after his friend until one day he snaps and opens fire on a cafe or McDonalds.
Now if you want to pine after her, offer to take her places, buy he cute and meaningful gifts DO NOT complain about how you go used and lead on and all women are just after bad boys and rake nice guys over the coals.
Abbicci
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Does a sexy title help a guy?Say Software Engineer over Mechanic
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8/31/2009 10:04:33 AM
So the honey at the bank, the cutie of all cuties, was working? Was she a teller or the bank president?
Her husband doesn't have the cake her co-worker thinks she does.
Abbicci
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The very best attitude...
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8/31/2009 8:05:38 AM
Sadly, the 'I'll just stay and have a good time' leads to the million and one posts about " I thought we had a great date, why wont they go out with me again." " Why did she let me pay if she wasn't interested?" and " I felt so much chemistry and how is it they didn't"
I think most people if stuck in the middle of a meet with someone they aren't attracted to would cut it short if one party says honestly " There is no spark."
Everyone has an agenda, and I don't mean that in a nefarious way, we all have needs and we want them met. If someone is looking for a romantic relationship, and they feel no spark with someone they might find it dishonest to continue the date.
Abbicci
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whats with the car hate ladies?
Posted:
8/31/2009 7:44:06 AM
Everything about a person's profile becomes the subject of speculation .
Is the person materialist?
I will admit to liking material things, this makes me a money grubbing, shallow, self centered douche based on 90% of the forum posts. I mean who the hell would want nice shoes, a nice house, dinner in a place that doesn't ask "do you want fries with that?"and a nice car? Admitting to these things makes you a douche online.
Are we trying to impress someone because of a car/motorcycle?
Aren't we all trying to impress with out profiles?
I thought we were all trying to catch they eye of someone we find attractive. That would be trying to make an impression.
Most guys have maybe 10 pictures on their computers, one will always be of the boat, the car, the bike. Bonus points if they are in the picture. They are using the pics they have, maybe subconsciously they think it might attract someone, do they think out loud "oh, this will get me a babe?" I seriously doubt it but it does give lots of women an angry outlet for what douches all men are.
I don't get the hate about a car pic, or the hunting pic or the fishing pic. Hell I don't even get worked up over the pics of some guys junk or women's rack shots or sexy lip pics. It's an effing picture.
I think online we all like to become amateur Sherlocks and Freuds trying to imagine meaning when there is none.
Abbicci
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Why Does the Words I LOVE YOU Scare some women!
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8/30/2009 6:25:22 PM
Did you tell her thins on the second or third date or hang out as you kids call them these days?
Abbicci
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Would You?
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8/30/2009 4:14:52 PM
Does it really matter either way? If 10 minutes into it she said" I don't think there's any chemistry" your post would be about how can anyone feel chemistry from a phone call. That threw you for a loop? Really, other people acting like themselves is hard to grasp and puts you off balance? Always keep in mind, no one thinks like you so no one else will ever react they way you want/expect them to.
She was honest at the end of the phone call, bonus points for her. I have sat through two and thee hour dates and had the same thing. Most people aren't so douchey that they say in 10 minutes " you suck, I'm outta here" hence the never ending questions about why, what were they thinking, what should I have done questions that are the lifeblood of AAG.
Abbicci
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Closure?
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8/29/2009 2:04:07 PM
Because he is afraid you are a bunny boiler or you are going to cry and beg for a second chance.
Abbicci
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do girls fish or what
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8/28/2009 5:00:54 PM
I fish, I also have a life that involves things other than fishing. Being obsessed/consumed by any one thing is just plan unhealthy.
A man or woman that has one hobby/reason for living/one distraction are a royal pain in the ass.
No one likes a Johnny One Note, get some depth and other interests or keep fishing by yourself.
There are few things more annoying in the world that someone who has only one thing to talk about whether it be themselves, fishing, politics, Vols Games, Red Sox games or something else that more than half the world could give a rat's ass about.
Abbicci
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why do females stop talking to me when...
Posted:
8/27/2009 7:35:00 PM
I liked the pic in the beret, I got all cougary feeling when I saw it.
Abbicci
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another question
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8/27/2009 7:18:30 PM
Ironhorse is right on this one....what he describes are the emails I respond to.
Do not attempt humor, or 'busting' or teasing someone. It is a rare person that can pull it off and most of the time you will come of sounding like a jackass and not only get your email deleted but blocked as well.
Abbicci
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why do females stop talking to me when...
Posted:
8/27/2009 5:37:16 PM
Because most women are not cut out to be married/involved whatever with a guy in the military. It is hard life and take s a special woman to be able to deal with it.
Consider yourself lucky that they bailed now rather than when you were overseas somewhere and she took up with some tool townie from off base because she felt lonely and neglected.
Thanks for your service :)
Abbicci
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Is this true?
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8/27/2009 4:35:47 PM
It's true only for the moronic versions of hallmark cards.
Sweet baby Jesus on roller skates, save me from the men who think they need a cheat sheet to understand women instead of learning how to communicate.
Abbicci
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Pickup Line Comebacks You've Used.
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8/27/2009 1:37:53 PM
I had one guy come up to me in a bar and say " what's it gonna take for a guy like me to get wit a girl like you?"All tough guy voice and arm pumping jack off. Then he put his arm around me, that was what set me off. I dislike strangers touching me.
" A head injury or a ruffy."
Normally I just smile when a guy tries a line, I mean it take a lot of balls to approach someone you don't know and I am rarely is very rude, this time he just e really pissed me off.
Abbicci
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Why am I getting no response
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8/27/2009 12:59:10 PM
I can only speak for myself....so why I wouldn't reply to your message.
Your pictures look like your high school proofs for your year book.
You are looking for friends. I am on a dating site to look to meet people to date, not friends.
And any guy who says hit me back to chat just makes me think he's trying to hard to be hip.
Abbicci
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Only Seem To Get Interest By Older Women
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8/27/2009 12:10:59 PM
So , based on your above statement you would be willing to date every woman on POF? You don't have some criteria for eliminating people based on their profiles?
Didn't you just complain you don't want to hear from older women? Wouldn't that be eliminating someone?
Is the a goose/gander situation?
Abbicci
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are guys scared off by confident women who make the first move?
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8/27/2009 11:29:24 AM
As long as a guy is attracted to you and likes your approach that's all that matters.
If you sit down on a strangers lap in a bar he might like the approach but have no interested in getting to know you any better than it will take to get your panties off.
Meet him fishing on a river and have something in common to talk about, he might want to get to know you better."Friending" some one on a social networking site works for teenagers, I am not sure how it works for adults. It is attraction, the approach and interest.
Just like any man approaching any woman, some will want to get to know you better, some wont.
But wouldn't it be nice to assume just because you approach a guy they will be interested.It would also be nice to think that there couldn't be anything about yu or your approach that might be unattractive to someone else.
Abbicci
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How to tell someone you have dated twice you are no longer interested
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8/27/2009 9:41:35 AM
How would you want some one you have dated twice that they aren't interested?
A phone call is the high road. An email the middle road. Ignoring the low road.
If you think he might flip out and yell and scream go with the email.
If you think he is an adult who would appreciate the truth call him.
Doing the right thing sometimes makes us uncomfortable but doing the right thing makes us better people.
Abbicci
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Analyze these situations please
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8/27/2009 9:23:08 AM
I am always nice to the young men who work in the office. I joke with them and they with me.It doesn't mean a flipping thing other than I think they are funny and good guys.
Unless one of them makes an overtly sexual advance to you assume that they are just being friendly. I don't do anything with these men on my days off.
With the beach lady, who knows maybe maybe not, why don't you ask her since you hang out together.
And all women like being told they look younger than they are, that's why players always play that line.
Abbicci
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looks seem to be critical
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8/27/2009 7:39:53 AM
Yes, looks are critical because they are part of initial attraction. Most peopel don't go straight to the whine of 'it's what's inside' most of of know it's a combination of both.
Sure tell everyone why you don't find them attractive. I can assure you someone who would have thought you were attractive will only see you as a tool.Yeah, because what everyone needs is some douche bag giving them a laundry list of what's wrong with them. No one likes unsolicited criticism. No one should designate themselves the hall monitor of life, telling people what is wrong with them without being asked.
There is no one universal for what is attractive, just because you don't like something doesn't mean everyone else will dislike it as well. I mean think about that for a second and reread your own post about baldness.
Abbicci
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What do women REALLY want?
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8/27/2009 6:43:10 AM
[I think women are confused, and this is the reason no one can figure them out./]
I think I know where the confusion starts. Do you really think it is possible for anyone to completely understand roughly three billion people, that being the approximate female population? Then consider all of them will have different backgrounds, upbringings and life experiences. How about considering the fact that we all change, grow and evolve.
Maybe the secret to success in a great relationship isn't the feeling that you know them and there is nothing left to learn but the feeling that you love someone and can't wait to learn more about them, everyday.
So what I am looking for....how about someone who doesn't think all women think exactly the same and should all act the same way in every situation. Maybe the one guy i want to spend the rest of my life figuring out while he spends the rest of his life trying to figure me out.
Abbicci
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How do I read and remember you girls now?
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8/27/2009 6:08:22 AM
Since everyone on my favorite list is a forum regular and more than half are women does that make me half a lesbian? Or just too much of a chatty Cathy for my own good?
Abbicci
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Question for whomever...
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8/27/2009 6:06:05 AM
I went six months without a cigarette before I changed my status.
A note about being a recent non-smoker in your profile may be in order if you are obsessed about such things.
Abbicci
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Why are the CRAZY women contacting me?
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8/26/2009 9:38:10 PM
Looks like your picker is broken. I find talking on the phone weeds out the crazies.
Maybe you just need to have a better screening process.
Or maybe why don't you contact some women based on their profiles and see what happens. If you wait to see what washes ashore chances are just the trash washes up on the beach.
Abbicci
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How do women WANT to be kicked to the curb?
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8/26/2009 9:30:41 PM
I would like him to set himself on fire so I can put him out with a sledge hammer. Since I can't seem to get what I want .....
If it's someone from online and we just did a meet and greet, I really don't care. It's not like the time for a cup off coffee is worth any more than "Nice to meet you."
After a few dates, falling off the face of the planet is fine with me as well. An email or phone call saying " You aren't for me." would work as well.
Any committed relationship deserves a conversation. Because honestly, I have never been blindsided by the ending of a relationship.
And there are very few threads started looking for advice, most are looking for validation.
And a chorus of "kick the gold digger/bum to the curb" sounds way better than "why are you such a jackass that no one ever calls you for a second date or how clueless do you need to be that your partner of 10 years was moving out and you didn't notice"
Abbicci
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does no reply mean leave me alone?
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8/26/2009 8:47:27 PM
One message is enough.
A profile review, in the profile review forum could help.
Abbicci
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Technomoronmen: Is there a dispensation for Instant Messenger?
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8/26/2009 8:14:21 PM
I do not use any instant message services.
After a few messages and deciding I want to meet someone I give them my phone number to talk once or twice before meeting.
I don't care if you exchange a million emails and thousands of hours in IM it does not equal one 15 minute meeting.
Abbicci
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Confused and a little pissed ...
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8/26/2009 7:57:03 PM
This will be a completely non PC post, if you are easily offended don't complain, I warned you.
Years ago when the internet was new and I was much younger I heard something I have carried with me for many years......................................................
Winning an argument on the internet is like winning a medal at the Special Olympics.
Sure you won, but you are still retarded.
Abbicci
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Ok. this is hilarious.. Please help me understand this..
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8/26/2009 7:43:03 PM
Dude, honestly you live in one of the coolest cities on the planet.
Why are you worried about the women that wont, find one that will.
She has closed the conversation, let it go.
Now get the eff out of the house, go hear some great music and meet some young woman who likes to dance.
Abbicci
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Eight year age gap ok?
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8/26/2009 6:51:12 PM
For the love of all things holy! Date who ever you freaking want! She's over 18, she gets to make her own choices and you get to make yours. Why not choose to date?
Why do people make this so freaking difficult? It's a freaking date! She didn't ask you for a sperm donation, or a kidney or to help her sacrifice the living for a demon god she has sold her soul to.
If you are attracted to someone and they are attracted to you and you both respect each other it doesn't matter one lick what age you are, what color you are, what physical disabilities you might have or any of the other millions things that people get hung up on.
Abbicci
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What would you think/do if...
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8/26/2009 6:33:22 PM
Change your mind about the ring.
It's just a ring until you make it a magic ring with your thinking. It's a symbol to show other people she is spoken for, it marks her as your property. Besides the diamond industry saw you both as simple marks and made you pay a crap load of money for something they control the market on.
You can feel whatever you want, just don't let this ever become your ending words for an argument. Don't let this spoil everything else in your relationship.
Let it go and congratulations of your pending marriage.
Abbicci
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Why do extreme career-driven couples/singles have kids?
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8/26/2009 6:14:13 PM
Both of my parents worked at very difficult careers, both in public service.I never once felt unloved or not cared for by my parents. I knew everyone of my grandparents stories because I got to spend time with them. I had a Nanny who had worked all over the world and her stories were the best, my life is richer because of all of those things. I am glad my parents saw their work as vital. Just because they were as devoted to their jobs didn't mean I was ignored, neglected, unloved.
My parents never fell into the cult of childhood. They never thought I was the smartest, prettiest, best at fill-in-the-blank sport or hobby I picked up at the moment. They raised me to think for myself, stand up for myself and enjoy my family as people and not as care takers.
I learned my work ethic from my parents, that it is a moral obligation to volunteer both my time and money to charities on a weekly basis, and more importantly I learned the world doesn't revolve around me.
While a lot of my generation is still going on about how crappy their childhoods were and every issue they have as adults is their parents fault , I remember my childhood as magical and my parents as hard working people who were impacting the world .
I attended summer camps at the Museums of science and fine arts in Boston,and math camps at MIT . I met people from all over the world and because of it my world became larger.
Oh, and my parents are still married to each other. They must have gotten the marriage family thing right somehow.They have a loving relationship with each other and with their children.
Abbicci
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Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
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8/26/2009 5:54:14 PM
I think your ex put her up to it to see just exactly what kind of dirt bag you are.
Why don't you call the house and ask her husband if you can bend his wife like a willow tree.
That would clear it all right up.
Abbicci
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What would you think/do if...
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8/26/2009 5:44:14 PM
So your entire relationship is all about the ring? Is it just a ring, is it a magic ring? Who are you, Golem?
She has to wear it, she payed the difference. It would have been nice if she talked to you about it but I don't know jack about your relationship so I really can't say.
I guess I respect people who pay more attention to their vows than a ring.
Be prepared for people to say this is a great thing to end a relationship over. Everyone will call her a materialistic douche bag and you need to get out now. I think she should dump you first because you clip your toe nails the wrong way.
Abbicci
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A Snickers moment. LoL. Good one...
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8/26/2009 5:28:21 PM
I do not have kids, almost all the men I date do have kids.
And take your profile to profile review. It's the only forum they are allowed in.
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