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Joined: 11/17/2008

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How Do I Get Over Her and Everything Posted: 7/9/2009 10:47:54 PM
Matt, I have just gone through alot of depression myself from losing a really good friend. This friend walked out of my life and never looked back and left me with a feelings of loneliness, depression and desperation. I believed that he was my solid rock to lean on and when he was gone, I couldn't manage life on my own. I decided to turn all of my inner demons that kept me from having a happy fulfilling life over to God and really prayed that he would intercede in my life and take away the hurt. I truly believe that God works in ways we can't see because I look back now and realize that I am a much stronger person today then I was a year ago and that friend that was in my life wasn't God's Plan for my life. If you give yourself some healing time and get involved with things that distract your mind from thinking about your past like a a church ministry, community service, new hobby, take a walk while listening to upbeat music , continously say positive affirmations to yourself you will soon find out that you don't need someone else in your life right now to make you happy. Believe in yourself and work on yourself and you will find in time that when you do meet that special someone that you will spend the rest of your life, you will realize why the other relationships didn't work out.

Joined: 11/17/2008

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Why do We Keep Attracting the Same Kind of Person? Posted: 7/4/2009 9:28:59 AM
I'm sorry for what you are going through and completely understand it. I, too, attracted the emotionally unavailable men in droves! I had to go inward a lot to uncover the "why" and for me it was familiarity. I grew up without the presence of a loving and strong father or brother, so my "blueprint" for relationships with men was all about trying to fix things that couldn't be fixed. I felt that someone significant failed to stand up for me earlier in life and that I didn't deserve anything better than that now. I finally realized that when a woman truly believes she deserves an emotionally available guy, she doesn't need to talk about it, she lives it. The wounded guys, the aloof men, the still-attached-to-someone-else guys, the guys trapped in the past of a love that got away, or WHATEVER it is that keeps them from getting emotionally close to you, those guys are a thing of my past now. I have learned to change the course in my life and never again settle for anything less than a great relationship. I have learned to keep taking little steps in the direction of loving myself first, men second. My advice to you would be to build that inner belief in yourself that is so strong that it will tell you early on that a certain guy is emotionally unavailable and will eventually break your heart so you just don't go there. At this point, turn and run as fast as you can the other way into the arms of that man who will love and adore you and want to grow into a long term relationship with you for that special person that you are. Good luck!

Joined: 11/17/2008

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Dont contact me anymore some advice on that Posted: 7/4/2009 8:52:20 AM
You say this like you have experience in doing this. I guess you are like the rest of us and that you have learned from your past mistakes on what not to do.

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