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 Author Thread: How do I get over this relation?
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
How do I get over this relation?
Posted: 11/25/2009 1:27:03 PM

WOMEN are natural born liars. They scream up and down about being honest and then when they make a mistake they are the first to cover the facts up, change them, or ignore them.


Okay Cowboy...no need to put a blanket accusation on all of us females. First of all ANYONE has the ability to lie and I have dated a number of men that have the same natural born ability to lie. I do agree that he needs to rise above and not be that type of person, but I think you need to reevaluate your statment. It just makes you sound bitter.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 56 (view)
 
How Much Should I Disclose?
Posted: 11/25/2009 9:38:17 AM
Is she a close friend? What about Dirk are you worried about telling her? If he is a douche and she is a good friend then you should protect her. Would he be upset if you told her things about him that didnt come from his mouth. What is it that you are worried about telling her? Sounds like you dont want to rat out your friend.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Seeking Advice...
Posted: 11/25/2009 9:11:59 AM
You already know what you should do. You KNOW he is not the one and you KNOW you should be looking for more. Seriously, men go into a relationship thinking the woman wont change and women go into a relationship thinking the men will change. In the end both parties are left disappointed. Don't waste time on someone that you want to change. Not gonna happen on your time.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Should i stay or should i go
Posted: 11/25/2009 9:03:27 AM
Dont be a douche. Seriously, let her go. The longer you stay the harder it will be. Seems as if you have already stayed too long. She deserves more than what you can give her.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
 
What is LOVE?
Posted: 11/24/2009 11:24:50 AM
We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love. - Anonymous
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Wouldn't ordinarily do this... Maxim mag/porn accusations etc
Posted: 10/27/2009 4:14:39 PM
This is SO childish. So, if you glance at a hot women on the street you are cheating? She sound immature and childish. Seriously, if she is making such a fuss over a MAGAZINE why would you wait for more crazy accusations? Silly, silly, silly...
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Curbing your relationships
Posted: 10/22/2009 2:22:28 PM
It was a LONG hard road, trying to put that square peg into the round hole.......over and over and over.
When it came down to brass tacks, I got kicked to the curb, as we were dealing with making a commitment and of course, he had no idea how he would mange every day "giving", when he didn't like giving an inch, EVER.


Isn't there a saying that the one that loves the least has all the power in the relationship? I would say this statement definately holds true in your case. I think that we should know when we deserve more and sometimes we need other people to let us know that we do deserve more.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
I like this girl
Posted: 10/22/2009 2:08:32 PM
Okay, okay, everyone lay off of him for his spelling...no need to kick a guy when he is down! It sounds like this girl is enjoying spending time with you but is using you as a distraction until something better comes along. You need to really listen to her, because it sounds like she has made her mind up about you.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags?
Posted: 10/22/2009 1:40:23 PM
I definately see your point of view on this one. It is almost by saying it that they are trying to convince themselves that they are independent. I think the problem is that you assume that all women are independent and that is not the truth. Just like all men are not independent. I think what these women are trying to say is that they are looking for someone but have more respect for themselves then to go after the first man that spends money on me. That they are looking for someone who is in the same place financially AND emotionally. That they are not going to expect a man to take care of them, because they can take care of themselves. It does come off a litle confrontational. I think of it this way, in my experience the men that have bragged and talked about how good they are in bed are usually the worst at it. This statement might be on the same lines.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Curbing your relationships
Posted: 10/22/2009 12:01:35 PM

There is a difference between experiences and baggage. With experiences we should learn and grow! Baggage means the individuals ability to learn and grow is stunted...their stuck in a rut, and can't or haven't let it go


Absolutely agree. Baggage is something you hold onto that doesnt allow you to move forward. Great statement Lonesomerick!
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Curbing your relationships
Posted: 10/22/2009 11:44:26 AM
I know in my past relationships I have seen the red flags and felt the gut feelings, but ignored them. Obviously, they were past relationships that didnt work. If we don't learn from those mistakes then we are bound to repeat them. It may seem callous that we can be so quick to dismiss another because of those reasons, but in my experience when you stick around and give the benefit of the doubt there tend to be more and more reasons to leave later. Love should conquer all, but a lot of the posts started on POF the poster is already questioning their relationship. No matter what advice is given it is up to them to decide for themselves. I know that there are some bitter posters out there that say run at the first sign of any trouble, but they are few and far between. I think when looking for answers in here you have to pick though the weeds to find the flowers...just like in love.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Any Virgins or those practicing Celibacy
Posted: 10/21/2009 12:32:59 PM
Not sure the age range of the women you are dating, but it sounds to me like the women are in their sexual prime. Men top off earlier. Maybe its karma that is showing you how annoying it was for us when we were in our twenties. :)
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Hickeys? What do you think?
Posted: 10/20/2009 1:58:50 PM
Hickeys are tacky. To me they are trailer park trashy. I dont respect people that are old enough to know better. No need to be trashy.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 240 (view)
 
A real woman
Posted: 10/20/2009 1:39:04 PM

A woman who values her feminine gift of giving new life over trying to have a career in a man's world. A woman who takes her job of taking care of a family seriously, and doesn't frown upon women who prefer to stay home and be mothers and wives.


Although I agree with your statement that women who choose to be stay at home moms should not be looked down upon I have to disagree with the rest of your statement. I dont know what decade you are living in but it is no longer a man's world. I take my job as a mother seriously, but I do have a career. I should not be looked down upon because I work. I am setting an example to my daughters that women can be strong and intellegent and need to follow their dreams.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 467 (view)
 
I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 10/20/2009 1:27:52 PM

Nice to see that at least one woman, Grizzelda, on here speaks the truth about the average looking guys.


I think its funny, because to tend to hear what you want to hear. I DETEST arrogant guys...and I know lots of women that are the same way. In my experience it is the hottest guys that are the mose arrogant. Looks only get you so far and although they are the initial attraction you have to have a great personality first and foremost.


A woman would rather have a hot looking guy who is arrogant, than an average looking guy is isn't. She will always be interested because of those great looks he has.
A woman aure wouldn't want to wake up beside the guy she dates and look at him and think "Why do I like him again? Oh ya because he is a decent man" BORING.
She wants to wake up beside him and think "Wow he is so hot" Keeps her interested.


I am not sure what women you are referring to but this is complete BS to me. There has to be something brought to the table other than looks. Actually, pretty boys are too high maintence for me. They can be selfish and conceeded and I dont have time to deal with boy drama. Give me a real man that hunts and fishes...that gets dirty and makes me feel like the most beatiful women on the earth and I am a happy women. You really have to stop focusing on looks...it sounds so juvenial.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Wouldn't it be great...
Posted: 10/20/2009 12:58:30 PM
Wouldnt it be great if...

Health care in the US didnt cost an arm and a leg...but was actually free.

I won the lottery and could spend my free time with loved ones.

It was Friday!

My daughters could be raised in a world without war.

BSU made it to a BIG bowl game.

we could consider everyday a gift, and really live up to our potential.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 144 (view)
 
Is it ever okay to resort to violence?
Posted: 10/20/2009 12:28:15 PM

You should never strike anyone unless it is in self defence. God help the man that tries to hit me again.


I agree wholeheartedly!
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
What to do
Posted: 10/20/2009 12:14:18 PM
I agree with Senor Brown!
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 459 (view)
 
I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 10/20/2009 12:08:26 PM
I don't see how this is a whiney thread.

sounds to me like..(insert whiney voice here)..I HAVE to do all the work...I HAVE to ask her out...Why cant SHE ask me out...Why is this so much work...Why cant I get dates...blah, blah, blah. No women what to date a guy that whines about silly issues. To me looks are one thing...but they arent everything. I would much rather be with someone who has average looks and is laid-back then someone who is hot but uptight about all he HAS to do to date me.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 456 (view)
 
I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 10/20/2009 11:55:21 AM
All I hear when I read this post is Waa Wa Waa Waaaa (think charlie brown's teacher). Seriously? What the hell does it matter who does what? I have never let silly issues like this define me. I am outgoing and have never had a problem going up and talking to a guy I think is cute. Maybe the problem has to do with her preference in men and has nothing to do with you doing all the work. This sounds to me like a whiney thread and you arent heading in the right direction with a whiney thread.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 111 (view)
 
The girl I was seeing, wont talk to me after the party at her house, any advice?
Posted: 10/8/2009 3:46:31 PM

I don't know, my guess is because you showed up late.


LMAO!!!

 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
 
My crazy friend
Posted: 10/5/2009 3:45:28 PM

As to the child & putting him in a homeless shelter - 1) a shelter WILL NOT take a child by themselves; 2) the shelters are constantly full; 3) if she attempts to leave her child at a shelter they would be (here at least) bound by law to call child welfare and the police; 4) the police will charge her with child abandonment; 5) the child will be placed in a youth shelter. Children technically can't be left alone until they are 18...of course, for short periods of time, etc, no one bothers about that - but they are a parent's responsibility until 18. End of story.


I live in Idaho and in towns with 2000 people there are no homeless shelters. This woman is seriously demented thinking that her son will be just fine in a shelter and could come to see her hopefully. What a whack job!
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Sarcasm: Bad vs. Good
Posted: 10/5/2009 2:52:31 PM
There is a time and place for it, and being sacastic all the time is too much, but I love sarcasm.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 112 (view)
 
Dating a Gemini
Posted: 9/30/2009 1:18:07 PM

Much of astrology is based on coincidence. There are flakes in every sign. Having said that, Gemini women are fun. And Libra women are superficial. There!


Hey now I am a libra and not superficial, we just like beautiful things - both inside and out. We are all about the balance, baby.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Women with women
Posted: 9/17/2009 11:00:27 AM

But this


I have had a few encounters, but I dont think I could ever really switch, if you know what I mean.

troubles me a bit.


I have always been upfront and honest before being in that situation. You are right though, no one deserves to have thier emotions played with for what someone else considers to just be a good time.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 376 (view)
 
How many is too many?
Posted: 9/17/2009 10:41:49 AM
Inevitably this question brings up issues. The person asking the question always seems to have questions about the answer they recieved. That, in turn, causes unnecessary stress in a relationship. The problem is this: if the answer is that they have only been with a few then the question that usually proceeds that is who. Once the details are known then (in my experience) it starts a chain reaction. The person who asked the question then starts to question if they are a better lover then the ones before, are they as sexy, do they still care about former lovers, etc. If the answer is that they have been with many then the questions that proceed it are do they not care about themselves, am I just another number, where do I fit in. It is a silly question that brings up more silly questions. In my opinion it is nobodys business but my own. I will not play those silly games. If I am with you then I am with you, no need to talk about past lovers. It tends to breed insecurities.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Women with women
Posted: 9/11/2009 1:26:06 PM

You mean go at the cooking and cleaning, right?


I gotta admit, you are cracking me up

And REPORNSEARCH is my new favorite word
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Women with women
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:12:43 AM
I was actually joking more than anything about being barefoot and in the kitchen. The fact is that I dont usually tell anyone I am dating that I like women...I like to keep it my thing. What I wanted was some honest reactions to my question. In no way am I trying to get guys attention by asking the question.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Women with women
Posted: 9/11/2009 10:56:07 AM
Fakefella,

Its not about the guy being involved at all. I guess my question stems from a reaction I got from a guy I dated (a while ago) that actually found the thought of two women together revolting. But hey, but you get an A for being the stereotypical male that wants his women barefoot and in the kitchen.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Women with women
Posted: 9/11/2009 10:19:19 AM
I have always been attracted to women. I think women are beautiful and although I am not attracted to most, I have ran across a few that have affected me. I have had a few encounters, but I dont think I could ever really switch, if you know what I mean. Now, it seems that there are a lot of men that love the thought of two women together, but there seems to be a rising trend (maybe from women who use it as shock value) that men are not as into a woman on woman situation as before. As men and women I would like to know what you think about the whole woman on woman thing.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
 
'Growing Expectations Syndrome' cause of many breakups?
Posted: 8/20/2009 2:49:29 PM
My brother told me this once and it made so much sense.

Men get into relationships thinking that the woman will never change, but they most often do.

Women get into relationships thinking the man will change, but they most often don't.

I think if men and women recognized this to begin with we might all have had less heartache in out lives.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Falling in love too quickly in a rebound relationship.
Posted: 8/6/2009 12:08:26 PM

Let's say someone has been bouncing around through many relationships without having time for myself.


So it looks like there was a bit of a slip there and that this is really about you and your relationship.

That being said be careful of jumping in blindly and charging full steam ahead to a family. Whats the rush? Can't you enjoy this time that you are having together without having the children talk after only two months? Hypothetical talks are one thing, but if you are having the serious "lets have kids now" talk then you might want to slow it down. I dont understand the rush, I mean why race towards marriage? Why dont you enjoy what you have and enjoy watching it grow?
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 8/6/2009 10:58:16 AM
You know what I really love? I love it when I am in the kitchen with my man and we make dinner together. There is something about experimenting and creating something delicious over a glass of wine that is a real aphrodisiac.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 8/6/2009 10:03:16 AM
In my family it was always my dad that cooked dinner. I would try to hang out in the kitchen with him and help, but mostly I would get shooed away. That was his domain. I enjoy cooking, but I dont always have the time to cook the way I would like. After work, the gym and in between the hour commute home, school work (for the kids), and baths I find myself throwing together something quick for my girls. It doesnt allow a lot of time to hone my cooking skills. That being said, on the weekends there are times when I want to really take the time to try a new recipe and enjoy spending hours in the kitchen. My point is this: If I make food be happy with what you get, otherwise make it yourself. Plain and simple!
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 93 (view)
 
Is being faithful a thing of the past?
Posted: 8/5/2009 2:43:41 PM
Here's the thing, the human species is not programmed to be monogomous. That does not mean that we don't believe in monogomy, but it is not in our genetic makeup to mate for life. I dont believe that cheating has all of a sudden become more prevalent than past years, just that we have new technology that allows us to catch the cheaters more often. 20 years ago we didn't have the cell phones, caller ids, facebook, myspace, email, etc. It was a lot more difficult to catch your significant other because, frankly, we were in the dark. With new technology come new ways to monitor our loved ones and with that sometimes we stumble upon more than we want to know.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Need advice for my sister....
Posted: 8/5/2009 2:32:35 PM
Set them up on the new show Hitched or Ditched - lmao. That would be interesting :)
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 405 (view)
 
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 8/5/2009 12:27:33 PM
I have to agree with the OP. If someone I went on a date with were wearing a fanny pack I would be embarrassed. Call me shallow if you want to, but I take the time to make sure that I have appropriate attire for my date. If we were going to a fancy trendy restaurant I would be embarrassed. How much stuff does he need to carry around that would necessitate an entire fanny pack?
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Song titles..... During sex
Posted: 7/31/2009 2:25:19 PM
Fiona apple - Extraordinary machine...during sex
Eminem - Cum on Everybody...during sex
Rob Zombie - More Human Than the Human...during sex
Nickleback - Animals...during sex
Fiona Apple - Fast As You Can...during sex
Gorillaz - Feels Good Inc...during sex
The Offspring - Want You Bad...during sex
Danity Kane - Damaged..during sex
Puddle of Mudd - Psycho...during sex
The Donna's - Take it off...during sex
Radiohead - All I Need...during sex
Gnarles Barkley - Crazy...during sex
Nelly Fertado - Maneater...during sex
Sia - Breathe Me...during sex
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Best and worse pick up lines...
Posted: 7/31/2009 10:38:46 AM
I actually like this one:

Does this tequila taste funny to you?
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 237 (view)
 
Funny pick up lines
Posted: 7/31/2009 8:39:03 AM
Does this tequila taste funny to you?
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Dating deal-breakers and cardinal sins
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:04:15 AM
1. negativity
2.****ness - now having healthy self-esteem and being**** are two different things.
3. being rude
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
GOTCHA!
Posted: 7/17/2009 11:03:41 AM
If the shoe was on the other foot would you want to know? If she is your friend I would tell her. If her reactions are to blame you then she is not that good of a friend and she is digging her own grave. Suck it up and tell her. The longer you wait the worse you will feel.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 44 (view)
 
cheating wife
Posted: 7/6/2009 10:45:24 AM

my family before the one i have now was also went on a path of destruction, but the reasons are very dark. i would not be able to tell you what happened.


I am so confused by this statement I dont even know where to start. So you had a family before this marriage and had kids?
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 163 (view)
 
Best question ever asked.
Posted: 6/30/2009 1:31:56 PM
Here in Idaho we have a lot of transplants, but the consensus of those transplants has been almost unanimously that Boise has some of the hottest women. I think it is like Colorado in that there are a lot of outdoor activities and is one of the biggist bicycling towns in the US. I would suggest that you try a look up of the towns on POF. Maybe it will give you a good idea. In the end I think that the NW is a great pleace for women, but maybe I am bias. :) Good luck~
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 104 (view)
 
Celebrity one-nighter
Posted: 6/29/2009 1:25:59 PM
Matthew McConaughey and Johnny Depp

Ashley Judd and Kate Beckinsale
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Lower Standards For Free Dating Sites?
Posted: 6/26/2009 2:14:58 PM
I read a message in one of the forums and it really made me think. I would like to see what you all think.

Do you think that because POF is a free dating website that we dont set our criteria for a date as high as we would if we were paying for a dating website? Are we lowering our standards?

I know what I think, but would like to hear other opinions on it.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
I knew She Liked Older Men, But Not That Old!
Posted: 6/26/2009 12:58:12 PM
Well I dont want to generalize, but she might have some "daddy" issues. Although that might not be what is happening here she did over-react to an honest mistake. In no way were you trying to be mean or nasty and she needs to realise that the situation is awkward for you, since she did not mention how much older he is. I think you should sit down and talk to her, but if this is a red flag for you then you really need to pay attention to that.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Man/Woman with too high standards or too much expectation
Posted: 6/26/2009 12:53:17 PM
Just read something that might help you figure it out...from MSN.com

The too-picky guy
For all his many, many first dates, this guy is resolutely single, never having met anyone who quite fits his mold for the ideal mate. He is convinced that there is someone out there and is alternately determined to find The One or frustrated by his inability to do so. Says Andrew, 30, of Scarsdale, NY: “It’s impossible for me to compromise,” he says. “I can’t settle for someone who doesn’t attract me physically, emotionally, intellectually and so on.” Compounding this inability to compromise is the belief that perfection in another exists — a notion that could lend itself to fantasies of discovering love at first sight. “A guy with impossibly high standards may fall for someone, but then he’ll see this person’s flaws and imperfections and become disappointed,” says Dr. Kerner. Unfortunately, this can lead to discounting potentially great matches, as the picky guy may be unwilling to give a date with, say, a tendency to use emoticons in emails or “too short” hair a chance.

Reality check: What these guys need to accept is that no one’s perfect — and include themselves in that statement. And, in Dr. Kerner’s opinion, “There is no such thing as a soul mate,” he says. “Rather, it’s the journey of building a great relationship over time that leads to a ‘soul mate’-type closeness.” So the next time you’re iffy about a girl, give her more of a chance before you write her off.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Pychotic interactions.
Posted: 6/26/2009 12:25:11 PM
I have to agree with pirateheaven. You didnt answer her question. In fact you asked a question in response to her question. You made a confusing situation out of a simple question. Kinda like being asked how is work treating you. You dont ask the person "can you elaborate on your positive or negative work experience". NO...you say, "work is fine" or "work is crappy" or "work is great". Way to make it confusing and then blaming her for it. Also...that is no where near a psychotic interaction...that was just your stupidity.
 bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
My question to you is.....
Posted: 6/26/2009 12:12:17 PM
Doesn't everyone in this world get judged on their actions? We are judged by what we say everyday, why would different rules apply to a forum setting? I think it is an easier way to see into someone psyche then meeting up to figure it out then. Here's the thing, your word ALWAYS reflect apon you...use them wisely.
 
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