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Have 50's era men become obsolete? Posted: 7/15/2009 12:06:02 AM
Never thought this thread would produce so many posts. After reading through the comments I realized that rather then discussing the topic I thought I was presenting (which, believe me, I've apparently been very freaking mistaken about what I meant) - most of the posts are discussing how naive, young and stupid I am. Granted, I read the posts and maybe I don't understand the entirety of the subject I proposed but honestly? You win. I'm a stupid, misinformed, naive and young with a very unappealing profile. Have fun with the bashing. - A

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Have 50's era men become obsolete? Posted: 7/13/2009 9:07:38 PM
And also - I'm a big fan of the show "Mad Men" - for those of you who suggested I watch it. You guys can stake me for this but I wouldn't mind living that way. Life maybe was not the happiest, but it was simple. More than can be said for this day and age. "Injustice, womanizing, lying, grease!" - Shit happens in every era, it just differs in magnitude and category. - A

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Have 50's era men become obsolete? Posted: 7/13/2009 9:00:25 PM
I must not have made myself clear in the first post. I'm not saying I wish the dynamic now to be similar to the 50's - there was a different breed of men back in the day. They worked hard all their life, enjoyed simple pleasures and weren't overly concerned with their appearance. That aspect of men for the most part seems to have lessened quite bit. And don't get me wrong - I'll be the first to admit that I wish more men were the "strong, silent types" despite any personal issues they may have along with that. I'm just not a fan of discussing things to the bone - and talking about domestic abuse? I'd be willing to stake that the percentage nowadays isn't so far off, if it's not higher. - A ** By the by, people keep bringing up that men were secretly gay back then instead of openly like now - but there are still a lot of men who are probably married, with kids - but afraid of the reaction they'd receive - in this day and age.

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Have 50's era men become obsolete? Posted: 7/13/2009 12:38:02 PM
So, if I say it's an excuse then that negates your opportunity to discuss it? I think not. If you're going to use it as a response - back it up with some solid points, don't just say "Well, you women wanted to be equal". - A

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Have 50's era men become obsolete? Posted: 7/13/2009 12:28:03 PM
What's with the lack of manly men? I'm talking 50's era in-charge men - clean cut, decent clothing, strong work ethic. I don't want a man who wears pink or purple (though there's nothing wrong with that), takes more time in the bathroom than I do or is effeminate. I'd like Mr. Big from SATC, Clint Eastwood from his younger days - a real man who doesn't feel the need to over-talk, whine or complain about things they can't change. Men who take charge and are secure in themselves are the kind of men I want. .... So, manly men, where the hell are you guys? And women, do you get what I'm saying? - A ** And don't use the womens rights movement as an excuse - because it is just that, an excuse.

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HE BLOWS HIS LOAD IN MY MOUTH WITH NO ORGASM ALERT! Posted: 7/9/2009 10:04:51 PM
Honestly? First of all - if you're giving head and you don't have even the slightest inclination that the guy is going to come, you're not doing your job properly Secondly - what do you expect to happen? It doesn't turn sparkly and shoot off rainbows. - A

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Why Men Prefer Pretty Faces Posted: 7/8/2009 4:03:11 PM
I think the "prettiness" that baby's stare is not necessarily conventional beauty but facial symmetry. It's one of the way that our brain decides how attractive a person is. - A

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Numbers Game (with pics) Posted: 7/8/2009 9:33:54 AM
It's important to keep in mind with pictures especially - most people are wary of themselves in photographs. Personally, I dislike almost all pictures of myself and thus - have only five or six pictures on my profile. Different pictures show different sides - the more the better! - A

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Friendship First Posted: 7/8/2009 9:26:00 AM
I think that friends first is a fantastic idea - but not for six months before anything happens. It's important to establish a certain comfort level with someone before even thinking about seriously "dating" them. But for everyone it varies - it may happen after a few hours, a few days or a few weeks - but being nothing but friendly for a specific time frame might diminish the chance of experiencing what you want in the first place - a relationship, and the sex that comes with it. - A P.S - Screw men, what woman wants to wait six months to get laid?

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Big men, tiny women Posted: 12/12/2008 1:01:52 AM
Well, I suppose that I disprove your findings on small females with larger guys. I typically like to date people that aren't too tall - mainly because then I can wear their clothing. My ex-boyfriend is 6'2 and weighs around 180 and I'm 5'2, weighing in at 115. So - big enough height and weight difference to dispute your findings on big guys and small women? Oh! One more thing to add. My mother is 5'4 and 120 pounds, her husband is 6'1 and 220 pounds. : ) - A

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Women who smoke are far more promiscuous. Posted: 12/8/2008 1:32:36 AM
I'm not quite sure how to respond to this. Survey's have personally never been enough evidence for me, due to the whole selection process and personal bias that gets put into them - but anyways... There is definitely a stigma associated with anyone who smokes but more specifically with females. We're more promiscuous, less family-oriented - I won't delve into the entire schpeel. As a smoker I personally don't agree with the stats but that may just be my bias. I'm just not sure if you can associate specific personality features with people who smoke vs. non-smokers. Can we do personality features specific to Starbucks customers vs. Tim Hortons customers? What about people who enjoy alcohol compared to those who abstain - different personality traits and goals, or is it simply based on personal preference regardless of the habit? Just my 2 cents. - A

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Worst thing you/someone else said after sex?? Posted: 12/3/2008 7:36:34 PM
I just remembered, said to a guy friend after we'd had sex, "It's like the difference between a Smart Car and a Hummer, ya know?"

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Worst thing you/someone else said after sex?? Posted: 12/2/2008 9:00:27 PM
I've gotten the, "Did you cum?" question before. My reply was, "Is that a trick question?" If the guy has to inquire - the answer is normally quite obvious. Also, I will admit to pulling the, "Yeah, I'm going to go smoke." line. But us considerate people brush our teeth afterwards. : ) - A

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Worst thing you/someone else said after sex?? Posted: 11/30/2008 10:19:54 PM
I saw the post about "Least favourite things to hear after sex" and decided to ask for the non-fictional rude/astonishing/weird things people have either had said to them or have said. I'll post mine first even though they're tame, "The sex could've been better... it wasn't great, you know?" "You could lick the paint off a f****ng wall!" - A

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rude emails that spoil your POF experience Posted: 11/28/2008 11:20:50 AM
"i would like to enter .... in and out... in and out" ^ That is a complete copy and paste. Nothing else contained in the message, no picture on the profile to boot. How's that for unpleasant? - A

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need a little bit of help Posted: 11/23/2008 9:10:03 PM
Honestly? The picture is easily passed by. Number one, can't really see your face and number two - sweatpants with a white stripe down the side? What, are we still living in the mid nineties? - A

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Review Profile. Attracting the opposite of what I want.. Posted: 11/23/2008 9:07:32 PM
Slybandit - I'm not offended by your post. Thanks for the honesty - I did think about the alternate meaning of "enter at your own risk" before writing it down so, not completely naive. I just had no other ideas as to what to put. The Halloween costume threw me though, I didn't really think about that. People who view it in that way - it's unfortunate for them. Fortunately enough, I'm not stupid enough to have put a caption under the picture stating "Try anything once, a quarter for a good time." Thanks for the commentary. - A

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arabs, indians, pakistanis and all. Are we disadvantaged ? Posted: 11/23/2008 11:47:39 AM
I'm going to be politically incorrect here - I'm not sure how else to say it. The majority of men that I see who are middle eastern, are with women of the same ethnicity. The same thing applies to their close circle of friends - they're generally the same ethnicity. I work a customer service job and rarely do I ever see a caucasion female in the midst of a middle eastern group - according to some people it's just not to be done. I know that in highschool there was a group that called themselves "browntown" and they wouldn't even consider a caucasian female regardless of personality or appearance. It does depend on religious differences and the way you were raised - I do know that there are many religious services and practices that we white women have no clue whatsoever about - it can be a little discouraging. Sorry for any political incorrectedness sp?. Hope that gave you some insight. - A

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He broke if off because it was to physical??? Posted: 11/23/2008 11:25:20 AM
To the poster who said, "If I girl tries to get me into bed, it's dumpsville" seriously? I don't think sex cheapens the value of a relationship - I think if you're comfortable enough with who you are to have sex early on, it shouldn't be seen as a turnoff. What is it with men not realizing that females are sexual beings as much as they are? There is nothing wrong with sex, it's not shameful or dirty or wrong - the old Catholic mentality has got to go. I personally would say, move on. If a man can't value the fact you're a self-assured woman who's comfortable with herself - find someone who can. - A

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The instant chemistry demand Posted: 11/23/2008 11:14:40 AM
Personally, I think that when you first meet someone and have talked to them for a litlte bit, you can judge whether or not you feel any sort of attraction or pull towards them. It doesn't have to be an instantaneous thing but at the same time - if you met someone and there was absolutely no chemistry when you first met, how likely would you be to pursue another meeting with them? Some people can tell right off the bat, some can't. I think it's personal preference. Those who expect instantaneous chemistry and lust are expecting too much - but you do know, after a first meeting, if you think there is any connection between you and the person you've talked with. Just my humble opinion. - A

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Review Profile. Attracting the opposite of what I want.. Posted: 11/23/2008 10:55:38 AM
Thank 'ya. I feel like it describes me more accurately now. : ) - A

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anyone wanna take a look? Posted: 11/22/2008 11:12:55 PM
I would definitely put the picture of you in the hat as your main profile picture - I love it, it's a great picture. I like the "First Date" section but abhorr the beginning. We need information about you! You look like a fun, easy-going person and while we see your wit, knowing some things about you entices a person to contact you. I'd suggest bringing your personality out by describing yourself in a less than conventional way. It will still be original - just a little more warm and fuzzy than your current profile.

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Review please :) Posted: 11/22/2008 9:31:14 PM
Honestly - if you're getting irritated I'd suggest throwing something like this in, "I'm aware that I like colorful makeup and eccentric clothing, it's part of who I am and it makes me all the more fun - if you're willing to miss out on that because of clothing choices, I suggest you keep fishing." But that's just me, clear and concise. By the by, throw a few of your lines into paragraph format, much easier on the eyes. : ) - A

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Review Profile. Attracting the opposite of what I want.. Posted: 11/22/2008 9:27:06 PM
Seriously, is my profile THAT boring that not even one person feels the need to respond? ... lovely. - A

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Would appreciate some profile feedback Posted: 11/22/2008 9:13:41 PM
Honestly? I'm the kind of person who appreciates your profile. I can see the wit and the humor in it, and find it refreshing. Although, there are some interesting points to be made about your profile. Number one, the spacing at the beginning is absolutey pointless. Don't make us scroll to read! Number two, hopefully you're looking to attract an intelligent woman - if not, some people who read your profile might not understand some of the references (see oedipus complex) and be turned off by the fact you're smarter than they are. Number three, too many (too many?) things in brackets. Cut it down a little bit, not every paragraph has to contain a funny quip about one thing or another. It makes it seem like you're trying to hard. Condensing your profile by cutting out a paragraph might be a good idea but then again, as I said - I enjoyed reading it. You describe yourself well. Hope this was constructive. You can give me feedback on mine if you'd like - I always like to hear criticism from intelligent people. : ) - A

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Request for Review Posted: 11/22/2008 9:07:09 PM
Honestly? I found that even just glancing at your profile I felt overwhelmed with information. From the beginning I got the feeling of, as you were typing it out you were going "Is this okay to put? This is a little vague, I need to let people know I'm like this sometimes." It's not a bad profile by any stretch but letting people know your hobbies and goals is much different from listing off, in detail, the fair majority that you think encompasses you. I like the beginning, I think it's smart but at the same time inconsistancy is not an attractive quality. Put a positive spin on it like, "I'm a fan of pondering, about everything. It's why I'm analytical and always discovering new things about myself, and the people around me." Maybe I'm the pot calling the kettle black with my profile, who knows. Hope it was at least a little helpful. - A

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Review Profile. Attracting the opposite of what I want.. Posted: 11/22/2008 8:59:18 PM
Alright, so. In my profile I've tried to describe the fact that I'm a little quirky, off the beaten path and not looking for anyone who's just into the club scene. I'm fairly competent at writing but never really know how to describe myself in such a way that you get the jist of my personality. In regards to my profile, I've received a bunch of: "hey sexi, hit me back" "wut u up to" "ur pretty" Are you kidding me? I am a well-read person who enjoys real conversation, so I need to know - Do I really sound like the type of female to be interested in males who send me four word messages? Harsh criticism can be handled, I'd prefer it over sugar-coating. - A

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