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Brannddy

Joined: 11/19/2008

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Would you date someone who is separated? Posted: 4/21/2009 7:49:16 AM
Depends on how long and why, but not likely.

Brannddy

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JUST KISSES ON CHEEK Posted: 4/21/2009 7:21:46 AM
I would ask her, maybe it's the culture

Brannddy

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Women: Put a little effort into it? Posted: 4/21/2009 7:13:43 AM
**** OP, If someone puts no effort into it, maybe they are not interested. Or tired If you put lots of effort into them often and they don't pay back, find one who will.

Brannddy

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How long did it take you to stop looking at profiles/message ppl and just go forums? Posted: 4/14/2009 7:41:02 AM
***** I first joined for the Forums, then looked around some. Now I read profiles mostly for fun and post when I feel like it. I do read more than post though. Sometimes I correspond with someone and keep in touch with one original person that I found though my first search.

Brannddy

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Cheating, unhappy & married with kids Posted: 3/30/2009 6:06:33 AM
***** OP, Pass this on to the friend: It is never ok to cheat. No matter what. Right thing to do is to get a divorce. Kids will be hurt a lot more, if this goes on and later blows up. It will be much harder on the child then. If someone needs to cheat, they should not be in that marriage. If they can't be faithful should leave that marriage and stay single, but not break hearts and homes. Ask your friend how would it feel if this was done to the individual? Would they not feel devastated? Staying to together for kids is not a good reason. Counseling sometimes shows points that one would not see otherwise. Mostly can’t hurt. I do think that if someone cheated like this, counseling will not fix that marriage (not likely) but might help to see some points. What is missing in this marriage exactly that one must cheat? If fell in love with someone else, get a divorce and then move forward with honor with next person, although by the time one cheats, there is no shred of honor left.

Brannddy

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He's Homeless Posted: 3/25/2009 8:13:11 AM
***, OP, This is strange, i feel that he should have told you more from the first meet, but it's up to you what you do. Be careful and stay safe. ** Danny, In order to post on forums one must have tough skin, not saying that i do, but anything you post or anything in your profile is up for critique. This is not a support forum, but rather opinions and maybe some info. Don't take things personally, it's just how it is.

Brannddy

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What if you suddenly find yourself very attrative to a married acquainance...? Posted: 3/20/2009 10:46:10 AM
***** OP, It is not ok, he is married. Leave him alone. If you want to ask him and see if he will get a divorce for you and after he does and is available, then do it. Otherwise, find someone who isn't taken.

Brannddy

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Why save texts? Posted: 3/20/2009 6:07:56 AM
*****, OP, Since this is sort of new, i find that to be kind of creepy. If he wanted to keep texts, but never told you (or at least not now, but someday if you stay together forever), that might be romantic, but this early is just creepy and would make me feel that he is going to be a clingy type. Seems like this man would be/is very emotionally needy, it could become exhausting to try to feed that need all the time. Doesn't he need to delete inbox to get new ones in?

Brannddy

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Got a Problem....... Posted: 3/17/2009 7:28:32 AM
*****, BrownEyes, I don't feel it would be ok to keep looking to make friends here and I would also not be upset if I never kept in touch with anyone here. My point was the Forum postings on Relationships Forum. Who would post here? Those who have a date or two? That is not a relationship. I do not feel it would be ok to make new contacts if you have a boyfriend, but I feel it would be ok to post and ask Relationship questions and look for help in general. The notes should be public and posted here. And the other person should be allowed to see and read them. This doesn't have to be directed at your post only, but since I posted after you and some of this does apply to your note. Same goes for the Sex forums, a lot of good and fun stuff. I don't feel it would be ok to flirt with one individual, but posting fun stuff, would be ok.

brannddy

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Got a Problem....... Posted: 3/17/2009 6:26:48 AM
***** OP, I think it is best to sit down and talk about this with your person. Sometimes, even after being together for a long time, the other person might not know how some actions make people feel. She should be able to put into words on how this scheduling makes her feel. For example: ask her this "when i cancelled our dates for work reason, did it make you feel it was for something else?" be straight forward and specific. in a kind way I also agree that after this much time, kids should be involved in things and that will make it so much easier to deal with scheduling. If you aren’t able to mix kids after this much time, when? If this is serious, which for me would be after that amount of time, I would mix children for sure. Question to anyone: If those who are not looking for someone should not be on this site, then why is there a “Relationship Forum” here, who should be on here posting? Those who aren’t in a relationship? Not trying to be smart _ _ _ here, but posters are always told they should not be here if they aren’t looking, but then this forum makes no sense. I don’t get it. Some people can be trusted to read and post and never cross the line.

Brannddy

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do I cheat after almost 20 years? Posted: 3/16/2009 11:24:51 AM
not saying that should never have sex again, just saying, talk to him first and tell him how you feel. he has the right to know, if he says i can't do it with you anymore, and choice is made to go separate ways, fine but cheating is not ok, never, no matter what

Brannddy

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You worry about things too much. Nobody is Normal. Posted: 3/16/2009 8:15:15 AM
***** OP, I did read your entire post, but how do to you type without paragraphs? Reading that makes my eyes water... it is just not normal. Anyway, we all have such different view of normal. I might see it normal that my guy calls me twice a day to say hi, you might see twice a week as good amount. To each it's own. You can't define normal. Also, if someoen tells me I am not normal, I tell them "I am very normal to me".

Brannddy

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do I cheat after almost 20 years? Posted: 3/16/2009 7:04:34 AM
***** Do not cheat no matter what. This could break someone's heart forever. Would you like it done to you? Even if you think you wouldn't care that this is done to you, still don't do it! Be a better person than that. If you want to be somewhere else, work on making changes and then find someone else, but do not cheat.

Brannddy

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Jealousy...healthy or problematic Posted: 3/12/2009 11:51:33 AM
.... maybe some of us interpret lack of jealousy as lack of caring and interest, I know I do that to some degree, if there is absolutely never any jealousy therefore we feel that it is needed to a slight degree for a healthy relationship

Brannddy

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Jealousy...healthy or problematic Posted: 3/12/2009 11:41:29 AM
... some great posts here so let’s say one has absolutely no jealousy whatsoever, not when their SO flirts or talks too long to someone else or anything, absolutely none would that make the person feel that they don’t care if SO is with them or not, or will it make them feel that SO is just so secure that they don’t need to ever show any jealousy? I feel that if someone never shows any jealousy, it will make me feel that they could care less if they are there or not i do not feel that jealousy is insecurity if it is to the light degree and isn’t controlling if my guy never even asked me who I was talking to or how I knew someone or who called, I would feel that it makes no difference to him on the other hand, if my guy would ask me who I am saying hello to with every person at all times and would check up on things and have issues every day, I would not be ok with that

Brannddy

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can trust ever be fully restored after an act of betrayal ? Posted: 3/11/2009 8:06:51 AM
***** some people say that it can be done, but i am not able to do it once gone it is gone for me depends on what type maybe...

Brannddy

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the big move? Posted: 3/11/2009 7:18:00 AM
****** Thanks for personal note on my degree and mindset. The only point I wanted to make was that kids get babied too much in this society, but this might have been not the right post to throw it in. My opologies.

Brannddy

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the big move? Posted: 3/11/2009 7:07:35 AM
***** I do agree that moving for a boyfriend is not a good reason, and I do not think that 6 months is long enough to make that choice. The only point i wanted to say is that school move is not a reason not to move. My parents move around and I adopted as needed, if you try to protect kids too much, they do not know how to live a strong life when they are on their own.

Brannddy

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the big move? Posted: 3/11/2009 6:47:40 AM
****, OP, I feel that moving a child to a new school is not a big deal at all. Kids need to toughen up and be ready for real life. I do not feel that you should place any needs of boyfriend about kids, but simple move to new school is no big deal, that could be done due to having to sell house or job or others. Kids need to learn to adopt and make it not be babied. So, i would not say do things for the guy but if someone has to be moved for needed reason, kids school would not play a part in my choice. This does not mean that I would not put my child above anything else in my life, but I feel that if this has to be done, it will not be harmful but help kids become survivors. I am sure this is not a popular view, but just wanted to voice it.

Brannddy

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Does anyone ever actually read profiles?? Posted: 3/6/2009 12:10:58 PM
.. Yes, read them all the time. Enjoy it too

Brannddy

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Who shoud initiate kissing/sex? The man or woman? Posted: 3/5/2009 11:57:46 AM
i have done most of the first kisses (not sure why, sort of happened that way), after that i sort of sit back and want my guy to initiate things first oh, and i do like that i do the first move at first (i guess it makes it that it is on my timing then)

Brannddy

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How far away is too far away to have a relationship? Posted: 3/5/2009 6:57:48 AM
**** OP, I think 30 min is not too far, unless you are just looking for a date with no intent to be serious. At your age I can possibly understand, but not when you are older and want to be serious. Some of us drive to work 2 hours a day, everyday. So it depends if you want to just fill your time with some company or really date. I would not drive anywhere just to fill time, but would go pretty far to be with someone that is worth it.

Brannddy

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After the I love you Posted: 3/4/2009 10:29:07 AM
**** OP, If i tell the person i am dating that i love them, that will absolutely mean that he is the only one i am with and that i am thinking of him as the long term and no one else. Also, if he told me that he loves me, he better not be even thinking of going out with someone else. Now, how soon could that happen, for me it would have to be awhile, i do not throw around "I love you"s. Yes, you should be able to bring it up and ask. If someone tells you "I love you" it would very much ok to ask, "Is this just us"?

Brannddy

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One person clothed, another naked? Posted: 3/3/2009 12:18:08 PM
threads like this make is difficult to wait until after dinner to do it in the parking lot

Brannddy

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Acceptable to hate instantly, but unacceptable to love instantly. Why? Posted: 3/3/2009 6:11:07 AM
***** i feel that one reason this is so might be because sometimes it only takes one bad apple to spoil it, so it is easy to do the hate since after one thing it is done just like you could 100 good things and one bad, people will remember the one bad not the 100 good this is true in personal and work environment. You can be great mostly, but that one time will be noted that you weren't

Brannddy

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When did asking your bra size become socially acceptable? Posted: 3/3/2009 5:23:43 AM
***** OP, Never, it is not socially acceptable to ask that question. Those who feel it is are socially acceptable men/women. I will use the Credit Card number reply next time someone asks me though. (love the reply) One i have used before to reply (much bigger than your package I am sure)

Brannddy

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how soon should you have sex Posted: 3/2/2009 11:21:04 AM
***** a few months is very reasonable, most likely it is not that many dates in a few month, i would not go jumping into that until i thought i like the person a lot, it is hard to get to know someone in less than that

brannddy

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Silent Sex Posted: 2/26/2009 8:12:32 AM
yes, we don't care if you fake it, as long s it is believable. so yes, please make some sort of noise, nothing at all would bug me

Brannddy

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do bigger women orgasm more than skinny women Posted: 2/25/2009 12:11:56 PM
yep, just you not true for skinny women at all

Brannddy

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1st date, to Kiss or Not to Kiss, Thats the Question Posted: 2/25/2009 8:50:03 AM
**** OP, I don't like to be kissed on the first date. Like to take it slow. A hug is ok. But it needs to feel mutual.

Brannddy

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How do you weed out? Posted: 2/23/2009 12:29:00 PM
***** OP, I try to be polite and say, thank you for the note, but I feel that it would not be fair for me to waste your time if I don't feel that we would be compatible. Most of the time, however, I have to keep explaining why, what's wrong with them or why I feel that way. So, sometimes, if I don't feel we would have a chance, I just cut off and let things die off.

brannddy

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Lovely but uneducated Posted: 2/23/2009 10:58:35 AM
Education level certainly does not equal intelligence level in anyway, but sometimes can be a good guide in selection/elimination process. (on-line, not in person). Having great conversation and being with someone for the rest of your life are not the same. One might have no problem having great conversations with someone who never finished high school, but would never be able to make life together. Ofcourse, there are many that find this ok, but some can't.

Brannddy

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Is it normal to be sexually excited the majority of the day? Posted: 2/23/2009 8:49:24 AM
i think about it a few times a day (during the day) and somedays more, i think it is healthy (although sometimes it stinks that that's all that is done - thinking)

Brannddy

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Are women afraid of Attractive guys? Posted: 2/23/2009 8:35:38 AM
***** OP, No, not at all. But most of them end up being only that good looking and not much beyond that. I think this works opposite for some men.

Brannddy

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Lovely but uneducated Posted: 2/23/2009 7:38:28 AM
*****, OP, I find it difficult to date someone who is not close to an equal on an intellectual level. Often (not always) that might equate to education level. There is nothing wrong with having some sort of your own requirements that you have for those you date, just don't judge others that have other statndards and set of rules. And no, onewill not find highly intellectual posts under my log on on this forum ( I save that for work or other forums) and enjoy light spirited nature here.

Brannddy

Joined: 11/19/2008

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What professions are a turn off? Posted: 2/23/2009 7:24:28 AM
i wanted to say the same as someone in the earlier post, there are actually people with jobs on here?!? JK, sort of I find lawyers to be annoying sometimes, but have dated one that ws great. Doctors - never have enough time to spend with you, so i don't often go for them, unless they have their own private practice. Otherwise, as long as close to the level am on, it's all good.

Brannddy

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guy does all the talking Posted: 2/23/2009 6:37:36 AM
*****, OP, Normally I would say that if a girl is not asking questions she is not interested in you and only being polite to reply to what you ask. At that young age though, early 20s, it might be possible that she is just not that great at converstation. One week is such a short time to tell though.

Brannddy

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Hot = Bad in Bed? Posted: 2/20/2009 6:25:20 AM
**** OP, It might be true for some, but those who are fit and feel good about their body don't mind being fun and playful in bed, so I would say that it is not always true, but might be the opposite. Now, I haven't been in bed with any hot girls or any girls ever, but that also applies to guys.

Brannddy

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Age difference too much? Posted: 2/20/2009 6:18:57 AM
***** OP, I think this age difference is too much. I am sure there are some that worked, but in my opinion it will not be lasting. I could be wrong. Maybe if you were 40 and she is older. No harm in trying though, but honestly i would have no faith of long term lasting

Brannddy

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FAtal Flaws and The Doomsday Delete Posted: 2/19/2009 10:32:17 AM
i forgot to mention this: -- "what's up" and "hey" or other high or middle school lines will likely not get responses from me

brannddy

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kissing after oral sex Posted: 2/19/2009 8:57:49 AM
***** how does anything sweet go the the protein source? Apples and oranges and such have no protein, most protein isn't sweet, not naturally. I don't think protein can be made out of those items

Brannddy

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FAtal Flaws and The Doomsday Delete Posted: 2/19/2009 8:36:18 AM
*****, I don't often block, but have to those who after 4-5 times of being asked not to correspond continue to do so and make mean comments and insist that they deserve a chance. Delete/don't respond to those: -- who after a few weeks forget they contacted me and try over with the same stuff -- who say they are perfect for me (not knowing much about me) -- those that talk too much (TMI is a huge turn off) -- those who try to tell me how i should be and how i should change some things -- those who avoid answering questions after I ask several times -- unrealistic, excessive positive attitudes that make no sense and are annoying ---if they get angry, at this early stage there is no need for that, even if something is said that isn't nice, there are better ways of handling that that's about it.

Brannddy

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More or less intelligent? Posted: 2/19/2009 8:07:41 AM
***** I agree with Cowboy's response, it needs to be someone who can keep up with me, so likely they would need be more intelligent, otherwise it would annoy me if they are falling behind.

Brannddy

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submissive guy in the bedroom. Posted: 2/19/2009 7:01:37 AM
*****, OP, Are you joking, what woman would not want to be selfish in the bedroom, i will take that guy anyday, especially if he is a strong man in life but allows me to be the dominant one in the bedroom, i would say where is this guy? Give him my number. The only problem he would get tired of me being selfish all the time, so it would only be fair to take turns, but to answer your questions, no would not mind, would love it.

brannddy

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Woman and the cum? Posted: 2/17/2009 12:42:16 PM
I think mostly it is hot and i like it, but just not on my face. Hair ok though. The rest of the body too. If you don't what why even bother making it happen. Do you collect it in a cup then to keep if off the body?

brannddy

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He can't get hard long enough Posted: 2/17/2009 11:07:16 AM
***** OP, it is likely that this is something he will need doctor's help with if this has happens a few times in different conditions. at that age it should work ok and stay (unless drugs or meds or somethign like that). I don't think it is performance anxiety, if so, he wouldn't be able to even get there a little. best to see a doctor, it might be hard for him to do though.

Brannddy

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How many days should I wait? Posted: 2/13/2009 7:16:42 AM
I would have trouble calling the guy, i would want him to call me some guys do take awhile though and that does not mean that they are not into you, just can be other things or he doesn;t want to appear to pushy also depends on the age

Brannddy

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Valentine's day moral dilemma Posted: 2/11/2009 12:13:50 PM
V day is not a good day to use for a new date. I also would be very much against spending that day with a married woman, why can't she just watch a movie or something, maybe if she had no place to be for Xmas - invite her for dinner with family, but a lovers day to be with someone else's wife, would not be ok here, sorry to sound harsh

Brannddy

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 2/11/2009 11:04:53 AM
I would not be willing to meet someone without a picture.

Brannddy

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Interesting fact about orgasms Posted: 2/11/2009 10:18:55 AM
**** OP, I have never noticed the cold, but rather dry, and always need to drink lots of water for a bit after. Next time I will check and pay attention to the cold part and see...interesting great...now that's all i am going to think of ....:-)

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