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My son is on drugs....... Posted: 6/6/2008 3:50:33 AM
I just wanted to respond to one comment on here which described marijuana as a "gateway drug". This was a very specious conclusion drawn from studies which asked heavy drug addicts what drug they had started using before moving on to the heavier drugs. In almost all cases the answer was marijuana. The conclusion? Pot use causes heavier drug use. Seems to make sense at first right? Unfortunately they didn't bother to ask the long time pot smokers out there what drugs they had moved on to. If they had very few would have said herion, crack, meth etc. Being a pot smoker I have known literally hundreds of other pot smokers, and less than 1% of them have become addicts of harder things like heroin, crack, or meth. The afforementioned studies which came to the "gateway" conlcusion were biased, partisan (with a particular agenda) and completely specious in nature.

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My son is on drugs....... Posted: 5/30/2008 8:54:28 AM
This subject and this thread brings up strong feelings and strong viewpoints from many different sides, I thought I'd offer mine and I hope it helps. As a teenager I rarely used any drugs, but I changed a lot and my mother and I fought like cats and dogs. We went from being very close and loving and open, to not seeing eye to eye on just about everything. Looking back I think it was just a matter of growing up. At that stage of life you're trying to find yourself, trying to discover. My mother tried the tough love thing but it didn't help at all, it only made things worse. She kicked me out 3 times, at 16 at 18 and finally at 20. This didn't help, and she regrets it to this day. What did help our relationship was time, time to grow and become my own person. We now have that closeness back in spades and our relationship has never been better, I tell her everything and she doesn't judge me, she just listens and be's my friend. Please don't kick your son out the door, it hurt me so much and made me feel that my mother didn't love me enough to stand by me. On top of that it's illegal, by law you are obligated to house him until he's of legal age. The bigger issue is what he's using. As several people have stated there is a huge difference between "soft drugs" and "hard drugs". I am an admitted pot smoker and have tried a few other things, but I was well aware of the consequences of using things like heroin, crack, meth etc. And I'm not referring to jail time, I'm talking about the health consequences. Inform your son about the differences so he knows, knowledge is power, power to make the right choices in life. If he understands what heroin can do to someone then he most likely will avoid it. Some people like to party and have fun getting drunk and stoned, as long as it doesn't get too serious, then, in my opinion, it's not the end of the world, it's just a part of him growing up. If he's partying it's because it's something he enjoys doing and he'll find a way no matter what. Being a teenager is extremely tough, both for the teen and for the parents. As a teen, half of you is still the child you were and the other half is the adult you're becomming. It's a terrible feeling being torn in both directions, but it's a part of life. The best thing you can do is be there for him, educate him, and accept him without judgement. The more you push the more he'll just push back and you'll end up driving a wedge between you that may take years to undo. Be assertive, but not aggressive. If it turns out that he's into the dangerous drugs then inform him of his options for counselling and rehab. Help him to find the resouces he needs and help him along the way, stand by him but don't force; Newton's Laws apply here: for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. It's a terribly fine and tricky balance and I dread the day when I will be on the parent end of things, but hopefully I'll still remember what it was like for me on the teenager end. If your son is anything like me or most people who go through this kind of behaviour, then I am confident that things will get better, though it may take more time than you'd like. He may not be your little boy anymore, but he will always be your son and he will always love you.

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Genuine NON-Cheatin Man Posted: 5/17/2008 11:04:04 AM
Mr. Internet hit the nail right on the head on this one. Players are smooth. They know all the right things to say. The more they play the game and "win" (get laid) the better they get at it and the more confident they become that they can get any girl they want (cuz they do!) and there's the catch 22 in my opinion. Most profiles I read on here are looking for a guy with confidence, and well success breeds confidence right? The more confident a guy is in himself, the better the odds that he's a player. The guys who don't play don't get that many girls and are a little shy and a little unsure of themselves at first; which unfortunately turns a lot of girls off. But there's that catch 22 again: the guys who don't have that much confidence (and therefore turn a lot of girls off) are the ones that are loyal to the bone and will never cheat on you. Next time give the shy guy a chance, you may have a much better chance of finding what you're looking for that way.

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Tiger attack victim was drinking, admitted taunting Posted: 1/18/2008 2:40:20 PM
I am SO fed up with hearing stories like this. This is not an isolated case, it happened in BC less than a year ago; a woman got into a tiger cage without any kind of backup or protection and she was mauled to death. They killed the tiger, and THAT'S what I find most upsetting. These animals are of the most beautiful and impressive creatures on the planet and we have damn near wiped them out. In asia they are still hunted and killed for their penises of all things, even though there are less than 6,000 of them left in the world. There is no logical reason to have them in captivity when they are on the verge of extiction. The living conditions for animals in zoos is akin to living in a pow or concentration camp. And this for an animal which, as far as nature is concerned, is above us on the food chain. And each time we have an incident like this we kill the animal. It's not fair to the individual tiger or the species as a whole. I'm fed up with it. I don't like hearing about people getting killed, but at least we're not endangered. We're not being trapped and caged, and killed when we try to escape or kill our captors. It disgusts me that we seem to think that our species is SO superior to the rest of the animal kingdom that we can do as we please for our own perverse pleasure. If we continue with this kind of mentality this incredible species will soon be gone. I feel much more sympathy for the tigers in these cases than I do for the people who get killed by them. We are in the wrong, not them, and when they kill us we're getting what we deserve. We need to do the right and moral thing and release all these animals back into their homes and protect them instead of treating them like knick knacks or novelty items to be collected. I'm on the side of the tigers in these cases.

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Bigger threat? Terrorists or Corporations? Posted: 1/16/2008 9:12:27 PM
This is a no brainer. Corporations. I encourage everyone who hasn't seen them to see the documentaries The Corporation and Zeitgeist. I have seen many documentaries on this subject, but these two give you pretty much all the info you need. Some tidbits of paraphrased info: corporations have existed for over a hundred years, but before the 20th century they were strictly regulated. They operated in similar fashion as today in that they provided goods and sevices people "need", but the amount of profit they were allowed to generate was capped!! They were not allowed to own anything, so their growth and influence was practical and limited. Early in the 20th century corporate lawyers pushed hard to change the laws governing corporations. They were given the rights of an individual to own things (like other corporations) and their profit caps disappeared. But since corporations are NOT people, there is no accountability, you can't jail a corporation. The most astonishing law passed REQUIRED that corporations put profits above "all other interests, INCLUDING THAT OF THE PUBLIC GOOD"!!!! on the pretense of protecting investors. In other words: if it's cheaper to poison a playground and pay the ensuing fine, than to spend more to clean up properly, then by law the corporation must poison the playground!!! This way corporations can say "hey, our hands are tied". If you're asking "how dangerous can corporations be?", well back in the 20's or 30's (can't remember exactly) corporations funded an ex army general to amass an army of 400,000 WWI vets with the goal to march on Washington and overthrow the US governemnt. Of this never took place, the operation was called off at the last minute. As far as central banks are concerned, they have been resposible for endless amounts of suffering such as causing the depressions of the early 20th century. One of the most notorious acts was lending out money to people with a 24 hour payback clause. Tons of cash was lent out, then all at once all the markers were called in. Thousands of small businesses and independant banks, (remember Baily's Savings and Loans in It's A Wonderful Life?), were forced to foreclose and were bought out by the central banks like Chase Manhatten, further consolidating their power and influence. Anyway I could go on and on for pages here, but the bottom line is that corporations have not changed their agenda in almost a hundred years: they want to own and control everything, including us. Thanks to an idiot in customs who decided that a bacteria looked like soap and not like a life form, corporations can now patent our genomes and our DNA. Oh here I go again! lol I'll end it here. Check out The Corporation and Zeitgeist. "The price of true freedom is eternal vigilance" Look around, learn, use the brain God gave you and you'll see the truth. Nuff said....

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Dating more than one person at the same time? Posted: 1/1/2008 2:55:24 PM
Some good, sound, cynical advice! Thank you! LOL

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Dating more than one person at the same time? Posted: 12/31/2007 2:11:47 AM
[/quoteJust supposing you had indeed met her already, but decided you did not like her, so did not meet again. Wouldn't you then look for another woman to meet....wouldn't this be "multiple dating"] To me multiple dating is going out with "Jane" on friday night and then "Jill" on saturday, and then 6 days later repeating the process. [/quoteHow can you be two-timed when you don't have a relationship? When does the "relationship" start with you guys who are so intent on instant exclusivity? The second date?] My girl and I had been exclusive for several months when she decided to start seeing other guys on the side.

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Dating more than one person at the same time? Posted: 11/27/2007 9:54:27 AM
Personally I can't do it. Maybe I'm just an old fashoined gentleman that way, but it seems dishonest and kind of a conflict of interests, like working for Microsoft and Apple at the same time. I prefer to give my undivided attention to one girl at a time. If it isn't happening I move on. I've been two-timed before and it didn't feel so good, I wouldn't want a nice girl to feel like a second bananna the way I did. But I must say I'm pretty picky, I won't date just anyone on the block, and if I like a girl enough to date her, then I like her enough to stay loyal, even if it's only for a short time. And there's my two cents!

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For All You Nice Guys Out There Posted: 2/9/2006 3:05:50 PM
Leo, Prohet , and Viking....You all lay things out pretty clearly. Yes Leo there is a viscious cycle that goes on, I've been at both ends as have you, and no it's really not fair and it does stink. And Prophet you describe in good detail the reality of the way things work. Like Viking, I don't think they work as they should, but Prophets analysis is apt. Part of the "nice" person credo seems to be to put the needs of the one you love ahead of your own. And sacrifice IS noble and gallant, but it all too often backfires, causing bitterness and resentment. Viking you're correct in saying that the "system" is flawed and that things need to change, that men and women should be on an even playing field. But the reality, at this time, is as Prophet describes. We may not like it but........ As for the possible implication that my "faith" may be contradictory, I must take issue. My values are clearly defined and my moral compass firmly fixed. Each of us knows in our hearts what is right and what is wrong. You don't need a book to tell you, you feel it. When I did wrong I could feel it, it costs energy. Doing good costs nothing and comes back to you with interest. When you've got yourself in balance it's easy to see the difference. Part of my "faith" is accepting the world for what it is, negative and positive, yin and yang. I've spent my time in the dark, now I walk the light. But there will always be both in this world until we've learned all there is to learn from it. For now I do what I can to make a difference, and I keep my eye out for the opportunities the universe throws my way, to step in and do something "good", like stop the mugging of a disabled person (which I've done), or helped a blind man out of the middle of a busy street during rush hour (which I've done), or anything else that needs doing. It's called being in synq with the universe. So anyways, the meek shall inherit the Earth!.......just maybe not in our lifetimes!

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life Posted: 2/9/2006 1:13:53 PM
Tyler! I'm so glad you've written back. I just want to start off by saying that I interpret things in a completely different way than Melissa75. I see no evidence at all of another man in the picture. She's afraid to hurt you again because she knows that the trauma that she's gone through has also taken it's toll on you and she feels resposible for that on top of everything else that's happened. She's going out a lot with her friends because her friends love her and must know what's happened, they're trying to be there for her and help her through this. I know this has been an ordeal for you and you're feeling awfully drained right now emotionally, and physically, it's very tiring, and it natural to start feeling a little bitter at this stage, but you've got to understand that it's going to take time. If you love her as much as you think, you've got to have limitless patience. It's the greatest gift you can give her right now. And PLEASE remember that, sht that went down, or was said, when things were going to hll, don't count. When emotions are running amok we say all kinds of irrational things, it's just not fair to go back later and use the past against them. As I've said before, I've been through a similar experience, and many of the behaviours you described were all too familiar to me, so I'd like to say I know what I'm talking about. I'm SO glad you had that coffee with her! It's sounds to me like it went VERY well. I really think she wants to fix things with you as much as you do, it's just that she's in the very early stages of the healing process right now. Heck her chemistry may not even be back to normal yet. And even when she's physically balanced again, it's going to be a process. I think this experience HAS changed her life, and she probably HAS started down a somewhat new path, but it's looks to me like she wants you to come with her. She loves you guy, and you love her, just give it some time, and I mean weeks and months, not hours and days. Girls can't just "get over" things over night. So enjoy the times when it's good, and roll with the punches when it's crazy, but hang in there Tyler, do it for love man!

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For All You Nice Guys Out There Posted: 2/8/2006 10:32:31 PM
Once again some interesting feedback Leo, thanks for that. Just to clear it up, no I'm not a born again Christian, though I have nothing but respect for that religion or any other that teaches love and compasion. No, what I consider myself to be is a westernized Buddhist. In fact it was learning about that philosophy that ultimately brought about my "reform". Learning about the concept of a universal conscienceness and connectiveness, made me look at things a whole new way. But in the same vein, I believe that true wisdom requires experience, and not just one sided experience either. To recognize true good, one must first know evil. On the subject of faith, I would gues you are a Wiccan? As far as repressing and denying my dark side? Well for the most part I guess that's violence in movies and video games are for, giving my darker nature some exercise, so to speak. And as far as living vicariously through other people? Well it takes all kinds to make the world go 'round as they say, and though there are some things I just can't abide by (acts of violence for example), there are some smaller things that bring me back in time, and I just smile and chuckle and say, "tsk tsk". I can still learn by association, and at the same time I try to teach by leading by example. I'm friends with evil, but walk the path of good, if that makes any sense. Maybe it's a unique place to be, but then again maybe you know exactly what I'm talking about. And yeah, this does seem a little off topic! lol Sorry imagoodgirl4 !!

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I am devasted!!! My girlfriend had an abortion we decided on and broke up with me!! Posted: 2/8/2006 6:18:03 PM
I think you may be right AmberZamber. Sorry Tyler, this thread has failed you. You came here looking for sympathy and understanding and recieved little more than scorn. I'm ashamed of my fellow human beings who are unable to think outside the box, unable to to even try to understand things from your perspective. It's a real shame too, a few of us were concerned enough to write in and try to help, myself included. But now that you've been drummed out of your own thread, we'll never know how things turn out. Perhaps you could post an update just to let us know you're alright, I'm hoping to hear that the situation has improved, I and my fellow supporters are pulling for you guy. Best wishes Tyler.................

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For All You Nice Guys Out There Posted: 2/8/2006 5:31:00 PM
You make some good points Leo, maybe I've fallen into the same trap and am prejudging "nice girls". Maybe the problem is the way we interpret the word when we see the word "nice" in someone's profile. Maybe to some it means "Christ-like", and to others it means "someone who won't beat me, or cheat on me". For me it means that I no longer do everything the devil inside tells me too. I wouldn't say I've "lost my darkside", I know exactly where it is. I have no problem exploring the darkness, as we've both said: the darkside is fun! But since my "reform" there are things I'm just not comfortable doing anymore. For example: I used to lie pretty readily, and I used to be a thief. I just can't do those things anymore. But those things are part of a darkside that I kind of miss. Kind of like a retired athlete who still likes going to the games, you know? And if the "bad" fun is petty enough, I can sometimes be coaxed out of retirement by the right "bad" influence. Does this make me a "darkness leech"? Perhaps from a certain perspective. But from another perspective, it makes me a more well rounded individual able to see things from more than one viewpoint. I'm able to understand "good" AND "evil" because I've walked both paths. How could I look down my nose and condemn a "sinner" when I've "sinned" myself? You describe yourself as a "good" girl who came to terms with her darkside to achieve a better spiritual balance. I came at it from the other direction, I had to let the "nice" out to achieve my spiritual balance. Does this make me lame? Well lame is in the eye of the beholder I guess. I still party pretty hard, and I certainly don't quote scripture! I've just become someone that can be counted on and trusted not to f*ck you over. I've become a "nice" guy!

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For All You Nice Guys Out There Posted: 2/8/2006 2:59:57 PM
Hi imagoodgirl4! Interesting post. A lot of negative vibes flowing back and forth, I must say! Thanks for coming out here and trying to give words of encouragement to some of the nice guys out here who get discouraged in a medium like internet dating, I'm sure it's made many nice guys feel validated. I'm not really on here to ask or offer any particular advice, although I like the whole "be true to yourself" motto, it seems to be the way life should work in general. But I thought I'd offer my own situation as an alternative train of thought. You see I used to be a "bad boy", but now I'm a "nice guy". The "problem" is that I still like "bad" girls, or at least ex "bad" girls. If I had to guess why, I might say that although I changed the path I walk on, and I know I made the right choice and I have no regrets (my life has only been better since I changed my "evil" ways), I'm still attracted to the "dark" side of life. It's exciting in a way, just not for me anymore. So if she's "bad", it kind of turns me on, living vicariously through her, and if she's ex "bad", then at least we care share our dirty laundry together! lol I guess the point I'm trying to make is that just because a "nice" guy is a "nice" guy, doesn't mean he always was, and it doesn't mean he doesn't appreciate a "bad" girl. And just so the world knows, just because a guy is "nice", doesn't nescessarily mean he's boring. I think that may be what many women interpret "nice" to mean: uninteresting, uninspiring, sleep inducing. Well just so you know that some "nice" guys may be boring, but not all. So thanks again for the thread, I'm sure many "nice" guys out there will find it most encouraging!

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I am devasted!!! My girlfriend had an abortion we decided on and broke up with me!! Posted: 2/5/2006 9:28:52 PM
Would all the people who insist on trying to turn this into a pro life/pro choice debate PLEASE leave this man alone! YOU ARE NOT HELPING. I'm sure there are plenty of other threads that you can argue your point on. Tyler has asked for help, not criticism. What's done is done, now he's just trying to figure out what to do next, how to make things better than they are now. Please keep your advice to advice. Stop shtting on this poor bastrd, he's been through hell already. If you don't want to help him, then just back off! Hang in there Tyler, there are people out here who sympathize and want to help. And to the seemingly few who are trying to help, keep up the good work! Best of luck Tyler.

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I am devasted!!! My girlfriend had an abortion we decided on and broke up with me!! Posted: 2/4/2006 9:47:11 PM
I very much agree with the few of us in this thread who understand that this isn't about playing the blame game. It's not about who said what, or did what, and when. And it's not about the moral implications of abortion. This is pure psychology. Some crazy sh*t went down and she could'nt handle it, she fell apart. I had a similar experience about 10 years ago. I was in love with the girl of my dreams, everything was amazing, and suddenly it all went to hell. In my girls case it was getting back repressed memories of being abused as a very small child. She went through similar things that your girls going through Tyler. I did all I could but love wasn't enough. But I was also only 22 and not experienced or wise enough to know how to deal with that kind of situation. But you're 33 now, you might have a chance to see this work out for the best. I wouldn't ask you to bank on you guys getting back together, but if you're mature enough now, and if you can learn to communicate effectively with her, you can help her through this. You're in this together, it was your child too, you're the only other person who can understand that particular loss. Share her pain with her. She's gonna need time, things may never be the same again, you may not get back together anytime soon, and it may never happen. But if you stay by her and deal with all the craziness and emotional whirlwinds that are likely to come for months, and maybe years, things will get better. She'll see that you've stood by her through everything, and when she's done some healing she may want to start loving you again. Just keep communicating, and if you're not good at it, learn. It's one of the most important things you can learn. It helps avoid nasty fights like the one you guys had after everything had happened. But don't beat yourself up over that night, or other stuff that's happened since. It's been an emotional rollercoaster for both you guys, no reasonable person expects you, or her, to capable of fully rational descisions in that kind of situation. All you can do is try your best, and try to learn what you can. Do some research as was suggested. It helped me to understand what had happened to my girl. It wasn't much, but it was something. Good luck Tyler, I feel for ya.

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LOVING US FOR US? awww Posted: 1/14/2006 4:08:02 PM
I've read this post and, being a Cancer, just had to reply. When you're talking about being "in love", you're talking about the ultimate evolution of feelings for someone. At this point you've gone far beyond the point of knowing whether or not you can "deal" with a person's "flaws". And personally, if I'm in love with someone, it's because I love everything about her, including the things I might think, or society might think, are "wrong" about her. So why would I want the girl I'm in love with to be anything different than exactly what she is? There is a girl that I'm sweet on now, and there are some issues that we will always have serious disagreements on, and there are things that she does that I just won't do, but there are so many more things that I really love about her. All of these things put together, make up the girl that I'm sweet on. I like her just the way she is, good and "bad". If she changed, she would'nt be who she is and maybe I would'nt even like her the same way, she'd be somebody else. So I would'nt change a thing about her, I like her just the way she is. And that's how you know the difference between lust and something more real.

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matches not being matches Posted: 1/11/2006 8:56:40 PM
I've got to agree with you on that one. Many of these matches are'nt matches at all. Smoking habits, drinking habits, and drug use don't seem to have a place in the matches' programming. And I wish they were because these are some of the first things I look for when I'm checking out a profile! Whatever the software that decides these matches, it should be much more specific, and cater more carefully to the users preferrences. Has anyone suggested these things to the kind folks who so generously offer this free service?

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Why do people keep voting the Liberals back in Posted: 1/11/2006 8:47:44 PM
I'd like to respond to the original question with a one term answer: "strategic voting". Strategic voting is when you vote for the guy you don't like to avoid the guy you really don't like. It turns NDPers and Greenies into Liberals. And it only makes sense since it was the Liberals who came up with the whole strategic voting scare in the first place. The average Canandian voter is too susceptible to fear and scare tactics. Voting is supposed to be our chance to have our say, yet time and again we make the same mistakes, like crawling back to an abusive relationship. The ultimate solution, of course, is proportional representation; our antiquated "first to the post" system has got everybody pissed off. But until the old boys club gets there sh*t together I say: vote your with conscience, not your fears, bring on minority government after minority government, I'll vote every six months, I don't care, whatever it takes to fix the system. END STRATEGIC VOTING NOW, PLEASE!! IT"S MAKING ME SICK!!

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Favourite NHL Team Posted: 1/11/2006 8:31:53 PM
Back when Raymond Bourque played for Boston, the Bruins were my team all the way. But I've been rooting for the Senators since the moment I heard we MIGHT be getting a franchise. GO SENS GO!!! This is the year! Going all the way baby! Now that we've got Hasek we can't possibly lose!

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Newcomer Starting To Get Dicouraged Posted: 12/13/2005 11:07:26 PM
Hmmm, that's interesting. Maybe someone/I should email the people in charge about some of the bugs in the system. Thanks

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Newcomer Starting To Get Dicouraged Posted: 12/3/2005 5:26:55 PM
Thanks RedDi! I appreciate the feedback. It's nice to know I'm not the only one. Thanks for the encouragement!

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Okay Need Advice Here Posted: 12/2/2005 11:12:57 PM
Cante skuya my advice to you is to never trust this man that much ever again. You were second best to him and that's why he left you. Now that his first is gone he wants you back. He blew it plain and simple. At this point he does'nt deserve anymore than than the friendship you're already so gererously giving him. He should be grateful. Stay proud and hold out for the one that'll see you as his numer 1!

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Newcomer Starting To Get Dicouraged Posted: 12/2/2005 8:06:54 PM
I've been on this site for less than two weeks now and it started off great. I'd never done this kind of thing before, and the fact that it's free here made me excited to check it out. Ultimately I'd like to meet someone here I can fall in love with, but knowing the odds are'nt great I'm here mostly to meet and talk to people and hopefully make some friends. At first it was going well, I was IMing people and having nice chats, it was great! But the longer I've been on the fewer people I meet that want to chat, and some of the people that I was chatting with don't chat back anymore. I'm pretty good at making friends in the real world, I'm open and friendly and I'll talk to anyone, but it's different here for some reason. People who's headline and profile say "Go ahead and IM me!", "Looking for people to chat with", and other such friendly invitations, don't even acknowledge a "Hello" most of the time. Is there such a thing as too nice? too friendly? I did'nt think so but now I'm starting to wonder. And if there is, what can a nice friendly person do about being nice and friendly? Are there people out there with similar experiences, feelings on the subject, or advice?

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