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T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

Msg: 37 (view)

Should you lie....? Posted: 8/3/2009 9:18:24 PM
" It hurt because it is a very painful and sensitive issue for me. And no he is not a horrible person for being honest. I personally would have just said, "I don't think we are right for each other", "freaked out" just seemed to be a little harsh. I see the merit, however, of waiting until you know each other more deeply and I was wrong not to say "I would rather not talk about it." Live and learn. Thanks for the input." ................Actually I am proud of you for telling the honest truth! You are no ashamed of who you were. I understand about the painful and sensitive issues - it hurts. Until it does not hurt anymore - that is when you know you are mutured and fully healed.

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

Msg: 35 (view)

2 strikes and you're out? Posted: 8/3/2009 5:24:48 PM
Wow! He really was trying hard to meet you! I am sorry - if a man does not try hard to be with you at the beginning - he never will.

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Why is it and how many have truly? Posted: 8/1/2009 7:02:03 PM
diane, "While grief is fresh, every attempt to divert only irritates. You must wait till it be digested, and then amusement will dissipate the remains of it." Samuel Johnson

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Why is it and how many have truly? Posted: 7/30/2009 8:29:00 PM
Some of us are strong Some of us are weak we. are who we are. Diane, Each has his/her own path....we are human in progress. I would rather be this way than being, cold, uncaring and insensitive - I am not saying that I have not tried to be strong and wholesome - but being judgemental is not a charactor of the strong. Kindness may be not understood by some - but kindness does not been being a doormat either. Yes - I have loved some who were utterly wrong for me. I think it is OK to still love someone - but choose not to be with that person. Don't hate the teacher - hate the lessons. xoxoox

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Why is it and how many have truly? Posted: 7/30/2009 6:03:04 PM
Cry and cry and cry................ At least your heart is not barren. You have a chance to love with passion and cry with passion. Don't try to fight the feelings - send him love every time to think of him. There is - still - Heaven where you both can love freely and fully. xoxooxox TT

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

Msg: 33 (view)

Possibly to ever get over someone you truly loved? Posted: 7/20/2009 5:24:40 PM
Probably not! I watch my kids play when they were little - they picked up where they had left off with certain friends who were special to them - even now! I believe that true love can become dormant - but not gone. The thing is " Do you really want it to be gone - forever?" I do not. Hugs xoxoxox

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Highly confused Posted: 6/23/2009 7:01:58 PM
He sounds unstable to me. A healthy person can not be on and then off the next minute! Love is not a switch. You will thank yourself later for breaking up with him....you will....in time. I have!

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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I MISS YOU Posted: 6/3/2009 6:15:10 PM
Ok - Sorry. Just kind of not missing him anymore - Thank the Lord!! xoxoxoxox

T-Bird2

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Msg: 38 (view)

three times bitten........ Posted: 6/2/2009 6:05:43 PM
Just play it out! A bit high A bit anguish A bit risk There is only one way to find out!

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Would you forgive that man? Posted: 5/29/2009 1:14:59 PM
Run baby run. He sounds like a narcissist! I met someone like that and it took a long time to heal - the damage that was done. You will never understand - things will never add up! You are just a mere tool to be used. They are very confusing! Please take care.

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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I'm going to say a prayer Posted: 5/22/2009 7:31:56 PM
Sorry - I meant :May be you should bang your head against the wall FIRST so that you will be calm enough to pray.

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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I'm going to say a prayer Posted: 5/22/2009 7:29:49 PM
May be you should bang your head against the wall so that you will be calm enough to pray. Hey call me - I'll do it with you! ............................and I am listening. Tormented Bird.

T-Bird2

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I MISS YOU Posted: 5/8/2009 3:40:08 PM
I miss you more than you will ever know, David..... Tell me Baby - where did I go Wrong? xoxoxoox

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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3somes Posted: 4/21/2009 7:08:17 PM
"Women who can spell do....." I was crying tonight.....spat Grey Goose through my nose after that note. Wow! Actually I can laugh again!!!! Thank you sooo much MystifiedSquirt!!!! Did I spell that right??????

T-Bird2

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My Last 23yrs Posted: 4/21/2009 5:25:42 PM
No you are not stupid. Love makes a fool of us all. You did what you could for someone you loved - that is honorable. I am glad that you called it quit though. you deserve more!

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

Msg: 21 (view)

feeling much better now thanks!. Posted: 4/20/2009 6:06:17 PM
Hugs! I totally hear you. it happend to me too - I was very angry and sad. How could someone loves you one day and gone the next? Here is what comforted me - I have loved - truely have - but it does not matter how the other person feels, it is still a true love for me. xoxoxo

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Grief: A Roadblock to Romantic Love Posted: 4/20/2009 5:43:34 PM
I am so sorry for your lost....truely. I think that a break up with an intimate person in our lives while we are still in love with that person is worse than death: Death is inevitable, but when someone who voluntary leaves you........? horrid! You might want to tell her what you are going though, it will make her understand you more. Love takes time.....and who knows what else it takes as I can never figure it out.

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Are You Just As Foolish As Ever? Posted: 4/19/2009 3:30:25 PM
NO! I have not! lol The last time was more stupid than ever! The thing is - true players don't look like one, they present themselves very well. I just try to look at in a defferent aspect - no one comes to your life by accident. What Have I learned - I still have not comprehend it fully, but I sure have changed. I feel bad for them a bit - I don't think it is fullfilling for them either, it is just a short lived gratification. Hope you feel better. Warmy, T2

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Moving On Posted: 4/17/2009 2:46:04 PM
nikki, I - myself - don't know how to move on, or maybe ever so slowly. I hear you. Love, T2

T-Bird2

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Msg: 276 (view)

Do you still have faith in love? Posted: 4/16/2009 6:39:25 PM
This song describes it too well: I dreamed a dream in time gone by When hope was high And life worth living I dreamed that love would never die I dreamed that God would be forgiving Then I was young and unafraid And dreams were made and used and wasted There was no ransom to be paid No song unsung, no wine untasted But the tigers come at night With their voices soft as thunder As they tear your hope apart And they turn your dream to shame He slept a summer by my side He filled my days with endless wonder He took my childhood in his stride But he was gone when autumn came And still I dream he'll come to me That we will live the years together But there are dreams that cannot be And there are storms we cannot weather I had a dream my life would be So different from this hell I'm living So different now from what it seemed Now life has killed the dream I dreamed.

T-Bird2

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Letting go and going on Posted: 4/14/2009 6:24:51 PM
If you can't cut it off completely - then just try to wean it off. I broke the no-contact '"rules" a few time and understood the cocnsequences. I know I am weak! lol Not telling you what to do. Just want to let you know that if you can hold out as lomg as you can - is best for you and for him as well. Love, lust, desire and passion, they are stronger than us all, nobody is immune to their effects. So be gentle with yourself. xoxooxo T2

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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You don't choose who you fall in love with. True? Posted: 4/5/2009 8:05:49 AM
"I refer to him as my evil soulmate." Evil soulmate? lol I love that.

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Has anyone broken up from a narcissist Posted: 4/1/2009 7:14:32 PM
Texaz Sky Your story brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry to hear what you have gone through. Hugs.

T-Bird2

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Who wins on net dating sites Posted: 3/31/2009 6:49:30 PM
humungo Have I told you lately how much I adore your thoughts? You Rock!!! There is no good or bad - thinking makes it so.

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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What if our egos died? Posted: 3/31/2009 5:15:13 PM
Totally agreed with scorpio. We will also have compassion, understanding and altruism. We will live in peace like the song "Imagine" by George Clooney - just kidding, John I meant! Not to worry - this will never happen! lol

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Date tomorrow night - but....! Posted: 3/31/2009 4:06:23 PM
Call him " Darling" lol

T-Bird2

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Is Love an Entitlement? Posted: 3/31/2009 4:01:42 PM
Love is your birth right.................. xoxooxxo

T-Bird2

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Break up sad, but mostly relief? Posted: 3/28/2009 10:40:19 AM
I believe that guilt is not a false emotion - guilt is a built in feeling to let us know when we do something that is against our values, it is a gage. Nerdstatus - I think you are a very good person and very intellgent. You go, Nerd...xxx

T-Bird2

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Msg: 33 (view)

Infatuation Posted: 3/26/2009 5:53:37 PM
I fatuation produces the same chemical in the brain like drugs - hence it is addictive. It can last for 3 years..............arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrg!!!

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Infatuation Posted: 3/26/2009 5:46:40 PM
I do hope that infatuation is temporary as I am going out of my mind. The thing is infatuation can be replaced by deep love and caring. Yike.... can't win! What a wicked game!!!! xoxooxox

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Break up sad, but mostly relief? Posted: 3/26/2009 5:20:24 PM
Oh yes - I felt guilty too for feeling relief - it was like I betrayed the love for the person. One goes through all kinds of emotions. Guilt will fade away in time and will be replaced by sadness of loss. xoxooxoxoxo

T-Bird2

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It's all just a game, nothing more Posted: 3/25/2009 8:12:12 PM
Remember - Love Is a Wicked Game. At least you will die trying! The loss is real whether you leave them or they leave you, it is still a loss of hope and dreams. What a wicked game! No, I don't want to fall in love............. xooxoxxoxox

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Why Dont I Learn!! Posted: 3/24/2009 6:07:22 PM
Sweetie Please don't blame yourself - it happens a load of time to all of us. I did it too - went back to a jerk time after time even though I felt that it was wrong. Love blinds us all, there is nothing you can do about it!gh Though - I have a rule - Never Ever disclose your feelings first. Please take care for me, xoxooxxoox

T-Bird2

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Is Gay Monogamy Dead? Posted: 3/22/2009 4:53:21 PM
Sweetie It hurts like a b1%ch when something like this happens. I got cheated on and forgave, but I could not trust him again ever! Who on earth knows what would he be doing when I am not around. I forgave and left.....there is more to life than or****sm! Hope you are surrounded by good friends. XOXOOXXOOXXO

T-Bird2

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Does your heart lie? Posted: 3/21/2009 9:34:50 PM
Humungo Tha t was Brillaint!!!! I am your student.

T-Bird2

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Don't know what to make of this? Is he being genuine? Posted: 3/21/2009 9:10:07 PM
He is a player! He wants you to adore him, your attention or anybody's attention for that matter. Sweetie - take it from the old queen! No contact rules. It takes a long time to get over someone..........

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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When to approach the relationship talk Posted: 3/21/2009 6:26:03 PM
Sweetie I think talk or no talk does not make anyone stay. If the person wants to be exclusive - he will do so without being asked. Let him come to you and let him bring it up. I know it is hard when you are falling for somone. Bite your tounge! lol

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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The worst breakup line ever Posted: 3/21/2009 5:59:11 PM
" Sweetie - I am BI" I am still shocked!!! True story.

T-Bird2

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Does she exist? Posted: 3/21/2009 5:45:36 PM
Meatloft said " Two out of Three ain't bad" I agreed! xoxoxxoox

T-Bird2

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Does your heart lie? Posted: 3/21/2009 5:04:05 PM
Your heart does not lie and sometimes it workes against your judgement. A good man is hard to find - sometimes we take a person for granted as it is a human nature. You may need time to be close to yourself and a break to think. And then again you can not make yourself being in love. Time will let you know.......................

T-Bird2

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Always on my mind... Posted: 3/20/2009 7:14:26 PM
I am so pround of you! You have come thus far - if you contact him, you will have to start He - Toxing all over again. Take it from an old pro - ha ha. xoxoxooxoxoxo

T-Bird2

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My gaydar is broken... Posted: 3/20/2009 3:02:55 PM
You mean I am not the only one!!!! lol Oh yeah..I was with him for quite a while before realized that he is BI!!! I mean BI. Even though I have known him for a while - there was no hint untill he told me after we broke up. DID I TURNED HIM GAY?????? PS - I still love him very much and have been supportive to him - he has become my sister!!! Just kidding.

T-Bird2

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Was I in the wrong? Posted: 3/16/2009 6:04:26 PM
You have done the best you can and you are noble for that. We have lived and loved - loved and lost it. Life could be cruel sometimes. xoxoxooxxoxo

T-Bird2

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Why is he dishonest? Posted: 3/16/2009 4:55:36 PM
Are you going to be comfortable living like this for a long period of time? I know that you really love him - but is this a knid of person you want to cherish? I believe you have to love yourself more and you deserve to be treated like a queen. All my best - xoxoxooxoxoxxo

T-Bird2

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Why do players do what they do? Posted: 3/12/2009 9:16:04 PM
They are narcissist - serious! They are only capable of loving themselves. You love him and he loves himself! They admire you because you admire them - you feed their ego. Their feelings are shallow - for that - they can't love anyone deeply. Once they are done with you - they will find another partner who will adore them. No, they are not hostile to the opposite sex - but yes they have a low self esteem. The root of womanizer/manizer is the absence of the connection with a parent - means - father and son reltionship or mother and daughter. You can find more details on Thepositivemind.com I just happend to listen to the podcast today. xoxooxooxooxoxoxoxooxxooxoxox

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Do girls like to date bi men? Posted: 3/12/2009 4:28:37 PM
My ex boyfriend was Bi - I did not know it untill after the break up. I don't mind about his sexaul preference. I willl not date a bi for I know that I would not be able to satisfy his desires - will always wonder what he is thinking when we are intimate. xoxooox

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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Post-rejection friendship Posted: 2/24/2009 8:47:55 PM
I agree with Ron9: "Trying to be friends with a female or male that you desire ..... is self destructive." I have tried , but I found that by doing so, I could not let go and carry on with my life. It was like a small death each time we communicated. Now I am holding on to let him go. xoxooxoxoxo PS. You still can love her from far away..................

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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To stay in touch or not stay in touch? Posted: 2/20/2009 4:46:11 PM
What I have learned is that you can't push a man, he will run farther. Follow your heart if you want to keep contact. It is ok to miss him from far away and maybe he does not need to know. Love is at God's time frame, not ours. xoxoxoxoxoxo

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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addicted to a man Posted: 2/20/2009 4:26:09 PM
You touched my heart you touched my soul. You changed my life and all my goals. And love is blind and that I knew when, My heart was blinded by you. I've kissed your lips and held your head. Shared your dreams and shared your bed. I know you well, I know your smell. I've been addicted to you. xoxoxoxoxoxo

T-Bird2

Joined: 11/23/2008

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I miss him Posted: 2/19/2009 6:28:23 PM
Goodbye my lover. Goodbye my friend. You have been the one. You have been the one for me. I'm so hollow, baby, I'm so hollow. I'm so, I'm so, I'm so hollow.

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