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Joined: 11/27/2008

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Proper ladies don`t go out alone! Posted: 1/2/2009 12:55:51 PM
I am so glad to see so many women here that go out alone. I go do a lot of things alone...I've gotten use to it and it doesn't really bother me. But the one thing I'd love to do...go to our local karaoke bar (well it's not really a BAR...all they serve is beer and wine coolers) I just can't bring myself to do I guess because of my upbringing (or as the locals say it...my fetchin ups) I WANT to go because I love to karaoke but it's something I've resisted doing because as my mom always put it 'only THOSE types of girls go out to a bar alone' But then again, only THOSE types of girls are pierced and tattooed too in my late mothers eyes and I sure got past that hang up real quick. I may just take that step and go there this weekend!

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Over 45 and happy to stay single for the rest of your life? Posted: 1/2/2009 12:48:00 PM
I think that will be me. I'm so set in my ways that I doubt I could get use to living with anyone else...but then one never knows for sure do they?

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You've been THIS long without sex, why is it still a solid requirement? Posted: 1/2/2009 12:46:06 PM
It's been a very VERY long time since I've had sex...I'm talking years here. Honestly for me it's more important to be compatable with a person in other ways then sex. If you are truely compatable then the sex thing will work itself out.

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Haven't dated in a good 30+ years Posted: 1/2/2009 12:43:40 PM
And he wonders why all he ever gets are one lunch date out of the gals here.

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Haven't dated in a good 30+ years Posted: 1/2/2009 12:42:45 PM
I'm a stufforn person...it's very hard to change my mind. I guess he figured that out because I haven't heard from him since....no great loss.

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Haven't dated in a good 30+ years Posted: 1/2/2009 12:41:32 PM
Thanks bella....guess since I been out of the loop for so long I jsut didn't know if times have changed that much...LOL

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Haven't dated in a good 30+ years Posted: 1/1/2009 1:19:54 PM
p.s. I see by your profile that you are a Dr. Who fan, (the photo of the Dalek). Cool. I don't know many other women in our age range who are sci fi fans. OH yeah...it is my most favorite of all SciFi shows! Good to see there are other female SciFi fans out there. I read a lot too. Well I suppose for a first 'lunch' date I shouldn't have expected much. I haven't dated in forever but honestly I do NOT want to rush into anything. That's how I wound up with a bad marriage to begin with!

Joined: 11/27/2008

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Haven't dated in a good 30+ years Posted: 1/1/2009 12:50:38 PM
Thanks again everyone. Very good and insiteful replies. I guess even though I have in my profile that I'm not interested in s-e-x all they see is that word and not the NO part...LOL We did talk briefly on yahoo IM but he quickly went off when I told him no to the kissing and haven't heard from him again (not that I want to) Oh well...one down, 9,999 to go

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Haven't dated in a good 30+ years Posted: 1/1/2009 11:02:24 AM
A favorite ploy of mid-life men seems to be the movie at his house and he may even have a hot tub Yeah it's like they're desperate to prove their prowess or something

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Haven't dated in a good 30+ years Posted: 1/1/2009 11:00:05 AM
They even have the nerve to get angry when their attempts to get what they want don't work. Got to love the nastiness that some display when they hear the word no. Yeah he wasn't exactly happy when I told him no to the kissing. Ya know, I would like to maybe meet someone I could at least start out as friends with and if something progresses from there all well and good but honestly I'm not loosing any sleep over not having someone.

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Haven't dated in a good 30+ years Posted: 1/1/2009 9:25:14 AM
It's your life, be as cautious as you want to be and who cares what someone else thinks. Thanks...I can see that it's not just me being me...cautious can be a good thing.

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Haven't dated in a good 30+ years Posted: 1/1/2009 9:23:19 AM
Remember, there are Plenty of Fish haha[/quate] LOL so they say.

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Haven't dated in a good 30+ years Posted: 1/1/2009 9:21:41 AM
I told him we could get together again but in public and no kissing because it's way too soon. But I do agree...it does put it into an impersonal category. I'd like to think it's something that would come natural if the chemistry is right.

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Haven't dated in a good 30+ years Posted: 1/1/2009 8:52:45 AM
Thank you everyone for a quick response. I thought I was just being too cautious or too picky but y'all are right. If I dont follow my gutt instinct it always gets me in trouble. Something here in this situation just don't feel right. And I've been divorced since 97 but never dated anyone...my own choice because basically I had to figure out who I was. I've become pretty set in my ways unfortunately so it's kind of hard to tell if I'm just being ...well you know.

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Haven't dated in a good 30+ years Posted: 1/1/2009 8:11:06 AM
Long story...not worth tellin. I was married...leave it at that. My question is this...Am I being too cautious? Here's the senario. I went to lunch with someone from here...he seems like a nice guy but it wasn't one of those jump out at ya hit it off right away things KWIM? I mean I won't say we DIDN'T hit it off but it wasn't a big thing and I had some reserves about him. Nothing about his appearance...I'm no prize myself so I try not to even go there. But right away he's talking about going places that would put us in an alone type of situation. I don't feel comfortable with that and told him that I think we should meet in public first for awhile. He asked me what I thought was going to happen if we were alone and I told him point blank...I don't know him...for all I know he could be some sort of crazed killer or something. I don't think that of everyone on the internet...I just don't think being alone with someone you just met is a good idea. He never answered me...just changed the subject and his next words were "Do you think when we get together again we could do some kissing?" Well needless to say that didn't sit well with me. I thought I made it clear in my profile that I'm not here for sex hook ups or even really a love interest right away. I'd like to start out as friends and see what, if anything, develops from there and to me asking to start kissing right away is not a good sign. I know kissing is usually harmless but in my book you don't just casually kiss. (I'm not a prude but there are limits I think) So am I being too cautious?

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