Also the size of a brain matters to most intelligent woman more than a physical body part!

why the hell would anybody love a guy with a small penis or a grower, you go girl!

"The vast majority of women I've dated didn't care for getting oral.
This whole "sex should be fair" thing going around POF is really starting to irritate me.
No wonder so many people are such terrible lovers."

As for the OP: I don't get how two groups of men talking about men qualify for a battle of sexes.

But perhaps both are right. Suppose group A says men cheat and B says they don't. A is right because some are known to have cheated

But the men who say men cannot be trusted and those who lament women's lack of trust are rarely the same people. Apples and ornages.

Usually, since our society raises women to have no concept of accountability

ones who say not to trust men aren't referring to themselves

Spark, connection, call it what you will, is not like lightening. Any two people could connect if the situations are right. All it takes is a grand centerpiece of conversation and an honesty of personality.

we're all adults here, no need to beat around the bush."

Nothing passive agressive that I could see there. He said you are beating around the bush and not acting like an adult and I don't like it.

Would you do this to someone if you were genuinely interested?

you're a little bit country and i'm a little bit rock n roll

I am still not sure why you are asking a bunch of strangers about this.

actually...the entire show (aired on PBS I believe) was an interesting look at how biology influences our choice in love partners.

“I am interested in talking, why don’t you give me your number and I’ll call you when I get a free minute.” Really, who doesn’t have 10 minutes, for, well, a 10 minute conversation?

He still has to stimulate her or move or something.

While I think this is the way people let others "down easy" it still bothers me a bit because they are in effect asking you to act 'dumb' if you will.

This idea of instant attraction, or it's old name, love at first sight, is a currently popular idea. People buy into it. Then they live by it. Then they make it come true.

I don't believe in it.

Sure, you may find someone unappealing right away. And someone may be extremely attractive to you at first sight. Big deal, it does not confer the ability to predict the future.

Personally, after years of knowing someone, I've one day realized that I really like them and find them attractive. They grew on me. I got to know them.

My parents met through a small group of friends in college, over a period of time, not through a series of formalized dating rituals.

As I understand it, this type of socializing is still common. You hang out with like minded people, without the pressure that comes from dating, and over time, as you learn about someone, you pair up.

and only had 3 "dates"

TXT speak is a form of "bonics"

oohlala21
I don't know why you would accuse me of being racist?

The irony of modern linguist having a preferred spelling for ebonics...

"I like men. I'm sexual. If a man pursues me and 'makes me feel desired' then I'm good. If *I* have to put in any work, then this is unacceptable and I withdraw. I hope that by withdrawing he'll get my 'clues' and 'hints' and will once again pursue me so I don't have to put in any effort. I'm a woman and demand to be pampered. Pursuit is a man's work."

I do not associate with judgmental common people who are not capable of having meaningful intelligent dialogue. You have not been fortunate enough to land someone like me. Without change you most likely never will.

As to putting you to sleep... yes that is likely. I would not be capable of keeping your attention for long. I have trouble only using ebonics, slang and words of four letters or less.

I live in Northern California (Bay Area) and have met plenty of awesome women.

So your worried that somebody you have already lost might have preferred a different body type and it has made you paranoid?

And if I had enough of an objection to their body that it was a problem I wouldn't make out with them multiple times before figuring it out.

The long distance potential lover seems to be a pattern with you.
I'm guessing it's safer than a local boy just across town.
A local guy 24-7 may be too scary.
A guy across the globe you can mentally obsess about in your leisure is a school girl thing.

This child has posted this thread about 3 times now, with slight variations in the wording each time.......I vote for deletion of this crap, first she asks the question, then answers it herself.....

It's kind of hard to tell long-distance what's going on and whether someone is into you, after all. I'm not sure if discussing my insecurities or the fact I'd like to hear from him at semi-regular intervals, and that I'd like to be told in definite terms if at some point he decides there's no future, would make it sound like I'm taking things too seriously?... or if there's a tactful way to do it.

oohlala21 is this the guy that is shorter than you?

It would be totally FOOLISH to pick up and move to another COUNTRY to get a job just to go on a 3rd date

Believe it or not, guys don't pay attention to that nonsense.

you would not need to ask on POF if the new guy you're seeing can really like you if he says that he usually goes for more voluptuous women.

I still think you are that girl from youtube, btw. Interestingly enough, you took down your one and only pic right after that thread too.