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sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

Msg: 16 (view)

Being the friend of a Couple Posted: 3/11/2009 6:42:28 PM
if they have a good trusting relationship, then it should not be a problem. and if you make the girl your friend then it should not be a problem. just be ready to lose some time with him as she will become his new best friend.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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kiss? Posted: 3/11/2009 6:39:08 PM
i have several female friends that i kiss on the lips all the time. and if i want to txt them i do so unless otherwise instructed. for example jealous boy friend. a kiss to a female friend is like a handshake to a male friend. dont read into it. he is just comfortable enough to give you a peck.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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getting to know one another Posted: 3/3/2009 7:14:36 PM
how about they wont tell you because its the same last name as his wife. you must be careful if they cant answer you the simple questions then something is rotten in denmark.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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how soon is too soon? Posted: 3/3/2009 7:12:13 PM
i say bravo to you! do it when you know that this is something you both want. you know like it supposed to be special. and if he is a good guy then he would be happy to wait with you. build the realationship before realations i say.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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if you had the chance, would you go back to the love of your life Posted: 3/2/2009 6:43:06 AM
love comes not too often in life. thats why its said to be once in a lifetime. it cant hurt to catch up with her and see what she is up too. you both have searched each other out. you know if you dont you will go through life saying what might have been.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

Should I spend time for this? Posted: 3/2/2009 6:34:04 AM
hey have you seen that new movie that just came out? what is the name of it. oh, i know. hes just not that into you. you probably check it out. good luck.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Second chance?? Yes or no? Posted: 3/2/2009 6:30:29 AM
sure give him another chance if you want. it sounds like he finally broke up with his girlfriend. so now he can take you out in public. HELLO!

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

Is it normal? Posted: 2/24/2009 8:35:42 AM
you did the right thing. i thnk you can pretty much figure out what he was after. if he could not understand your reasons for not coming over. then he is not what your looking for.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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No Thank You Message Posted: 2/24/2009 8:25:14 AM
this message should also be for the brothers too. i have gotten the same reply with woman and have written the same type of reply that you have. cant answer you why people cant take no.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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FAtal Flaws and The Doomsday Delete Posted: 2/19/2009 7:02:57 AM
i think that there are different factors for all. but in these feeling out emails. people find out things about you they may lead them to believe that you may not be thier type. so they just some contacting you. dont take it personally. it happens to all of us.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Intentional Relationships Posted: 2/19/2009 6:59:05 AM
keep doing what you are doing and i believe that you will get the answers that you are looking for. personally i think that things are moving in the right direction. good luck.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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What Kind Of Dates Are happening Here? Posted: 2/19/2009 6:49:33 AM
i think you need to understand somethings about this site or being on the net. understand the old fashioned way. meet people out and about. which means not too many. now fast forward to the present, the net. multiply how many people you can meet on the net. so that being said. think how many jerks you met out in public,verses nice guys. and again multiply the net. meaning more bad guys then good guys many times over. they are out there. trust me im going through the same thing with woman on this site. but you have to kiss your share of toads. good luck.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Is this good advice? Don't do anything. Posted: 2/19/2009 6:40:01 AM
let me tell you from the get go. ask the person what they are looking for in life. be general. touch on all fronts. if after a month and you have gone out ten times. then its ok to tell him that you want to date only him. see what he says. kind of lead him into a conversation. see what happen from there. after a month he should be able to at least let you know if you are the only one that he wants to date.and from time to time ask about the future. kind of like a progress report. something along that lines would not even bother me. i would answer what you need to know. but for me chances are if i liked you then you would not be asking me, you would know.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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How do I tell him that I care so much about him? Posted: 2/19/2009 6:27:44 AM
first of all i would ask you are you to just sleeping buddies or do you actually go out and do things like a regular couple. and if that is true then you need to slowly edge your way into his life. for example drop him a txt message. say something like was thinking about you today and you made me smile. things like that. see what he does. and just continue from there. also you may want to find out what his status is before you start things up. you could be one of a few.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Gents do you mind/like it if your girlfriend ..... Posted: 2/19/2009 6:22:38 AM
it depends on how long i have been with that person. if its been a few dates then i would tend to worry. there is nothing wrong with a person that i have been with for awhile to tell me those things. in fact that really is the only person i need to hear those things from and im very happy.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Is fifty too scarey? Posted: 2/15/2009 6:24:40 PM
i find it interesting that you set your dating range 40-55. you yourself go only 5 yrs above your age. but rather 10 yrs below your age. is it just a number?

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Only In The Movies ? Posted: 2/12/2009 7:32:47 AM
hey soul just be happy that you made it out alive. at least you didnt have to eat the pet rabbit she cooked for you. run far and run fast! soul mate? she doesnt even know your favorite color. good choice on your part. consider yourself luck to get away so soon.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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What is the best way to handle it if a date passes gas? Posted: 2/12/2009 7:28:38 AM
sure you say. what the hell crawled up inside you and died. do you do that in front of your mother. if it was loud enough for the both of you to hear he should have said that he was sorry. but if someone shxxx in my face they are going to hear about it. by the way did you go on another date?

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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went on a date - need some advice on follow up Posted: 2/12/2009 7:22:36 AM
ok id say your bordering on the stalking side. twice was enough. and you need to sit back and cool your jets. you dont know what she is thinking. i have gone out and had what i thought was an excellent date and didnt hear back from the girl. let it go .if you dont hear from her. maybe she could tell you face to face. but her actions now speak volumes, just listen.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Flowers: Requirement? Luxury? What's the standard? Posted: 2/12/2009 7:17:10 AM
i do think that you missed the flower boat on this one. how ever how many times have you given guys flowers? just because? just a question. you know i dated a girl and she used to say to me. i would have been nice to have gotten flowers. thats not a good thing. i give them because i want to not because i have to. hope your not one of those kind of girls. chances are you are not going to see them any time too soon.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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How do you get an ex to leave you alone??? Posted: 2/12/2009 7:12:06 AM
call the police! period. save all the text msgs and the emails and document the times he come over uninvited. then once you get the report from the police. next stop court. can you say restraining order.thats the onlt thing that will stop it. good luck.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Absence... Posted: 2/12/2009 7:05:16 AM
i have been crazy for woman. and just the fact that when they leave the room i miss them. and im not talking knowing her for a few months im talking years. now thats love baby. no im not a clinger type. when i fall i fall. but absence does make the heart grow fonder. good luck.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Should I be concerned if I feel stalked? Posted: 2/12/2009 7:01:24 AM
if you ignore him i bet he will go away. if you have not met this guy in person and have not made that kind of connection. then i dont think that you owe him anything. i dont think that this site was designed with making friends in mind. though it does happen. and its not a bad thing.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Need opinions please! Posted: 2/12/2009 6:57:11 AM
well you didnt tell us what happened once he came back and sat down beside you. so i dont know what to tell you here. secondly you also did not tell us if you are even interested in this guy. which also leads me to the last thing .if you are interested help the poor guy out he may be a little shy. otherwise if your not interseted then dont even give it a thought.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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What does it mean when a guy tells you that you can call him anytime at the end of a phone call? Posted: 2/12/2009 6:50:02 AM
hey sugar there is no need to read between the lines here. why? because they isnt any. he is saying i am interested in you and i will make myself available to you. and a comfort thing too. he not asking for yours. and you know by that comment that he is interested.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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The no drama requirement... Posted: 2/12/2009 6:46:27 AM
i cant agree with you in any form. when i see a womans profile that says she does not want drama. i jump for joy. and i think that it is great that us guys can tell other potential suitors that this is something that we dont want. sorry its not sugar coated enough for you. you know if you are not this type then you probably would'nt be offened by this. wink.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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This is the price of being a nice guy... Posted: 2/10/2009 4:45:01 PM
just be happy that you were only with her for a month. can you imagine if it were a year. and do your self a favor and take it slower the next time. maybe you can get a better vibe that way.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Nearly 1 year broke up and boyfriend in new relationship Posted: 2/10/2009 4:32:05 PM
ouch! i feel your pain and have been in that place more then once in my life. but if he is still with this girl, what are you doing waiting? i think you need to take charge of your own destiny. he is not going to make it happen. but your are the one that can. and if he comes along well thats great. other wise dont wait around for something that may not materialize.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

What are we doing? Posted: 2/10/2009 4:19:04 PM
op i had to chuckle when i read your posting. and it is quite true what you say. however id like to say that may past realationships have made me who i am today. i dont like to look at the negative points.yet they do let you know what you do'nt want in your next relationship. so id look at them as stepping stone so to speak. so i would not say more picky. rather i know what i want in life. just a thought.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

Why would a guy do this? Posted: 2/10/2009 4:04:31 PM
sounds to me like he was making conversation.and he is just curious about what you were doing. and perhaps was hoping to get a chance to contact you.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

Ok Guys, What's the Perfect Valentine's Present for You? Posted: 2/10/2009 3:59:00 PM
how about a nice romantic home cooked meal, candles,fireplace. if you have one. soft music, anice hot oil massage. love the more personal type valentines gift rather then the store bought type. good luck.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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first date on valentines day? Posted: 2/10/2009 12:03:26 PM
sure why not maybe you will have a connection on v day. and the two of you will not be a lone on the dat for lovers. dont sweat it and ask the girl the most she can say is no but maybe another time.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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View count. Posted: 2/10/2009 11:56:42 AM
just consider it like window shopping. or even car shopping. you dont buy the first one you see. so dont put too much weight on it. ive had hundreds of lookers and very few responders. dont worry the right one will find its way. good luck.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Dating someone who still signs on to POF Posted: 2/10/2009 11:47:24 AM
first thing i'd have to know how long you to have been seeing one another. secondly do you know if you two are exclusive. and if he is going on pof how do you know what he is doing on there. for example the forums. good luck.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

Msg: 13 (view)

i need sum direction Posted: 2/10/2009 11:43:28 AM
if you like the girl. hang with her for a while and see how they play things out. just be true to yourself. if you see things that you dont like. then by all means let it be.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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If you love someone set them free Posted: 2/10/2009 11:37:51 AM
have you two considered counciling? if you think that you love him, then try to fix it. there has to be a reason why he keeps doing this. and would'nt you love to get the answer to it. find someone you both like to work with and dig in to his brain and see whats going on.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Nothing but emails Posted: 2/10/2009 11:25:46 AM
a month is fat too long. call him and ask himm to meet you for a drink. see your not asking him out on a date just for a drink. and when you do stay for about an hour tops and tell him your going out with friends. see how it goes.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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How to tell best friends I'm losing respect for him due to cheating thoughts? Posted: 2/8/2009 8:33:51 PM
you did say he is a friend,right? then you should be able to talk with him about it. and as far as im concerned those type of friends i dont need. sooner or later you will be cuaght in an uncomfortable position when his g/f starts asking you questions about him. no thanks i pass on those kinds of friends.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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When is enough, enough? Posted: 2/8/2009 8:28:18 PM
he already told you how he feels about you. try someone that shares the same interest as you. trust me its far more rewarding then where you are at now.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Why dont men call? Posted: 2/8/2009 8:25:20 PM
i think that he is not serious about you. and what he is giving you is not enough. i think you need to find someone that wants a realationship and not one that plays games.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

Msg: 12 (view)

I want to and probably should, but should I let it go? Posted: 2/5/2009 4:14:34 PM
never mind him. ask yourself what you want in a man. if you are looking for a full time realationship. then he is not your man. if you want to continue this, then he is the guy. i think you know the answer to your question already though.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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need a guys opinion Posted: 2/5/2009 4:08:48 PM
i have one suggestion. ask him. is there some reason why you cant ask him yourself. you did sat that you two were talking all the time. so why not ask the person who knows the answer.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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How do I avoid ruining this? Posted: 2/4/2009 7:19:00 PM
hell why do'nt you thow that idea at her and see what she thinks about it. it seems logical to me. but do'nt make her move for any other reason that you truly love her and want her there. do'nt play the knight in shining armor syndrome.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Going the distance? Posted: 2/4/2009 7:04:58 PM
do'nt question yourself. you did what you need to do. balls in his court. if he does'nt respond to you, leave it at that. the door needs to swing both ways. otherwise it not going to work. good luck. oh and by the way. checked your profile. if i were him i would have chased you home. take care.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Characteristics of a booty call, only problem...we never slept together! Posted: 2/4/2009 6:52:18 PM
can you say player. it's right there in front of you. you get what you ask for. does the word 2 am booty call ring a bell. even if you to only made out. you know thst he is looking for more. you did say that he txts you at 2 am. and the dinner never happened. do'nt waste your time. just my thought.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Laundry list... Posted: 2/4/2009 6:47:33 PM
i agree with you. this boy is far too so with the requirements of what he needs. you need to click first. then work from there but no check list. first thing it says to me is me,me,me. not even giving you the chance. did he even think that maybe you wer not even interested in him? all i can tell you is this is one big red flag.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Does confidence and attitude REALLY radiate outer beauty? Posted: 2/4/2009 6:43:04 PM
absolutly. all those things you just stated makes a woman very disirable. i go for the whole package. and that's the real kind of woman. and only the good guy will recognize this.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Does being in love ever change your personality? Posted: 2/4/2009 6:40:20 PM
the question is how long will it last. ive seen the temporary change. so be leary of the change. or perhaps he acts that way in front of you. i think if it has been 6 months or better that will be a good amount of time to see if he morphs back. hopfully not. good luck.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

How to get the spark back Posted: 2/4/2009 6:36:28 PM
i think you need to examine why the two of you broke up.and truly look and see if the issues that made you depart are still present. and realise that if they are still there. then there is no need to put your heart back through that kind of pain. move to a more loving type of realatioship that will serve you well.

sing625

Joined: 11/28/2008

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Next Move? Posted: 2/2/2009 9:06:39 PM
sounds to me as if you did everything right. and i would wait to hear from her. and for your sake i hope she does. and i also agree with the idea that if they do'nt respond then do'nt waste your time. because it does have to be mutual.

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