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 Author Thread: Going Dutch???
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Going Dutch???
Posted: 7/20/2009 12:14:01 PM
Maybe we dont offer too much because men tend to snap at us for offering? Like it somehow makes them less of a man if we pay our way. Thats not my own view I always like to offer....not that I get many dates but thats a whole other issue! Maybe you should make sure they know you want to go dutch BEFORE the actual "date", so that they know what you expect in advance.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
H. Potter and the Half Blood Prince
Posted: 7/19/2009 6:44:30 AM
Went to see it last night. Bloomin brilliant as usual! Yes they missed bits out, but they cant fit everything in. Film was longgggggg and very good value for money. (which is more than can be said for the snack prices!). As for Alan Rickman....yummy!
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Accents....
Posted: 7/19/2009 6:20:51 AM
I love a geordie accent...then again a French accent is kinda sexy too.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
i have a question for the ladys about male voice
Posted: 7/19/2009 6:18:01 AM
All I can say is...the deeper the better!
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
The Search
Posted: 7/11/2009 4:52:24 AM
That's beautiful by the way.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 304 (view)
 
Funniest First Contact Message.
Posted: 7/11/2009 4:11:31 AM
1. hi howru? (that was the total content!)

2. Nice pair of erm eyes you have there.

3. I wish I was your necklace.


Maybe I am just too picky hahaha...still waiting for Mr Right!
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
She's religious, I'm not. How do you balance this??
Posted: 7/11/2009 3:53:22 AM
wow so negative. You have to think about how much you are prepared to put into this relationship time and effort wise. If you really feel you have a connection with her that is worth pursuing, go for it. Have you tried discussing this with her? She just may feel that what you both have is worth a few small sacrifices on her part.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
 
is he being unfaithfull?
Posted: 7/11/2009 3:45:57 AM
Flirting is a basic part of human nature, for males and females alike. We do it all the time with shop assistants.....women have been flirting with butchers for years....its no biggie. Its open and above board. When the flirting is hidden is when there should be concerns. He may not be being unfaithful at the minute but he certainly seems to be looking for the opportunity to be. She sounds like she wants out of the relationship anyway by looking so hard for "evidence". She should just let it go and move on.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Blonde deodorant joke
Posted: 7/10/2009 4:13:59 PM
lol brilliant!
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Why do women hate my children?
Posted: 7/10/2009 4:12:15 AM
I'm not saying this is the case here but.....I once tried dating a man with kids ( I love kids and have 2 of my own). Whenever daddy wasnt looking, the oldest used to give me real "eat sh*t and die" looks and was a little swine to my son. Naturally, things got a bit uncomfortable and we didnt see each other for long lol. Shame cus the guy was great and his kids were lovely apart from that.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
she's 28 he's 26. and she hates my guts
Posted: 7/5/2009 4:44:08 AM
We all have a past! I'm sure some of us aren't always proud of every little thing we have done in our lives. Some things may seem like huge mistakes at the time to others, but at the time, may have seemed like the right thing to do in a given situation. Sure she has kids from previous relationships (quite a few of us do!). Lots of men go for older women too. She may really care for your friend you know, give her the benefit of the doubt for now. She is bound to get all possessive if you are calling her trashy, even if you dont do it to her face, she will get the vibe from you. She may well know you are trying to get him away from her and in those circumstances can you blame her for avoiding letting you be alone with him too long? How about turning up with a little bunch of flowers, an apology and a smile for the woman. Build up a relationship with her for you friends sake in case he does need you at some point in the future.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Need an opinion from the ladies.
Posted: 6/27/2009 1:47:48 AM
Well from her point of view it will depend on how she feels about you....she may view it as a sweet gesture or she may view it as you trying to put your stamp on her before she goes to see this male best friend off.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
one sided communication
Posted: 6/26/2009 1:14:50 PM
Maybe they are just trying to keep things polite. Ignoring an email isnt very nice after all. As for MSN, if you are already talking to a couple of your mates, it can be awkward to try and speak (or be expected to speak) to a possible future date at the same time.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 722 (view)
 
Do women mind single dads with kids
Posted: 6/26/2009 12:50:49 PM
Yup gimme a single dad anyday. I also work full time and am a single parent and yes it is hard physically and emotionally, but one of these days someone will come along and sweep me off my feet. Same goes for the single dads...it might not be today or tomorrow but there is someone out there for all of us, but its a fact that the kids have to come first. Whoevers they are.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
I have a feeling I will end up with a single mom.
Posted: 6/26/2009 11:13:00 AM
As you are a single parent yourself, then it might be worth looking at single mum's. They will have the same kind of dating difficulties, such as trying to get sitters etc, or finding the time to actually go on a date. On the other hand, take care that you aren't looking for a playmate for your own child. You're young, you have plenty of time and there are plenty of gorgeous fishes out there.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
What happens if you can't feel that spark, the magic?
Posted: 6/23/2009 1:35:47 AM
Personally, to get romantically involved with anyone, I need the spark...I want to go weak at the knees if he so much as looks at me. I know for me that that feeling wont last too long lol but it has to be there initially, along with friendship and compatability, or there will be no foundation there to build on when the excitement and newness wears off.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
How long before you give up on looking
Posted: 6/23/2009 12:42:02 AM
well I have been looking for 7 years approx and for the last couple of years only half hearted....maybe now is the time to give up. I spend most of my time in here or ebay anyway lol.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Long term vs. Dating
Posted: 6/22/2009 3:15:30 PM
I stick to putting "friends!"...that way I have the option to move into dating or long term if things go that way. If not then I don't feel like I should have upset anyone, cus I do state I am only looking for friends.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 59 (view)
 
What puts You off people you are already mailing on POF
Posted: 6/22/2009 3:07:23 PM
When they start ummm joking about getting married after meeting up just once! When they expect you to be able to spare the time to talk on the phone for hours at a time when you have kids at home. When they start pestering you to talk on the phone and wont take no for an answer without trying to make you feel guilty. When they cant understand why family (kids) would come first. When they cant understand that "friend" does not mean talking, texting and seeing each other at every opportunity.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
scent
Posted: 6/22/2009 2:42:40 PM
Fresh man sweat can be nice yeah...but 3 days old is a nono!
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Relationship/marriage mistakes
Posted: 4/6/2009 4:56:48 PM
Yeahhhhhh it would...if I had bills coming in and no money to pay them and find out that the other half has been stashing money all along lol...and lets face it I could buy lots of pairs of shoes with that too! No, seriously, surely marriage is all about being open and honest with each other about everything, and that includes money.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
 
What do you do when the end is near.
Posted: 4/6/2009 4:39:38 PM
Spend every possible minute with my kids. I would also leave them each a little letter telling them how much I love them and what pleasure they have given me over the years.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Why some women do this???????
Posted: 4/6/2009 4:09:36 PM
Save yourself the hassle and just email within the site....why go to all the effort of getting someones email addy when the site provides one anyway. Great value for money I say.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Is It About Time They Put Speed Bumps In Albert Square ?
Posted: 4/6/2009 4:09:45 AM
I'm just glad I wasn't the only one sniffling away lol...speedbumps yeahhhh about time.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
has anyone got any experience of this
Posted: 4/5/2009 2:35:34 PM
mine took 5 years and we both agreed. Solicitors making their money I think. Still at least theres no rushing into something with someone else if it takes a little time.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Kinks
Posted: 3/22/2009 3:22:14 PM
hey love me love my kinks is what i say! No point in trying to go into a relationship hiding something that is important to you...thats the stuff that leads to relationship breakdowns. Better to get it out in the open, and discover early on if its going to be an issue.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
When women dress up....
Posted: 3/22/2009 8:09:39 AM
So we like to look good and feel good about ourselves! If we look sexy, then maybe we feel sexy? Whats wrong with that? Stop worrying about who we are trying to look good for and just enjoy the sights lol.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Never get a date
Posted: 2/9/2009 2:30:55 AM
well yeah you can get a date arranged...its just getting the folk to actually turn up that seems to be the problem...sighhhhhhhhhh
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Should Blood Relatives Have More Rights In Adoption ?
Posted: 1/28/2009 2:24:37 AM
Wow scary! I am 46 and have my nine year old at home....note to self do not answer the door to strangers in case they are here to take away my boy cus I am too old! I really think there must be more to this than meets the eye. When I used to foster, I had a little girl come to me from her grandparents...but Social Services were working towards getting her back home to them.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
I live less than an hour away but she doesn't want to meet me.
Posted: 1/24/2009 3:19:58 AM
Find someone that does want to spend time talking with you. I have some people I talk to as friends, but they know that, and some that I talk to with the possibility of meeting at some point.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Would you date a disabled man?
Posted: 1/23/2009 2:19:27 PM
I see that as the same as asking would you date someone with for example...red hair or a few extra pounds. Everyone has their own preferences. I would have no problems with dating someone who was disabled if I enjoyed their company and found them attractive. In fact there was a gentleman on this site that I really liked the look of but in that case, distance was the problem!
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Down and dirty...
Posted: 1/21/2009 8:43:47 AM
I do not like my feet touched at all...i do love pampering them in a nice footsoak, but no massaging.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
abstaining from self pleasure
Posted: 1/19/2009 11:36:29 AM
Guys actually discuss their "self pleasure" with each other like this???
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
men who like to be dominant sexually and the women who like it
Posted: 1/19/2009 2:33:11 AM
Well sometimes its a release....job is stressful etc. Just nice to feel someone else controlling events at times. Having said that...theres times I want to be the one in control too. Its a need I have..some can cope with it some cant. Hey ho thats life.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Are you responsible for your failed marriage?
Posted: 1/19/2009 2:21:12 AM
yep i am responsible.....wouldnt take the cr*p any more and moved out. I could have stayed and tried to work things out yet again....but I figured 14 years was enough time.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 101 (view)
 
My woman reads my text messages
Posted: 1/19/2009 2:18:21 AM
cant understand the problem here...if messages arent ok to be read by your significant other then they have no business being sent....and if your significant other would like you to explain them, then explain them...and vice versa. Good communication skills are all that is necessary in your case.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Why!! can't a women ask a man
Posted: 1/19/2009 1:37:52 AM
soooooooo 2Bgenial..... would you like to come for a coffee???
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Helping a human
Posted: 1/14/2009 6:42:39 AM
Psychiatric services are as supportive as they can be...based on the small amount of time they are allotted to see each individual case, and the amount of factual information pertaining to the case that they are provided with. Family or friends are the ones who are likely to see more of the person and are therefore just as valuable if not more so. There are befriending schemes out there which are also very useful for someone who has become isolated. Recovery will not be overnight but is possible. x
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Woman attacked in Scotland ‘because she sounded English’
Posted: 1/14/2009 2:59:11 AM
This type of occurance is precisely the reason I put in my profile that I am English. That way people are forewarned before they message me. (providing they read it of course!). Hopefully then the people who are English bashers wont bother me lol.

Thandor....you are a Scot living in England??? If you were punched in the face and told to get back to Scotland..would you think it was "harsh but fair"?
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Hard decisions to make.
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:57:31 AM
If this relationship is turning you into the type of person that you dont want to become, then you really need to move along. You really sound as if you dont like yourself very much at the minute and if you dont like yourself, then you cant make yourself like him either. He can soon get a housemate. There are always womens refuges that you could go into till you get your own accommodation.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
can you tell?
Posted: 1/12/2009 3:09:47 AM
Sometimes yes you can tell and its sweet. Having said that, I met a chap a couple of days ago and he was sooooo gorgeous and I was instantly attracted and......I ended up getting so nervous that I ended up sweating profusely lol...not an endearing quality.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
trouble getting it up
Posted: 1/12/2009 3:02:33 AM
Thinking you may have just "blown" your chances of getting many replies to emails in here!
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Why does she
Posted: 1/12/2009 2:58:04 AM
How about letting her know the dates and times you are free and asking if she is free to spend time with you on any of those occasions?
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
What does Down to Earth mean?
Posted: 1/12/2009 2:29:54 AM
For me it means, just your average person...no airs and graces...says what he means and means what he says and expects the same of a partner.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Why do short girls keep hitting on me?
Posted: 1/10/2009 12:23:16 PM
Sometimes size definately matters
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Marital Status putting women off ?
Posted: 1/5/2009 10:23:25 AM
I would be more likely to date someone who stated they were widowed than someone who stated they were separated for example. Separated means still married. If a guy stated he was single..in my age group.. I would be wondering why he had never married.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Is this a really bad thing?
Posted: 1/5/2009 10:19:26 AM
Some girl out there might just think that you have a good head on your shoulders! At least any girl you decide to go into a relationship with will know that you are able to make plans and see them through.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
New born gift ideas
Posted: 1/5/2009 3:39:17 AM
Well a box of choccies for the mum...after all she did all the hard work lol...a supply of disposable nappies, wipes, talc, bubble bath etc all made up as a baby hamper and one of those little bouncing chairs...that should take care of your money and will be appreciated no end.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
No Goodbye
Posted: 1/3/2009 2:27:02 PM
When you lose someone who is living..there is always the chance you can still say goodbye..thank them for the good times etc. When they leave you the other way you dont have that option and its hard to bear...even years down the line. Yes time makes it easier but it never goes away. You can still smile with fond memories and still cry from the pain.
 molly_
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Irresistable 'features'...
Posted: 12/29/2008 4:58:04 PM
He has to have nice eyes,,the kind you could feel yourself drowning in if your eyes met for too long.
 
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