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erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 94 (view)

the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men Posted: 10/16/2009 9:07:23 PM
I made perfect sense. You think I am strange? WTF is that swearing chick talking about? I hope she is talking about me, that would be real funny lol. Then I guess with you, the deal breaker wouldn't be your beard but the fact you do not understand me (or basic English apparently). I didn't read your profile, you are far away. Exciting: If you use boob or bed pics, you will get more mail, sure. From transparent butt holes objectifying you. Unless you like that. I imagine some people could in theory enjoy it. I am not sure you'd like that sort of attention. But who knows. I am positive it would be just more garbage to sort out.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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The Stand-By Posted: 10/16/2009 8:58:06 PM
He is a noncommittal train wreck. He shows one woman a lot of attention.. Then no doubt gets bored or scares himself off, but he doesn't have to worry, he kept back up.. "just in case". Block him.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 90 (view)

the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men Posted: 10/16/2009 8:03:03 PM
I am typing here, as I type my tooth effin hurts, it is making me feel vulnerable, so it is relevant. Learn to deal with women, we are super highways of thoughts and feelings and we can change exits really quickly hehehe I quit actively looking when I seen they treated me badly, snippy!! Or didn't reply. Or replied with the female approach. Ew xP I didn't say POF is for me, it's not for you either, it's not for anyone. It is a 4 finger rectal exam lol ...My stance is that no one has an edge , and certainly not women. Have you READ the reviews of this place in other places?!?! "The girls are easy, but not easy enough. They are on guard for players but since men internet for sex, we have no problem putting up with it for a while if it means sex." <-- yeah. Do you want to be that guy? Here is where most men do not use their smarts. Hell yeah you want to be that guy. You'll get hot sex, admiration and make someone happy.. Just by actively not being a douche. After so many douches, a guy just "not" being one is wonderful. Snores? no.. Back hair? no, not that silly stuff.. Don't get me wrong. I wouldn't have a problem with say.. you, but I would ask if you REALLY needed that beard hehehe As I said liars, cheaters, dummies and people who have nothing in common with me. And the ones that do like fade away. Don't make me say it again young man.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 6 (view)

Slipping through the cracks: Who is more at risk: Men or Women? Posted: 10/16/2009 7:41:23 PM
I think before that was true, that some awesome people had no pic. Married people also had no pic, so it was a more frustrating time. Now these days, in the times of photo cellphones that email, cheap web cams and digital cameras, if you can't get a picture online you are seen as: -Taken. -Something else to hide. -Unable to afford any means or not smart enough to figure it out! -Being unfair. In other words, SOMETHING must be wrong with you. I put "must have pic" when I realized it was mostly perverts, whales and creepy married men messaging from behind fake and empty profiles. I am not shallow but I can't get it up for someone huge, dirty looking or overly hideous. So no picture tends to let my imagination go wild. Both for the best outcome and the worst. And they both are dangerous fantasies.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 87 (view)

the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men Posted: 10/16/2009 7:30:47 PM
It doesn't matter if I get 1 message a week or 10 a week (there is never more because I don't have my chest out).. I usually don't like any of them for various reasons. All 176 could message me and I might like one, if I am lucky. I am not even PICKY per say. Average across the whole board is harder to find than you think. Do this: Read some of those male profiles :/ -written for men -unrealistic -unintelligent/badly typoed/short -obviously taken.. looking for "friends" my ass To name a few hehe Then the quality of the first message :/ -short/boring -pasted -offensive -WHAT? To name a few :P

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 81 (view)

the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men Posted: 10/16/2009 12:37:51 PM
I can't tell if that was an attack on me or not. But if MORE "men in general" would act like respectable human beings, then less bad things would be said about them. I am the first one to point out a good man. Even a bad man with some good traits. But if you want to talk about "garbage", that's what I find on his site. Using, ignoring, chicken, liar.. you know it. Or perfectly fine people (as far as I can see), not compatible with me at all. I have been cranky, because I am ready for a date and can't get the men I like on the site to meet. I am not even saying anything wrong or rude to them ffs, and I am not boring. AND more importantly, I got an infected nerve. Last night I figured it hurt so bad one of us had to die, my tooth or me.. So I got an E.R. appointment and I can get my tooth pulled or an $800 crown/root canal. And if men were so great, where are they? I also have to take a bus home from getting three wisdom teeth removed and come home and take care of myself. So excuse the hell out of me when I get scared and upset that they've left me for dead ..because I can't offer them some fairytale relationship where I dress like a little school girl but treat him like his mommy! Only never punishing him no matter how stupid he acts. Sorry dudes.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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non traditional ways of masturbating Posted: 10/16/2009 11:49:33 AM
I told my ex it was healthy to masturbate because he said he never had before. After that one day I came over and he was beaming. He said he had to show us all something (me, my friend and his brother) and got us all rounded up into his bedroom. He wouldn't let anyone sit on the bed, but once we were all in there he started his presentation. He then stayed dressed but walked us though the process of how he learned to masturbate. That included wrapping a sock around it and rolling a blanket up and humping it. He showed us just how he rolled up his blanket and presided to hump it for a few seconds. In case we were stupid or wanted a visual really bad, I dunno. By then we were all rolling around laughing. To end the presentation he brought out his sock collection and began explaining their purposes. Some were really soft, some were rougher so he could finish more quickly and .."HEY!" (I heard a yell come from beside me) One was his brothers. But there was only one, his brother demanded to know where the other on was, sock boy said "in the wash" xD! He was so mad. That was one of the funniest times of my life.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

What we women do for a date.. Posted: 10/16/2009 6:08:16 AM
All I do is bathe, put on 4 seconds worth of make up and make sure I match. Most of the major enhancements are already done for ME. Shaved, eyebrows plucked etc.. I don't get my nails done because men don't really notice and all I do is type and masturbate hehehe And I would never knowingly date a creepy guy into rub and tugs.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover? Posted: 10/16/2009 5:53:33 AM
Pride be damned, I have needs. I got a secret for you, the one "they" don't want you to know about. Women put out for lover type guys, and withhold sex for provider types. The same girl can appear "virtuous" or fun depending on the guy. There are prudes no matter what (chickens and game players) and there are women who demand equal pleasure no matter what (horny and no nonsense) .. But majority says, if a man is sexy and is alpha (lover type) she'll put out quickly.. If a man is tender, stable and alpha (provider type) she'll wait to prove her loyalty and to test his loyalty for the long term. I am sick of this self respect and virtue nonsense. I will abandon my needs or take on foul labels for doing what men do, on a lesser scale even, once men start denying themselves as well. The man who turns me down in the name of self respect can cast the first stone. Until then if sex makes them go away like morons, it is there loss. So much so that it sucks to be them, I'm great xD hehehe

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 65 (view)

the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men Posted: 10/15/2009 11:32:51 PM
Seems like EVERY guy is looking for the "hot, young thing" coupled with the relationship that just "works" with NO friction, and 24 hour a day sex, not to mention that special salve that all of us women have that cures them of all of the ills that their evil witch of an ex, inflicted on them, so....Whew!! Yes you are right there, but for such picky people they sure don't need a lot to message a girl. Just one feature will do, boobs usually. Which puts me on total guard because I know soon as I show any feelings at all or gasp displeasure with their behavior, they are gone. Op: You think women have it easy? I have to root through what I want, what they want, what they think they want, their true motives (usually SEX but they say they want relationships pffft) , and what personal hell a man is offering. That is if he is even remotely compatible with me in the first place. Most don't read my profile. Most are barely literate. Most are so boring I want to cry. You said yourself the females action in her mail box is GROSS, so what's easier?? I haven't had a date since JUNE! I am cute, I am smart, I am understanding, laid back in person (really), and sexual.. I don't even have a yelling voice. But that is not good enough for these people!! My personal strength and accomplishments are admirable. But not on POF, nope! Over coming personal struggle is not strength, it is "issues". And then I am not exciting enough because ironically over coming those problems makes my life conflict free. I have depth and emotions and every single guy I start to like talking to fades like a fart in the wind. Oh but I am not bitter. I am mad as hell and sick of hearing I have it easy. The forums have spilled onto my real dates and they all expect me squirt, come by indirect stimulation (intercourse) and have multiple orgasms. Thanks for the insecurities!! And I am kind, what I should do is say "Hmm yeah I squirt (lies), since that makes you hot, you must know I only have sex with guys that are as thick as pop cans".. But I don't say that. I just have to feel like some sort of undesirable sexual freak! They ask that stupid crap them pout like brats when they find out I am not one of those minorities. Easier?? EASIER?!?!? Oh god I think I just popped a vein lol I love men, I do. I am still hoping for an exception to all of this.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 42 (view)

Hickeys? What do you think? Posted: 10/15/2009 5:55:47 PM
I think it's sexy. But I haven't had one since I was 22. I was with this terrible guy forever and he cut me off sex for a couple years. So we broke up but I had nowhere to go for a bit until I got on my own two feet... In the mean time I had needs. And this very dominant guy gave me a hickey, I think it was on purpose, to tell men to back off. Or he sensed I still lived with a guy. It was so sexy and really hot to hide. The thought of him marking me (when I just went through years with a disinterested man) made me so hot and bothered... Of course the ex didn't notice, he wouldn't have noticed if I was on fire.. I got perverse pleasure from that hickey.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 48 (view)

the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men Posted: 10/15/2009 5:31:34 PM
Only a big, flaming misogynist would compare women to lab rats. Also being addicted to morons mailing you and going on bad dates must be limited to people who are already mentally ill, because I for one, delete my profile every chance I get. I hate being spoken to like an object. I hate fake "attention". I hate giving so many douche bags the chance to think they are better than me based on silly criteria (that mainly comes down to the breaks they have received). To be addicted to this would be like being addicted to abuse. But to leave this means staring at those chicken sh*t men and waiting to be approached, which never happens. And women are SO pickier, the thought of messaging all guys with a "hot" body part seem LUDICROUS to most females. Unless those guys also match intellect and values, seemingly on a glance. Idiot.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 41 (view)

the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men Posted: 10/15/2009 1:00:25 PM
Hun I didn't say "should".. I meant it is just the way it is as I know it. When I go looking for people to message. I find maybe one, MAYBE. Because instead of just a picture I make sure he has a good chance of liking me as well. That we are compatible on every level available. You hit the nail on the head. 1% for every woman, that 1% is a different man for all women though (meaning almost every man is SOMEONES 1%). So 2-1 males is not enough. I am not saying if there was double the women, men wouldn't get double the chances but it is not comparable to women "stacked" wise. Because women would still have an equal chance of finding her 1%. Compatibility is super hard to find. Looks are not. And finding a man who picks a woman for looks LAST is hard to find. Men messaging everyone "cute" are not hard to find. It will always be the womans power, BUT more weight on her shoulders. And after all, we are dating each other right? It is not like a tug of war where 2x the people on one side is unfair, because we are all on the same side. And about that male aggression thing.. so? If a woman wants you, she does. If she hangs back and waits.. so? It is only instinctual on her part. In my experience men do not treat me like their found treasure if I do the chasing. Seventeen times being treated that badly is enough! Putting a man in the female selector role is a terrible plan. It just changes the whole dynamic. The respect for each other is frail at best in most cases. I am sorry if this sounds a bit like nonsense, a lot of it is just a feeling.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 38 (view)

My Nightmare Date (long read!!) Posted: 10/15/2009 12:05:38 PM
I was only kidding about the zit. That would creep me out as well, and I'd also set a boundary. What I wouldn't do is flirt with a ton of guys, whilst on the date. It just sounded like she was just being mature, and made the best of a bad situation and decided to just hang out, see it through to the end. Unfortunately, you missed the mature route and ditched her for endless minutes to talk to a woman. And you blame her for how she acted near the end?? Oh boy, I would have went up one side of you and down the other. She is cooler and more together than she got credit for.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 35 (view)

My Nightmare Date (long read!!) Posted: 10/15/2009 11:17:35 AM
That was the most immature story ever. All she did was try to party with you and since she didn't fit into your little box of what sexy and cool was, you treated her coldly and flirted with every girl your could find. She may have not been for you, but I don't see anything she did that justified the way you treated her. And repeatedly asking others to help you get out of it?? You were just hanging out, it was not a shot gun wedding. Your friends are so much more mature. If I were her, I'd be telling the story of the guy that asked me on a date. Wouldn't pick me up. Wouldn't pay for my beer. Had to be DRAGGED to get me food, which he didn't offer to pay for. Kept whispering about me. Flirted with other chicks. Ignored me. Talked to some chick for a long ass time. Dumped me after I got the hint. And to top it all off, the loser wouldn't even let me touch his zit!!! You think she went home feeling great?

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men Posted: 10/15/2009 10:45:48 AM
It is not stacked. Women are built to be the pleasing to the eye. Most men do not have endless needs from a woman to go out with her. Most men would be happy just to go out with the ones he finds attractive, to see if it works. Women are the picky ones by nature. A guy can be attractive but that is just stage one. He also has to sound smart on his profile, smoke or not smoke, not seem to be an alcoholic, not seem married etc etc ..before she will even reply. I think that is due to our physical and emotional vulnerabilities, as well as the difference in the reproductive natures of men and women. Men mate mainly for looks and spread seed (or resist that nature). Women choose one mate carefully to bare children. She knows she will be "off the market" reproductively for almost a year. Whether se is having babies or not. So a mere 2-1 is not stacked in the females favor. It is stacked for the male. I do not respond to WAY more than 2 men before I'll date one because I am plain not interested. Where as most males will find endless women that seem good enough to message. Granted not all reply but the numbers game is in HIS making as he chooses how many women to message. If a woman is highly instinctual, she for the most part.. waits.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 168 (view)

Do some women like being sex slaves? Posted: 10/14/2009 9:35:12 PM
I am one that loves to tease! Licking her untill she is almost there then licking everything but her spot! I'd kill that guy. That would be physically and emotionally painful for me. Want to see me livid? That's a good plan. But cover your nuts.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 61 (view)

Tothpaste as a Lubricant Posted: 10/13/2009 8:41:22 PM
The topic title made me laugh, and the responses didn't disappoint. You guys should have let him figure it out for himself lol. When I was young, I wanted a bit of something extra during my alone time, so I took the gum I was chewing for hours and rubbed it on myself for a second. It still burned a lot and play time was over. Plus my gum was ruined.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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'I love you' during sex Posted: 10/11/2009 10:18:07 PM
I said it once during sex to mess with a guy. I thought it was hilarious. The way most men respond to those words is so funny. It would have been more humane to shoot him I think. From your past posts I see you are one of those guys that think every woman is capable of squirting multiple orgasms, and if they haven't, it is because they haven't met you. And if she does meet you, she will profess love at your mad skills looool Dude! Someone is gonna burst that bubble.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 44 (view)

imposssible climax Posted: 10/11/2009 9:48:08 PM
I never orgasm during sex neither. Unless I rub fast and furious hoping to hit a trigger. Which wont happen if: -I think he's about to orgasm. -If I hate him. -If he is shouting "cum cum". -If I think people are going to hear me go off. -If I think he is about to orgasm!! Oral works, but I always needed "the best of the best" type of guy, who knows where my clit is, and is not afraid to torture it directly and roughly with his tongue. Over and over, knowing he loves every second of it, hear him make muffled sounds of pleasure, until I... Wait what was I saying? Now I just need the dirtiest fantasy I have in my spank bank and for him to hit the right spot and I am good to go! I've shaved 20 minutes off my time over the years ;) .. Me likes a finger during too and I'm not afraid to tell a guy.. or to move his head to the right spot and hold him there by his hair if he is a real putz. I forget to tell guys these days, I'm sick of their crap. It goes the same whether I tell them or not; Demanding I magically orgasm because they touched my clit or they are chanting it... I wont fake it, but to pressure me might cause a rant. A lot of men act like they never met a woman who don't orgasm juices 130 feet just by the guy looking at her. Very hard on the sexual self esteem and ego.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 12 (view)

Better off being single Posted: 10/10/2009 9:29:09 PM
woman have had the "independent lifestyle" handed to them. Excuse me?? HANDED? Try thrust upon them! How does someone have the harder route "handed" to them?? Not all women are feminists. But since today's guy seems to be the new female, never leaving home and whining they have to pay for dates and crying their butts don't get fingered enough.. Well we women just plain have to pay our own bills, die or share our make up with you while living on your parents roll away couch. (Sorry to the real men)

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 11 (view)

Better off being single Posted: 10/10/2009 9:18:04 PM
I think I know what you mean. I feel like I do not prefer being single but I happily end up that way. I even cause it to happen because I can not imagine answering to anyone. I pay MY bills. I been taking care of ME a long time. So I can't see a man coming in and thinking he has a say in my life. If it makes sex hotter I will allow some dominance play but to his surprise I will make him turned off and make him dump me the second I feel a threat to my independence.. Men are disgustingly easy to turn off and super easily they abandon me. Instead of loving freely and being myself by accident, making them leave me when I least expect it. I be myself when it is time for them to go. What I mean by "be myself" is share my feelings, good, bad.. when it comes to men it doesn't matter. It works no matter what. I started out needing a man.. it is too late now. Yeah somewhere inside is hurting about all of that, but the independence can't be unlearned.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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Does sex feel different with someone you love? Posted: 10/9/2009 8:20:58 PM
It feels great with someone you love, much better than with someone you barely like. For me it feels best with a dominant and experienced sexual animal : P Someone who I can feel liberated with because I was raised sex is wrong. I am not sure I can love any more though.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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War of the Sexes: Could this exist without women's participation? Posted: 10/9/2009 8:10:08 PM
It's all crazy and I just walk away now if I see an abuser coming, or a mythomaniac, or anything weird. A misogynist AND prolly a chronic masturbater. hehehe

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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Broken Up With For The Strangest Reasons Posted: 10/9/2009 6:49:49 PM
I was about to say that she was trying to say she doesn't like you, but the first person beat me to it. Most people will put up the opposite of what they want if they are attracted on a level or three. If we are attracted on all three levels, we are almost helpless to resist them, even if they are horrible on paper! (intellectually, emotionally and sexually).. She is missing one or all of those attractions to you. You might get her back if you figure out which one. Was the sex fantastic but you don't talk? Was the talking and sex good but you are not emotional with one another? Etc.. Are you holding something back ?? Maybe there is nothing going wrong and she met a bad boy who makes he feel intense, so she made up all those excuses. Who knows..

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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A (different) woman's views on sex/Sorry it's so long, but worth it, sooo worth it! Posted: 9/17/2009 5:37:23 PM
I have good reading comprehension.. and that was, strange.. Stop going nuts worrying about it. The female orgasm is better, it has got to be. I can't have one standing, I'd fall the hell over quicker than a tipped cow lol. Besides, you will never figure out what it feels like for other women neither, the unknown factor is not limited to men. Everyone in the porn industry is sad, yes even the guys. It is not just the girls that sell out, it is equally disgusting for a man to be there. How do you know she likes it? She is paid and directed to be as nasty as possible with little to no focus on her pleasure. Don't believe everything you see in porns lol Just solve your worries by giving what you get. There is no way I'd give a guy a deep throated gagger if he didn't lick me like he was starving :D .. Then he is forced to feel what I felt like. Handle inequality in your own backyard first.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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being good in bed Posted: 9/17/2009 2:43:19 PM
He was probably gritting his teeth and plotting the quickest exit.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 12 (view)

You just turn your pretty head and walk away Posted: 9/17/2009 2:38:03 PM
If a man doesn't show sexual interest on the first date, I get red flags. The second date I start wondering things and if not by the third date, I am gone. A kiss should happen within the first few dates, if it is not heated and his body doesn't respond, why bother. If he doesn't look at me, "the look" ..and he doesn't touch or kiss me within the first few dates then he has hang ups and/or rules that I do not want any part of.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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being good in bed Posted: 9/17/2009 2:31:22 PM
It's the guys fault because you can be an animal in the sack to try to make up for this laziness and dead wood is still dead wood. If he cums fast and QUITS, also his fault. If it keeps falling out because he is doing some odd movement, also his fault. I can only guide someone so much before I complain. This is a stupid question, straight from the male ego. When women suck, we suck! It's our fault! I have sucked on purpose so it lasts longer or because I was mad at him, I knew I sucked and it wasn't his fault. The males penis pride crap is so silly. It is like saying "All men are fabulous in bed and when it doesn't go well, it was never the mans fault, it was a joint effort". Well that would be a lie. Same as that dead screw woman, who scrapped teeth, that you had last weekend ..took one to suck at it, not two.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 33 (view)

How many women would admit to this???? Posted: 9/17/2009 2:32:04 AM
I don't do it, but I probably get hurt more. It has nothing to do with "having respect for myself". I just have this odd thing where I can only like one man at a time, especially after sex. Do whatever you want! The guys who don't make time for you have it coming anyway.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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Why Its Hard Dating Posted: 9/15/2009 9:16:54 PM
That was so offensive and creepy. Men are turning into chicks more and more! I am so sorry real MEN (love ya!), I mean "men" are turning into chicks. What a freaking turn off. SOLUTION: Stick to your own kind if YOU WANT! That means rejecting labor workers if you are professional, and hell even rejecting professionals if you aren't.. I know I sure have! All it means if you do not have 34 horrible dates a month. You think there are not men for everyone? The professional women, the working class, the stay at home, the ones on disability and whatever else you can blame it on? We don't need to settle for anything. Different classes have different goals, thems the breaks. I make very little a year and I dislike professional men. Sometimes money is more important than sex to them it seems lol. And they bug me to do stuff I really don't want to do. I love my hard working, laid back men. BUT IF HE REQUESTED TO BE THE LADY IN THE RELATIONSHIP I WOULD FREAK OUT. I mean ewww dude, what was that??

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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Fives date, almost 3 months, soulmate in sight? Posted: 9/15/2009 8:44:42 PM
I don't believe in soul mates. But I do ignore most of the guys I write. I get mail in spurts and when it does come, it's a lot of it. They could have a fat head, which I CAN'T be attracted to, I've tried. They could have limitations on smoking but still messaged me. The could have went off the deep end complimenting my looks, looks don't keep a man around unless she is really hot and I am not. He has to like more.. He could have annoyed me or sounded a bit like he hates women.. It could be anything. But don't assume he has to be tall and handsome, I throw lots of those back too. And I sure as sh*t am not looking for "the one", so try not to assume that neither.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

Who put the pin in the balloon?! Posted: 9/15/2009 1:42:41 PM
I been there. Both with a guy with reverse Madonna syndrome (I WASN'T his ex wife) and too much coke. They handle it by blaming me and saying it needs stimulation (even if it was just in my mouth). And then telling me it hasn't happened before, pouting and jerking on it like they were trying to rip it off. Got that? Blame, deny, cry while jerking it like a monkey. That's the order... I hated those guys.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 32 (view)

Internet vs. real life Posted: 9/15/2009 12:39:13 AM
As a lady said before me, it is a deal breaker thing. I could talk to a guy in person and think we get along great and give him my number but sooner or later the fact he lives with mom, hates women, is unemployed, is just looking for "friends" and other crap I don't want to deal with will eventually surface.. Where as on a profile I can see most of that stuff, oh and so much more!, on a glance. I just saved myself weeks xD

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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when is it right Posted: 9/15/2009 12:24:06 AM
We already answered this! We said that you are intellectually stunted and talk like a teen. Why ask the same question expecting different results lol

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 26 (view)

what makes women feel insecure about themselves? Posted: 9/13/2009 10:09:34 PM
I can't change what I look like. So being bullied, rejected and other women in the picture makes me feel insecure. What do I do about it? Eliminate the source. That sounded like murder but I meant more like not subjecting myself to crappy people xD It is not media, or when I am alone. I could give myself a hug :D ..it is specific people only. I imagine if they showed my picture on T.V. and told everyone not to look like that, then I would feel insecure by media, wouldn't that be funny though? hehehe

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

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Long periods between contacts Posted: 9/13/2009 1:16:01 AM
Well one, he isn't into you. And two he is a butthead with no concern for your feelings. He disappears for two months then bothers you when you are tired? Then he ignored your text? Does he need to sky write it? The guy is a jerk and the only thing you did right was not sleep with him. Stop texting, calling or emailing. They are all the same. If you keep chasing this disinterested man you will have a lazy inconsiderate punk for a boyfriend and that's if you catch him at all!

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 203 (view)

why the prettier the woman, the worse she is in bed or giving head? Posted: 9/13/2009 1:11:05 AM
I can't believe MC hammers bullcrap post got people to reply for 9 pages xD

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 173 (view)

first date sex Posted: 9/12/2009 9:33:57 PM
Do you know what makes me laugh and laugh about those insecure guys who name call for having the same sex men have? The fact I could F*ck every single man in town, even the elderly, throw in some women even, I mean EVERYONE, 6 a day, sometimes 10 or 12 soreness permitting.. Then tell YOU that I want to wait and you would assume I am a lady. I will bat my Bambi eyes at you and tell you I haven't done this much. Move your hand away when you try to touch my bits. etc.. Waiting is nothing but a game and can be taken up by any one at any time xD ...GROW UP. OR I could have went so long without it and like you, so I have my needs met and I bet you liked it too, you slut! I wont call you the next day, I am an immature, insecure hypocrite. And props to the men who see the worth of the sexually charged female.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

Ive got big balls! Posted: 9/12/2009 10:22:08 AM
Wow athletic, you're cute.. I wonder what your balls look like. hahaha j/k, I don't care! or think like that. Men just think* I do or should.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 3 (view)

Ive got big balls! Posted: 9/12/2009 10:03:03 AM
Most women don't care about balls. But so many men think we do. I wouldn't even care if he had no balls. If the male body was made to have them inside his body instead of outside, I would not miss a thing. I do not know why men associate them with manhood and sexiness. Most women are about eyes, chest hair etc ..or at the very most, penis. If I touch balls it is for them, not me. I prefer them tight and not purple lol. But as I said, if men just had penis, I wouldn't complain.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 51 (view)

slow pokes Posted: 9/12/2009 9:48:08 AM
I hate when someone tells me they ain't into me to my face. Their huge assed ego on them. How do they know I am into them? If they are uptight and planning to drop bombs on me, I am probably not liking them either. You are LUCKY they go silent. Keep doing that to people and you will get what you deserve. A man laughing in your face and telling you what is so much more wrong with YOU. Most people don't expect everyone to be into them and can easily tell the difference without having to hurt their feelings. It is just wrong and I consider those guys and dates that shot me down to my face (two of them), the dates that make me SCARED of trying again! Not the ones where he disappeared after, not the ones that were weird or seemed a touch dangerous.. But the ones with the huge ego that thinks they are so much better than you that they have to TELL you while you are trying to chew! Good luck swallowing your french fry after that!

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 9 (view)

First Dates--what gives? Posted: 9/12/2009 9:27:30 AM
Not a bed and breakfast? What was it he was against? The sex part, the you sleeping over part or him having to feed you? What a turn off x3. As if you were wanting to jump his bones anyway, sounds like he rambled and you tried to make sense of everything. Prince Charming. Some men on here make it obvious why they are thrown back into the pond :P

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 25 (view)

A little scared, I think I have contacted a weirdo Posted: 9/12/2009 9:04:00 AM
I just read the comments. I need to learn to do that FIRST lol. In this instance it sounds like I copied 4 people almost word for word. But rest assured, I didn't. That is my real opinion and everyone else seeing it too means you should probably be ashamed of yourself.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 24 (view)

A little scared, I think I have contacted a weirdo Posted: 9/12/2009 8:54:37 AM
If a guy said he was getting a hair cut like plenty of fish, I would ask what the heck that meant too. I think you read WAY too much into that one dude. I would assume you meant like your picture but since that is a weird thing to say I'd have to ask. Maybe you have a weird feathered style that you call "plenty of fish" how should I know lol All she said was an innocent comment and you did her wrong. Standing her up and ignoring her. I know who the weirdo is, or at least the jerk hehehe :P That was not very strong of character.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 3 (view)

Self concious of being on top Posted: 9/12/2009 8:03:52 AM
I think I suck too. Too many men have complained about other women grinding it and how it hurts, so I do this awkward straight up and down crap that feels terrible and I never was able to learn how to do it for me. So I just rarely do it. :P I show him how awkward and uncomfortable it is, then we do something else.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 11 (view)

Ladies… have you ever just asked for IT Posted: 9/11/2009 7:54:46 PM
That's right Candid and you are neither boring or "unsexy". Some men are just chickens and/or chick like. Some have no libido. Just run! Cuddling is for after. Maybe xD But I'd rather just do it again. And if there is no T.V. where he wants to cuddle, I will wander off quicker than cattle in spring time :P

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 8 (view)

Ladies… have you ever just asked for IT Posted: 9/11/2009 5:15:49 PM
Remember I said I'd never make a move on a guy that didn't say I was attractive. I can tell if he has some chemistry with me. But thanks for the lovely compliment. No one has ever called me boring or "unsexy", and I have known some real jerks. Why would I try with someone who sees me so unclear and no negatively. I wouldn't.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 3 (view)

Ladies… have you ever just asked for IT Posted: 9/11/2009 4:17:57 PM
I try to bust a move lol. If that don't work I will ask. I have never tried to put the moves on a guy who doesn't tell me I am attractive but still I have been shot down once or twice. There are a few men out there that are afraid of sex and/or get massively creeped by an assertive woman. Wanting to wait because he is unsure I am "the one" is just code for fear. And it bothers me because I do not believe there is ONE person for you. And if there is, I am certainly not it. I remember saying things that I never thought I'd say, like "It's just sex dude! Will you relax?!?". The role reversal is weird and leaves both of us not respecting either side. What can I say, when I want it, I gots to have it. I have never been a fan of slow. There is no point to it. It keeps cavemen interested longer? Pffft! to that. I'd rather have my man enlightened and liking the pleasure we provide each other. A man for me can't wait, he doesn't want to, doesn't need to and doesn't have time to respect me in the morning because we are back at it lol That does not imply I have had a lot of partners. I am so picky that when I do actual like someone, I do not want to play games. I haven't had any for months, my next guy I like is in for it ;) ...if that makes him bail, it is better to find out he is a slave to hormones and does not see me for how wonderful I am NOW. I have no desire to withhold sex to "prove" I am great. He should already know.

erinlove

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 21 (view)

Is there a way to explain it to kids? Posted: 9/11/2009 3:59:07 PM
I don't recommend the drawing. Or you might get weird calls from the school about your kid drawing porn. Good luck explaining that one lmao.

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