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bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 27 (view)

strange situation Posted: 1/28/2009 8:28:54 AM
Unless this is exactly the kind of relationship you want, leave him! You shouldn't even have to ask this prestigious panel, just move on to someone that makes you happy.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

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What is he playing at???? Posted: 1/26/2009 9:21:55 AM
We don't even know if he showed up to the original date either. Sounds like these two ships passing in the night are just that. Maybe you're better off looking for icebergs, a dictionary and a speech coach.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

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Do I Stand a Chance? because I don't want to change! Posted: 1/26/2009 9:13:15 AM
I'm going to go with the personal preferrence answer on this one. I would just rather hold a smaller girl. There are plenty of guys that like the big girls. I know my brother prefers it over the thinner ones. Sorry though, he's married.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

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What Would You if Your Friend Wants To Reveal Their Affair To Their Lover's Family? Posted: 1/23/2009 12:53:47 PM
I don't know ANY woman that would let this go on for a year or two, let alone 8 years! He obviously hasn't been helping her out at all financially, hasn't been a father to that little girl for 6 years already and your poor friend has lost 8 years of her youth. She should walk away and start enjoying life for herself and her daughter and quit being a convenient toy. I think she was looking for someone to tell her it's ok to ruin everybody elses life so she doesn't have to suffer alone. She'll suffer whether she reaches out to the family or not. Just let the baliff notify the family with court papers for support.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 216 (view)

Would you let someone you met on POF read all your messages to other people? Posted: 1/22/2009 11:34:20 AM
I got as far as message 12 and I'm starting to think it's the OP that wants to do the reading and his significant other that needs to see the red flags.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 49 (view)

When your on a break and your partner sleeps with someone else. Posted: 1/22/2009 11:26:54 AM
Try the guy version of this; "I was just making sure my feelings for you were real!" Maybe she was just making sure you were the one for her by sleeping with him. It was a him right?

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 169 (view)

Do you believe a woman when she says ... Posted: 1/20/2009 5:12:50 PM
They're gonna slaughter you!

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 12 (view)

What if you met the woman of your dreams? Posted: 1/20/2009 4:58:02 PM
Why do women think about marriage before they even meet the guy?

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

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She says i got spooked and need to step back.... Posted: 1/20/2009 4:48:43 PM
Do you have any little bald headed cousins that play the banjo?

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 41 (view)

The pictures on the wall Posted: 1/20/2009 4:46:33 PM
I think it's a reflection of how they view women; as things to look at, show off and collect.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

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Is it possible to have feelings for someone you've only talked to? Posted: 1/20/2009 4:42:56 PM
I'm willing to bet YOU just told her.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 116 (view)

Do guys really want to be in a relationship??? Posted: 1/20/2009 4:41:13 PM
I would love to find the right woman. I won't hang around out of guilt or if it feels just ok. I lost 16 years because I got married to someone I didn't love. I have great kids out of it, so well worth the time, but relationship wise it wasn't fair to my ex. Be glad he realized it wasn't right and set you free.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 69 (view)

why do people stay on POF after meeting someone? Posted: 1/20/2009 4:35:58 PM
I eliminate my profile as soon as I see someone a few times and want to give it a fair chance. It doesn't mean I'm committing myself to that person, but I'm eliminating the outside distractions.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 467 (view)

do guys like the smell of a woman's natural vagina? Posted: 1/19/2009 3:30:40 PM
Fishy????????

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

Msg: 18 (view)

What are you looking for? Posted: 1/19/2009 2:55:00 PM
Well Raiderfan, I guess you honestly wouldn't be for me. To answer your question, no. I don't want someone to tell me what to say or write. I was looking for more of what you expect to read in a profile. What about that guy is important to you? What about me should be included in it? A lttle bit of it was lashing out as well at the superficial and judgemental.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

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What are you looking for? Posted: 1/19/2009 2:14:01 PM
Thanks Scooby. Something quick and witty sounds like the plan. Mixed signals from the board though. Some profiles say they want to read something about the guy and the consensus here is that the more you say the less interest you'll have. Sorry I bored some of you, but your responses still answered the question.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

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What are you looking for? Posted: 1/19/2009 2:04:37 PM
Rough crowd! I guess if it was that simple I wouldn't have asked. I was actually asking the ladies.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

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What are you looking for? Posted: 1/19/2009 1:59:11 PM
I don't think that men know what you're thinking and what will get your attention. That's why I was asking.

bentwood216

Joined: 11/30/2008

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What are you looking for? Posted: 1/19/2009 1:51:48 PM
What is it you're looking for? What do you think about when you look at a profile picture and read the words? Is it how you will look when you walk into the room with this person? Do you wonder how you will look nestled together on the couch watching a movie? Is his hair not long enough or not short enough, his skin not dark enough or his arms not big enough? What will your mother, your brother, your sister or your dad say about him? What will your friends say about what he does for a living or how much money he makes? Is his car withing 4 years old or in the right class? Does he own his home or rent a little apartment? Does he have a savings account? Does his degree match or exceed yours? How about that first email? Did he captivate you with his copy and paste lines? You know the ones; the same thing he sent to the last 25 of the prettiest women on POF, 25 on Match and 25 on Yahoo. He might have even hit two or three of your profiles without knowing, because he can't keep up with his own internet melee. What does his profile say? Does it say what he thinks most of you want to hear? Does he tell you he doesn't need drama, because most women say they don't want drama, so maybe if he says it you'll click? Maybe he doesn't say anything at all in his profile because he's out there living it and his life is such a ball of entertainment that he doesn't have time to write something about himself. Aren't we all out there living it? Whatever it is. We're not all members of the writers guild so we can't all have the great one liners like Dylan's answering machine; "It's Dylan, you know the drill." Who didn't want to be that guy? Of course we all want to be with the prettiest girl, and the first thing we do is check out all the pretty pictures. Then what? Does a guy read your profile, and if he does, why does he read it? Does he want to know about you and see if you're going to meld with him? Does he look for key words that stick out and use them in his email to look like he cares? Does he look to see if you say you're definitely not going to sleep with someone on a first date? Does he read it to see if you're educated or in some instances a complete illiterate? Are you cheerful or ****ing already? Do you drink or smoke? Outside of having way too many options, I don't see the benefit of internet dating. I try to come up with something original with each email, something more personal to what I've just read. I try to not shop 15 women at once and see what happens with the last email I sent out. I don't know what you're looking for though. I'm just a guy. I happen to like going to the bar and having a beer with just the bartender if that's all that's there. I can sit in a room and not speak to someone or have to have them speak to me for longer that a minute and not be uncomfortable. I can drive in the car with no radio and not notice until I get where I'm going. I can also crank the same song 8 times and think it kicks ass every time it starts over. I have seen porn and I think I like it? I wish I had a motorcycle but feel too responsible to buy one just yet. I go to work everyday and like my job. I don't make a lot of money. I have kids that I love and an ex-wife that can be a pain in the ass or just my kids mom, but that has nothing to do with who I date. I can be alone and not be lonely and I can be in a crowded room and feel completely isolated and lonely. I like watching people and observing how they interact with each other. I like watching how they can be so fake toward each other and the other buying it hook, line and sinker. They're too busy being a fake to notice how fake the person they're talking to is. I'm not going to feed you full of bullshit just because I ran out of things to say to impress you. Is life and love supposed to be as hard as the internet makes it? Are you here to meet someone you can genuinely get along with or are you another one taking resumes and looking for something superficial? I'm happy with who I am and I guess it would suck to do the next 40 by myself, but I'd rather that than end up with someone I don't like because they look good on my arm or impress everyone I know. I'm a great guy and I hope I impress everybody I know already. I hope I impress them with being their friend, their brother, their son or their father. I hope the people that work for me are impressed with what we do as a team and how I treat them. I hope my grandmother is proud of me. I'm glad I'm not addicted to drugs. I'm glad I don't cut myself in the closet. I'm glad I don't talk to myself too much! I'm glad I'm not dying of cancer or dating a pisces. But what are you looking for?

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