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 Author Thread: Are things THAT bad?
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Are things THAT bad?
Posted: 11/18/2009 1:06:10 PM

I've heard from a few of you about the quality of males on this site, and it has led to some of you to leave POF.

Then how could you have heard from them, and how could they be reading this?

vvv That's true. Or maybe they left after they complained to him about it. Hmm. Maybe he handles the exit interviews.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
What do I do?
Posted: 11/18/2009 8:27:54 AM
1. Use professional resources to work directly on your depression. It will help other stuff fall into place.

2. Stop calling yourself a whiny teenager. You don't qualify anymore. From now on, you're an angsty twenty-something.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Foreplay or Actual sex - what is more exciting to you?
Posted: 11/10/2009 3:09:38 PM
Cum from the kinds of activities that are usually called foreplay et voilà--it's actual sex!
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Do Women Really Play Matchmaker?
Posted: 10/27/2009 1:19:00 PM

I even saw this in an episode of "Seinfeld".

Then it's true!

As you know, OP, matchmaking is a time-honored tradition in your heritage and mine. Serious matchmakers have been working on a match for me since I was two. Back then, it was some kind of adult activity that seemed to be going on around me; but now that I'm an adult, my own peers have taken up the cause. And I, of course, have taken up the cause for them too.

But this isn't what you're actually asking about. You're talking about women who tell their friends what they're looking for, spread the word that they're in the market, and ask for help. The kind of matchmaking I'm talking about is definitely unsolicited. It can be annoying, but if you take it in the spirit it's given in, it can be amusing.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
he took me for granted...too long...I said its over...will he think?
Posted: 10/26/2009 7:14:27 AM
You got lots of advice two months ago and didn't reply to it or give the people who put an effort into it any sign that you even read it. You aren't interested in solving this or moving forward. But consider this: How will your children respect you for this kind of wishy-washyness?
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What is the best way to start a co-ed friendship ?
Posted: 10/22/2009 2:53:51 PM

wow, that was all I was missing this whole time? LOL No really Im not 17 Hi doesnt cut it when so many women are gun shy about a$$hole men. I get along better with women than I do with guys. So I mean think to yourself and you tell me (with a lil more detail please) what a 31 year old man that isnt Brad Pitt but not quite the elephant man could say to you to get you to just talk to him ?

You're right. I left out the part about smiling when you say hi.

And really, I was just trying in my own significantly-but-not-hugely-older-than-17 way to make the point that it doesn't have to be complicated and you don't have to over-think it. Get out into social situations and activities that you're interested in and keep the pressure off yourself and don't think dating, and things will fall into place.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
What is the best way to start a co-ed friendship ?
Posted: 10/22/2009 2:39:28 PM

What is the best way to start a co-ed friendship?

"Hi."
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Phone etiquette
Posted: 10/17/2009 5:34:48 PM
OP, you're missing a step. Between the second and third calls, that's when you send a picture of your penis to her phone.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
I think my teen daughter is gay..
Posted: 10/14/2009 8:40:15 PM
I think myne daughter is or unless she was trying new things but I think it was just pressure because I coughter her before when I came home early one day from work.

I herd some noises from her bed room when I looked throw the crack of the door way to her room I seen my friend who lived next door to use was 30 years old then my daughter who was 19 at the time I seen my friend undresing my daughter until she was naked she was nervice when she was starting to lick my daughters vagina because she was VERY SHY at it was was breathing hard and placed her on the bed but 15 min latter all I herd was my daughter screaming out LOUD with her bed hitting up agenst the wall hard what was loud and was hard not to notice in the house.

What was happing she had my daughter on her hands and knees on her bed
getting her in the bum pretty good on the bed I did not want to say anything to her because I wanted her to explore what she wanted to explore.
So when I was done doing other things in the house when I got back to her room she was in laying on her back with this partner just rubbing her vagina and was just licking her feet and kissing her.

I did not say anything to her because it was her life and what she dose and wants is all up to her but I did have a chat with our friend next door and I did tell her not to come in my house when I was not home NEVER or I was going to call the police to inforce my rule in my home.

She was nervice but it never happen again.

1. I assume this is copy-and-paste porn.

2. You are not a doctor.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Virginity keep it or blow it???
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:10:24 PM
Answer 1: Wait a minute--there is something in between one person in the name of love and playing the field.

Answer 2: 32?
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Should People in a Comitted Relationship Share there things with each other
Posted: 10/13/2009 8:01:48 PM
Whatever--they'll work it out in the palimony settlement.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/13/2009 6:19:55 PM
Yeah, that refractory phase can hit some guys pretty hard.

But don't worry--a slobbery, sweaty, puffy guy flopped in a heap looking uncomfortable about what he's just done seems less attractive too.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
He's banged his open-relationship roomie....
Posted: 10/13/2009 2:10:40 PM
should I even bother with this mess?

No. Two months is nothing. You don't have anything invested in him.

You will get more "no" votes. You will dismiss them. You will bother with this mess. Deeply. You will get more attention from starting threads with further chapters in this drama.


Edit: Btw, I'm basing my "no" vote on the guy, not the girl. He sounds pretty weak--easily taken advantage of. (Stuff like lending them money is a bad sign in this situation.) We might be seeing him starting a nice-guy thread. The only wimpier guy in this story is the husband.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Shy guys...why is it so difficult to start talking
Posted: 10/12/2009 1:48:55 PM

I love to talk but I can never overcome the nerveosness that I am going to say something dumb or just throw out the worst joke ever.

Shy people do self-monitor a lot, and they sometimes tend to "catastrophize" in combination with that. So yeah, they stress from watching themselves be on the verge of imagined disaster.

My humble (or whatever) advice: Work on your shyness in general, not just the ability to target pretty girls. Work on the bigger issue, and your comfort with girls will fall into place as a natural part of that.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
why do the little things make such a big difference????
Posted: 10/12/2009 1:08:25 PM
In your profile, you say you're easy to get along with, but a little thing like this made such a big difference to you. I don't think we can know why it did, but if you aspire to be easy to get along with, open minded, and other things in your profile, this is something you might want to look inward and explore.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
For our Northern friends
Posted: 10/9/2009 6:03:57 PM
Sorry for the unclarity. I was just quoting. It isn't my birthday too.


And I forgot earlier: Happy Thanksgiving to the country on top.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
For our Northern friends
Posted: 10/9/2009 2:11:57 PM

Happy Birthday to me!

Happy Birthday!
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Driving me nuts!
Posted: 10/9/2009 1:37:30 PM
What I'm hearing is taking and no giving. It's more black and white than you realize.


vvv The way you've been talking about this relationship is selfish. It's all about how she treats you. It isn't just about sex--it sounds like you don't give her anything in this relationship. You let her treat you well. We're supposed to be impressed with that?
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Driving me nuts!
Posted: 10/9/2009 1:31:47 PM
She treats you like a king. What is she getting in return? Not intimacy, apparently. Sounds like she has a pointless crush on your or something. And you call this a relationship? All that's keeping you there is you're worried that you won't find somebody else who will treat you like a king. She should have dumped you over a year ago, so how about if you stop stringing her along.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
What to do when you meet an amazing man that is commitment phobic!
Posted: 10/9/2009 1:15:35 PM
Such a cynical opinion about relationships doesn't exist totally on its own. It kind of contradicts the thoughtful, gentleman, sensitive, mature, wonderful soul, and stuff. Dig deeper--you'll find the unamazing part I'm sure.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Do i stick with it for the kids
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:49:07 AM
By security you mean money. Are there child support laws in Ireland?

Next question: If he's promising to try harder, why do you seem so sure that the relationship will still be cold?
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Friends with benefits
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:21:00 AM
What are the benefits you have in mind?
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
She Doesn't Want a Relationship, BUT....
Posted: 10/7/2009 2:46:09 PM
Forget the labels. Stop dating anybody else. Sheesh you fvck her every 2.8 days, how much more do you need? Just focus on what you have for a while. It's only been two weeks. Other fish out there can wait while you give this one a little time.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Is our society much more selfish than at any other time in history?
Posted: 10/6/2009 2:38:47 PM
Throwing in that part about children having so many issues made me laugh. Archaeologists found five thousand year old clay tablets with laments about how kids don't listen to their parents, and other stuff that sounds totally familiar. In fact, it would be impossible to find older writings like that, 'cause that's when writing was invented. So the "kids these days" cliche is literally as old as history.

That's just one example of how taking the long view can really put worries about things being worse than ever in perspective.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Should I Buy A Gift?
Posted: 10/5/2009 9:52:44 AM
If she can't move to Colorado like she wants, why rub it in? So instead of that, what about this hike you're going on? Is it a sponsored event or something? Maybe there's a t-shirt for it you can get her.

By the way, in my humble (*snort* I can't say that word without snickering) opinion, you're in the friend zone.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Credit card rejected on first date.
Posted: 10/4/2009 1:49:05 PM
You have "rich" in your name and you have one credit card. You just blew your cover.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Do you like me?
Posted: 10/2/2009 4:48:14 PM
A guy who would send a note like that would be pretty stunted about human interaction. You don't "like" somebody you see across the room. "Interested in walking across the room and meeting" maybe, but not "like." I think people stop thinking about it in those terms by about age 4. And passing "circle one" notes like that is for about 11-year-olds.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
acting feminine
Posted: 9/29/2009 9:25:00 AM
Your question is in two parts. First you ask a general question, but then you turn it into a question that's really about you. You're saying that you are both feminine and manly, and you want to know if women would date you with that in mind.

But your question doesn't really apply to you. You aren't both feminine and manly. Watching sports doesn't make you manly. In fact, I don't see anything in your post or your profile that makes you manly. The other stuff in your post doesn't really make you feminine either--the whole thing is just a bunch of stereotyping.

Get over the stereotyping, and especially stop applying it to yourself. You'll have a lot less to worry about.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
How do you react....
Posted: 9/27/2009 12:48:29 PM
To me, a guy bragging about his size is so boring that I almost never bothered to find out for myself. Honestly, it's just a turnoff. Bragging isn't the same as confidence.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
How did you lose your first love?
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:01:56 AM
OP, your post is nonsense, but you did ask a question. My answer: she moved away and promised to keep in lots of contact but didn't.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
belly button kissing and licking
Posted: 9/27/2009 9:57:00 AM

to everyone, i wasn't actually going to do it you bunch of silly nuckle heads, well until i actually start to have sex, i was just curious to what you all thought about it.

I'm guessing this has been a masturbation fantasy of yours, and you were trolling for some feedback and stories, etc., to help with that.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
belly button kissing and licking
Posted: 9/26/2009 10:41:10 PM

do you like it on a first or second date and beyond, if a guy raises your shirt up and kisses and licks your belly button?

Like, suddenly?
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
stumped ???
Posted: 9/24/2009 4:32:37 PM

i know the must have nice shoes was not a joke or sarcasm

I think it was, and I don't see how you could know it wasn't.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What hobbies are turn-offs?
Posted: 9/24/2009 1:26:13 PM
It's a little disappointing that reading has gotten to the level of "maladjusted," "not cool enough," etc. So I'll answer with this: The first bad sign is when a guy isn't confident about his own hobbies.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
honestly confused about a profile
Posted: 9/24/2009 1:22:55 PM
Short answer: You're overthinking for yourself on this one.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
When is too soon?
Posted: 9/22/2009 10:14:56 AM
Ugh. Don't ask a girl if she wants to hang out sometime maybe. Be specific. Suggest a specific time, place, and activity. It's a date. It's called that 'cause it's on a specific date, see what I mean?
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Flowers, Chocolates and other cliche gifts.
Posted: 9/21/2009 5:19:06 PM
Not even on Valentine's Day? There's a difference between not filling a provider role and being a slob.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Female Paranoia Around Men
Posted: 9/21/2009 5:03:38 PM
A drunk woman accused you, and that's one of the examples you're using to make a whole social commentary? Get a grip. Not every clumsy or weird incident qualifies as sociological research.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
SUGGESTION: Sexual Orientation Checkbox
Posted: 9/21/2009 4:45:48 PM
A scammer who currently says "woman seeking women" could just as easily choose "lesbian" in the checkbox. How would that help filter out the scammers?
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Girls and Cars
Posted: 9/17/2009 8:40:16 PM

Just wondering who on here work on their cars, what you have and what you've done to it!

I just got an '83 Jeep. I washed it.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Ever Heard This One?
Posted: 9/17/2009 7:53:31 PM
Self-promotion much?
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
I am curious to know
Posted: 9/17/2009 1:12:30 PM
*snicker* The woman can easily be the superior partner even if the man is employed.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
A Dangerous Perspective
Posted: 9/17/2009 11:10:03 AM
My thoughts: Given your profile as context, your post is self-justification. Most of us here will not help you rationalize adultery.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
How much does the guys job matter?
Posted: 9/16/2009 11:07:32 PM
Hey--I volunteered at the zoo. I shoveled elephant dung for free.

Anyway, it isn't the job, it's the guy's attitude about his work. A date sitting there listening to the guy complain about his job is a total downer. But a guy who's into his work and gets excited about it and has stories to tell--I'm there.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
is she into me
Posted: 9/16/2009 9:21:54 PM
Fair enough. If she showed that she was reluctant, then you--as a gentleman--would put the camera back down and smile and say no problem. But you kept going and made her squirm instead.

I stand by my assessment, though maybe I would change "stupid question" to simply "wrong question."
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
is she into me
Posted: 9/16/2009 9:11:21 PM
She: Went on a houseboat trip with a guy and not you.

You: Spied on her by looking in her camera.

"Is she into me"--I don't mean this personally, but I do mean it frankly--is a stupid question.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
POF isn't helping me at all lol
Posted: 9/11/2009 4:30:33 PM
lol


I've had way better success with women in real life than I have on this site.


I'm sick of approaching women in real life only to find out after a date or two that they are not my type at all

lol.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
I need mature advice on restarting a relationship.
Posted: 9/11/2009 3:25:45 PM
This man was with that other woman from his past, but when things weren't working out with her, he reopened the contact with you to cheat on her by having sex with you. You declined, but I think that was the moment he gave away how he operates in relationships.

I vote no.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
is it possible to fathom that a guy wants sex AND a relationship?
Posted: 9/10/2009 2:23:44 PM

after a guy blows his load he's more uh, focused on the girl? isnt as worried about trying to get something and is more able to be himself and what not.

So my reward for letting a guy blow his load is that he finally turns into a person? How motivating.
 azalea7
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Please Help! I'm lost
Posted: 9/9/2009 8:46:51 PM

I have no idea what to do? I likea girl that I go to class with, but shes hated by all class mates, and my friends especially, what should I do? I dont wanna take a chance, if shes gonna blow me off, and ruin my friendships.

Be the rebel.
 
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