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pee Posted: 11/23/2009 10:39:19 AM
I suggest laying some newspaper on the floor..Just might save the sheets...

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He's still fishing after dating for 4 months... Posted: 11/22/2009 12:31:07 PM
I have two things to comment on here - the first is: "...calls me (and has practically since the beginning) every single morning and every single evening..." I'm stepping out on limb but think that sometimes too much of a good thing isn't always that good. This sounds like a trust or needy issue on either the part of the OP or the guy or both -I mean how much can two people talk about twice a day for 4 months ...Seems like there would be much less to talk about when they're together. This is whole other topic - I might post it and see where it goes. .."he says "I love you" (which in "male" may translate to "keep having sex with me...") I live on both coasts and notice a totally different attitude when it comes to saying "Love". On the west coast it is used much more freely versus the east coast where its hardly ever said. Again this raises another question - splitting hairs, is it possible to express that you love someone versus being in love with someone and how can one express that. Hopefully and why most people are here, the idea stands that it will be both - especially if intimacy is involved. I have to believe the circumstances surrounding WHERE and WHEN it was said has alot to do with how it should be taken. When said laying next to each other in bed surely could have a different meaning versus over the telephone, in a text, or in chat? I've come to love some people in my life, but they aren't the one. I have no problem expressing that I love them nonetheless. I would hate to think I'm sending the wrong messege by telling someone I love them for the "other" reason...

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New Fish, Please Read Posted: 11/18/2009 1:42:54 PM
#1004 - Be sure to offer the explanations you used that caused the loss of your last 3 jobs. 1.) You drank yourself sick 2.) You ate yourself sick 3.) The internet said you have the swine flu.

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WHATS THE WORST DATE YOU HAD ON POF Posted: 11/18/2009 10:03:22 AM
I was saving this for a book, but what the hell ... We agree to meet for coffee - She's shows up extremely drunk stumbling out of her car-and says "darlin' sorry about the photos I sent, they were taken 15 years ago" - like I couldn't tell. We met at a diner, go in for about 2 hours, I figure I better put some coffee in her and make an attempt to sober her up. She rambled on about blowing 2 paychecks at a casino, having no money and no gas to get home. We leave the diner together, I follow her across the street to a gas station and put $20.00 of gas in her car. She say, " I forget how to get home" - about 15 miles away. I say, "follow me I'l l get you to a straight road and you should be ok from there." I drive about 3/4 of the way she follows, then I drive off with a wave. Next day I get a text, "I made it home"..I was relieved. I reply, "Glad to you got home"..Over the following 3 days she texts 157 times saying she's in love with me. How did she remember I wonder. I don't respond. Had to call the cell carrier and have her calls blocked...

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Blast from the past - Ex's Posted: 11/18/2009 9:47:18 AM
DontDateHimGirl.com ...next stop, datability type FICO score...

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Maroni's Sauce and Meatballs Posted: 11/17/2009 11:57:14 PM
Having done alot traveling and growing up in an Italian family I thought for anyone who strives to make the best spaghetti sauce they ever had - this is certainly in my top 2 if not my favorite..... Here's how I came about it .....Celebrity chef Bobby Flay recently challenged Northport’s Long Island;s Michael Maroni, of Maroni Cuisine to a meatball throwdown challenge which aired on the Food Network. Maroni beat Bobby Flay hands down amoung the dinner guests. I have since eaten at Maroni's and they served one of the absolutely best meals I ever experienced. I have tried this recipie several times myself and now have it perfected. It's simple but will amaze you, that's all I can say. Hope you enjoy if you try, make sure you have lots of bread !! Mangiare bene .... --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Maroni Sauce Serves: 10 to 12 Ingredients: 6 ounces good olive oil, not extra-virgin 12 cloves garlic, finely sliced (if regular garlic is too strong for you use elephant - but you really won't taste the real stuff thought - trust me :) ) 1 large or 2 medium Spanish onions, finely diced 2 (28-ounce) cans imported crushed tomatoes 1 teaspoon salt 1/2 teaspoon white or black pepper 1 large handful julienned fresh basil leaves Directions: In a medium saucepan over medium heat, add oil. Once heated add the finely sliced garlic and onions to the pan. Cook over medium heat until soft and slightly brown. Next add the canned crushed tomatoes ( preferably an italian brand), salt and pepper and stir. Allow the sauce to come to a simmer and cook for 20 minutes. Remove from the heat and add the julienned basil. (I use a Russell Hobbs 4 qt. pressure cooker that works wonders) --------------------------------------- Maroni's Meatballs - 100 Year Old Recipe Serves: 8 to 10 servings Ingredients: 1 pound ground chuck 4 ounces dried bread crumbs 4 large eggs 4 ounces whole milk 6 ounces grated Pecorino Romano 3 ounces grated Spanish onion 2 ounces finely diced fresh garlic 2 ounces finely chopped fresh Italian parsley leaves 2 ounces finely chopped fresh basil leaves Directions: Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Spray a baking sheet with olive oil cooking spray. Mix all ingredients thoroughly in large bowl. If mixture seems a little loose add more bread crumbs. Roll meatballs loosely about the size of a golf ball and place on baking sheet. Place into preheated oven for approximately 35 to 40 minutes...

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Hitting On Someone Elses BF/GF Posted: 11/17/2009 11:32:50 PM
I read something in a post where this guy said he has hit on girls in front of their boyfriends. To me there are some lines that people just don't cross - an unwritten rule so to speak and classless. Has this happend to you and if so, how did you respond. Is another persons BF/GF fair game when they are out together?

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Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/17/2009 12:57:12 PM
Splendere wrote in Msg: 306 - I’ m sorry you’ve not realized, given your age, that most of these other mammals are not thinkers nor do they have a conscience. We humans are rather unique in that way. Though I can see your argument when excusing infidelity. “But honey, our kitty, our doggy is not faithful, how can you expect me to be?... My point was one of integration/disassociation between conscience and biology - pretty simple. I'm guessing the 3% of mammals I mentioned that do mate for life didn't do so under the pretense of a DeBeers, Lexus, Tiffanys, or Rolex .. It's quite obvious you missed that by running right to the gutter singing the infidelity manifesto. That happens in the world of the chronically dissatisfied - btching for the sake of btching, little else. BTW, my dogs puked when they read your post...I just might join them..

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Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/14/2009 3:18:23 PM
Of the 5,400 or so mammal species, only 3% of them mate for life - humans aren't one of them. Needless to say, with several hundred thousand years of biology working against the premise of marriage, its a small wonder that someone ever gets married let alone stays married.

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Dating a Transsexual / Transgender Person Posted: 11/14/2009 9:29:18 AM
A lot of them truly ARE "lesbians trapped in a man's body". Technically str8 men are lesbians trapped in a man's body.. Giving equal consideration, some wear the horns, some don't ....

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Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/14/2009 9:00:01 AM
Food for thought.......I love the wedding ritual part. The Huli people, who dwell in a certain region of Papua New Guinea called Jogoi, of the southwest Pacific have this custom... Marriages may be arranged, but couples may also choose to marry each other. The bride's family receives a dowry, usually paid in pigs or other native livestock. The groom is responsible for building a house for his bride. After marriage, the wife's role is to raise children and care for them, tend her garden, and raise her pigs. Boys will usually leave their mother's house around age 10 to live with their father. ---> The wedding ritual involves an exchange of coconuts between the perspective couple as a symbol of their vow to each other. Divorce is not common, but as custom has it, when one person wishes to end the union, they take a machete, smash their coconut in public view to signify an ending of the marriage - their availability to other suitors. Upon divorce, the husband will attempt to regain the pigs paid to the wife's family at the time of marriage. Paper for the coconut - if life were only that simple ...............

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The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover? Posted: 11/14/2009 2:23:49 AM
I know there's a blonde joke or confucianism in here - somewhere, but it's escaping me ...

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Astounded by the amt of perverts on here... Posted: 11/13/2009 8:51:34 AM
I got called a Pagan out of nowhere once..Not sure what that was all about...lol

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Disclosing certain information Posted: 11/13/2009 7:20:38 AM
what would be the best way to explain the reason for my marriage breakup Think about the tale of two people, which one attracts you most: Potential Partner #1 - Was married for six and a half years, left their ex because of violent and abusive behavior. States they believe the ex was either bipolar, or manic depressive, or both, but refused to get help - got to a point where they couldn't cope with them and their behaviour anymore. Started a court battle... Potential Partner #2 - Spends time at church, has a good life , got qualifications, been working, looking to start their own business. Friends say they look younger and sexier than before. ------------------- Too much information - the best way to move on is to leave the past in the dust, unless of course you still have the need to talk about the 6 1/2 years. You have the opportunity for a fresh start all by your design - use it that way. The dealbreaker will be the persistence in wanting to talk about a broken marriage, what caused it ..imo. A simple, people sometimes just grow apart explanation - is one we all pretty much understand - then its clear sailing OP. Otherwise you might attract misery loves company - drama will feed off drama if you allow it - that's your choice now. If your looking for a sympathy party, you have the right story - but again its your choice where you want to go. Someone who is truly interested in you will look at where you're going not where you've been. If your really over what happened - ready to move on, thats speaks closure to me. Avoid the temptation to position yourself to justify future failure by overstating your past, it's a natural defense mechanism by someone coming from your previous situation- failure does happen in the dating environment - be prepared for it - it won't always be your fault. Err on the side of positive now that you have it - it will serve you better.....

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How do you tell if you're a victim of Racism? Posted: 11/10/2009 3:32:39 PM
I know racism when I hear it ....

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Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating? Posted: 11/10/2009 3:03:05 PM
^^^^^^^ Cloud you rock ... adding chronically dissatisfied to the list...

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Is she too young for me? Posted: 11/10/2009 2:46:08 PM
I wouldn't mix business with - well, ya know .... On the other hand, you can sit here experiencing the joy of exchanging 100 emails -then meet for coffee.

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Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating? Posted: 11/10/2009 1:55:47 PM
If anything, what I've gotten out of the forums is - I now know why so many people are single.

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Do men realy think that blonds are more attractive? Posted: 11/7/2009 11:06:40 AM
Honestly, how often do the sheets really match the curtains?

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People With No Conversation Skills Posted: 11/4/2009 2:52:52 PM
huh...................?

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Did I do the right thing in telling... Posted: 11/3/2009 2:28:33 PM
You two girls do the following.: Each of you play the role on your own, independently and separately, leading him onto a RL meeting. When either of you makes an appointment with him ( date, place hour), you go there and you both show up... then laugh hard in his face and think up something to tell him to make him feel like crap . Two wrongs don't make a right. Any other brilliant suggestions?

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Did I do the right thing in telling... Posted: 11/2/2009 5:10:57 PM
Last time I saw courting behavior this mundane was at the zoo - separated by cages.

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Still friends? Should they be? Posted: 11/1/2009 1:29:33 AM
I think guy and girl are text/im friends, which we know are imaginary ones made up in our internet lives - and different from our real friends. I seriously doubt girl sat there for 4 months watching life pass by, hanging on every moment for guy to text/im her about meeting again.

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Let's take a walk in the woods Posted: 11/1/2009 1:10:29 AM
Think of the old Elmer Fudd saying "2 go out but only one comes back". Or maybe 2 go out and 3 come back? ....

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Did I do the right thing in telling... Posted: 11/1/2009 12:34:42 AM
Texts and emails are the demise of the dating world - with them, no one will ever get to know someone they way they should - a mechanism designed to destroy trust. I'm geting sick and tired of watching people and couples getting destroyed by the irresponsible use, exaggeration, and gossip promoted through these mediums. Here is one woman presuming that nice messages she is receiving translates into "getting along really well". Sometimes a text is just a text and sometimes it's the START of a beautiful friendship. The wisest rule to follow when beginning to correspond with someone new on a dating site is this - that person has been writing and in contact with other people. It's naive to think otherwise, Most people will exchange courteous correspondence as polite respectful behavior, or a considerate act/expression - good social conduct, etc.. In this case, texts and emails labeled this guy a scumbag because of some insecurity on the part of both women. Even if you're married, its not the place for the "other" person to meddle into others business. I wrote this in another thread and it needs to be mentioned again. Suppose the new gal was unstable and right after your contact with her OP took a gun and killed this fellow? Would you have felt better? You do understand we live in a sick world, right? Personally I would avoid your type, the two woman who showed each other the exchanged emails - kiss and tell ( or should I say text and tell) is never good...Drama..Pass. You two gals deserve each other. Thought: Wouldn't it be more fun catching someone in the truth rather than a lie? Guess it all depends on which way one's nose is pointed at the onset, eh? ^^^^ thebugisback - What do you mean by the man tried to cheat the woman of her right to exercise her preference? Didn't she excercise her preference by continuing to maintain contact with him? That made no sense...What right do you mean? The one to lead him on, maybe?

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I hate liars Posted: 10/16/2009 10:11:47 PM
Well some people lie about their gender, orientation, so I suppose race isn't that far of a stretch..

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Would anybody have done the same? Posted: 10/15/2009 3:03:30 PM
..So I messaged this woman, through this networking site, and told her what had happened. I apologized to her as I didn't know he was in a relationship, and told her to think about the kind of person he had shown himself to be before allowing her heart to fall for him and risk getting hurt. Apparently, she rang him inmediately, and all I know is that I had a text message from him saying "I've just heard what you said, don't ever contact me again"... Take this to the extreme OP.... Suppose the woman you contacted was unstable and right after your message took a gun and killed this fellow? Would you have felt better? In the big picture, right or wrong, no matter what the outcome, it isn't worth it over some "sexting". We live in a sick world, unless you haven't noticed. Upon seeing the photos I would have called this fellow, told him you were done without reason and moved on. Unless of course you wanted to be part of the drama...That's a whole other thread in and of itself..

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the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men Posted: 10/15/2009 12:17:08 AM
...the world outside of POF obeys slightly different rules. Probably true OP - alcohol makes people do things they normally wouldn't do sometimes...

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after you cum.. (mainly for guys) Posted: 10/14/2009 5:50:44 AM
the only girl i ever thought was just as beautiful before i came as after, was my ex.. and i realize im obviously not 100% over her but damn .. it just seems like no one is ever going to be up to par to her OP, there will be that "ONE" whom you'll never forget - in your head like a mental illness. The more you obsess, the greater her legend. Erase the memories, put them on a shelf. The quicker you stop comparing her to the the ones's who followed, the easier all this will get for you. The word I'll use here is TIME - it's really the only solution - give yourself TIME. Convince yourself there's a better ONE in your future. Until then - Love the one your with ..You've heard the song, right?

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Do I need to get over my morals? Posted: 10/14/2009 5:36:16 AM
He said I should just hang out, have fun, and have sex, and whatever happens, happens. You'll know it when you feel it OP - whatever the "it" is your hoping for. Stay with your instincts, they will serve you well.

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white collar woman, blue collar man. Posted: 10/14/2009 5:12:57 AM
Sexual Practices at Last Heterosexual Encounter and Occurrence of Orgasm in a National Survey \| The Journal of Sex Research Volume 43, Number 3, August 2006: pp. 217–226 Women with graduate degrees are more likely to reach orgasm than their less educated counterparts, a new Australian study suggests. The survey, which interviewed more than 9,000 women, claims that higher levels of education and income are associated with a greater prevalence for orgasm among women. " The association between orgasm and demographic characteristics suggest a social-effect, with better-educated, non-immigrant women more likely to have orgasms," the researchers wrote in their report. Researchers said factors such as becoming sexually active before the age of 16, the number of past sexual partners and looking at porn had little association with a woman’s ability to have an orgasm. However, the study said women were more likely to reach orgasm if they used sex toys, or had sex more than twice a week in the month before they were surveyed. "Use of sex toys and orgasm in women may indicate a link between orgasm and sexual interest or adventurousness." Generally, the more practices engaged in, the higher a woman's chance of having an orgasm. The research also found that men were far more likely than women to experience an orgasm during their last sexual encounter — 98.4 per cent and 68.9 per cent respectively. And while men in their late teens were less likely to report having an orgasm during their last sexual encounter, women were substantially less likely to have an orgasm if they were in their late teens or in their 50s. Aside from age, researchers said there was no significant association between a man’s ability to climax and his income, occupation, education or religion. Men were less likely to have an orgasm if they had been sexually active for two years or less, were uptight about sex or if they were engaging in casual sex, rather than with a regular partner. The telephone survey was conducted by researchers from Sussex University, England, and the universities of Sydney and Melbourne, Australia. More than 10,100 men and 9,100 women aged 16-59 across Australia participated in the survey. The study, asked respondents what practices they engaged in during their last sexual encounter and whether they had an orgasm as a result.

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What is the best way to say you arent interested? Posted: 10/12/2009 5:27:27 AM
Someone here wrote, damned if you do, damned if you don't. Unforntunately it's all too true. In general most people are decent and for decent people a simple - sorry I'm not interested should be adequte. Just as so and so is ignoring my messages. One would think a hint is a hint is universal. But then you run into one who has a screw loose - that is where the issues that you write about stem from - message after message, text after text, and so on. And if your nice enough to offer an explanation, it somehow translates into "there still may be a chance" .. Saying no isn't easy - most of us should respect why we're here - fat chance....

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Broken Up With For The Strangest Reasons Posted: 10/9/2009 9:49:15 PM
It surprises me she left out the Swine Flu made her do it...

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Rejection-men have been dealing with this a long time. Posted: 10/9/2009 4:51:15 AM
The first girl I had a crush on was in the 4th grade. I picked flowers and handed them to her in the school playground. She took them, ripped them up and threw them at me. 35 years later I happened to run into her, she still remembered that day and said, in hindsight I should've kissed you instead...It wasn't a problem then and isn't one now - rejection goes with the territory when you put yourself out there - when its supposed to happen it will happen. Unread/deleted though is one of my favorite psychological disorders ... -o-

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What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men Posted: 10/8/2009 6:44:05 PM
don't tell me that you didn't know this about her before meeting, most people show their true colors long before the face to face I was quite clueless until it came up. I try to avoid drama or "gutter" if possible - useless wastes of good energy.

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looks or profile, what attracks you first? Posted: 10/8/2009 6:24:22 PM
I like reading the profiles but pictures where there's lots of smiling usually gets my attention first.

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The end of this 'nice guy' epic Posted: 10/8/2009 5:56:25 PM
Don't shoot the messenger - I don;t necessarily agree but it's not a bad read.. It may be off topic from the OP's question, but it addresses some points that his question brought up. ---Note they surveryed women ages 18-87 <--- Why Do Women Have Sex? October 08, 2009 01:53 PM ET \| Deborah Kotz \| US News and World Report Why do women have sex? It's an intriguing question once you get beyond the obvious reasons: to perpetuate the species and because it feels good. Two University of Texas researchers wanted to dig deeper to find out what specifically drives women to go to bed with their partners. They conducted an online survey of more than 1,000 women ages 18 to 87 and found, to their surprise, that women aren't all that different from men. The survey asked women if they have ever had sex for one of the 237 reasons identified by the researchers in a previous study. If their response was yes, they would then be prompted to describe a specific sexual experience. The researchers Cindy Meston and David Buss incorporated the findings into a new book, Why Women Have Sex. Here are excerpts from my interview with Meston. (You can listen to the full podcast below.) What are the biggest reasons women have sex? The No. 1 reason is because they're attracted to their partner, followed by their seeking of physical gratification. Lower down on the list, the reasons were connected to love or emotional bonding. This sort of knocks down the stereotype that men have sex for pleasure while women have sex for love. Personally, for me—in my 17 years treating women who have sexual problems—it's reassuring to see that most of the women who participated in our survey are having sex for the pure physical pleasure of it. Who are the women who participated in your survey? Is it possible those who take the time to fill out an online survey are more likely to seek out sex? You bring up a good point. There's a natural selection bias in any sex research in that those who are more sexually liberal are more likely to take part in a study. We hope we eliminated that by keeping the answers confidential so people would be as honest as possible, but it's still hard to know if this is a representative sample. We did get a wide range of ages of women responding and had respondents from several other countries besides the U.S. Did any of the motivations for sex surprise you? While we expected a wide range of reasons, some specific stories really did surprise me. Many women said they had sex to bring them closer to God. And revenge sex was a big theme—getting back at partners who weren't faithful by having sex with someone else. Competition sex was also surprising: A bunch of friends go to a bar and see who can get the guy to have sex with them. Many young women wrote about having sex simply to get another notch on their belt, which we typically think of as something men do. Some women simply wanted to get rid of their virginity. Still other women engaged in "sympathy sex" because they felt sorry for their mate for any number of reasons, like he was too unattractive to get any dates. Women also admitted to having sex as an economic exchange to land a job or promotion or to get money or drugs. Some of the reasons made me laugh, and others were very sad. Did women ever express regrets for acting on their impulses, like having a one-night stand? Some did, while others didn't. For instance, one woman who had sex out of loneliness said a one-night stand helped her feel better and more connected afterward. Another woman, though, said it made her feel even lonelier. It's hard to say what drives this remorse; it's probably a complex mix of religious attitudes and values and what a woman deems to be appropriate behavior. Self-esteem also plays a role in the choices she makes and how she feels afterward. Did you see any differences between men and women? Yes. Based on our previous research and this new study, we see that men are still more likely to engage in uncommitted sex, like one-night stands, but that this gender gap has narrowed dramatically since the 1950s, when these [kind of] surveys were first conducted by [Alfred] Kinsey. More women still make the connection between love and sex. And overall, men are definitely more willing to have sex because of physical attraction, while women place less emphasis on physical attraction and more on a man's scent, personality, and breadwinning abilities. Were there reasons women said they didn't have sex? We didn't really explore that; it's really a separate study. The number of reasons is so vast, from not having a willing partner to having psychological or medical problems.

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What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men Posted: 10/8/2009 4:26:02 PM
Have you ever heard the Southern term "all hat, no cattle?" Yes, big hat, no cattle ...I use it occassionally...

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Best question ever asked. Posted: 10/8/2009 4:19:58 PM
OP, the Virgin Islands are US Territories. After reading many of these threads over the past few months, picking coconuts with few natives is an idea thats beginning to sound really good to me right about now..

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Why do people always want more pics , even tho you already have like a million on your profile Posted: 10/8/2009 10:01:48 AM
We're pretty much a visual society - We seek to admire design, art, culture, nature, entertainment ..etc...Guess the same goes with looking at people too. \o-o/

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What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men Posted: 10/8/2009 9:43:16 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^ So your implying that communicating and dating are one in the same? ty on the sp btw....

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What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men Posted: 10/8/2009 9:31:58 AM
You'd be back with a different complaint if you later found out she'd been dating others and didn't tell you, saying it's not your business. Are people that naive into thinking they are the only ONE when they first meet someone? If your on here for a day, your communicating with someone. I'm not sure of the relavance compelling someone to lay it all out there. Someone sitting in front of me always has my complete attention. Is it unrealistic to expect the same?

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What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men Posted: 10/8/2009 8:57:55 AM
I had met someone online - after our first time out she insisted on wanting to tell me about other men pursuing her both online and in her personal life. My position was I'm not interested in knowing - it's not my business nor do I want it to be. I realize there is some underlying purpose for wanting to share this, any thoughts?

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Am I the only one this really puts off? Posted: 10/8/2009 8:32:24 AM
And I learned from experience that this is a sign that I should reconsider to be honest. It never translates into anything positive once I meet them. In fact, once we've met one time in person the behavior usually escalates and gets more pesterish. I totally agree here. And if you give out your cell number it escalates into that other thing - serial texting, which I have written about til I'm blue in the face. I made the mistake once by allowing it and won't do it again, but when someone starts saying "wouldn't it be nice to get a little message from me from time to time"- it translates into expect me to start sending you useless messages to no end - I'm running and blocking. There is such a thing as proper time and place - I'm pretty cool with almost everything but needy and clingy need to find their own kind.

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Texting over Calling or Both?? Posted: 10/7/2009 7:13:18 AM
There is no replacement for personal contact. ... What it boils down to is effort. If there is interest there is effort. Texting is weak, inpersonal and lazy I totally agree with cifuareal1. TOTALLY. Let me add .... I'm not interested in a relationship with a Blackberry. I despise text messaging. Even worse are those who have to text when your out with them. 99% of texts I receive are complete garbage. It's worse than drugs - it turns adults into juveniles. An abuse of useless dialouge. What is supposed to be a convenience has turned people into zombies. I find it a very impersonal form of communication, at times rude, can be misinterpreted, and leaves little room for compromise (other than by more text messages). Dedicated texters have a complete break with reality, it isolates them - and we all know that being isolated can make a person incredibly lonely - and guess what, greater compelling the need to text even more. When I encounter someone who has to send 5 text messages to say one thing, I get the feel they worship pain. Texting gives the appearance of being needy/clingy - more often than not that turns out to be true. What can possibly be that important on a I need to know now or my world will end basis? A medium that preys off of itself, hysteria, and paranoia - creates insecurity - it is the new social disease. Personally I'd rather see a woman with a gun in her hand, at least I would understand her intent - lovely. Lyrical Reference: "And their holiest book is a PDA, It's got God's cell number if you find time to pray"

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Msg: 33 (view)

Most Overrated Destinations Posted: 8/23/2009 9:07:38 PM
Honolulu ...Thought it was dirty, all things considered. Never realized until after I arrived that there is nowhere to send garbage other than into the ocean.

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Msg: 790 (view)

Your Pet or YourRelationship? Posted: 3/19/2009 7:44:56 AM
Read that book, "where have all leaders gone?" by Lee Iacocca Freesoulck - Many Lehigh alum would not hold Iacocca in as high of regard as your giving him credit for here. He is so 80's..

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Msg: 781 (view)

Your Pet or YourRelationship? Posted: 3/15/2009 11:47:37 AM
Some cultures believe when a baby is born their soul duplicates and this "second life" is given to an animal born somewhere in the world that day. The first time the term SOULMATE was used could possibly have come from identifying the connections between people and animals. With that said, I firmly believe there are reasons, some beyond the obvious, as why we chose the pets that we do (conversely they chose us also) and the way we protect them (as far as good owners go). Think about another question that could be asked here, somewhat related - " Would you date or become involved with someone who disliked animals" ? That's a red flag for me as well as one towards someone who freely gives up a beloved pet for no good cause. The situation you described doesn't strike me as a good cause. OP, if your friend gave up the pet that easily suffice to say she will give up the new guy twice as fast if push comes to shove - especially if she had a "connection" with her pet. The allergy could have been worked around, imo. There's something else going on. The pet stays.

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Looking To Move To New Jersey.... Posted: 3/4/2009 4:25:04 PM
If your having second thoughts, Yinchuan, China is furthest from New Jersey at 11,237 km. FYI

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Msg: 97 (view)

What would you Do? Posted: 2/25/2009 8:51:04 PM
OP, people with chronic illnesses often have to adjust to the demands of the illness as well as the treatment. An illness may affect a person’s mobility and independence, and change the way a person lives, sees him- or herself, and/or relates to others. It can be extremely stressful as your probably experiencing with your friend. No doubt it causes a certain amount of despair or sadness for them but it is NORMAL A few ideas for you..... Learn as much as you can about this persons affliction. It can help you communicate with them in a way not influenced by the fact someone is ill. You may even offer some helpful and insightful perspectives (without even knowing it) that would be well accepted. Try not to make their affliction the central focus of your interactions with them. I'm guessing they are well aware of what is going on and probably don't need constant reminders. Try not to be too critical towards feelings your friend expresses, but instead point out realities and offer hope. It sounds like there are good future prospects for your friend. You may want to keep him or her focused on those. Maybe invite your friend out for a walk or other activities. Keep on trying - if he or she resists, don't push too hard - it might be too much too soon for them. Offer unconditional emotional support, understanding, patience and encouragement when you can. But I thnk you know this. Hope this helps ...Good Luck !!!

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