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Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

Msg: 38 (view)

Insecure Girls Posted: 5/22/2008 6:23:10 AM
SUVman, my gf is the same way. She never flies off the handle and accuses me of cheating but she seems to think I would just because she's not good enough. She always says that I'm too good for her. I'm willing to forgive this incident but I don't want this to be an indicator of things to come. I know I can't change her but is it possible for a girl to change her insecurity.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/22/2008 6:20:07 AM
When I say checked out other girls, I mean checking them out on the street, as in looking at them, not trying to pick them up. Why are some people so judgemental. Yeah I guess she should dump me eh, I'm just such a horrible prick. You treat a women decent and you're still a pig to some girls.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/21/2008 10:24:47 PM
The funny thing is, I never met her off this site. I met her at work. I do love her but I'm not naive enough to assume she's the "one". I think there are many compatible people out there. I've really only done most of my dating the last few years. When I was younger, I wasn't a nice guy wuss who let women run the show but to be honest I had no clue how to attract them. All of my gfs, I can say were good people and I had fun with them. I know this sounds terribly conceited but I think there are many good women who would like to date me. That being said, I do love my girlfriend and I don't view people as disposable. I don't just get rid of a good woman just because of one mistake. It does bother me what she did though. This one is the most important to me of all but that doesn't mean I should accept poor treatment. I'm thinking I may let this one go and try to work on the relationship. She did apologize but we have serious issues that need to be worked out. Maybe I should try being a little nicer but she definetly needs to get the insecurity under control. It's poison to any relationship.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

Msg: 23 (view)

Insecure Girls Posted: 5/21/2008 10:13:03 PM
She doesn't have any of my passwords. She was just looking for pictures of other women or other indications of cheating. I'm smart enough not to give my passwords out to anyone, friends or girlfriends. She does have a lot of good qualities. She isn't a drunk or a drug user, she is a good worker, she's clean (hygiene is very important), reliable, truthful, and everything else you listed. She does have one bad trait though, Insecurity, and its a big one.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/21/2008 9:58:37 PM
I know most are trying to help soulmate08, there was one particular poster who was very rude though, not going to mention names. It's not you though don't worry lol. I'm not on POF to look for women, just looking for advice about women. I've only started to figure them out about 3 years ago and I'm a long way from unlocking the puzzle of the female mind. I just don't want to turn into a wuss and have myself whipped. Just being totally cool with her snooping might make me seem like a pushover or a spineless wuss. I don't want to be mean but everyone has boundaries.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/21/2008 9:52:23 PM
Yeah I guess you're right Sasseelass, I'm just a disgusting pig like all the other men in the world. I'm so horrible, just like all the guys who cheat and beat women. I'm just like them even though I've done neither. Men are all ***holes At least the other people on the thread were more polite. Why are people so hateful anyways.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/21/2008 9:42:22 PM
cheating is not about sex, thats news to me? I know it doesn't always start with sex but its foolish to think that sex isn't a part of it. Why is it when a girl is insecure it is always the man's fault. I would say that it is the fault of previous men but I've never insulted or riduculed my gf. She even tells me that I'm good to her and how lucky she is to have me. She just says sometimes that seems to good to be true.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/21/2008 9:39:35 PM
I know what motivated her to do it. I've told her millions of times that what happened to her because of exes was not her fault. She only exercised bad judgement in putting up with it. I told her most guys have urges to mate with any woman they get their hands on. I said it has more to do with evolution than her. I also told her that there are guys whose brains are evolved highly enough to repress their base instincts. Do you really think I'm insecure Hey68, I don't think so? I wouldn't snoop on her computer though, I could tell you that. I never said I'd dump her but I am considering it. Privacy is a big deal to me. If she had of asked me, I would have shown her. I just hate being accused of cheating. I've never done it before.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/21/2008 9:31:07 PM
I don't really want to dump her. I actually do love the girl. I may sound like a prick on here but I'm very good to women. I've never raised my hand to a woman, never cheated, and never called my gf or any previous gfs any derogatory names. I don't think I make her think I'm too good for her at all. I tell her she's a hottie all the time and I show affection to her. Whenever she says I'm too good for her I always tell her the opposite and say she's too good for me. Or I'll just tell her she's being silly for saying that. I'm not still looking on POF for other women, I just haven't updated my profile in over 6 months, which is longer than our relationship. I know I'm not perfect, I've checked out other girls and may lose patience with her sometimes for her insecurity but I'd say I'm better than at least 75% of the guys out there. There are too many guys out there that treat women like shit, I'm not one of them.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/21/2008 9:26:05 PM
I didn't have anything to hide but thats not the point. She was out of line for even looking. She should just trust me, I've never cheated before in my life. I'm not the most confident guy in the world but I never think my gf is cheating on me. She'd have no reason to anyways but whats a relationship without trust. She is a good person, I can read people very well. I know this isn't as bad as cheating but it is still a privacy violation and is a serious issue. I'm still deciding whether to stay or not.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/21/2008 9:07:42 PM
I may just do that. I haven't made my final decision regarding it yet but I know that I can't make someone insecure change. I don't know why so many girls are like this? I don't want to throw away what was once a perfectly good relationship over this but this type of behaviour bothers me. I'd like to hear some more opionions from both girls and guys before I make my decision.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/21/2008 9:00:03 PM
This is the first time I've been on POF in months, I was just wondering how to deal with this type of problem. I've only been in a few relationships. I actually want to try to make this one work, I'm not sure I can though. I can't solve someone's else's problems. I'm just wondering if its possible for an insecure girl to fix herself.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/21/2008 8:50:25 PM
The reason she was snooping was because she thinks I was cheating on her, she seems to think Im too good for her, what a foolish girl. No one is too good for anyone. In my haste to post this I forgot that important part, although I guess it was implied.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Insecure Girls Posted: 5/21/2008 8:48:40 PM
I've been dating a girl for the last 6 months or so. She's been really good for the most part. No nagging, drama, or bullshit but she's really insecure. She seems to think I'm too good for her for some reason, I'm not really sure why? The other day I caught her snooping around on my computer. I don't have anything to hide but it bothers me that she did that without asking permission. I'm thinking about dumping her ass but I'm actually pretty attached to her, I guess you could say love, I know that sounds kind of wussy. Anyways I told her that the behaviour was unacceptable and that she was out of line. She apologized and explained it was because of insecurity. She really does have a good reason to be insecure, she was treated like shit by previous bfs. That doesn't mean I should have to pay for their mistakes though. She also thinks I'm good with women for some reason. Little does she know, I didn't have a clue until a few years ago. I've become a victim of my own success. I know it doesn't sound like a big issue but trust is extremely important to me. Can insecure girls change or should I just dump her ass. She's been a great girlfriend up until this point. She has most of the same interests as me, she looks good, and she isn't a whore, I just wish she wasn't so damn insecure. So should I forgive her, or am I better off dumping her. I'm willing to listen to some opinions of the older and wiser. I'm only in my early 20s so I'm pretty stupid.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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What do you think of computer software that lets your spy on your boyfriend/girlfriend? Posted: 6/17/2007 9:19:01 AM
Yeah, isn't that like an invasion of privacy or something. I seen the advertisement too, that is what caught my attention. Of course the Patriot Act has been passed so we don't have rights to anything now. Besides most men do cheat so I guess women have the right to do this (that was sarcasm btw). Anyways I agree with the original poster, this shit should not be advertised on POF. Not everyone is a cheater.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

Msg: 64 (view)

Legalizing incest.... Posted: 3/12/2007 11:06:08 AM
"well, lets start from the begining,.. in biblical days, very early right after adam and eve, there kids married each other, they had kids, and so on,.. their genes were excellent, as time went on, our genes got worse, just think how bad they r know, u marrie your cousin or sister, and have kids, they wont be normal. its common sense, law or no law." The beginning started a lot earlier than biblical days, humans never had perfect genes, we've been evolving for millions of years. Even when our populations were small, there were at least a few million of us around. Our ancestry comes from a whole group of early humans, not just a single couple. Incest is universally bad in animals. It's often not very harmful in the first generation if the parents have a good gene pool but successive inbreeding is definetly harmful to the offspring. All sorts of recessive birth defects can be brought out when defective genes are combined. Mating with someone outside your gene pool limits the chances of recessive genes being combined. While I'm usually opposed to the government legislating morality, I think incest along with bestiality and child molestation should always be illegal. I think comparing incest to homosexuality is ridiculous. Two homosexuals aren't going to produce a deformed baby.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Why Are So Many People Afraid Of Rejection? Posted: 3/7/2007 10:54:19 AM
Is there any way to override this evolutionary trait so I won't give a damn what anyone thinks and will be able to handle any rejection. Imagine if you could be rejected by a girl and just laugh at her, wouldn't that be awesome. I bet there are people out there like that, its too bad I'm not one of them lol, anyone have any advice on how to become like that.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Vermont towns seek to impeach Bush Posted: 3/7/2007 7:22:41 AM
Aren't those people signing those signatures worried about being blacklisted by the regime. I mean you wouldn't want to let a dictatorship know you are against them would you? Do you think the regime will launch an invasion of these small New England towns.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Why Are So Many People Afraid Of Rejection? Posted: 3/7/2007 7:16:45 AM
That's a good question, I think a lot of this culture bullshit thats programmed into our brain fights what evolution is telling us what to do, but I'm just guessing. Fear of Rejection doesn't make sense at all from the point of natural selection.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Not a 90's guy what with the Share your feelings thing? Posted: 3/5/2007 7:40:59 PM
No woman I know would want an guy who cries all the time, it must be such a turnoff. No one wants a wimp. It goes against millions of years of human evolution. Crying when your dog dies or wife leaves you is fine. Crying cause of a sad movie is pathetic. There are certain times when a man can cry but he shouldn't be a pussdawg. Men always need to be strong for their woman.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

Why is Chavez worse than Colombian Dictator Alvaro Uribe? Posted: 3/5/2007 5:38:19 PM
An American speaking out against the Hegemony. I thought the attitude down south was My country right or wrong. I'm glad to see that it isn't always the case. Too bad there wasn't any centrist or leftist media in the States it's all moderate to extreme right.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Getting stood up. Posted: 3/5/2007 11:42:38 AM
OP, you are smoking hot, don't worry about being shy, its cute. The guy was probably intimidated by your beauty and couldn't handle a hottie like you. That's why he didn't meet you, also he may have been a fat hairy greasy old man, so it could be a blessing in disguise. There are lots of guys out there for a cute girl like you but only pick ones who appreciate more than your good looks.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Why is Chavez worse than Colombian Dictator Alvaro Uribe? Posted: 3/5/2007 4:43:51 AM
lol, yeah true enough, its like when you hear CNN say that 200 Iraqi civilians were killed today but fortunatly no Americans were killed. The lives of foreigners just don't measure up the lives of Americans. Uribe is never even mentioned in the media even though he is the worst human rights abuser in the Western Hemisphere and is a huge receipent of US military aid.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Why is Chavez worse than Colombian Dictator Alvaro Uribe? Posted: 3/5/2007 3:38:51 AM
How dare he criticize the neoliberal system set up by the regime in the United States. Doesn't he know America owns the world. Surely he is much worse than Alvaro Uribe. Uribe's only crime is slaughtering his own citizens but as long as it doesn't interfere with American interests then its no big deal right?

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Why is Chavez worse than Colombian Dictator Alvaro Uribe? Posted: 3/4/2007 2:19:03 PM
It's funny how everyone knows about Chavez but almost no one knows about Uribe. It's almost as if the regime in the States' as the media on a leash, they cover everything up; human rights abuses in Saudi Arabia, Gitmo, and Colombia. They also never put people like Noam Chomsky on CNN or better yet, Fox. Imagine having Chomsky debate someone like Ann Coulter, he'd mop the floor with her lol.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Why is Chavez worse than Colombian Dictator Alvaro Uribe? Posted: 3/3/2007 4:20:22 PM
The person who gets the least amount of votes wins, what a great way to run an election. This is proof that democracy is flourishing in places such as Ukraine (where the person with the least votes declared himself the winner) and the United States.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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why does it still hurt Posted: 2/18/2007 10:06:44 AM
I don't know maybe he's a psychopath. If you don't want to be put through more hurt than don't talk to him anymore. Why are you asking us why he did what he did, nobody here is a mind reader. Just do what makes you feel good. He's probably just jerking your chain, hoping to manipulate you.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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castro's death party Posted: 2/3/2007 7:44:11 AM
What about Batista, he was a dictator too, I never said I love Castro, just that the States supports other dicators who are just as bad or worse. I guess Somoza or Pinochet were great guys because they were allies of the United States. Human rights abuses are only a problem when they are done by States the US doesn't support.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Misogynists and misandrists on dating sites, is it irony? Posted: 2/1/2007 6:40:09 AM
Maybe they can go gay if they don't like the opposite sex.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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castro's death party Posted: 2/1/2007 6:38:53 AM
Castro is a dictator but he is far from the worst on the planet. The guy he overthrew, Batista, was even worse. The revolution has benefited Cubans in some ways, they do have access to healthcare and education that they didn't under Batista. I think Americans are hypocritical though when they criticize that lack of civil and political freedoms in Cuba because rarely is Saudi Arabia or Colombia criticized. Few in America criticized the Somoza dynasty or Pinochet in Chile. America only hates dictators when it is in their economic interest.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Rachael Ray's challenge Posted: 1/29/2007 6:57:04 PM
So you'd hit that too eh hahahaha, I'd definetly tap her

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Define world Peace?????? Posted: 1/29/2007 5:37:06 PM
World Peace is when America controls the whole planet.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Rachael Ray's challenge Posted: 1/29/2007 4:51:16 PM
I'd bang her, she's pretty hot for her age.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Cashiers being hit on Posted: 12/20/2006 8:59:53 PM
no wonder you were hit on OP, you are a smokin hot babe. It must have been gross when the 50 year olds hit on you though, It would be sick if a 50 year old woman hit on me, sick lol.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Dating hot/cold streaks Posted: 12/20/2006 8:58:23 PM
Why is self confidence so important anyways?

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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What Causes Women To Be Stuck Up? Posted: 12/20/2006 8:49:42 PM
it wasn't in front of ppl. like i said, i told her i couldn't go out with her, i had a gf. i just don't understand people's reactions. A simple "No" would have been fine.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

Msg: 138 (view)

Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!! Posted: 12/20/2006 8:47:56 PM
i highly doubt that he was with 105 girls, sounds like bullshit to me. Besides thats usually something a guy brags to his friends. While women don't like virgins i know that they don't find male whores appealing either. 10 is experienced, 105 is just slutty. It's beyond. He's either lying to you or he's a whore. I'd leave this one. I wouldn't touch a girl that slept with 100 people with a 30 foot pole. Sick.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

Msg: 74 (view)

What makes a girl look so innocent ? Posted: 12/20/2006 8:45:03 PM
whats wrong with a girl looking innocent, its hot!

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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How do I get over being dumped by my gf Posted: 12/19/2006 6:52:11 AM
Merry Christmas to you too, i'm not confused though, just sad. Like i said i seen it coming but it's still hard to get over.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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How do I get over being dumped by my gf Posted: 12/19/2006 6:51:39 AM
Karufin says: Oh Canadian Loser, there is no easy or quick way. That's the hard part. It would be so wonderful if someone could invent a (the, take the hurt & confusion away) pill. I'd take one myself. The only thing you can do is, go on. Keep busy. Go out with your friends and try to have a good time. Be a "wussbag" in private if it makes you feel better. Know that I'm thinking of you and hoping that you are soon through this hard time. Have a Merry Christmas. Kar

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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How do I get over being dumped by my gf Posted: 12/19/2006 6:50:11 AM
Merry Christmas to you too, i'm not confused though, just sad. Like i said i seen it coming but it's still hard to get over.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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How do I get over being dumped by my gf Posted: 12/19/2006 6:38:34 AM
already did it man, its ok though i think i already know the reasons why, it is partially my fault, i wasn't around that much in the last 3 months of our relationship. Not that i didnt' want to be, but i was a full time student and worked part time as well, my free time was mostly spend studying, that probably contributed to it. I didn't write her though, i sent her an email instead. I didn't act like a wuss and ask for her back though, i just said if you don't want to go out anymore that i was ok with that, i said i'll get over it, and wished her the best. it was just my way of saying goodbye. like i said i don't intend to get back with her, i just want advice on how to get over it

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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How do I get over being dumped by my gf Posted: 12/19/2006 6:33:06 AM
I just posted any comments in the other thread on here because i want to keep them, the moderators can delete the other thread but keep this one.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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How do I get over being dumped by my gf Posted: 12/19/2006 6:32:31 AM
Mikeyneedsahug says: The sad answer is that there really is no easy way. What has helped me getting over past relationships is not dwelling on them. Live life to the fullest and don't look too far ahead into the future. Have fun, enjoy being single and being out there. Stay active, go out and do things that you want to do. When you make yourself happy, people will notice that about you and your confidence will return. Don't dwell in the past and don't look far into the future, think about yourself and now. Take it slow, day to day and you'll get out of that kind of mindset eventually. Good luck!

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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How do I get over being dumped by my gf Posted: 12/19/2006 6:25:06 AM
No i'm not horribly depressed or suicidal, i have a life besides my gf. I think investing TOO much time in anyone and NONE in yourself is very dangerous. If you get dumped you're SOL.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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How do I get over being dumped by my gf Posted: 12/19/2006 6:23:44 AM
so how long did it take for you to get over it?

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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How do I get over being dumped by my gf Posted: 12/19/2006 6:16:29 AM
sorry about the double posting on two threads it was an accident

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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How do I get over being dumped by my gf Posted: 12/19/2006 6:12:12 AM
hey, everyone i don't mean to **** and complain because i know women don't like wussbags but i was hoping for some advice. My gf of 7 months just dumped me yesterday and i was hoping for some good ideas on how to get over it as quickly as possible. I'm not even that mad at her just really sad. I kind of seen it coming though, she acted more distant in the last 2 months we were together. Just to clear up a few assumptions, i didn't cheat on her or abuse her and i didn't turn into a wussbag either. I acted the same way towards her the entire time we went out. I was often busy with school and work so we rarely saw one another in the last 2 to 3 months, that didn't help. Anyways i'm not asking why she dumped me (i already have a good idea why that was plus i understand attraction fades with time). I"m also not asking you to help me get back with her, its probably better we see other people. And no i don't seek revenge either, that is juvenile and accomplishes nothing. Besides future prospects may find that out and then avoid me like the plague. The only thing i ask is how to get over it as quickly as possible. I don't normally like talking about this stuff but hey no one knows who i am anyways. this is foreign to me because she is the only gf i had that i actually cared about, when my last gf dumped me i didn't even care (we only dated for a month), this one is different. So people how do i get over this.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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How do I get over being dumped by my gf Posted: 12/19/2006 6:12:02 AM
hey, everyone i don't mean to **** and complain because i know women don't like wussbags but i was hoping for some advice. My gf of 7 months just dumped me yesterday and i was hoping for some good ideas on how to get over it as quickly as possible. I'm not even that mad at her just really sad. I kind of seen it coming though, she acted more distant in the last 2 months we were together. Just to clear up a few assumptions, i didn't cheat on her or abuse her and i didn't turn into a wussbag either. I acted the same way towards her the entire time we went out. I was often busy with school and work so we rarely saw one another in the last 2 to 3 months, that didn't help. Anyways i'm not asking why she dumped me (i already have a good idea why that was plus i understand attraction fades with time). I"m also not asking you to help me get back with her, its probably better we see other people. And no i don't seek revenge either, that is juvenile and accomplishes nothing. Besides future prospects may find that out and then avoid me like the plague. The only thing i ask is how to get over it as quickly as possible. I don't normally like talking about this stuff but hey no one knows who i am anyways. this is foreign to me because she is the only gf i had that i actually cared about, when my last gf dumped me i didn't even care (we only dated for a month), this one is different. So people how do i get over this.

Canadian_Loser

Joined: 11/27/2005

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Death by Suicide Posted: 6/14/2006 10:30:11 AM
he's not haunting you. Ghosts don't exist

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