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Joined: 12/8/2008

Msg: 11 (view)

Food for thought Posted: 9/7/2009 7:46:36 PM
To be clear, I'm not upset that he didn't like me as much as I liked him. And I'm not trying to change myself to please him specifically. As far as I'm concerned, he was just another learning experience. What worried me was that I was considered "unsociable". I just wonder if I'm like that naturally, and if thats hurting my chances with someone who would be good for me. And if thats the case, how would I go about changing that part of me.

Joined: 12/8/2008

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Food for thought Posted: 9/7/2009 7:08:12 PM
I went on a small date with someone else tonight, after I got off work. I actually thought it went quite well. I thought we had good conversation on both ends, however, my date later mentioned that I didn't seem very sociable, and didn't feel any connection with me, which if thats how he felt, I'm not going to argue. No harm done. Though, I'm worried about the part where he said that I didn't seem very sociable. Its discouraging to me because I was more sociable tonight than I have been in a while, and that was because I enjoyed my company. If I don't seem sociable when I feel like I'm being incredibly sociable, how unsociable am I being on a normal basis? And if the case is that I'm not naturally sociable, how can I change my behavior so that I am?

Joined: 12/8/2008

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Do You Believe In Ghosts? Posted: 12/27/2008 9:13:41 PM
I believe anyone without any spiritual attunement to any sort of religion (no matter what religion it is) will have a very difficult time believing ghosts, or the paranormal, because it goes against science. People that belong to a religion are (usually) drawn to spirituality because of their faith in their religion. Part of the Christian belief is that God takes a form of "the holy spirit" as part of the holy trinity (father, son, holy spirit). If Christians can believe in the holy spirit, why wouldn't they believe in other ghosts, or spirits?

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 12/24/2008 7:06:04 PM
I don't swallow because I have a poor gag reflex. I've tried to a couple times, and I vomited as soon as it hit the back of my throat. Also, it tastes bad.

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How did you come up with your screen name? Posted: 12/24/2008 6:21:14 PM
I'm 4'11''. 'Nuff said..

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Not right for me, I think Posted: 12/22/2008 10:46:05 AM
I haven't been leading him on. Neither of us have confirmed that we're ready to move it along to a relationship status yet. And I've been holding back because I haven't been sure of how I felt about him. I've never dated someone where I haven't felt a connection to, so this is a new experience for me, and it's confusing. Also, for those who mentioned sex, we've only had sex once, and it was the second time in my life where i've had bad sex. And it's very difficult for me to date republicans, for those who suggested it. I live in the state of Maryland, and I've only met a handful of other republicans, but they've often been too conservative for my tastes (I'm a moderate). Really, I don't care what the other person's political beliefs are, just so long as they don't shove it down my throat (which happens more than you may think it does). It's hard to work on my shyness at work when my manager has shut my bar down for the winter (it's a country club bar and because it's cold, no one's playing golf, so I don't have customers till the spring), so the only times I'm able to bartend is the rare occasion that I'm scheduled for an event. I'm looking for another place to bartend at, but no one, not even retail, is hiring. I think I am going to break things off with him, but I often find it difficult because I don't like hurting anyone's feelings.

Joined: 12/8/2008

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Not right for me, I think Posted: 12/21/2008 11:39:46 PM
I don' t understand how I can work on my shyness. It's not something that I can practice on. My shyness is fickle though, because for the right person, I don't have issues talking and I'm quite outgoing. But most dates I go on, I just have a problem getting something out of my mouth.

Joined: 12/8/2008

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Not right for me, I think Posted: 12/21/2008 11:27:06 PM
So, I've been dating this guy for 3 or 4 weeks now, and for the most part, I get along just fine with him. However, even though he has most of the qualities I look for in a partner, I'm still not feeling any kind of spark, or connection. And whats worse is that he regularly insults me about my political views because he's a democrat and I'm a republican. Not once have I ever said anything negative about his party (because I don't like talking about politics, and he knows this), but every time I see him, he says something insulting about mine at least once. Last time, he told me that i'm not republican because i'm "too smart to be that stupid". I've asked him to not say things like that, but he thinks he's been witty and coy. So, I think I should break things off with him. But I also don't want to because it's so hard for me to start dating again because I always start off incredibly shy and most men are turned off by it. Any opinions or suggestions?

Joined: 12/8/2008

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A no non-sense profile Posted: 12/17/2008 1:57:19 PM
I write that I'm republican because of what you said. I don't care what stance you take politically, just so long as you don't shove it down my throat. There's a reason I don't talk about politics. I would prefer people who judge me based on my political ideals to not contact me. I've had issues with it in the past, and I still do. I get verbally harassed on a daily basis at work because of it. I'm no completely unfeminine. I'm into dance, opera and stuff like that, which I've mentioned in my profile. I think you're taking my profile a bit to the extreme. And I'm not, nor will I ever be, anyone's "sexy little sweety pie". I am a person, and I deserve to be treated like such.

Joined: 12/8/2008

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A no non-sense profile Posted: 12/17/2008 1:48:15 PM
I understand what you're both saying. But I have a difficult time describe "who" exactly I am and what I'm about. I think thats because on other dating sites, when I've tried to explain, I'd come off as boring, or uninteresting. I'm not quite sure what to write. I know it's suppose to be my hobbies and stuff, but i've already listed those. I think it's just because I'm boring. But, I'm just not terribly sure what to write that says who I am.

Joined: 12/8/2008

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A no non-sense profile Posted: 12/17/2008 12:55:04 PM
I was curious as to how my profile might appear to viewers. I don't get many emails (like a 1 or 2 a week) and nobody replies to the ones I send. I'm unsure whats wrong with my profile, if anything. I think it might be that i'm incredibly straight forward. Is there anything I can improve on?

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