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Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

Msg: 23 (view)

How adjustable is becoming a step parent? Posted: 7/9/2009 1:44:38 PM
I just randomly came across this thread. I'm currently dating a woman with a kid, whom is three. After a couple months of dating, I can honestly say that being a step father is Not for me. You and I are at the same age, and our experience with children are probably the same. I could Never be a step father because: I know that deep down inside, I could never love another persons' children as much as my own. Ever. We will never be a family unless she gave birth to a child of my own. If you ever put in any kind of criticism towards her child, such as "Maybe he shouldn't stay up until 2 watching cartoons" - she will resent you, a deep dark resentment that will fester in her. A woman's children are 100% perfect in every way. If her children become whores and rob people for heroin and needles, you dare not say one damn word. However, if you Don't say a word, you will not be seen as a responsible person whom just let "their children" waste away. Most step-children who grow up never respect the hard work and dedication and blood, sweat, and tears a stepparent put into their well-being. Accept the fact that if her ex ever comes back into the equation, you will be #4 on your girlfriends list of priorities. If her children ever say "I hate him" (being you) - she will side with them. She may never say a word about it, but in her head there will be a million reasons why they will hate you, and everyone of those reasons no matter how stupid will be completely your fault. She will never ever trust her children in your hands the way she would if you Were their father. Trust me, you've probably heard those nights where she rants for hours about how much she hates him... but no matter what this guy did, she will carry that emotional baggage for the rest of her life. Actually, no, she wont... YOU will carry her emotional baggage like a little skinny man carrying too many suitcases through a tiny airport terminal about to buckle at the knee's. I think you said something about two daughter. Good luck with that. Girls these days are getting pregnant at 14 and 15 years old... and one of them gets pregnant, who do you think is going to be expect to help out? Not just her mother. You will be constantly criticized not only by your girlfriend, but by her children, and most of all, by her family. You could completely bust your balls and slave away for a good life for her children, but that does not mean you will get the respect of her family. If a stepfather ever does something wrong and unparent like, you will be judged with full force and no one will try to understand you. You ever want to just head out for some dinner with co-workers after work instead of coming home to your girlfriend... you will become the ultimate bad father. You will NEVER come first. When a woman and a man have children in a family setting, they work as a team. Everyone cares for each other equally. In a family with a step parent, they are a team, and you are the guy sitting on the bench. Don't ever expect the other parent to expect where you are coming from. Seriously, go out there and try to find some young step fathers. Seriously go try it. Aside from their actually being very few, talk to them on a serious and personal basis and try to see if they are really happy or not. In fact, most step fathers are Not happy. There's a reason. A huge majority of people aren't even happy about being parents, but they will never tell you "Man, I regret having children" - but deep down inside, they feel miserable. But look, maybe you aren't like me at all. Maybe our situations aren't the same. Maybe you have the ability to become a step parent. I sure as hell don't, but at least I KNOW that. I'm not getting myself involved in other peoples lives and then realizing I Can't do it and then fucking them up for a long time, and leaving the child with feelings of abandonment.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Yup Posted: 5/5/2009 6:12:49 PM
You are probably right, Ginny.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Joint Bank Accounts Good or Bad Idea Posted: 5/5/2009 6:04:39 PM
A joint bank account for me has never ended well.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Yup Posted: 5/4/2009 9:08:48 PM
Yep, I really do not have faith in any of my relationships. This is also why I refuse to get married, don't need "the end" to be more complicated than it should be. The beginning stages of the relationship are always the best anyways, first time holding her hand, first kiss, first "I love you" then after that, I expect the end and just prepare for it so I can quickly move on.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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What do you honestly hate about Posted: 4/22/2009 11:06:11 PM
I hate meeting the S.O.'s - mostly because I generally don't care.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Why do men just disappear? Posted: 4/21/2009 11:15:28 PM
Maybe he died? Have you checked into that? ...People die sometimes. Happened to me twice.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Why would he say this and not know why?? Posted: 4/21/2009 11:14:45 PM
I forgot the nature of this thread, but I just wanted to tell you that you are gorgeous, and going by your profile, you seem pretty awesome and fun too.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Have you been judged for habits? Posted: 4/21/2009 11:09:21 PM
As for habits, I would EXPECT to be judged on mine. I personally don't care about smoking and I don't smoke, but I understand and respect others' preferences on not wanting to be with a smoker.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Do you feel that your exe's help make you a better person? Posted: 4/21/2009 11:03:36 PM
Better person? No. My relationships don't make me who I am, by any means. My ex's only helped me narrow down who and what I want in a relationship by being who and what I didn't want.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Hulk Hogan States That he Totally Understands O.J. as it pertains to his relationship with his Ex Posted: 4/16/2009 12:00:42 PM
During next weeks interview, Macho Man will tear off his journalist disguise and snap Hogan like a slim-jim. OOOHH YEEEAHHHH.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money Posted: 4/15/2009 9:08:13 PM
I've read a good portion of this thread and to be honest, the replies that state that money is of less importance to love, friendship, a bond, passion... all make me happy. The statements do not make me happy because I am poor, or apart of the 'working class', but because it's nice to feel that the world and it's people are not as full of greed as it seems. However in my experiences, my young experiences, I seem to have met people whose actions are different than the overwhelming consensus of women who have posted in this thread. I feel that people must have a different definition of what is "very little money" in this thread.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Not having much luck lately Posted: 4/15/2009 12:45:45 AM
You don't go by looks? The people you refer to with "looks" are the ones You are attracted to! Why settle for less? You only live once. Don't feel bad though, even the not so great looking women on this site are sometimes bombarded with messages too, mostly by guys with a similar theory as yourself. I personally don't even bother. I'm not saying I get a ton of messages, but I figure the women on this site that are actually looking to talk will browse across my profile, find me interesting, and send me a message. Let's be honest here, there are a bunch more guys here than women. At the same time, I also get first contact messages and have got to know a couple cool people on this site so things seem to work out alright. I know my last paragraph kind of goes against the first, but my outlook on this website is not very serious. My intentions aren't to find "the one" either, but maybe a couple cool women to hang out with in my area. If this were a paid site in which I and others actually invested $$$ into meeting others, it would be a completely different story.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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How do you know when a relationship just isn't going to work, and it's time to leave? Posted: 4/15/2009 12:34:23 AM
I know a relationship isn't going to work when I no longer feel like a partner, but instead I feel more alone than I did when I actually was alone pre-relationship.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Catching someone nude by accident... Posted: 4/15/2009 12:10:31 AM
I think I've seen most of the people I know nude on accident. I don't really care, most of us have the same parts... except for James and his chainsaw accident. When I was little, I remember seeing a bunch of friends' parents just answer the door naked like it was nothing. Never really thought about it until recently.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Agree or Disagree: If a person has a good personality you can make yourself sexually attracted Posted: 4/15/2009 12:04:58 AM
No. People with awesome personalities are my friends and hang out buddies, the person with an awesome personality that I was already physically attracted to in the first place would be my spouse. Maybe I'm crazy, but I don't see someones personality tattooed on their skin when I meet them for the first time, and when I'm aware of their personality and no matter how great it is I don't seem to develop a physical attraction to them.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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One Date Wonder....Help Posted: 4/14/2009 11:48:46 PM
Just curious, when you take someone out for the first time, do you take them out for a 1 on 1 sitting? I've noticed that when I take someone out to a more social setting, such as a band playing or a party, or some other similar event, that because our ability to communicate is somewhat limited and we either want to know more about each other or we simply don't. Most of the time, it leads to a second date in which we start the conversation off by talking about things that happened the first time we hung out. This usually helps me and the other person feel more comfortable in talking about ourselves or ask questions.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Any advice for me? Posted: 4/14/2009 11:37:45 PM
The best advice I could give you is to not listen to the advice of single people on the internet who have advice. Take that for what it's worth.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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The Reason Why Weed Is A Crime. Posted: 2/16/2009 11:51:20 AM
I've actually never worked with someone who was screened for drugs. The only screening I've seen done is when people with bare to no education or skills trying to land jobs doing simple industrial tasks, such as making office furniture, or shoveling concrete mix. I have friends whom are lawyers, accountants, mechanical engineers, chemical engineers, political figures, agricultural scientists, all who have watched smoked marijuana while playing Monopoly and thought nothing of it. Obviously not "dopes." Weed is not my thing. However, it does help with my fathers sleep apnea, and that's a fact. He can smoke it, fall asleep, and Not sound like he's gasping for air in the middle of the night. I don't advocate it's usage without further unbiased testing and proper public knowledge. When the time comes where I enter the world of politics, I hope it will be more decriminalized in the the U.S.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site. Posted: 2/14/2009 1:22:00 PM
When I first found out about this site and joined, I showed my friends and coworkers. Then one day while Im at work and on PoF, some really cute girl IM's me and asks me a tons of questions. She was model-pretty, so naturally, I thought it was a fake profile and I thought it was my friends messing with me from another computer. I made a couple rude remarks about Gingers, and off she went. I found out a week later that they weren't messing with me at all and the really cute girl was actually a cute girl.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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anyone ever had a marriage break up cos of WOW? Posted: 2/12/2009 6:09:05 PM
I don't even know how I came across this thread. I work around WoW every day, I see the people who come in when I open the door to my store, and some of those people are still there 14 hours later. (At $35 a day for an all day pass to use the computers) It's sad, and that's how I feel looking over and seeing a middle aged adult so pressed into the game. I've met people that didn't even know how to have a conversation, even about the game. That's how dampened their real social skills were. The ending of my previous relationship was no doubt because of World of Warcraft. I was never really addicted to the game, because things like getting gear and raiding Kara never really kept my interest. The programming/hacking/tinkering, and real money making did for a while though-and I don't mean gold, I mean real life cash. However, when I stopped, my ex kept going. I'd wake up early in the morning and she would be going to bed because she stayed up all night. There's times where she literally didn't sleep for 72 hours and thats not even an exaggeration. Her dying father would beg for attention, her mom would beg for help, she'd let the dogs use the bathroom all over my house because she just tuned out and she stopped 'feeling'. Nothing in the real world seemed to matter anymore. She even began relationships with a 2 or 3 guys online through the game, promising to come visit them and stuff, and how she thinks about them all the time. Within a year and a half, it looked like she aged 6 or 7 years. When I sold her account (which I purchased and paid for) and gave her mom the money she needed - she become unrealistically violent to the point of actually Kicking our pets, scratching her arms and legs so much she bled, and having incoherent conversations with herself and now hates me. She had a child too, but thankfully she gave her daughter up for adoption before WoW entered her life. Not one person ever believes this story, and looking back, I almost can't believe it happened. This game isn't addicting, there is no chemical pushed into you to make you stuck to the game and physically crave for Azeroth. The people who are addicted are ones looking to escape real life, and its hurts those with no will power the most.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Flowers: Requirement? Luxury? What's the standard? Posted: 2/12/2009 8:55:14 AM
I've personally heard too many women say they aren't fond of flowers, yet light up when they receive them. Flowers are awesome, they've always started a date on the right foot in my experience. I'm surprised no other males have mentioned the cost yet, although I think a good $20-$40 non-extravagant bouquet is a good investment. They seem to lessen a little tension from pre-date stuff (like worrying about if their new hair style looks good or bad?) and nervousness. (EDIT: when I say "mention" - I really mean "complain" )

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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face stubble and sex... a way to make it softer? Posted: 2/11/2009 9:27:10 AM
I just rub conditioner into my stubble during my showers. Like you, if I shave I look too young, but a day's stubble looks pretty decent. After that, I just look dirty since my facial hair grows in like 6 different colors, lol.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Deleting P0rn Posted: 2/11/2009 7:52:31 AM
There's a point to the whole deleting thing, and that's so you don't see Exactly what he's getting off too. For example, one time I was watching porn, just kind of browsing around a couple streaming video sites, and one of those videos was some black chick getting railed in the ass by a dude. Not something in particular that I personally got off to, but it was just one of the many clips I came across and was on my history. No biggie. Next day, girlfriend is being a total prude. I ask whats up, and come to find out she was browsing my history and found the URL to the clip of that black chick getting railed in the rear. My girlfriend, being a stereotypical Caucasian rich girl got pretty damn upset because she thought I had a "thing" or "fantasy" to do a black girl in the ass. Obviously not a "fantasy" of mine, I didn't think anything of it actually... but because she hated anal sex (understandable, not a fan of it myself) and she obviously wasn't black, she got a little upset. Now, I'm just making an example. Truth is, he could be into hardcore bondage, or little people, maybe he likes a small assortment of gay porn, and a pretty damn big percentage of men actually enjoy Tranny porn (chicks with****?)... some men are actually Really into bestiality. Who knows? I don't, and you don't either. You're being silly :)

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

Msg: 80 (view)

Girlfriend has a GUY friend..... what do you think? Posted: 2/10/2009 2:39:08 PM
As a guy who has a bunch of female friends, I would never even think about asking one of them to travel somewhere to meet me against my S.O.'s will, and without at least asking my friends boyfriend/husband, face to face, if it were alright. Actually, I take that back. There's nothing me and another female friend could ever do that I couldn't have her boyfriend/husband be apart of as well. Too many red flags with the guy, your girlfriend on the other hand may be sincere about their friendship, but the guy is more than likely not.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Why do women do stuff when you meet but then change? Posted: 2/10/2009 1:44:59 PM
It's called the bait and switch. By pretending to be one thing, then after your hooked, reverting to their true self. There we go. I call it "Hook Sex" and I never take it as a serious indication of that person's true characteristics. Some girls have been freaks in bed, and then turned out to be complete prudes after conversation of commitment. Some were completely nonsexual, then turned into sex-dependent 2-3 times a day women.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Fear of dating single mothers Posted: 2/10/2009 10:54:35 AM
The two advantages to dating single mothers are (1) they are more likely to give you sex and (2) since they have fewer options, you can date or marry a prettier woman.. I'm just going to stand up and be the jerk here... but you're correct on both statements, in a sense. Sex is often used as a hook for majority of young single mothers (but not all), with single mom's between the ages of 18-25 being the only single mothers I have any experience with. I assume that as these young single mothers get older, their defenses go up as they realize sex won't make a guy with his own place, nice car, and good job stick around.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met Posted: 2/10/2009 10:02:34 AM
Out of the people I've met on PoF so far, I'd say at least 3/4's of them turned out to look almost completely different in person. I always expect it though, no matter how sincere the person may be. It's off-putting, that's for sure. But what can you do? Our profiles all serve as covers of a book, and you know how the saying goes. It's even worse when people claim to have an interest in something that they don't have a clue about. For example, a girl I talked to said she loved books. Favorite author? Vogue magazine. Another claimed that she had a deep interest in older punk music, yet didn't know who the Sex Pistols were, or the Ramones. I'm more disappointed by that than their appearance.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

Msg: 203 (view)

Does a woman sending nude pictures or getting naked on a webcam before meeting means sex on the firs Posted: 2/10/2009 8:51:14 AM
No. There's been a couple instances where first or second conversations on the phone has turned into swapping nude pictures... but I think everyone should be respectful on the first date, so I try not to have the "Well, I'm pretty sure I'm going to get laid tonight" mentality. I can only assume that while I'm sitting down eating a meal with a girl, she's probably thinking "I hope he doesn't assume I'm easy just because I sent him nude pictures" or something, so I don't. She may have just been "in the mood" at the time she sent pictures or got on webcam, which doesn't mean she's going to be on the first date.. but if she still is, then who knows?

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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DOG attacks !! i wanna know your stories Posted: 2/9/2009 10:05:27 AM
When I lived in Chesapeake, VA. We would have to run around and hide through our neighborhood because a guy with two pitbulls would just allow them to jump the fence and run around and snarl and snap at people for no real reason. One attacked a woman when she was walking on her way to her car, but the guy hid the dogs in his basement or something when the city tried to come pick them up. When my brother (now 19) ran home because one of the pits bit his arm through his winter jacket (blood everywhere, now an arm full of scars) we called the police, nothing they could do because they couldn't find the dogs, and they guy wouldn't admit they were his although we all knew they were. Two days later, the dogs were running around again. I grabbed two pounds of meat and put them at the end of the road near a field and when they approached the meat I grabbed my rifle and shot both of them and carried their carcasses back to the owners house. My other neighbors brought things to our house like food and candy and told us of their horrible experiences with the dogs and their owner. There's a big difference between a pet and stupid animal, and I have absolutely no patience for a stupid animal and stupid animal owners. Don't get me wrong, I love animals. In fact, I own 6 dogs and a couple cats that are great additions to my families farm here in Iowa. The big difference between my animals and others, is that mine serve a purpose and they do their job. A huge pit bull chained to a small fence gate in the middle of the suburb does not. No matter how much I love animals, I love people a hell of a lot more for someone to ever be harmed by an animal.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

Msg: 95 (view)

Men with mustaches and/or beards, Why and what?? Posted: 2/8/2009 11:40:24 AM
I really really wish I could grow a 70's male porn star stache.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Do men realy think that blonds are more attractive? Posted: 2/7/2009 5:58:52 PM
I've never been attracted to blonds, and especially not red heads. (Gingers. shudder) Brunette's though... giggity giggity.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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OK guys, what's your number 1 guy movie? Posted: 2/7/2009 5:51:35 PM
The Jackal Leon the Professional Pulp Fiction Get Shorty Bad movies or not, I don't care.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture Posted: 2/7/2009 1:45:30 PM
Happens to me a lot, but mostly though a webcam. I don't usually try to spend a lot of time getting to know people online, so I jump to the webcam thing pretty soon since this is year 2009 and they only cost $20.00-$30.00. Probably out of the 20 or so girls/women I've talked to, maybe only 25% of them actually resembled their picture. Even less have resembled their personality and have true interest in the things they claim to have interest in which is sometimes why I even bother responding to them in the first place. This is why advertisement style profiles are pointless. People are getting pretty damn crafty about the use of angles. Some just use pictures that are several years old. If only I could mention user names... Even worse, some women have turned out to be guys. (Yet, are still on here.)

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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how to prevent getting hard in bed with a woman? Posted: 2/5/2009 6:32:30 PM
Wear a condom the entire time, and think of furniture.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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CompTIA A+ Posted: 2/5/2009 2:37:25 PM
Received my A+ cert and CCNA certification while in high school. Both weren't hard, but the information for the CCNA was presented to me through 4 semesters of Cisco classes that lasted about 2 years (too long). A+ was pretty easy if you know your way around a computer. http://www.am.dodea.edu/lejeune/Technology.htm Good thing I didn't pay for any of it, because it didn't help me get my foot into the door at all because I was 18 and didn't have several years of real experience. I even traveled to interviews to find work before going to college. Now that I've got a year of experience of just operating a LAN GAMING Center, Ive actually received serious job offers.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Aqua Jogging Posted: 2/5/2009 12:03:12 PM
Bad for MY joints, because I've had back surgery and years of abuse of constant back bumps on no padding. I still do sit ups and run, you just won't see me at the gym running a couple miles on a treadmill because it hurts my knee's and back, and yes, both are done properly. The lack of work I put into stuff like sit ups and running, I make up with extended swimming. Things such as squats and push ups are still apart of my workout so I actually maintain my core strength. Also, I've noticed I lose weight much faster and easier through swimming as opposed to past core strengthening exercises, and that's even with some of the exercises being used in everyday labor .

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Tai Chi, kenpo, shaolion boxing and other martial arts Posted: 2/4/2009 10:38:29 PM
I've been involved with Judo since I was 4 or 5, got started in Sabana Seca, Puerto Rico. Then I got to do Judo tournaments through Europe, but I dont remember much of it. Then when my family moved to Okinawa when I was 14, I got to learn different forms of Okinawan Karate since it was apart of the actual school. I was only ever really interested in Judo, but Kobudo was obviously fun since I got to learn how to use/mess around with weapons. Then I got more involved in Judo when we moved back to the U.S. since it was pretty popular up in CT, but not so much in NC. Here where I live in Iowa, I still do sparring/randori but all of arms locks and choke holds have already taken its toll on me, lol. I took a bunch of Krav Maga lessons too, a very real class. It's focus is to combat a real attacker, something I wish I had put more effort into learning incase I ever really needed to defend myself.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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why do i keep attracting freaks n assholes? Posted: 2/4/2009 2:23:38 PM
Your profile is fine. There's just a large number or overly horny men who do not know how to treat another person on this site. You have to weed out those guys to find the good ones. And props to you for being here to actually meet people.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Aqua Jogging Posted: 2/4/2009 2:13:39 PM
Well, I keep in shape by swimming. I don't bother running much, or doing a lot of the other stuff like sit ups because its bad for my joints. So, yeah... you may look like a complete idiot, but you aren't wearing your joints down as much as the girl on the treadmill. Also, a lot of people claim that swimming isn't the best for weight loss. However, swimming was always the best way for me to lose a couple pounds.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

Msg: 112 (view)

Do people actually meet on this site??? Posted: 2/3/2009 7:32:39 PM
There's the younger crowd, and then there's the mature crowd. I've met a couple women/girls from this site within the couple months I've been here, but no actual relationship yet, but I assume the reason why is because younger women aren't as specific as to what they are looking for, and much more likely to meet up due to not having children and sometimes jobs, lol. I'm not going to pretend to be some PoF guru, but things I've learned: - Never under-estimate the importance of a stand-out profile. My original profile was basically a small novel and very uninteresting. My new one has little to no personal information at all, and now girls actually contact me first. - Getting to know someone by talking to them online for long periods of time is the worst way to go. You can only really get to know someone in person, not online. So, when or if I ask a person out to lunch, dinner, or where ever else and they respond with "I'd much rather get to know you first, then meet up," I take that as "I'm not really interested, but your nice to talk to online." - Lying is pointless. A lot of people on here are unemployed, work dead end jobs or the like. Getting on and pretending to be some high rolling CEO is pointless, especially when you roll up in a 20 year old beat up Honda and have to lie some more. - Sometimes, its important to remember that there's a reason why SOME people are single. Sometimes that reason is a good one.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Do men like it when a woman makes first contact?? Posted: 2/2/2009 3:13:39 PM
I don't even bother making first contact. There's too many people here to gawk rather than participate. I just stand in line like every other guy on this website and wait for women to pick us out of the bunch for casual conversation, then it goes from there. All of the contact I've made, and all of the dates I've been on have been the result of the woman contacting me first. I just respond to messages now.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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Mature men, can you explain this one ... the disappearing act? Posted: 2/2/2009 4:53:44 AM
Could have lied about small details about them or their personality as a way to attract you, and were afraid of rejection once you dissected the small things they may have lied about.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

Msg: 79 (view)

Spanking Your Monkey in Public Posted: 2/2/2009 4:11:42 AM
I'm happy to report that this has Never happened to me, at least not up close. When I lived at Camp Lejeune (in North Carolina), a bunch of people including teachers would talk about how they would have to randomly scout through the woods behind our high school and middle school because they would catch young marines rubbing one out together with binoculars to the sight of the girls during gym. They would also catch them out in the parking lot ALL THE TIME rubbing one out while sitting in their cars pretending to be parents. It was always bad when teachers would catch em' dropping off a girl the next morning in front of the middle school.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

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World of Warcraft Posted: 2/2/2009 3:54:36 AM
Definitely was work. $600.00 USD for 4 high level, geared toons was a pretty good deal. When I first got into it, I sold my first account for $1200.00, then I sold each additional one for $400. Then when I had friends just give me theirs, then I learned I could make more just selling gold to people on gaming forums. At first, the making money aspect (called RMT) was just as exciting as the game was when I first played it. Like both, the fun slowly died out.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

Msg: 205 (view)

World of Warcraft Posted: 1/31/2009 7:48:48 PM
I can't believe I never came across this thread. I was into WoW hardcore back when it came out, took a break before BC came out, then picked it up again. Got a bunch of toons' to lvl 70 and just sold them all off and bought a car and paid off my debt. Then when I got back into it, I started programming my own bot in C++ and C# and then obviously started selling gold and accounts. Used to be fun until I started exploiting it, lol.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

Msg: 21 (view)

Viewed me question.... Posted: 1/31/2009 7:30:49 PM
I'd say the messages Most guys send out are Read and never responded to, or Read and Deleted. After a while, they just assume you aren't going to respond to them, so why bother sending messages? They probably assume You won't be interested in them. In fact, the only real communication I've received on this site are from women who have contacted me first.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

Msg: 4 (view)

Did you ever HIGH FIVE your partner after sex? Posted: 1/31/2009 10:47:04 AM
I've never thought of giving a high five, but I'm going to try it out next time.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

Msg: 77 (view)

Men and yoga.. yay, nay or gay? Posted: 1/30/2009 10:14:03 AM
I feel all masculinity is gone while doing it, that's for sure. Helps with my flexibility though.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

something odd i've noticed about chicks Posted: 1/30/2009 10:04:56 AM
This thread is funny. What makes it funny is that when I remade my profile here, I went out of my way to convince viewers that I will Not try to make them happy. I think I've got more messages and have been saved on favorites probably 7 times More than when my profile consisted of me saying I'm a good person and will pamper the person I'm with. Seriously, I'll hog the covers without even thinking twice about it. +3 points for honesty, imo.

Ner0

Joined: 12/9/2008

Msg: 13 (view)

Would you ever even.... Posted: 1/29/2009 12:15:06 PM
a LDR isn't so bad if I have the ability to meet up with the other person at least 3-4 times a month.

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