omg, this is pathetic.

Face it girls, they think we're a piece of meat.
Perhaps, next time I get a request for a full body photo, instead if deleting the message, I'll ask for a wallet photo to return the favor.

Jeez, no wonder there's so many of you guys wondering and whimpering why no one responds to you.

Look at it this way and maybe you'll get it - if your daughter was on a dating site hoping to meet a great guy and ran across requests for full body shots - what would you advise her to do?
Yeah, thought so.

Yes you are because it seems your view is only the 'cheaper' ways are the ways to spend time with a gal otherwise the guy is a chump. Perhaps the guy spending $120 on a date doesn't care about the cost no different than a gal getting f*cked by a guy doesn't care about how many dates she's been on with him.

Unsure other than bitterness on your part why you bring up as if it's a fact gals being unappreciative and egocentric? Though it's telling how you keep bringing up him getting something in return which is the same logic used in the advice of gals giving it away she's a chump because she gave it away without a relationship.

I get this cooky logic from patriarchal bs like the slut double standard (master key/sh*tty lock) which clearly devalues as well as derogatory insults for gals based on their sexuality like skank, whore,**** etc. It's off to me that you seriously doubt this considering how many threads/posts by gals are if the guy will think less of her, think she's a slut, and such.

Seems you're overlooking that he may be trying to spend money to ensure they both have a good time.

Statistics show gals generally don't get pleasure out of getting laid as shown by the wide orgasm gap and how when they do get pleasure from sex it's less than half as much as guys.

She is walking away from the date poorer in the sense of being devalued

with the whole double standard on sex as the guy being is positively for f*cking a gal and the gal is seen negatively for getting f*cked.

It's a bit telling that for sex they're both getting pleasure but when it comes to dating the guy is walking away poorer as if the guy gets nothing from it so is the guy not getting pleasure out of the date too or is spending time with a gal not a pleasure unless he's f*cking her?

Why is he a chump?

Is it coming from the same logic used in the advice that a gal who sleeps with a guy on their second date is a chump

I do think people should have full body shots. However that doesn't completely eliminate the possibility of someone misrepresenting themselves.

great !! so you can fix problems . what if you were the cause of the problem for a woman . would you fix it for her ?

She now doesn't like the some of my qualities which she used to before and gets annoyed with me doing stupid stuff.

Also, one negative trait of hers, which I have known since a long time is that she is very money oriented. Her whole life revolves around making money and saving it.

She does spend money on shopping occasionally even buying high end items once in a while, but that's about it. Spending money on almost anything else, even if its for me or her family, is not something she likes to do. And knowing that, I usually try and pay for everything when we both are hanging out. I am cool with it.

But whats bothering me is that she now insists that I don't work hard enough and she wants me to earn at least a six digit income so that we can lead a luxurious life.

She herself earns a lot and currently, I earn more than she does! But since she is more educated than I am, I can foresee her earning more than me in future.

I used to work my ass off at work but lately I have been slacking off. My unsuccessful attempts to be an entrepreneur have failed as well. She has picked on this, and now thinks that I am not ambitious enough.

She thinks that a quality family life is possible only if I earn more than I do right now.

If you take 100 men and 100 women all with similar type of jobs (ZERO high risk jobs) and take those who die as a result of an accident or suicide out of the study, study them for longevity, on average, the women will outlive the men. I am talking of death by natural causes.

They did a big study on this. Where did they get the data? From preists and nuns. They live an extremely similar life style.

I'm 39 and never dated a Single Mother before, but it seems apparent more and more each day that might be my only option..

I'd suggest that as long as men are aware of the risk of 18-20 years of child support, they have just as urgent a reason to make sure they aren't fathering children they don't want, or at least that he and the woman are on the same page as far as after-the-fact options are concerned.

If he says he's always willing to use a condom so she doesn't have to use the pill, how will she know he isn't poking holes in it? Or that it didn't 'accidentally' slip off?

And here you make the assumption that it is the woman's *incompetence*, rather than entertaining the idea that maybe the birth control just didn't work and that no fault can be attached.

Why don't more men opt to have a vasectomy if they're so adamant against children or "forced fatherhood?" It seems like such a simple solution to me.

What do people value in society today, being a father or mother, or being a runaway?

I twisted nothing. That is how I read you, perhaps in future you should be clearer in your comments.

Simply telling a man that they are going to be a father when they had made no preparations for it...

Welcome to the world of grown-ups Mrcs84. :)

If you aren't prepared for a the contingency of pregnancy you shouldn't be having sexual intercourse until you are.

I don't agree that his "responsibility" stops at condom use. In my opinion, a man is responsible to know as much as about female birth control as he knows about male birth control.

He should make sure he discusses "what-if" scenarios with any sexual partner, so they're both on the same page.

Women have exactly the same responsibility in regards to birth control and discussion with potential sexual partners.

I had 10 weeks of nausea vomiting, anemia, miscarriage, a d&c, and found out he father doesn't love me.

Wrong..!
My adult discussion of birth control , would include a discussion on abortion attitudes
When its comes to birth control , women hold an unequalled power balance

THAT Marc, is lack of preparation...leaving the responsibility of birth control solely on your partner.

From experience some of us actually know better than to leave the "responsibility" of anything left up to a female or the medical profession. I chose my orifices wisely. Crude but, true.

MEN have been known to lie about having a vasectomy, to substitute birth control pills, to poke holes in condoms in order to undermine a woman's birth-control measures.

Well, think about it this way...
Would you date a young single father who is overprotective of his kid and has truct issues...?

most of the people who SAID they would marry for money are men
most of the people who DO marry for money are women

Why are the pretty ones always so dumb?

Why is it if a woman keeps herself in shape and lifts weights and yes i have
larger shoulders im asked stupid questions like am i a woman? Hell yes im all woman and whats wrong with taking care of myself at age 59. Nobody ever believes im that age.

But I do have standards

I know what i want in someone

Pardon me? who are you to judge me? you dont know me.

I never judge people based on looks, yes attraction to someones looks is nice, but you can meet the best lookin person ever, but they can be the rudest, biggest ***hole ever. or have the worst personality. Personality comes first.

A lot of people use online dating as a way of seeing the person for their personality and not just their looks. Looks isnt everything. you cant judge a book by its cover. so when it comes to online dating, people dont feel that they are being too quick to judge. when u meet someone face to face, your first impression is based on their looks, and how they smile at you. you cant judge that online, so people feel that people are wanting to get to know them for who they are and not just what they look like.

I am also wondering if all your posts are some sort of attempt to boost you ego with all your claims of many suitors. You seem to consistently want to brag to others about all the men who are falling at your feet and how you reject so many of them because you are not attracted to them. It appears you enjoying slamming others for their opinions and seem to be holier than thou..

So, at the end of the day, my opinion is - a man is not a man unless he is not capable of providing for himself at the very least.

I put socially......I have had 2 beers in the past year.

I would consider it a worthwhile investment to show my kids, among others, not to drive drunk....and I am sure the vision of me burning that truck down in the cow pastures with a gallon of lighter fluid in one hand and a match in the other would scare them straight well into their adult years, so they would NEVER drive drunk. And any kid who does dare to drive drunk, the others will be whispering "dont do it man, dont you remember what O and C's crazy ole redneck mama did when they got busted driving drunk"....
Then they would work the rest off.

Well said, hun. Too many people judge and give mothers hard time. We may be mothers, but that's not the only thing that defines who we are. We are much more and probably better to date than girls who lead single selfish lives.