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interludesolo

Joined: 11/29/2005

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Honesty Posted: 11/9/2009 7:39:22 AM
Dudleyh ..your hilarious! Now that's what I call honesty! Brolin..refreshing that a guy would not pretend he is going to call a women when he has no intention, like some men do. I guess what I was getting at in one instance anyway, was for single Mom's with kids. My daughter was telling me about her single Mom friend who has a small 5 year old boy, who is a holy terror, no manners, constantly interrupting, jumps on couches and the mother does not discipline him in any manner. The Mom thinks he is the second coming and can do no wrong. Since I work with high needs kids I do understand the need for kids to feel loved and wanted and a Mom loving her kid unconditionally is a good thing. That being said..she just assumes any potential date she has should think his attics are adorable too. And of course they go running. So I told my daughter maybe she should have a talk with her because my daughter now makes herself unavailable when her neighbor calls because of her wild child! What I'm getting at I guess is sometimes people, especially our close friends and family should be told in a nice manner of course ..."hey do you realize you constantly talk about yourself and the toys that you own and you wonder why you only attract shallow women." I swear, if some men gave as much attention to their wife's as they do with their cars, there would be no divorce! OK off topic , my bad. Or maybe we can't handle the "truth!"

interludesolo

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Honesty Posted: 11/8/2009 6:20:06 PM
If given the option, would you really like to know why some one isn't interested in YOU? Whether it be at a bar, social scene or POF would you really like to know why someone is not interested in you or do prefer making your own assumptions. I've heard males and females who say, "Oh gad, he's such a bore," can't stand his or her kids. Cuz let's face it ...we all have our preferences whether we want to admit it or not. She's too fat, he's too short, he's too cheap, she's a golddigger, he's too controlling I could tell on the first date! OMG I found out she is a racist! She 's not attractive enough for me! All he seems to be interested in is sports....he only listen's to heavy metal and nothing else. I can't stand heavy metal! Don't like her religious beliefs! Soo what do you think? And please..no comments like if it's a really nice person I would overlook it. Let's keep it real. I know there are men out there who love 5'2 petite blondes with blue eyes, just as there are women out there who love tall men and won't date anyone short. For myself, don't know why, I've always found myself attracted to dark haired men. Don't have a strong dislike for blond men..but for some reason I'm more attracted to dark hair on men. Anyone care to comment. Would you really like to know why there was no interest???

interludesolo

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Pandemic swine flu-someting to ponder or NOT Posted: 10/31/2009 5:03:37 PM
Hi Printer, So your saying this women is a flake is that it? Alrighty then...had this e-mailed to me without any background of the women speaking. Wasn't aware she was loonytunes! Still don't like the thought of injecting bird and swine into me!

interludesolo

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Pandemic swine flu-someting to ponder or NOT Posted: 10/30/2009 9:39:38 AM
Oh for sure Susan... I'm not cynical by nature but nothing surprises me anymore... remember Bush after 911 and his supporters constantly on the tube insisting that they must go to war because Iraq had weapons of mass destruction. Turns out they were WRONG and knew all along what they were doing, merely wanted to start a war and go into Iraq. Think of all the young men that died needlessly!

interludesolo

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Pandemic swine flu-someting to ponder or NOT Posted: 10/30/2009 6:37:26 AM
It may have been pulled off youtube. The premise of the Minister of Health is that governments are doing a propaganda scare on the public and that there really is no pandemic. She suggests that the powers that be, pharmaceutical companies stand to make a lot of money as do the investors. Rumfelt,(spelling is wrong I know) being one of them. She also suggests that the purpose of promoting the shot is to control our booming world population, hence encouraging pregnant women, children and old people to be first in line to get the flu shot. Further, she claims when the first swine scare came out in 1976, the government was not prepared for the backlash when some people started to die from the shot and their loved ones were seeking compensation for wrongful death. Apparently now,they are prepared and insurance companies have , aleigned with the government and will not cover this flu shot. Something to think about.

interludesolo

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Pandemic "swine flu"-someting to ponder or NOT Posted: 10/29/2009 6:27:12 PM
Hi folks, The Finnish minister of Health speaks out against the pandemic "swine flu" shot. It only takes 6 minutes but very powerful. For you to believe or not , it's up to you!! www.youtube.com/watch?v=nTgyakGAddM Unless it's been removed at this point.

interludesolo

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Can someone give me their opinion on what happened ? Posted: 10/27/2009 7:16:37 AM
Santito.. As crude as it sounds...I tend to agree with Brad! I work with young girls and from what I have heard &observed if their immature,which she sounds like....she expected you to be all over her (she invited you to spend the night,ding ding) and when you didn't, she assumed you weren't that into her!! Don't sweat it! JMO Some young girls that I work with like the boys to be salivalating all over them! Otherwise they don't feel HOT! And God only knows how young girls like to be seen as HOT!

interludesolo

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Hoarders...feedback please Posted: 10/23/2009 5:04:22 PM
Hi folks, Thanks for the feedback. By no means is the ''hoarder" being abused....she is the abuser. An adult child (divorced)is living with her because she can't work as she is getting chemo for cancer. She wants to get out as quickly as possible but in the meantime is living in squaller and can't touch a thing to clean up or put away anything as her mother will freak. The person I am speaking of has grown children of her own but they can't help their mother at this time because they live in another province and just assume the "hoarder" her mother, will be kind to her own daughter. She is not! I think I will follow the advise of simplelife (thank-you) and call the fire department!! And BTW why is it that unless you are talking about sex or making subtle inuendo about SEX someone is always ready to DELETE you! OK I'm whining now!

interludesolo

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Hoarders...feedback please Posted: 10/22/2009 3:36:43 PM
Can they be reported? How do you go about getting someone panelled if they won't allow anyone into their house. She is aware that she is living in squaller. She is in her late 70ties and still puts the fear of God into her adult children. When one of her son's showed up with his wife to tell her they were there to help her get things sorted out, she freaked and went into I'm having an anxiety, heart attack mode. She is extremely manipulative and use to getting her way. There are health concerns for a sick family member who is living with her. Don't want to go into too many details. Family members are either not realizing or accepting how serious the problem is or just don't want to deal with it. It's a very sad situation for the family member living with her as she resents anyone knowing her true living conditions and is in constant fear someone will throw some thing out. MYOB or....

interludesolo

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OK I just have to ask Posted: 10/2/2009 1:01:27 PM
For me, hooking up with an unknown brother who was adopted out before you were born and you not being aware of it when you meet... is totally different than indulging in your carnal needs on a young helpless daughter, who is within your pereiferal vision. Why do people do this? Oh I know..because their selfish morons with no concerns of shattering someone elses life even if it is their own daughter!! And yes, I agree, Polanski has put out some good films but that does not negate the fact that in the prime of his life, already wealthy and famous with all of the Hollywood babes willing to satisfy his sexual appetite..he picks on a 13 year old! Doesn't matter what she says...he should know better!! Is he insecure? Needs to know his sexual performance or lack thereof won't be judged by a young child!! Imagine if it was your daughter or niece!!

interludesolo

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OK I just have to ask Posted: 10/2/2009 8:14:26 AM
Sorry for being sceptical here but it reminds of the women or man out there who knows their spouse is cheating but PRETEND they don't know it's going on or choose to ignore it... hoping it will pass. Gotta keep the house and the lifestyle donncha know. I'm sure their are wifes out there who sincerely didn't know this was going on....but Even though Mac is flamboyant and appears flip at times in interviews, perhaps it's my own projection but I see a lot of pain behind those eyes. Now you got that other "creep" Roman Polanski, who raped and sodomised a 13 year old girl and ran away to France and lived out his life making more money and films.. He finally gets caught attending a film festival in Europe and now a few well known names in Hollywood are thinking the charges should be dropped after so many years! What the f*&^%%! Azzhole What is wrong with people that they are so blinded by people because they are famous directors or in the entertainment business. What is up with that? Why are they exempt??? Right there up front and center supporting Polanski is Woody Allan. Another creep, who married Mia Farrow's daughter, and took naked pictures of her when she was just a child.

interludesolo

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OK I just have to ask Posted: 10/1/2009 9:50:15 AM
I'm with you peek.. Incest is horrific! I deal with kids who are victims and it ain't pretty! It messes them up for life..they always feel it is their fault! It's not uncommon for families to go into deep denial and try to vilify the victim. I highly doubt that celebrities are any different in not wanting to acknowledge such a debreaved act took place.

interludesolo

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Is Winnipeg, Manitoba really that friendly? Posted: 9/29/2009 6:15:35 AM
Printer How so...were the bambes eating your garden and trees?? Actually I moved out here for safety issues, but I do love the area I'm in.

interludesolo

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Is Winnipeg, Manitoba really that friendly? Posted: 9/29/2009 5:58:03 AM
Living in Headingley now..it is very friendly! Love it!

interludesolo

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OK I just have to ask Posted: 9/29/2009 5:42:56 AM
Yes, this incest thing is a dirty little secret that no one wants to acknowledge. In working with kids who have been violated by their father..it never ceases to amaze me how the mother will always deny and defend the spouse. Sick!!

interludesolo

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OK I just have to ask Posted: 9/28/2009 3:25:08 PM
What are your thoughts on McKenzie Philips? Do you believe her? I have to say I'm inclined to believe her! Why should rock stars be exempt from incest. Lord only knows we have a few towns to the south of here where the families are in church every Sunday praising God and the fathers are having sex with their children and some sons are having sex with their siblings at night. I'm just sayin.. Children have been born out of this reprehensible scenario! She does seem a little freaky..but I dunno . Anything goes when you are an addict and have easy access to someone who is vunerable. I can certainly understand Michelle Phillps adamant denial that John of the famous Momma's and Poppa's was a pedofile...who would want the world to know you were once married to a pedofile and didn't know it. As for people's claims that she is just making it up for her book, who the h*** would want to make such a diobolical claim about their Dad. Thoughts anyone?

interludesolo

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What would you do if you saw a parent hitting their child forcefully as you were working? Posted: 9/24/2009 5:59:19 PM
To silent guardian..since you feel so strongly about women abusing the system by having babies...you might want to google "corporate welfare!" The monies that go to people on welfare, is a PITTANCE compared to the greedy $%%$#*%ards who are wealthy and get zillions of dollars for free for their companies and never pay back it back because they know all the loopholes!!!

interludesolo

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Why do people( I know your out there) go out with someone your NOT remotely attracted to?? Posted: 7/26/2009 2:48:41 PM
Thanks for the honest answer Brolin! You hate eating alone. I can understand that. I'm always cooking for my two boys. Thorndyke..I admire your attitude! If they can accept the friendship ONLY status-no problem but when they start putting the pressure on for more, I bolt. I know this really pretty real estate women, her face is everywhere on billboards,( I'm thinking hated being alone), dated this man for about 4 months with fungus growing on his feet. He refused to go to a doctor, said it would go away on it's own. Apparently didn't bath much either! Yuck! How about the people that fall in and out of relationships one after the other. Are they just lucky to find people quickly and easily without a breather, or do they simply put all their personal preferences aside? I'm thinking it has to be the latter! OH and susan cd....as you know there are a lot of women out there who don't care what a guy looks like...as long as he has MONEY! And of course some of the younger men think that if a older women is established with money, he's in love too! Gad I'm cynical! Ah time to make supper! Later..

interludesolo

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Why do people( I know your out there) go out with someone your NOT remotely attracted to?? Posted: 7/26/2009 1:24:17 PM
OK bring on the DELETE police! I know all the blah blah arguments about it's what's inside that counts. We know that. Is it to fill in time? Mama said don't judge a book by it's cover? Your hoping to overlook his or hers unattractiveness to YOU because because dam... they got a nice house or cottage or car? Ok I know I'm not going to get an honest answer on that one! Your really just a "good" person who can overlook the fact that there's no sexual attraction for you.. but hey their personality is a 10 and maybe you can work on it? You can't stand being alone? Or maybe he or she has friends that you will be attracted to?? Your 50th birthday is approaching and times a wasting! It's the best you can do? OK no one will answer that one honestly either!! Or for those of us that still expect a sexual, physical attraction and a decent personality living in lah lah land at our age as in the pastures depleted, time to settle?

interludesolo

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How many of you would lend money to your family??? Posted: 7/26/2009 12:20:52 PM
Good for you Northernprincess! Atta girl! Don't mean to sound harsh as in my previous post..it's just that I work with kids who come into care with barely any clothes and certainly no cell phones. When I see a good percentage of teens running around with all the latest toys and not having to lift a finger for anything, I see that this is where some of the kids in care get anger at their luck of the draw with parents. They see other kids with everything handed to them and resentment builds up and it's hard for them to understand that it takes education and hard work these days in order for parents to get ahead. Most of the kids I deal with come from dysfunctional families as in drug abuse, sexual abuse, you name it. So you tell them to do good in school and most importantly STAY in school! They can't relate... because a lot of these kids come from homes where the parents were high school drop-outs. In my experience with schools nowadays, it seems schools are anxious to quickly discard and throw CFS kids out of school for any reason, rather than keeping them in school and away from gangs. So a life of crime seems like the easy way out! And yes, I've gotten off topic...guess what I'm trying to say is an attitude of gratitude is so lacking with some of the teens I have interacted with over the years! And of course... I would help my adult kids if there was an emergency, but not for a new car or other luxury items!

interludesolo

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How many of you would lend money to your family??? Posted: 7/24/2009 12:09:46 PM
As long as my kids were going to school or university..no problem. They didn't have to pay any rent! Once they have a good paying job, which they all do...there is no need to give hand-outs. Learning to save is a wonderful quality! This generation, I find wants everything now and if they can't get the $250,000. house they will live at mom and dad's, paying no rent and of course want nothing but the most expensive furniture, which some parents out there seem eager to facilitate. I don't think there is anything wrong with being generous with your adult children if it's for a good cause but if your child just doesn't want to save and instead wants to blow all their money on clothes and toys, while mom and dad ponies up for the big ticket items...to me this is called enabling! Your adult child is not learning to live within his means and to me encourages selfishness in other areas! I'm a true believer in the expression "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger!" IMO this generation of youth have this intense quest for physical perfection (french pedicures on 12 year olds), coloring their hair, see them everywhere with their cell phones and blackberries. It's as though some parents want their kids to be seen opulent and sexy sexy sexy, even at 12, so they can brag how popular their kid is!! I'm guessing to prove to the world that their kids got it all. The kids, (not all) want to look like adults but have no need to grow up and take some responsibility because parents feel the need to rescue or enable them. IMO this encourages an attitude of entitlement and immaturity! I know of a young person, (almost 30) who inherited $80,000. from the grandparents, blew it all, didn't even put a down payment on a house and once again asks mom for money! What kind of craziness is that? Won't they make a wonderful spouse?

interludesolo

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What would you do? Posted: 7/22/2009 9:24:48 AM
You got that right Ombrerose! Emotional blackmail is a killer! He phones his Mom regularly and I'm friends with the Mom (grandmother). Ironically, she constantly tells him he needs to kick his daughter out and can't understand why her son still allows his daughter to live off of him!

interludesolo

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How many of you would lend money to your family??? Posted: 7/22/2009 9:16:41 AM
Life is not a free ride! IMO the sooner your son or daughter learns responsibility it makes them well rounded as opposed to selfish human beings who feel ENTITLED.. and that other people should just give them things without working for it!! Good grief $23.oo an hour, pays no rent and still expects you to put down the down payment! I would have been ashamed at that age to expect my parents to hand over a down payment and me not paying rent.

interludesolo

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What would you do? Posted: 7/22/2009 8:48:02 AM
Hi ... Yes, it is truly deplorable how lives can get so messed up by this deviant behavior. I have a male school friend who lives in Toronto going through a living hell! He went through a terrible divorce when his kids were around 12&14. (boy and a girl)His wife left him for another man and left the kids with him. He was fine with raising the kids, only to find out his daughter had been sexually molested by his own father for a lengthy period of time. He was devastated! It gets crazier! They did go to counselling..however now in her middle 30ties she continues to live off of her Dad, sleeps most of the day, parties on the week-end with her friends, has been to Europe 3 times, but refuses to work or pay for any rent! Emotional blackmail to the hilt! The son moved out years ago. She had always been spoiled by her father..now he is riddled with guilt over what happened and continues to support her. IMO she takes full advantage of this! He just can't bear to ask her to move out! He feels so guilty and ashamed for what his father did to his daughter. The grandfather (molester) passed on and they have not disclosed what happened to the grandmother as she is now in her 80ties. They lived a so called religious life! A relationship is impossible for him because his daughter basically won't allow it! He is now freaking out that there is a chance he may loose his job (downsizing) and his house! It's a very sad situation!

interludesolo

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foreign child molesters more important than Candian citizens? Posted: 7/6/2009 1:21:33 PM
Er ah just to put a different spin on it...just for the sake of argument he was sent back to Iran, from some of the Iranian people I've known, depending on what part of Iran he was from and he committed a crime like this again, the female would be the one who would be persecuted! As in she looked at him and he got turned on and it was her fault. These customs still exist..where it is always seen as the females fault.

interludesolo

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Single travel? Posted: 6/29/2009 1:30:27 PM
Help! I need a holiday and would like to travel to Europe with other single people. Are there travel agents that cater to us single people or are we SOL. I've heard MEET Market does this type of group travel but my understanding is they seem to gear towards the 20 year olds. Am I wrong? All information welcomed!

interludesolo

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Two Icons of Our Culture Die Posted: 6/29/2009 1:19:58 PM
Have to agree with tempt your kharma..in that, who knows for sure whether he paid off those kids or rather the parents. Shame on(parents) them if they did change their story for the money! I still think MJ was an amazing entertainer and absolutely caused a video evolution. The Thriller video is still brilliant after all these years! You have to admit just by looking at him in photos there definitely was some mental illness going on and it appears, like Elvis he fired people who tried to be real with him. I guess the tragedy of being that rich is that sycophants come out of the woodwork to kiss azz. He has definitely left his mark in the world! As for Farrah..got to give her creds for The Burning Bed and Small Sacrifices. Very brave roles. And she did personify what Hollywood defines as the perfect blond. My only negative about MJ would be the news coverage! Have the Americans lost their minds.. come on, it's been four days and their still carrying on about his sudden death on CNN and even Anderson Cooper is in on the analysis!

interludesolo

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Favorite romantic movie scene Posted: 4/29/2009 2:48:28 PM
The Notebook was just killer for me....so so romantic, oh to be loved like that again. Those two Canadian actors, Rachel McAdam and Ryan Gosling were amazing! A lot of chemistry there. Love Actually, all the love stories and how they intertwined was amazing. I was especially moved by the best friend who was in love with his friend's wife and took their wedding pictures and she wondered why he hated her when in fact he was trying to distance himself from her because he loved her. Then the scene where he shows up at their door with signs of how he really feels about her. Priceless! Also loved Polanski's...BitterMoon. Very sexy! Braveheart.....Mel Gibson as he shyly hands her the flower he kept that she originally gave him as a child. Such a romantic scene. Also loved, can't remember the name 0f the movie where Richard Gere takes another man's identity opposite Jodie Foster. There is a tender scene where she is shyly shaving him and feels awkward because she hasn't seen her husband in a while. I also get a lump in my throat still when I see reruns of The Way We Were. The scene where they run into each other after many years and she gently tucks his hair back in place. They exchange pleasantries but it's the emotions that are stirred silently from both of them! So moving! The scene between Brad Pitt and Angelina in Mr. Mrs. Smith when they were slow dancing was smoldering!

interludesolo

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The fears of being alone Posted: 4/15/2009 8:31:19 PM
Personally I can think of nothing worse than being in a relationship and still feeling ALONE, like a few people I know. There are people in relationships and still feel alone because the truth be told.... they are in a fake loveless relationship just so they can say to the world..see I have someone! Our society still equates being alone as being a "loser!" Or gee, you can't get a boyfriend.

interludesolo

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Police use Taser during arrest of 15-year-old outside Gordon Bell school Posted: 4/6/2009 7:36:35 AM
Can only speak for myself and not other parents but I can honestly say that in my role as a care giver...I take it very seriously and one of the first things I do during the first few months is believe it or not...merely getting the child into a habit of routine. Getting up, going to bed at a decent time, not 12 at night, brushing your teeth, taking a shower (making sure they use soap) and getting them to eat healthy food and I'm not talking tofu. Just regular healthy food which some view as foreign as they(most) have been fed junk food all their lives and even while in group homes will always nit-pick about what they eat. How can you get a child to focus if they are wired up on sugar! Some have never been taught good hygiene habits and actually resent you for getting them to clean up. This is where I remind them that girls won't like you if your stinky! I also limit TV during the week and week-ends always try to get them involved with some form of physical activity. Again this isn't easy but can be done! I also think it is important that kids do chores and earn their allowance! Heaven forbid! I only ask that they clean their own mess! The attitude of entitlement seems to be ever present because some parents give in easily or can't be bothered. I think that these are BASIC SKILLS that a child must learn from day one. IMHO if a child is allowed to lay around all the time and not participate in anything physical at school yet can miraculously be the first in line for pizza at school, how in the world can we expect "some kids" to suddenly be disciplined enough to hold down a job at 18. It ain't gonna happen! Again just my opinion and what I see when kids are apprehended! Once again I'm not pointing fingers, only referring to the kids I deal with! And yes, there are certain school divisions that I obviously can't disclose, that will find a reason and blow it out of proportion to get a child in care kicked out! I've ranted enough on this already. I truly believe school and mentoring is crucial! If a child is kicked out of school... what is left for him or her to do, except sleep all day and get into trouble later with their other friends who have been kicked out of school. Then people wonder why we have kids running wild in the streets with not an ounce of respect for anyone! We as a society have to step up to the plate and not allow this to happen and demand that schools not automatically assume that kids in care are disposable and can be kicked to the curb because sooner or later it comes back to bite you in the azzzz!! By the time they start getting charges laid against them and they are in the system...it is usually too late !! Hence the gang mentality soars! Birds of a feather flock together!

interludesolo

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Police use Taser during arrest of 15-year-old outside Gordon Bell school Posted: 4/5/2009 12:28:17 PM
I see the discussion rages on about our youth! The only comment I would like to make is this. When your roof is leaking, you go to the source do you not? Which is getting on top of the roof and fixing it properly. Some people will put a pail to catch the drip and in the long run we all know it's going to get worse. My point being, teens committing crimes could be downsized considerably... if it was mandatory that kids at any age must attend school regularly and I mean really enforce it. Build a boot camp in Churchill or somewhere on the outskirts of the city and hire teachers who know how to relate to kids! Isolate them completely if they don't want to co-operate! This is what all teens complain about first and foremost about the Youth Center. The initial first few days they are isolated and not allowed with other teens. It's been my observation that the "attitude" is suddenly dropped very quickly! Kids know how to play the game and will strive to deliberately get themselves kicked out of school by telling the teacher to f--k off. Why? The core of the reason IMO is because they don't like the feeling of being at a failing level or feeling like the "dummy" of the class...it embarrasses them! We need to have adequate teachers that care enough to ensure that these kids are brought up to speed! I've witnessed how teens self-esteem transforms like a flower given water, when they feel like they belong in the class and not the "outsider!" Personally I feel if a child is born into a drug addict environment, or alcoholism, selling drugs whatever and shown through his parents that stealing, lying, doing drugs, sassing back to adults is the norm and acceptable, we as a society need to assure through schools and mentors that there is another way and that this type of behavior is not acceptable and not the norm. However if the child is allowed to do what he wants, as in I'm bored, school is boring etc. translation= I don't know what the hell I am doing and want to get out of this class so I can hang out with like minded criminal people, where being a bad ass "gangsta is cool! We have to abort this dropping out of school acceptance promoted by school divisions! This is where a child learns to socialize and learn that sometimes we win and sometimes we fail and it's OK because we tried. This is where a child needs to learn..this is how "normal people" behave! This is where they learn that through hard work, discipline and persistence that it eventually pays off! There is too much instant gratification going on! Being allowed to run away and not participate because they don't like it or are bored strikes me as ludicrous! This BORED thing that permeates through our youth drives me nuts! When did it suddenly become gospel that children must NEVER be bored for a moment! What's up with that? OK I'm ranting now! I seriously believe as long as schools are going to punt kids out for whatever reason they deem necessary...we are in serious trouble! A youth with too much time on their hands, will stay up half the night playing video games and then it's time for selling drugs and stealing cars while the rest of us are sleeping so that we can get up and go to work in the morning. Meanwhile they are sleeping until 3:00 in the afternoon and the hellraising starts all over again! These kids need to be shown that there is another way other than through crime...like a cute little puppy who is never housed trained properly because you think it's so cute or your too lazy, it is next to impossible to train the puppy once it is full grown. JMHO.

interludesolo

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Msg: 32 (view)

Senseless Death of Taxi Driver by young criminal car thieves Posted: 4/3/2009 11:28:46 AM
Oh and let's not forget the music video's, media, etc. which glorify and glamorize the"gangsta" life! Some kids seem completely desensitized when it comes to violence! Sad!

interludesolo

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Msg: 31 (view)

Senseless Death of Taxi Driver by young criminal car thieves Posted: 4/3/2009 10:24:56 AM
Should have explained myself Sage.... What I meant to say is that kids in care get treated like regular kids in foster care, (at least that's what we try to do) unfortunately UNLIKE the kid who comes from a middle class family and gets into trouble, that kid usually has parents who will support them through the rough patches until he or she hopefully straightens out. Most kids in care seem to think that they will always be taken care of and don't have to worry about getting an education, they mistakenly think that someone will always provide them with food, shelter, clothing, etc. so they are in shock when at 18 they are suddenly out on their own. Only then, do they seem to realize or NOT thatyour toast if you haven't prepared yourself for the real world, by staying in school. And IMO schools have no problem putting a foster kid, on what's called an" indefinite suspension for fighting!" In other words, we have you listed as a student of our school but your not allowed to attend! Now try pulling that on a kid who lives with his parents. Parents won't tolerate it and normally raise hell.. and the kid will be allowed back in school after a couple of weeks. IMO kids in care are seen as irrelevant to most schools. Hence when you have a bunch of uneducated kids running in the streets forming gangs to "belong" of course there is going to be crimes committed! These kids need to be encouraged to stay school in school rather than the schools looking for any excuse to kick them out! It's all about entitlement. A kid in care sees a middle class kid with his own car at 16 and feels they are entitled to one too. If not I'll steal yours, wreak it and who cares, type of attitude! There is a lot of angry and resentment! It all boils down to "life isn't fair" and if your born into a poor uneducated family, you have to work all the harder not to fall back on all the old familiar patterns! It's a tough call for these kids when they look around and see middle class Tommy going to Mexico on spring break and getting a car on his 16th birthday. Some of these kids see it as an impossible mountain to climb and despite getting support from a foster parent, if you don't have the support of the schools or the discipline to achieve their dreams they choose what they see as the easy way out! Again just my opinion!

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Msg: 3 (view)

Senseless Death of Taxi Driver by young criminal car thieves Posted: 3/30/2009 10:11:56 PM
Yes, I saw that in the paper as well. Those kids are soulless monsters! I work with some of these kids...while it's true we can't choose our parents and the results is evident in how "some" of these kids turn out. Unfortunately the attitude of ENTITLEMENT is not just limited to the car thieves or other young offenders we read about...this attitude transcends to some regular families as well where teens demand and insist on only the best of the best and from what I see a lot of parents give in to their kids wishes without having to do chores or any other type of work around the house. A lot of kids from middle class families have never been on a bus. I'm amazed at the number of teens I hear talk about getting a car from their parents when they turn 16 and no it's not used.

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Msg: 1 (view)

An interrogation Posted: 3/29/2009 4:10:42 PM
What are some of your acceptable questions to ask when you are first getting to know someone? While it's true, some people withhold information deliberately, there are still some questions you need to ask and some that are off limits IMO. Personally for me it is important to know if you are definitely divorced or just going through a separation. You don't have to tell me the whole story. It's a definite turn-off when some stranger, basically, starts asking me how many times a week I like sex! sheesh I'm sure a guy would freak if on a first date I asked..so how much money you pulling in??

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Msg: 57 (view)

Why Are Non-American Actresses Over 40 Allowed To Be Sexy? Posted: 3/26/2009 12:20:04 PM
I take it he means not allowed to be in sexy roles! That would be because we live in a youth obsessed, size 0. barbie doll society. Hollywood's ideal trickles down to our youth, who are completely savey when it comes to clothing, what to wear, what not to wear, 12 year olds wanting to look sexy! Ask them what MacBeth is about and they haven't a clue but they will tell you what jeans are in and the latest must-haves! Apparently...according to Hollywood standards your only sex appeal only lasts from 15 to 29! As for Diane Lane I thought she was incredibly sexy in Unfaithful.

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Relationships and Mom Posted: 3/23/2009 7:10:11 PM
Ok Juan...smartypants Busted...I was watching Oprah! I agree though, there are sometimes reasons sons don't want to see their Mom's, especially if their is physical abuse on the children and the Mom continues to remain in an abusive relationship. I find "some" men less forgiving of their Mom's, while girl's it seems are more forgiving of Dad... even if he walks out of her life and never pays a cent towards her upbringing. Just my observation listening to clients.

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Msg: 1 (view)

Relationships and Mom Posted: 3/23/2009 3:12:08 PM
So Ladies what do you think about the theory that if a man has a good(healthy) relationship with his Mom he will be able to have a healthy relationship with you?? Personally I find it a good indicator. If a man disrespects his Mom, has no relationship with her or thinks everything that is wrong in his life is her fault...I say red flag! Your thoughts??

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Msg: 1 (view)

Curious...re movies being made in BC Posted: 3/12/2009 1:47:24 PM
So was wondering do you find there are a lot of films being made in your beautiful province. Are there a lot of downtown locations being used. Do they ever advertise for extras, or do they always bring their own crew? My friends daughter wants to move to BC because the new Twilight movie, New Moon is being filmed there.

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Msg: 56 (view)

Personal Hygiene/First Impressions Posted: 2/17/2009 7:02:24 AM
Unfortunately the people who have very bad hygiene are the very people who will not READ this post! It's all to do with your upbringing..if bathing and brushing your teeth were not enforced by parents on their children or seen as important and necessary, these children grow into adulthood with poor hygiene habits. See it all the time with most foster kids I take care of.

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Can't get this song out of my head Posted: 2/16/2009 9:48:10 AM
All the single ladies, all the single ladies, put your hands up, put your hands, If you like it, put a ring on it!! Crazy song I heard on the radio by Beyonce. So now to make my boys laugh ..I attempt to sing as loudly as possible, gyrating like Beyonce in the kitchen. So much fun embarassing kids!

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Msg: 113 (view)

Body Shapers, Pushup Bras, Tummy Tammers - Lying or looking good? Posted: 1/18/2009 10:22:03 AM
Ha! Ha! Lordy now your really gonna stir the pot Carolann! Or how about Women is to CLOTHES-COSMETICS-SHOES-FEELINGS Men is to SPORTS-FLASHY CARS-huge GARAGES nearly as big as the house itself-SOLUTIONS

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Msg: 103 (view)

Body Shapers, Pushup Bras, Tummy Tammers - Lying or looking good? Posted: 1/17/2009 5:20:55 PM
Hmm.. it just so happens I am a hairsylist with a very good friend who is black and also a hairdresser! Her salon, specializes in hair straightening and weaves. Be that it may that Winnipeg is not in comparison a thriving cosmpolitan city, like Toronto,(I have lived in Toronto for a couple of years) none the less, we have a thriving ethnic population, so it's not like Winnipeg only has 60 black people living here. If your saying none of the women in your family or extended family, never wear weaves or straighten their hair.... well I would have to say they are IMO the exception.. It's very rare, in my observation with the black community here to see any of the women wear it natural. It's either straightened or weaved and on younger girls, braids. Once again I have to reiterate, it looks great either way! So for you Tiger..no hair straightening either? Wow! Quite frankly I don't get what all the fuss is about! regarding make-up if it is tastefully applied. I have yet to have a man run in horror after waking up beside me because of my natural appearance! I do understand the part about push-up bras etc and the tummy tammers but hey what the heck, aren't you Tiger and Sega dating young women? Why worry about it? Have a nice week-end!

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Msg: 98 (view)

Body Shapers, Pushup Bras, Tummy Tammers - Lying or looking good? Posted: 1/17/2009 10:51:15 AM
Alrighty then Dave.. There's a few things we agree on For starters, I do agree that staying healthy and exercising is a good thing. I go to the gym, took a break at Christmas and am now going back after the holidays. For myself personally, I don't wear body shapers, push-up bras, etc. but don't judge anyone that does. Your choice. That being said, I am a girlie-girl and enjoy being a girl! It's a pleasant ritual for most of us! And yes, I'm sure some fat kats are sitting somewhere on their yachts in the Carribbean, reaping from the benefits of their cosmetic companies and clothing lines. It's part of our culture, whether we like it or not and if any of you men think you can stop the proliferation of this industry..be my guest and while your at it advocate to get rid of magazines, music videos, constant barrage of advertisements telling us how we should look or not look. No one could ever accuse me of breaking the bank on make-up or clothes but I do partake, just not to excess. And yes I get it... "some" men hate cosmetics and any cheatin undergarment! I see it as my perogative if I choose to wear make-up, wear perfume, etc. Speaking for myself.. it is part of the feminine package if I choose! And as one of the posters stated, for some of us anyway, it's not a matter of need but a matter of perference. As we all know there are many forms of deception, Considerering all the evil that goes on in this world, IMO this one being at the low end of importance when it comes to human interaction. I gather that anti-make-up men like to see what your getting, correct? IMO there is no guarantee of anything, you always have to look beneath the surface! Some "natural" people are very good at disguising their ugly agendas or selfish, immature natures. As for you Mr. Tiger, this is not a dig, I gather you only date white women because it's very rare to meet a young black women who doesn't wear hair weaves. Some wear the braids..but most wear weaves. My son has a beautiful girlfriend from Jamaica. She's gorgeous the way she is but always gets weaves put in! My son loves her with any style. She also wears that shiny lipgloss, which I guess in your book would be a complete no-no cuz it's not "natural!" Peace

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Msg: 85 (view)

Body Shapers, Pushup Bras, Tummy Tammers - Lying or looking good? Posted: 1/16/2009 2:58:39 PM
Good grief Sega Read that last paragraph again...I'm saying exercising at the gym is a GOOD thing but when you start to look like the HULK then that is not natural as in weight lifting OBSESSIVELY and one more time....when you stop weight lifting your natural body shape comes back. I've known many body builders and aware of all the illegal powders they take to attain that UNNATURAL look. Oh pardon me "some" men would think it's cool! But when they STOP the intensive weight lifting some of the men are almost unrecognizable because they have shrunk back to their normal shape is all I'm sayin It's your God given right if you want to weight lift until the cows come home but don't try to say that women are cheating by wearing make-up when a huge percentage of the population is going in for plastic surgery every day and it's on the rise! FYI men as well as women! Why do they do it? To try and look as close to perfection as possible, I'm guessing! I swear "some" of you men would still like to see women barefoot and pregnant! What exactly is the underlying issue here? Is it because we have so many options or what? Did some of you have Tammy Faye mothers? And what about all those ugly azzz tattoos that most of you have? Is that natural too?You were born with ink on your body? Once again tattoo away, could care less about weather you have tattoos or not!

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Msg: 81 (view)

Body Shapers, Push Up Bras, Tummy Tamers - Lying or looking good? Posted: 1/16/2009 11:29:41 AM
Jeez Louise....seaga What the women is trying to say...is IF fake boobs, fake hair, bras, Viagara, high heels, nice smells are so repulsive and unattractive to "some men" oh please please please tell me why the porn movies sell through the roof with fake pouty injected lips and boobs bobbin around everywhere! Why do movies which are R rated, usually because some women is running around naked....your not gonna try to say that that actress's who makes gazillions of money with her redone nose, redone teeth (Jennifer Anniston) is natural on the screen. Seriously?Britiny Spears natural? Not! Most have all had work to some degree because perfection is expected, no correction, DEMANDED! Most women whether they admit it or not or live under a rock, cannot help but be affected by the constant pressure of the media, movies, magazines, to strive for perfection! As a hairstylist I get to see front and center, the stories women tell me about their man wanting them to look a certain way. That long straight fake blonde hair seems to be very desirable to men! And Seaga..I beg to disagree, huge bulging muscles are not NATURAL because they don't STAY that way if the man doesn't work out! Ditto 6packs. Normal workouts, operative word NORMAL and your body gets taunt and you look healthy otherwise your body is being manipulated if your in the gym 40 hours a week. l I personaly know bodybuilders who work out excessively to KEEP that UNNATURAL look! Some women like it! Some don't!!

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Msg: 76 (view)

Body Shapers, Pushup Bras, Tummy Tammers - Lying or looking good? Posted: 1/16/2009 9:25:04 AM
Dave you really need to read my post again. Let me be perfectly clear. What I was trying to do was make a correlation, if you will, between"some" women who like to wear make-up which many of you men have attested to is UNNECESSARY because it is unnatural and my point being that.... many men like to spend hours and hours in the gym each day to build their ordinary bodies up with massive muscle. If mother nature blessed you naturally, well good on you! However, in my book there is a reasonable amount of time to be exercising to remain healthy. Then there is the next level (I hear women complain about this constantly in the salon) where there husband, boyfriend, lover, are constantly in the gym every spare moment they have. They are specificly there to turn their ordinary bodies into huge hulking bodies with rippling 6 packs! They do this because it makes them feel good and for the ATTENTION it draws when they walk into a room. No doubt causing envious stares from "some" men! My point being... this look is UNNATURAL! Why...because as soon as they stop the intense weight lifting there body goes back to it's ORDINARY body type. Or as some of you men like to cry "fowl" when a women takes her make-up off at night. Same thing when a man stops exercising! Again let me make myself clear, some women DO NOT like this look and think it is unnatural and some will go so far to say that it looks gross! Bottom line..I have no problem if "some" of you spend hours and hours in the gym! Don't care! Just don't try to make it sound like it's some freakish thing that women do by trying to smell nice, look nice and God forbid wear make-up! Make-up has been around since the days of Cleopatra and last I saw the clothing and make-up companies are still thriving! Oh one more thing... I guess it's safe to presume for some of you men that are "haters" of make-up and fashion, would immediately change the channel should a Victoria's Secret commercial come on! Right!

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Msg: 66 (view)

The Tragedy of Phoenix Sinclair ....... Posted: 1/15/2009 1:22:44 PM
You got that right Juan mo... No one gives a crap about the kids, OK to be fair there must be some, but they are a rare breed. Am currently dealing with a school division because a certain principal felt it necessary to protect the other children because of a school fight, didn't matter what was done to him, so he got suspended...indefinitely! Translation the kids gonna make me look bad and must cover my azzzzzz and what happens to the CFS kid as a result of being kicked out is irrelevant! If the social worker doesn't advocate for the kid...it's over!

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Msg: 62 (view)

Body Shapers, Pushup Bras, Tummy Tammers - Lying or looking good? Posted: 1/15/2009 7:48:39 AM
Good for you Dub! It's your feminine right!

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Msg: 60 (view)

Body Shapers, Pushup Bras, Tummy Tammers - Lying or looking good? Posted: 1/15/2009 7:33:16 AM
Like I said before in message 49.... any man who thinks it's cheating when a women likes to be feminine wearing, heels, tasteful makeup, smelling nice (not cheap perfume), loves long luxurious baths with nice bath oil, dressing nice (and no by no stretch of the imagination am I a clothes horse) is NOT the kind of man I'd like to be with. I do agree that things like Body Shapers etc. is a little excessive and call it what you will, they are basically girdles like my Mom use to wear. IMO however if this discussion is seriously about women being deceptive in their appearance.....give me a break! So a man spending hours and hours in a gym trying to get the 6 pack on his ordinary body and then proudly trying to display it at every given opportunity is not deceptive! This is beyond staying healthy...this is VANITY in my opinion.We've all seen pictures of Mike Tyson after he stopped working out! He returned to his normal body shape. How about guys who spend hours and hours on their flashy car, polishing excessively, and of course it has to be a specific type of car to make sure all eyes are on him when he pulls up to a parking lot! How about those huge monster Hummers? Are they really necessary? It does say to the world, if certain women are impressed by this, I got MONEY to burn and some men love the status it gives them! In the meantime...thousands of women are dying every year from breast cancer and do the scientists come up with a cure? Nope. However, somehow impotence is seen as life threatening to men and viola... VIAGARA!

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