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BROWNLADY1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 87 (view)

ED over 45 Posted: 11/24/2009 1:57:25 PM
Moraima, I was going to quote you but I got lazy, but I agree with your posting 100%. (As usual).

BROWNLADY1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 182 (view)

What's the upside to being over 50 and single Posted: 11/23/2009 8:55:18 AM
I've been divorced for 15 years, and haven't had a serious relationship in seven years, or even seriously dated anyone. And the sad thing is, the longer I "don't date", the less inclined I am "to date..." So, I guess the "upside of being over 50 and single" for me is that I am not nearly as bothered by my "alone" status as I would have been ten years ago, nor do I let people's speculations (she's GAY!), as to why I am alone bother me, either.

BROWNLADY1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 97 (view)

The person you are interested in is already retired ... you are not. Posted: 11/23/2009 8:51:05 AM
It doesn't work if one is retired and the other isn't...especially if it is the man who is retired....they quickly "forget" that the working person cannot just jump up and go at the drop of a hat....and they get offended because of that.

BROWNLADY1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 185 (view)

Did you think life would be like this at 50? Posted: 11/20/2009 9:42:33 AM
No I didn't....and it has it's good points but there plenty of negatives , too!

BROWNLADY1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 123 (view)

Starting a family aged 50+ Posted: 11/20/2009 8:16:49 AM
Children do care, very much (especially in this day and age), about the age, race, and weight of their parents........ And if you aren't "just right" in their eyes, you will catch HELL, as they blame your lack of (whatever), for what's wrong with their lives....

BROWNLADY1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 103 (view)

How do you older women feel about a younger guy in a relationship Posted: 11/20/2009 8:01:12 AM
Luiza6, you are so correct....some of the "older" men (in my age group), attack and berate us, and then wonder why we don't want to be anywhere NEAR them.....

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 158 (view)

Men in diapers Posted: 11/19/2009 6:08:04 PM
No, thanks...not for me.

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 186 (view)

Why Do Men Think All Women Like Their 12 Inchers????? Posted: 11/19/2009 6:04:50 PM
Who wants a man's penis that is the size of a horse's? Just askin.....

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 146 (view)

Accepting a man that's unemployed Posted: 11/19/2009 6:02:12 PM
No thank you! I work my ass off to "maintain", and a MAN should do no less !

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 107 (view)

aging moustache Posted: 11/19/2009 5:37:54 PM
Nasty, snot-catching, unkempt things! UGH!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 82 (view)

Nose & Ear Hair Posted: 11/19/2009 5:36:11 PM
Most men think they are so "hot" (NOT!), that they don't need to be well-groomed. Boy, HOW WRONG THEY ARE!

BROWNLADY1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 61 (view)

What ever happened to Dating Around? Posted: 11/9/2009 11:32:52 AM
I agree with Farceur -- "dating around became sleeping around", and it is not, repeat, not for those of us who don't want (again, quoting Farceur) "sexually transmitted cooties..."

BROWNLADY1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 104 (view)

Sitting solo on a scary Saturday (Halloween) Posted: 11/6/2009 1:28:52 PM
I worked at my part time job at a group home for mentally ill adults!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 80 (view)

who gets your stuff? Posted: 11/5/2009 7:36:13 AM
It's called "A Last Will And Testament", and everyone should have one, and keep it updated...

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 101 (view)

Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/5/2009 7:35:10 AM
This is a hygiene issue, and I find that older men are frighteningly lacking in the "good personal hygiene" category......

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

Starting a family aged 50+ Posted: 11/5/2009 7:34:11 AM
My former brother-in-law has five children, by two different wives. Their ages are 36, 35, 10, 12, and 2. He's 56. My oldest niece and nephew (the 36 and 35 year old), feel very much like they will be the ones to end up raising the younger ones (especially the two year old), as their father's health declines. That is really unfair to the younger children, and unfair to the older children, because the 35 year old has a wife and two daughters of his own, and the 36 year old would like to start her own family -- but not if she is "too old."

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 70 (view)

What's the upside to being over 50 and single Posted: 11/2/2009 6:38:28 AM
"The nice part about being single -- and dating -- at an older age is that by now, people's personality flaws, behavioral quirs, and mental illnesses have manifested themselves." Wow! I couldn't agree more! Makes it much easier to separate the wheat (very small pile) from the chaff (huge ass pile!)

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 123 (view)

Promiscuity ~~ Pros and Cons Posted: 11/2/2009 6:09:09 AM
The cons: STD'S STD'S STD'S STD'S STD'S STD'S STD'S STD'S STD'S STD'S STD'S

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 24 (view)

So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...??? Posted: 11/2/2009 6:08:16 AM
The "downside" is that the dating pool is shallower, and there seem to be more "bottom feeders" in it!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 57 (view)

Party like they're still in high school and other turn offs Posted: 10/27/2009 2:03:33 PM
You have a point there, Parrotmama, but for people like me, who got that stuff "done and over with a long time ago " (mid-1990's), waiting around has gotten old..

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 49 (view)

Party like they're still in high school and other turn offs Posted: 10/26/2009 2:11:57 PM
Kenny, we women have the same problem. I think this entire country has the same "problem", i.e., "lack of moderation", nothing in the middle......we are just a nation of extremes...... I either meet men who want to pick up where they left off in 1973, before their first marriage, children, and that 75 extra pounds they are dishonest about, or men who are going through "manopause", and are grouchy, irritable, and look and act older than I ever remember my Dad or Grandfather acting at similar ages..... When I find the place to look for "moderate" folks, I'll post it here for everyone to see....

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 23 (view)

What ever happened to Love Posted: 10/26/2009 2:06:24 PM
Real, true, and pure love is just like Cupid -- dead as a doornail!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 37 (view)

Racism on my date Posted: 10/26/2009 7:19:20 AM
As we would say in the 'hood': "There are some nasty-assed, "got a chip on my shoulder", racist/sexist assed people posting up in here...."

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 44 (view)

Resources men and women bring to relationships Posted: 10/26/2009 7:04:36 AM
Hi, Grandma BooBoo....great to see ya! I see a lot of women in the political world who will (and do) trade their P---y, for better jobs, more power, and lots of "high end goodies." It's just a higher class version of "you do me dinner and drinks, and I do you." Or as one previous poster said, "back in the day, we called it whorin...."

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 45 (view)

eharmony ... Really? I'm a match with a troll? Posted: 10/22/2009 3:33:27 PM
Eharmony is horrible! My three month "trial" has ended and I am HAPPY! What a waste of my time and $!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 72 (view)

saying to me ever dated a black man? Posted: 10/22/2009 3:32:16 PM
Lots of times white guys will ask that question of white women, and if the white women say "yes", they get called a bunch of nasty names, so I have been told! And that sucks!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 103 (view)

Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left.. Posted: 10/21/2009 10:46:03 AM
I never go anywhere without my OWN: cell phone, motor vehicle, cash sufficient to pay for BOTH our meals....because I don't trust most men who don't feel "there is any chemisry" to do the right thing. I'm sorry this happened to you; better than having a man "snap" and throw a drink in your face (it happened to me -- thank God it wasn't hot coffee).

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 24 (view)

Which do you take harder rejection or breakups Posted: 10/21/2009 10:43:04 AM
I'm accustomed to rejection -- and rude ones at that, so I would say "breakups".....but it's been so long, I don't know if that would bother me anymore, either....

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 60 (view)

saying to me ever dated a black man? Posted: 10/21/2009 10:41:35 AM
I think that everyone should put in their profiles who they WILL date....that way no one's feelings get hurt.

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 8 (view)

Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him? Posted: 10/21/2009 10:38:44 AM
Some women would, some women would not....we "women" are not a monolithic group.....

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 188 (view)

Younger children as dealbreakers Posted: 10/21/2009 10:28:12 AM
I agree, Moraima...."can't we all just get along?"

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 308 (view)

Liberal vs conserative Posted: 10/21/2009 10:02:49 AM
See what I mean about "nasty haters?" No way am I gonna date (or as one poster said, "sleep with") someone who thinks I'm shit on their shoe!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 157 (view)

Why is it such a stigma to be an older bachelor? Posted: 10/19/2009 2:02:21 PM
Marriage is highly overrated, as most heterosexual marriages are highly dysfunctional, and if they are honest, the people involved in them will tell you so.

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 44 (view)

Do I need to get over my morals? Posted: 10/16/2009 10:37:58 AM
Hang on to your morals, honey, and keep your legs closed. You will find the right man for you, and when you do, you won't feel all used up, and you will be STD-free. God bless!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 21 (view)

POF Meet At Pennsylvania Renaissance Faire - Lebanon - Saturday 17th October - 10.15 a.m. Posted: 10/16/2009 10:17:54 AM
No. It is going to be a spectactularly "ugly weather" day tomorrow.

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 133 (view)

Show some intelligence when writing someone. Posted: 10/16/2009 10:12:53 AM
I give leeway, because everyone is not a journalist...but if he starts off writing in a crude fashion.....delete, delete, delelete, delete!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 30 (view)

Men and Women spending time with their exclusive Friends Posted: 10/16/2009 10:11:25 AM
Only my opinion, but if a significant other doesn't have friends that he or she does things with, and you do, I would wonder why. Someone who has to be with you 24/7/365, or appears "lost" when not seems too codependent for comfort.

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 92 (view)

Of Fakes and Flakes... Posted: 10/16/2009 10:05:16 AM
Mellowellow, if you were a guy, I would BEG you to go out with me! I read your profile, and you sound like the kind of person who might intimidate others, but who would fascinate someone like me, who is always looking to broaden her horizons! Don't you have a brother or cousin in Pennsylvania who is like you????

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 72 (view)

YOU NEED THERAPY! Posted: 10/16/2009 10:02:29 AM
There's nothing wrong with professional "help", a.k.a. "therapy." Sometimes friends and relatives can't give the best advice because they are not "neutral" parties, and often have their own hidden agendas. Just a thought.....

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 826 (view)

Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 10/16/2009 9:46:22 AM
A couple of the female posters here have indicated that $ is important to women because we tend to make less of it, due to discrimination. And, as an African-American woman, I have to say that during my entire fulltime working life (almost 40 years now), I would tend to agree....... And as we get older as women, we are seeking security in old age....which doesn't necessarily mean (speaking for myself, here), that we are looking for someone else's money, but we know full well that no one can live for free, as Vanilli has pointed out.

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 230 (view)

Liberal vs conserative Posted: 10/16/2009 9:29:48 AM
I am pretty much "middle of the road", leaning more to the liberal side on some issues, and the conservative side on others...Duh, I guess that is what "middle of the road" means. Anyway, I already know that no man is going to change how I feel about my politics or my religion, and I don't think I have the right to change, mock, harass, or harangue anyone else about they feel, so I won't be dating anyone who is bashing African-Americans, Catholics, Methodists, Democrats, gays, women, the unemployed, etc., etc. And a lot of men in my area who are over 50 (can these be the same guys I went to school with?), are doing just that! They are overweight, hateful, paranoid and have nasty attitudes, and they want to "spread their angst" all around. If they want to feel that way, fine. It's their right. But I have a right not to share in their "angst", because I have enough of my own, and I AM NOT A HATER!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

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At this age, are we still wearing blinders or do we really want the truth? Posted: 10/16/2009 9:24:22 AM
It has been my experience in observing folks, that they will go into a relationship they KNOW will have a bad end, because society says that they "should" be "in a relationship". And that's tragic and sad.

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 49 (view)

End of pof \ dating experiences Posted: 10/16/2009 9:22:17 AM
I am basically on here for the forums, as finding a date who is sane and single on this site doesn't seem to be in the cards for me. But I gave it my best shot!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 66 (view)

Death and the age of 50.... Posted: 10/8/2009 1:58:12 PM
My wise grandfather always said whether we liked it or not, whether we were ready or not, "you all are leaving here....you cannot stay." So, while we're here, we have to use WHATEVER time to live good lives....

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 41 (view)

Lack of Kids Posted: 10/8/2009 1:53:48 PM
My experience with a childless, never-married man over 40 was that he was a closet homosexual........

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 140 (view)

WOULD YOU DATE AN ALIEN? Posted: 10/5/2009 9:24:50 AM
It seems like the people I have dated (meaning went out with once!) in the past few years have all been "alien beings", and it had nothing to do with their country of birth or their accents..... In fact, they were all born in the United States...... I think I would prefer to date someone who wasn't born in the United States....they might be more "normal."

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 189 (view)

Women who have more education than the man whom they are dating Posted: 10/3/2009 11:49:19 AM
Sapphireeyes, a college education is ALWAYS better to have! One can never have "too much education!" Good luck to you in your college career! As a wise old man (my grandfather) once told me, "it is better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it"! And that's the truth!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 116 (view)

are u too picky? Posted: 10/3/2009 11:08:37 AM
Hey, if he's all that, send him my way! I think bald guys are S-E-X-Y, especially if they have all that other good stuff going on..... And a smart, self-confident bald guy....YES!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

I can act like a man - You make me feel like a man Posted: 10/3/2009 11:05:59 AM
Widow's Desire - I love Carole King, but that song was originally sung by Aretha Franklin, the QUEEN OF SOUL!

brownlady1953

Joined: 12/12/2008

Msg: 186 (view)

Women who have more education than the man whom they are dating Posted: 10/3/2009 10:48:29 AM
I agree with Sacharissa......it IS a problem if someone who is "provincial" attempts to date someone who is a little bit more "worldly." That doesn't necessarily have anything to do with having a college degree; I have met individuals who have college degrees who are kinda "stuck" in a world that relates only to their college degree, and I have met individuals who don't have college degrees who are extremely well-read and versatile (perhaps to make up for the lack of a degree?) However, I know I would not be happy with someone who was not "well-read", or had a natural curiosity about subjects outside of their little "world." Conversation is important to me, too, and if we can't converse, we can't build a relationship. Bring on the nerds!

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