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mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

How do you people stand to live in Portland or any big city? Posted: 11/24/2009 10:37:06 PM
I wonder sometimes why so many white people live in Portland, unlike every other American city? Why don't non-white people want to move here? It might be the rain. Everyone who moves here lightens up a few shades from lack of sun, silly. And compared to the state of Oregon, Portland is much more multi-cultural. At least according to U.S. Census data.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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How do you people stand to live in Portland or any big city? Posted: 11/22/2009 9:14:17 PM
How do you people stand to live in Portland or any big city? You people? Seriously? My knee-jerk response was to ask how anyone could stand to live in bum-fvck, small town, crapville... The question reminded me of how small minded my ex-husband seemed to me when he insisted there was no reason to go anywhere but Oregon…he said it has all he could ever need. (Funny how after he had occasion to travel a bit, he changed his tune, but that is another thread) Back to asking how someone could be happy living in a po-dunk small town……see, that isn’t how I really feel. Funny thing, I’m open minded enough to understand that there are many aspects that are positive about small town living. I live in a suburb of Portland, but I wish I could afford a condo downtown sometimes. The energy is invigorating. There is art and music. When I am downtown Portland and look around, I don’t see a bunch of sheep. I see diverse people doing diverse things. I could list pros and cons for each scenario, but for now I’m much better suited to city living. One great thing about this area is that I can drive half an hour and get into nature. Heck, less than that, actually. Not even gonna get into politics here. I lean more conservative than liberal, but am not an expert, and don’t pretend to know about things if I don’t.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Suggestion : Must Not Be Separated Filter Posted: 11/22/2009 8:45:33 AM
Sure...seperated people can come meet who they want. But when someone doesn't want to meet someone who's still technically married, then there should be an option to block them. I wish...half the men I have met here said they were single on their profile, but admitted that they were separated after I met them. They wanted to 'explain it' in person. So, even having the filter wouldn't be foolproof. Even so, it would be nice to have as an email block option -- no one who is separated can email, so they can see that it is a dealbreaker.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Help! My About Me and First Date section keeps getting deleted Posted: 11/22/2009 7:34:57 AM
Like Cowboy said in the other thread, delete the other profile first, or this entire current profile will likely be deleted. When you just have the one allowed profile, make sure that you don't have banned items in your text -- like certain words, a web site URL, or any contact info. If you have a string of numbers that could appear to be a phone number it can get your text deleted even if it isn't actually a phone number.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Whats up with the points now? Posted: 11/19/2009 8:32:07 AM
Out of curiousity, I checked my points...I had 6040. I bought a theme. Now I have 1040 points left. I don't think I ever 'lost' points...not that I would have noticed, though.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Why are the Oregon forums so lame? Posted: 11/19/2009 8:20:19 AM
I prefer interacting in the other forums here at POF.

mseclectic

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dont kno what to do someone help me! Posted: 11/18/2009 9:25:21 PM
im scared to let go of the one guy who could be the real deal ya kno O M G. Srsly?!? There is no such thing as only one guy who could be "the real deal". Particularly at age 19. If you could look back at this in 3 years you will laugh at yourself. I promise you.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Is There a Way to Be Online Without Anyone Seeing I am Online Posted: 11/16/2009 8:56:50 PM
The whole hiding online activity thing is a big deal for me too. Its all about privacy. Hiding ur profile under edit is completely different. We still want to be seen and recieve messages. We just dont want people to no when we log on.. Well, maybe you could hide your profile when you log in and un-hide it just before you log out?

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Any advice? Posted: 11/6/2009 9:08:42 PM
Well what she said was "let's start out as friends and see what happens, if anything." Well, time to make something happen. Then you'll know.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Do you prefer to be on top or bottom Posted: 11/6/2009 5:56:02 PM
Do you prefer to be on top or bottom Yes.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Searches should only return people you can contact Posted: 11/4/2009 10:28:40 PM
Oh Good Lord. John, give it up. If you don't have a clue that "intimate encounter" means sex, you are being obtuse. Sheesh. EDIT --- I only read page 1 of this thread before I posted...my sentiment stands, however.

mseclectic

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Repeat Visitors Posted: 11/3/2009 8:19:06 PM
And to make things worse, grasshopper, you can't see everyone who has viewed you...I just clicked on your profile, but my settings should prevent you from knowing.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

Msg: 64 (view)

Buying his ex-girlfriend a car? Posted: 11/3/2009 8:24:00 AM
Um, OP, you aren't even divorced. How serious could it be regardless of his ex and the car. The bigger issue isn't the car, it is that neither of you are in a healthy place to begin a healthy relationship. Sorry, just my opinion.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Poor matching parameters Posted: 11/3/2009 7:53:44 AM
I've contacted mos women who are at least 90% compatible according to this website, and all I get is "you are not my type".... How is it possible that I am not their type if according to POF we are sometimes even 100% compatible ? mrlamm, I'd respectfully blame your pictures. There isn't a confident smile among them.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Contact History missing items Posted: 11/3/2009 7:42:51 AM
Holy frickin' mackerel -- I didn't know this existed. Wow. I concur, hidden profiles must not show up. And, thanks for the 'heads up' on this feature...

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 10/31/2009 1:57:49 PM
Interesting thread. Glad to see a minimum of fat-bashing (happily surprised, actually). Fortunately people vary in their preferences. Personally, I am not attracted to fat rolls. That doesn't mean others shouldn't be. I love brussel sprouts, many people don't. Its all good. :)

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Send Quick Message Posted: 10/31/2009 11:11:32 AM
I don't like it -- more messages, less decent content ...I vote for a way to disable it on my profile -- PLEASE?

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Too precise? Posted: 10/30/2009 4:05:35 PM
Also, I didn't mean my post to sound overly negative either -- on the plus side, you sound very sincere. :)

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Too precise? Posted: 10/30/2009 4:04:05 PM
I'm trying to make this a simple approach to what can be an ackward scenario. I will view your pic but with it allowing you to know I have viewed your pic. I am hoping that if you have viewed my profile and you like what you see, you will enable me to see you've viewed me, if not, I would have to believe you do not like what you've seen and read. Um, that is a complicated approach to what can be a simple process. Way over-thinking this, in my opinion. Also, your entire profile comes off on the negative side -- This site was mentioned to me and I couldn't find enough reasons to outweigh the reasons I should give it a try... and I'm sort of carefree about life. pretty much sums this up. It sounds like you are trying to narrow down who contacts you here at POF. That isn't really going to be the problem. Having people you are interested in reply back with interest is more the challenge...You don't want women you contact to read your profile and think "what a downer", do you? Good luck, I know it isn't easy.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Friendship into relationship. Posted: 10/28/2009 11:12:22 PM
Problem is that women don't want to sleep with their friends.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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How can I tell if someone is online W/O searching? Posted: 10/27/2009 8:08:16 AM
Cowboy, thanks for explaining quite well why the system works the way it does for being online, and thanks to the men who asked for being understanding. :) is there any way to choose if you show as online or not? Thanks. Not unless you "hide" your profile. However, even if you hide it those who have favorited you will still be able to see when you are or have been last online.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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why do some girls on POF show interest, but then retract it.? Posted: 10/26/2009 9:39:52 PM
It is called a "window of opportunity". It is open for a time. If you miss it, it closes.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Has anyone ever asked you if you were gay? Posted: 10/21/2009 8:10:25 AM
No one has ever asked if I'm gay. Since joining PoF, a couple of men have asked if I "like girls, too"...but that is a whole 'nother thread. Good for you for sticking to your own ideals. To thine own self be true!

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Have you ever been dumped soon after a guy got you into bed? Posted: 10/20/2009 11:10:57 PM
Have you ever been dumped soon after a guy got you into bed? Nope. I am that good.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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NEW View Matches Based On Personality! Posted: 10/18/2009 8:19:41 AM
I don't believe there is a 'sort' option at this time. It changes because of when someone was last online. Hope this helps. :)

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Just wanted to say hi! Posted: 10/17/2009 8:35:21 AM
Good to see you kbodley and LS -- I always look forward to your posts. You are a a couple of wise women.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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How far are you willing to travel? Posted: 10/17/2009 8:34:04 AM
To Solid carbide:

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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How far are you willing to travel? Posted: 10/17/2009 8:31:57 AM
Well Flattop, you didn't answer the original poster's question, and you hijacked with a topic so redundant that if this was on the 'regular' forums would get you lambasted then the thread deleted. To answer the OP -- I'm afraid distance is a deal-breaker for me. On here, no matter how awesome the profile looked, I wouldn't travel more than about an hour away. Partly because the level of accuracy of profiles varies, and partly because my life has work and other committments already that would make it impossible to add in a long commute. Back to Flattop: There are plenty of reasons not to want me to message you but just because I have messaged someone you don't approve of shouldn't be one of them. It sure as heck is a good enough reason. Just because you don't like my choice, doesn't mean I don't have every right to feel that way. Sheesh.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Email sent isnt appearing in my sent box Posted: 10/11/2009 8:08:47 AM
This link might be the most helpful: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts5571514.aspx#5572308

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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getting message sent but not appearing in sent box... Posted: 10/11/2009 8:07:46 AM
This link might be the most help: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts5571514.aspx#5572308

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Forums/profile Posted: 10/11/2009 7:14:01 AM
To Daisy - you need to do the search at the top of the Forum page -- you also have to select 'User Name' from the pull-down menu (it defaults the search to forum title, otherwise). Hope this helps!

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Sign in problem w/ accounts created using AOL e-mail addresses. Posted: 10/10/2009 8:54:06 PM
Um, how many accounts you open there?

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Block notices Posted: 10/10/2009 6:15:44 PM
Dude, don't be pissy to the Mods. Your attitude is showing. Not to mention you contradict yourself: Like i can remember EVERY one I've written to in the past 18 months. Just as an FYI - I sent 1 email as introduction several months ago to the person in question It sucks that you wasted those 20 precious minutes. Don't make it worse by dwelling on it for hours. Sheesh.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Need advice Posted: 10/10/2009 2:41:33 PM
Oh dear. She is still living with her ex. If that was the only red flag in your short post (and it isn't, there are more), it would be enough to answer your question. Just say no to this gal.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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How Do Women Feel About Men and Their Safety? Posted: 10/2/2009 6:52:11 PM
I never saw that thread, so I have no view to articulate.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Need a females point of view. Posted: 10/2/2009 4:05:08 PM
Oh dear. I haven't done many profile reviews, but I am a woman...and your profile is not good. Sorry. For the text, it is difficult to review because you have copied and pasted blocks of writing. Text breaks are needed first, so people can/will bother reading what you've written. And the photos are not at all helpful. In my opinion, you should consider having some pics taken of you dressed in pants and a button down type shirt. That look would be much more flattering. Much. (Two of your photos specifically break POF rules. The shirtless one and the one of Shreck.) On a positive note, you have asked for feedback. That is a good sign! Hope this helps you get started, and good luck fishing! :)

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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profile review Posted: 10/2/2009 3:51:11 PM
Oh dear. I'm going to chime in for the Original Poster. Having all my Mum's side of the family from the U.K., he is not blowing smoke. I thought his replies very civilized here as well. Good Show, dude. <EDIT> Except for the last post, above, which wasn't posted when I wrote this. Now it has turned for the worse. Sigh.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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The Vanishing Act.... Posted: 10/2/2009 9:38:29 AM
Well, I'm curious...your profile age is 35. Your profile text says you are a: genuinely caring and honest, 39 year old . Are you dating men quite younger than you? You come accross as a very attractive and kind person on this thread, so perhaps you are selecting the wrong type of men to date?

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Do women in Oregon ever mail first Posted: 9/30/2009 8:41:49 PM
If you want to see who has favorited YOU, click on your favorites page and look for the link: Find out who has selected you as a favorite!

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Can hand sanitizers really expire? Posted: 9/18/2009 10:15:53 PM
So I guess the only suggestion that I have is to go back to what you use to do before there where hand sanitizers. Remember? Before everyone got all anti-germy. Yeah, I remember camping when I was little, and gnats flew in my soup and my dad just said 'eat it, its protein'. Somehow I made it through that horror. I wonder how kids today will fare as they get older -- ones who have been uber sanitized by well meaning parents....trivial pursuit is fun, but it can't beat twister...

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Can hand sanitizers really expire? Posted: 9/18/2009 4:30:12 PM
I can't imagine they expire. Unless they dry out... Not sure of the expire date is hogwash, but IMO the whole sanitizer business is hogwash. Not that I do not believe they can kill germs, but the fact is you do not need it. Well, it isn't always possible to wash your hands. I keep hand sanitizer to use when I don't have a sink handy. Like in my car, and at my desk. Or out on a hike. :)

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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The type of people you attract here? Posted: 9/17/2009 11:04:27 PM
Hmmmmmmmm. A surprising (to me) number of early 20's young uns who all say they "are much more mature than all the other dudes their age"... ...other than that, there isn't a particular type.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Do women in Oregon ever mail first Posted: 9/17/2009 8:31:59 PM
The forums are the most fun... There are good people on here (there must be, cuz I'm here!), the process is just sort of counter-intuitive. And, don't think you are ugly. That is not at all productive. :)

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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How do you get a woman to talk? Posted: 9/12/2009 12:51:09 PM
then 2 min later they say "so... what ya doin?" And my whole point is I feel like they arent interested so I stop talking but then they keep sending messages and ask "when can we meet" So why don't you meet them??? Doh!

mseclectic

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The Paradox Posted: 9/12/2009 12:49:12 PM
If you believe you have those qualities and present them, only to be rejected without hesitation, do you really have those qualities you believe you possess? If you keep getting rejected without hesitation by women who you believe are looking for what you have, there is a distinct possibility that one or more of the following is true: 1) You don't have the qualities they want. 2) You have misunderstood their wants. 3) Your profile does not present what you think it does. Another possibility is that this is the wacky world of The Interwebs, and not everything always makes sense.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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turn-offs Posted: 9/11/2009 6:18:41 PM
Ya know, I'd say be yourself. If it turns someone off, you likely aren't going to be a good match anyway. Make sense?

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Could some of you post some feedback on my page Posted: 9/11/2009 9:19:31 AM
You got some great advice above. :) I'll just add on that your employer has awesome education benefits, and when you finish working on your house (kudos on that, too!) get at least an associates degree in business. That way you won't hit your 30's wishing you had...and won't be held back or not able to move into a better position. (I know you are making a lot more money than most guys your age, but it won't feel as satisfying in a few years of doing the same thing over and over.) And, I agree with taking out the picture of you and your 'good friend'. She's hot and many girls your age will feel like they have to measure up to that, or wonder if you are such good friends, why you aren't dating...or if you have dated. Best of luck with your 'fishing'!

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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The Paradox Posted: 9/11/2009 8:50:37 AM
OK, I'm gonna go out on a limb here and speak specifcally to Kowboi's profile. Disclaimer: The below is only my OPINION. Based on your current profile...Have you tried the profile review forum? Why not see what they say, in case I am way off base with my comments? <Edit> I decided to email my comments privately, as he did not specifically as for a profile review.

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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favorites list Posted: 9/10/2009 10:33:11 PM
Maybe that is why it no longer shows up. People made silly assumptions. No one can control how many people favorite them. A gal can change her picture and that day 10-20 new people will favorite her. How does that tell you anything about them?? This thread will also likely be deleted, just FYI. Not by me. But because it is very redundant. You can do a thread search and find a lot of posts about this very thing. Good luck fishing!

mseclectic

Joined: 12/13/2008

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Why does every girl I talk to close their account? Posted: 9/10/2009 7:44:21 AM
It probably has nothing to do with you. Two profiles going away is not a large enough sample to blame yourself, dear. If ten gals had suddenly vanished after communicating with you there might be a correlation...don't be so hard on yourself.

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