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rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 140 (view)

Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse Posted: 9/23/2009 8:59:03 PM
But how bout a "ladies night out"?Dancing dirty even. And if its not a big deal,would you dance that way with another guy in front of your BF/Spouse? Doesn't bother me a bit. I'm not a big dancer. All it does is warm her up for me. I like for my girl to enjoy herself when she is out.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 59 (view)

Self concious of being on top Posted: 9/13/2009 6:10:06 PM
Would you say that if she was a man? 18 year-old men have barely mastered masturbation, let alone anything to do with love-making. So it's a non-issue.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 55 (view)

Self concious of being on top Posted: 9/13/2009 2:50:00 PM
destinie, you're only 18, it's good that you are not yet an expert at all phases of lovemaking.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 556 (view)

why do men always have to look at other women!! Posted: 9/13/2009 2:44:53 PM
And along those lines greeneyez don't we all (men & women) like when we get positive attention for how we look, even when we are in committed relationships?

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 554 (view)

why do men always have to look at other women!! Posted: 9/13/2009 2:29:24 PM
Why are women so threatened by their man looking at other women? Why do women who go out for girls' night out already try to look their best even though they have a man at home?

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 261 (view)

Women going to bars alone Posted: 9/2/2009 10:31:44 PM
Women at a bar by themself? Means nothing to me, in and of itself, unless she's there 5-6 days a week, then she's an alcoholic. Otherwise, it's not that she's by herself that matters, it's how she carries herself. No different than if she were part of a group.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 51 (view)

who is happy at 39 Posted: 9/2/2009 10:28:59 PM
39??? first and only time I had my heart broken. Turned into a slut and drank too much for about a year (some may say I was a slut before then ) Then kind of settled down but still had plenty of fun. The 40's have been a piece of cake, dating-wise.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

Sex/swinger parties Posted: 9/2/2009 8:47:10 PM
I say this is a good idea for an official PoF party.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 48 (view)

Did I jump to the wrong conclusion Posted: 9/2/2009 8:08:05 PM
RUN!!! Do not fall for this dude southerngal. Clues: Won't tell you his email address; sends you PoF roses instead of real roses.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 28 (view)

She now wants us to just be dating and not in a relationship :( Posted: 9/2/2009 8:00:34 PM
Can you still get in the military at 37? I know the Air Force ceiling used to be 34? She may not be telling the truth. You may be going way too fast for her. Dating 2 months and already speaking of marriage? She's been divorced twice, she might just be ready to be single for a while, especially if her daughter is grown. She probably does enjoy her time with you, but that doesn't mean she wants anything more.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 1215 (view)

Why women want guys to come to THEM Posted: 9/2/2009 7:25:59 PM
It's freakin' nature, watch the Discovery Channel. Females lay the bait, males aggressively chase it. How many nature scenes do you see where females chase down the male to mate? (in my limited experiences ) Women don't need to verbally tell a man he's hot, he should know that she already thinks that when she gives him a certain eye contact and smile. And they like men who recognize it. Women always like to hear that they are beautiful, even when they know it's just a pick-up line (much like a wife/ltr gf never gets tired of hearing "I love you") so it behooves a man who is actually interested in that woman to tell her she's hot/pretty/gorgeous/beautiful at some point. Of course you have your exceptions (women who only like dudes that are aloof/men who are legitimately shy), but I've found the above to hold true most of the time. It's just human nature.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 40 (view)

Is Porn OK in a marriage? Posted: 8/28/2009 9:51:41 PM
My g/f and I watch porn together. Only problem is that we have different tastes. It doesn't bother her if I rub one out in front of the computer screen. But then again, we have a great sex life, so porn doesn't interfere. Nor do I spend an inordinant amount of time watching it.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 195 (view)

Why Are Men Over 30 Drama Shy? Posted: 8/28/2009 1:20:59 PM
No Drama = no fighting or extended arguments; no outside influences bringing down our relationship; maturity and knowing the difference between the petty things and the important things. No drama means no unnecessary turmoil. I have met women who like turmoil in their everyday life. They don't appreciate calmness. I'm there are men who are the same way.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 162 (view)

Should foreplay be equal or mostly about her? Posted: 8/27/2009 7:25:29 PM
Foreplay is for the woman, postplay for the man. Foreplay to get her revved up, postplay so I can finally cum.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 27 (view)

How Important is it that you have chemistry with someone? Posted: 8/27/2009 7:20:28 PM
Chemistry is extremely important. In fact is on the list of "must have's" in order for me to stick around for the long haul.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 83 (view)

do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great? Posted: 8/25/2009 6:00:42 PM
I have found that since the age of 33 that sex has gotten better. I've been with my g/f for 2 1/2 years and we may have had 1 (one) bad/boring sexual experience in that time.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 193 (view)

Ladies.....is anyone else NOT amused by....... Posted: 4/15/2009 8:07:42 AM
how would you like if we asked you how big your "package" is and since we know you'd lie about it anyway . I usually subtract an inch or 2 as not to scare the ladies off.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

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What exactly are they? Posted: 4/15/2009 8:03:09 AM
It means don't lead people on with a hidden agenda...like sex. Since when is sex a hidden agenda? You think guys are on here to establish long-standing platonic relationships?

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

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hardcore kinky ideas to do with bf? Posted: 2/14/2009 10:26:13 AM
I can show you better than I can tell you.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 46 (view)

Would you consider this selfish? Posted: 1/20/2009 6:01:45 PM
I would only date someone with kids much younger than mine. And I am currently in a relationship with someone whose child is 6 1/2 years younger than my youngest. I wouldn't want to take on someone else's teenager, it would be awkward for me.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 34 (view)

Should your ex answer your calls? Posted: 1/20/2009 5:56:03 PM
Was his behavior any better when you were together?

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 26 (view)

I feel valueless, is there a real solution? Posted: 12/22/2008 6:15:31 PM
GradBoy, You could always call or go by the school, introduce yourself to the teacher(s), and get a calendar of events.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 23 (view)

The song played over and over and over and over Posted: 11/23/2008 8:07:39 AM
She doesn't want ear phones... This is where you teach her a lesson about compromise and getting along with others. And you are the parent, don't forget. You are allowed to make rules.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 32 (view)

is there any thing wrong with a ready made family? Posted: 11/23/2008 8:01:41 AM
I never understand why people ask if it's alright for them to have preferences and personal choices as it relates to what type of relationship they are looking for.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

Would you have your child's other parent over for Christmas? Posted: 11/23/2008 7:58:17 AM
I have had plenty of holiday meals at my ex's house with the children. And this year my mother is flying from California to Georgia to have to join me, my 2 brothers and our families at my dad and step-mom's house for Thanksgiving. She will be staying in a hotel but will be part of all the festivities at the house. What's wrong with harmony on the holidays? Don't at all why this would be a problem.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 71 (view)

question for single moms Posted: 11/23/2008 7:53:22 AM
I'm concerned about what happens when one of the ex's gets out of jail and tracks down her and his child sleeping in your house.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 84 (view)

Am I shallow??? Posted: 11/23/2008 7:38:23 AM
Why don't you try reading their profile before contacting them. This may come as a huge shock to some of you but men actually do meet and talk with women in real life, away from the internet. You know, like at church, work, the supermarket, bars, clubs, sporting events, office parties, house parties, cook-outs, the park, the gym, the jogging trail, etc. People don't walk around with POF profiles tatooed to their foreheads. And to answer the OP, no it is not shallow to choose the conditions under which you want a long term, committed relationship. It's called be honest and up front. It saves a lot of potential heartache and hurt feelings down the road. And it's also COMPLETELY REASONABLE to want to eventually start a family from scratch. It's shallow for women to think you shouldn't have that option.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 16 (view)

New spouse adopting your kids... Posted: 10/4/2008 1:34:13 PM
As for divorce a second time. While it happens obviously, I guess there'd have to be the option of divorcing the whole family. Letting go of parental rights. Ofcourse the idea is if he was worth marriage then this would hopefully be the last. If he adopts your children he becomes just as much their parent as you are. There is no distinction. He could file for joint custody. Adoption shouldn't be an act of convience or placating a child's hurt feelings or feelings of abandonment. It should be done with the intention and commitment that the adoptive parent is a permanent fixture in the child(ren)'s life.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 34 (view)

Not attracted Posted: 9/27/2008 7:09:55 AM
i should have clarified that. I cant stand him when we spend all day every day togehter Yeah, b/c you are 20 years old and that is kinda young to be tied down like that. You should be single, living on your own, concentrating on your daughter, your job, and your education. Why do you have the need to live with a man?

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 414 (view)

How are Men missing out, If they choose not to Date sigle moms Posted: 9/27/2008 6:55:27 AM
Ya know what really bothers me? It's when someone says they don't support thier kids because they don't make enough money.. I agree...what would they do to support the child if the custodial parent disappeared and the child was left at their doorstep? [ think if single moms spent more time addressing the obvious issues and focused on making their situations more appealing instead of pushing this absurd " completely accept me for me in all circumstances no matter what" schmaltz, I think dating would be easier for everyone.] Care to elaborate on that? I'm genuinely curious, torn between slightly offended and welcoming solid advice. ... Probably comes from vive in these forums that many single parent give off that all the sacrificing and compromising to make a relationship work should come from child-less person in the relationship.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 212 (view)

why woman like eating a pussy more than sex Posted: 9/26/2008 4:24:21 AM
I could have sworn this was a lesbian thread................... Me too!!! Wanted to hear from all the women who love eating pu$$y since we would have something in common.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 37 (view)

Why do dating parents do this? Posted: 9/26/2008 4:14:06 AM
I believe that it is because everybody is in such a hurry to start a relationship and they do not care or think about the little ones...........seen it! That's not possible b/c, at least for folks on this site, b/c all their profiles say "my kids come first." Ya know.......I have read through everyones opinions and it has only made one thing clear to me. I am going to wait until my son is out of school to date. Radio host, Dr. Laura Schlesinger (sp??), advocates this position whole-heartedly. People really have to respect a silent fact for single parents: Love me? Love my kids at first. That's a blanket statement that most definitely doesn't apply to me. I'm in an LTR and my g/f did not even meet my kids for the first 6 months we were dating. My simple fact is: Love me first to earn the right to be in my children's lives.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 80 (view)

my g/f just had a baby that she got pregnaut with while we were broken up Posted: 9/1/2008 7:56:44 AM
...the orinigal plan was to give the child up for adoption but the child's father decided against it at the last minute throwing a monkey wrench into everything we had planned out...The father of the child wants to take his kid a raise it with his wife... The father blocked the adoption and wants to raise his own child, so what is the problem?

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 22 (view)

Tips for the no-child guy attempting to date the Single Mom? Posted: 9/1/2008 7:49:22 AM
5. Is he going to play with my child and my child get attached to him, then decide he's just not ready. Since it is not his child and he really has no obligation to my child. These are just some of the fears single moms have. If you can find a way to put these fears to rest, you may make it in the door. How does one assure that #5 doesn't happen? That's something the parent needs to get a feel for before allowing the relationship to go that far.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 50 (view)

Boyfriend`s Ex refuses to let me visit baby with him Posted: 9/1/2008 7:45:37 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Who broke up with whom has nothing to do with the subject of visiting the baby.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 83 (view)

Why do people want to commit after one date? Posted: 8/28/2008 6:54:53 PM
I am wondering what someones motives are for asking this. Any ideas? Insecurity, mental instability, no touch with reality, possessiveness, stalker-ism, jealous personality. Those are a few.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 18 (view)

Do you believe some are better at attracting others online, while some better in real life? Posted: 8/28/2008 6:52:48 PM
For example, you could be really good in real life, but suck at it online Why would that be a problem?

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

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New Parent/New Relationship Posted: 8/28/2008 6:47:08 PM
She is still in total control of this child and who knows she could change her mind at the last minute and give it up for adoption and you won't be able to stop her. What would prevent him from blocking an adoption and raising the child himself?

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 46 (view)

Rules of the dating game? Posted: 8/28/2008 6:37:03 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ A lot, based on the size of the membership and some of the forum threads I have read.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 174 (view)

Do women date single dad's who live with there kids Posted: 8/28/2008 6:52:52 AM
I would expect the new person in my life to accept the fact that they'll be there, and we could have fun as a group, together as well as the alone time, if not then I guess i'll be alone until they all move out. shrug Some folks are scared of this prospect.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 62 (view)

Single parents that prefer to date other single parents really baffles me Posted: 8/26/2008 2:21:20 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Nah, you need to quit calling people lazy just b/c they don't think the same way you do.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 60 (view)

Single parents that prefer to date other single parents really baffles me Posted: 8/26/2008 6:43:18 AM
No, I think you covered it pretty well. It's a lot more work in advance and as you go to keep a blended family together and happy. Not wanting to deal with that is less selfishness and more laziness... as you nicely delineated. Thanks! Again, WTF does this mean? I know exactly what orifice you pulled this statement from. Sounds like only the adults play a part in whether or not blended families work. Well, in the real world that is not the case. So someone is lazy b/c they feel it is not best for their children to force another family on them?

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 113 (view)

If kids come first, are you willing to come second? Posted: 8/25/2008 7:18:24 PM
Would it be any different if it was work that kept the other person away from you? Either by long hour and overtime or travel away? Those factors are no different...and I can tell you I've seen PLENTYYYYYYYY of folks in those situations involving themselves in extra-curricular daliances. But if you are going for an exclusive relationship, you either deal with the life that other person has or move on. It is just the way it has to be. The problem is that many single parents want exclusive relationships on their terms, based on their needs and life situation only without regard to what the other person needs in terms of time, attention, sexual appetite, and one-on-one interaction. And then when the other person walks away or cheats they are called selfish and self-centered.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 45 (view)

Single parents that prefer to date other single parents really baffles me Posted: 8/25/2008 7:12:09 PM
No, I think you covered it pretty well. It's a lot more work in advance and as you go to keep a blended family together and happy. Not wanting to deal with that is less selfishness and more laziness... as you nicely delineated. Thanks! what a load of bullsh!t...how about the children in the equation? I suppose it's just assumed they will put in the hard work also or are we to consider the unhappy children in blended families as lazy also?

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

Full time mommys Posted: 8/24/2008 6:44:31 PM
I see those moms at home raising there children as familys and they never complain, look like they love what they do, have husbands, and just plain look happy all the time. According to a thread that popped up a couple months ago all married women with children are jealouse and envious of single mothers.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 11 (view)

If you're 30's and finished having children, will that limit your dating options? Posted: 8/24/2008 6:41:45 PM
1) I had 2 women who wouldn't get involved with me seriously b/c I had a vasectomy and their future plans included having children. 2) Doesn't matter what we believe, it matters what men over 40 think.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 15 (view)

Single parents that prefer to date other single parents really baffles me Posted: 8/24/2008 9:00:25 AM
Interesting topic. I think the biggest problem is parents who expect their children to just suck it up and accept the new step-family, whether it be just be a new parent or a new parent plus siblings. My father was guilty of force-feeding his girlfriend (now my stepmother for 31 years) on me and my brother and I held a lot of resentment through the rest of my childhood.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 110 (view)

If kids come first, are you willing to come second? Posted: 8/24/2008 8:42:12 AM
So what, OP, are you looking to have other romantic interests to fill in the void that your single parent girlfriend can't fill for you? Children are parts of you and a caring partner sees that and can deal with it. If you can't deal, date only people without kids. Some single parents don't want the person they are dating to be part of their children's lives. You seriously expect someone to sit around 25 days a month twiddling his/her thumbs.

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 14 (view)

Not being there Posted: 8/23/2008 7:30:44 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ A 1 hour drive is not very far. So unless you're working 12hrs/7-days a week you should have time to spend with your daughter. You could also move a little closer to where your g/f lives. Do you have your own car? Driver's license?

rjpeagles

Joined: 11/30/2005

Msg: 4 (view)

Players Posted: 8/23/2008 7:24:01 AM
A player is any man who broke up with a woman before she could break up with him.

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