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curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

Msg: 150 (view)

What is the best way to handle it if a date passes gas? Posted: 11/20/2009 2:33:26 PM
Exclaim in a loud voice, "My that chair is squeeky!". Laugh and invite him to another room.

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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Was there ONE thing that made you want to meet? Posted: 11/20/2009 2:28:50 PM
I read a profile that was literate with significant details that revealed we had a lot in common. He was the type of guy I'd just like to meet and know better even if it was for friendship alone.

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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Email Stats and Canned Reponses Posted: 10/5/2009 1:03:14 AM
I wish there was a statistics of how many emails and number of corresponding responses and an overall average percentage. I wish there were canned responses as well that would save writing a thanks but we're not compatible. Also if each person had a rating given for their percentage of responses it might encourage people to respond to emails more frequently.

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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ok - have at it Posted: 9/19/2009 5:49:29 PM
I have to agree with what the wiitester said. I would also add that the photo with the ex cut off is a bad choice. Take a new one. If you have a nice shirt put it on for a dressy picture. You look like a casual guy but you want to let her know you clean up nicely when it's important. This paragraph needs work: What you want more??? Fine. I chose 'Friends' in response to the 'I am looking for' field as 'My Keys' wasn't an option nor could I make multiple selections - hence 'Friends' seemed the least conspicuous way to lure in unsuspecting victims - rather like the digital equivalent of a slug of pheromones (yes, I am the type of guy who uses the word 'rather' when I write - which explains a lot). Not aggressively seeking a serious relationship as I'm going through a bit of a rough patch (one of those scorched by the lousy economy, having trouble finding work, dealing with an overly unhealthy portion of BS w/ the ex nearly 3 years post-divorce - oh yeah, I'm one hell of a catch;-), so if you're actively seeking Mr. Right (Now), I'm probably not your guy. On the other hand, if you're attractive, able to live life with a smirk, patient and don't mind making a good friend with potential while the soulmate search continues, by all means drop me a line ... Simplify it. As it is now I'm left wondering "What is he looking for -- Just Friends, Friends with Benefits, Soulmate?" Huh? How about: I chose 'Friends' in response to the 'I am looking for' field as 'My Keys' wasn't an option. Not ready yet for a serious relationship but wanting a good friend for potential relationship where patience and a wry sense of humor will be helpful. I always thought Mr. Right Now was the guy you dated until someone you really want comes along. Do you really want to be that guy? Second best?

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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New to pof please review my profile Posted: 9/19/2009 5:29:36 PM
Glad I didn't see the previous version which sounded like a total turnoff. This one reads nice and is interesting. Shows that you are both edgy and responsible. Some smiling photos, and maybe a surfing one would be cool. The spiderweb tat makes me think you've done time in prison so I would omit it. Love your jack skellington.

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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Who loves a little brutal honesty? Posted: 9/19/2009 5:24:38 PM
Nice upgrade! Cool pics showing what you do and some clever and interesting descriptions. Like the first date options.

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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Whats wrong with my profile? I think I scare people away...haha Posted: 9/19/2009 5:16:17 PM
Your profile: I am a full-time student My goal for now is to graduate in the least time possible so that can expand my options to do business. A little bit about me, well I'm fun to be around with, funny, sexy and intelligent. I love to dance, travel and I love to have fun. Having a good time is a must! Write more about the things that make you unique. Tell what you are studying and talk about what kind of business you are working toward. Show a photo of you having fun with friend instead of writing about it. Try to write things in your profile that show your sense of humor and intelligence. Talk about the kind of dancing you love and why you like that particular kind. Where have you traveled and where do you want to go next. What does it mean to have fun for you? Sitting on the couch watching sports...or grabbing a ball and some friends and heading over to the park? Add a photo of you in action...dancing or doing your favorite sport. Add a photo of you from one of your travels. Everyone likes a good time...suggest to the ladies the kind of things you'd like to do with them on a date. Eliminate the word "sexy". She'll be able to see that for herself. You could add what you are looking for...a companion...love of your life...dance partner.

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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What is your honest brutal but fair opinion on my profile? Posted: 9/19/2009 5:06:46 PM
What I've read before and have to agree on is that anything negative in a profile should be eliminated. So although I think it is fine to know what you don't want in a woman...find a way to state it in a positive manner. ie; I want an intelligent, social, happy, woman who is confident in herself and compassionate to those around her. Eliminate the I don't care what you think...instead state you are happy with who you are and comfortable in that. If you don't care what they think...do you even need to say that. Your hobby is sleeping? Ha,ha. How about adding a photo of you working out boxing...that would make you stand out...and that is the advantage you want. Women and men both have challenges online. I wish you luck in finding your special partner.

curlytop2

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Commitment Phobic Posted: 9/19/2009 11:18:32 AM
I had a friend who was a commitment phobic. She ran away from most relationships. It just took her longer to find the right guy. Perhaps she liked her freedom and her quirky activities and she didn't want to settle. She got married at age 40 to the perfect guy for her last April. Take your time and find the right man for you. Your friends who are marrying in haste, will be divorcing in due time.

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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When is it just part of dating and when is it a blow off? Posted: 9/19/2009 11:14:42 AM
Wish OP would update the status of this relationship. Was the guy honestly busy and impolite in his phone ettiquette or just blowing her off?

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse Posted: 9/19/2009 11:02:15 AM
Dirty dancing is best done with someone you love in private. Social dancing is a totally different animal. In many dance circles (Ballroom, Salsa, West Coast, C&W) it is considered good social ettiquette to dance with a variety of partners even if you come with a date. The first and last dance are usually reserved for your date. If you only want to dance with each other that is fine, but it will be viewed as unsocial behavior.

curlytop2

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I hate liars Posted: 9/19/2009 10:49:57 AM
Oh, so few of us are truely Caucasian...since to be that you'd have to have decended from people of the Russian Caucasus region. Also annoying is the application of Anglo- Saxon to people who have light skin since I am neither. Both are just a term commonly used to indicate "white". I'd prefer to list the general region my family comes from...Northern European or Scandinavian. Ethnic background is much more personable and accurate than "race". Perhaps you could ask in one of your early emails about their ethnic orgin.

curlytop2

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Casual Dating...what is reasonable expectation? Posted: 9/19/2009 10:31:31 AM
I think it varies on the people, their schedules and how genuinely interested they are in each other. All you need to know is if the relationship is meeting your needs. If you need more contact, perhaps you should make that need known. Then if it isn't met...either live without it or move on.

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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what is your greatest dating fears? Posted: 9/19/2009 10:28:21 AM
Judging from the comments on the forum a man's greatest fear is he will buy her dinner and still not get sex. Or for both men & women, that the profile and photos won't match the person who shows up on their date. Hah, ha! My greatest dating fear is I won't ever find the right match no matter how hard I try.

curlytop2

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Can you handle me? Posted: 9/19/2009 10:12:58 AM
Seems like code for "Danger!! Drama ahead" and I don't think it is something people should brag about. It causes us to fill in the blanks: Emotionally damaged....can you handle me? Financially destitute....can you handle me? Angry and violent...can you handle me? Selfish and demanding...can you handle me? Drug addict....can you handle me?

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's? Posted: 9/14/2009 12:48:41 AM
I think that because men on dating sites use age as a search criteria...and most all want a woman a couple years younger than them to 20 years younger...they skip women that are the same age or a couple of years older who would be perfectly acceptable if they met in person. It's the problem of searching by criteria instead of just meeting someone interesting. You may do better at one of the live events hosted by POF in your community.

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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Where have all the nice guys gone? Posted: 9/14/2009 12:35:22 AM
There are still some nice guys out there...trouble is you have to trip over guys like you met on your date before you find them. What you can do is put up a recent full body photo...but still guys will question if it's really how you look today. I've thought of holding up a newspaper or magazine to prove it's recent since the comment I read in the forums is that photos of women are 10 years younger and 50 pounds lighter than they are today. Hah, ha! Men can imagine anything despite the photos you post and still be disappointed when they meet you. You can only put your best foot forward and keep on trying.

curlytop2

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what should i do in regards of finding a long term relationship Posted: 9/14/2009 12:11:25 AM
I agree with those who say that spell checking is important especially when you want to attract an intelligent woman. Use a mail program to check it and paste it back into your profile once corrected. Update your photo with a new one even if you look the same as you did 2 years ago...and find a better background than what looks like a closet. Add multiple photos, one head shot for the main profile pict, one fully body action shot, one casual with friends and one dressy. Your profile and photos are your means of meeting someone on a dating site so put some effort into it and not make excuses. A well written profile and some good photos will help but you must search and write to many ladies before you'll find the right one. Best wishes.

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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The Dangers of Faceboof!!! Posted: 8/23/2009 12:06:19 PM
FB Relationship. Put down that you are in a relationship with him on your profile. Then write a Status saying you are dating this wonderful man...his full name here...and life is good. His multiple lady friends will get the message ;o) Sounds like you should not get too emotionally involved and keep your options open. Mirror his interest in you...that's a good way to keep the relationship on even keel.

curlytop2

Joined: 12/16/2008

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why does he keeps talking about past relatinships? Posted: 8/23/2009 11:49:25 AM
I dated a guy for a short while and he also did this. Why? 1) He was not over his ex and still wanted her back but she didn't want him 2) She continued to manipulate him via their children 3) I let it happen at the beginning by not nipping it in the bud 4) Talking to me was cheaper than therapy 5) Perhaps he was trying to "get even" with his ex by hurting me emotionally 6) Emotionally immature or unstable. Pitiful. I finally forbade him to talk about her ever again...he ended the relationship two days later. I was there just to hear about her and compare to her. No one should have to be compared to a memory. Lesson learned. More than two mentions of an ex and I'm looking for the exit. I suggest you do the same!

curlytop2

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Why don't you age? Posted: 8/17/2009 4:06:10 PM
I've had people stare at my face and ask why I don't have wrinkles. I like to think I take care of myself but some of it is genetics. My mother looked 40 when she was in her mid 50's. My dad at 67 still had less then 50% grey and all his hair. I concentrate on eating fresh fruits and vegetables, wear a hat and sunscreen in the sun, whole grains and lean meats. I don't squint my eyes, furrow my brow and I don't smoke. I use a good moisturizer and a buffer to exfoliate old skin cells away. I never laid out in the sun when I was younger as I burn very easily. I often have people comment on how young I look -- both men and women. I think I'll have to post a photo with newspaper headline or something to prove when it was taken. Ha, ha!! I find it strange to look at some people's photos - wondering why it is they look so old!! If you look at photos with incredulity... ask the lady what the first cartoon she remembers ever watching on TV. When she says...there wasn't tv when she was a girl, you know she is older than she appears.

curlytop2

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starting to give up with dating.... =O Posted: 8/17/2009 3:48:19 PM
I think that it is just brutal being online and trying to date and unnecessary for a young man like yourself. I have much more fun getting out dancing and meeting people that way than online (except for the forums). I would suggest you get a friend who is good taking photos and a friend who is a girl and have them set up some photos with you in them. Let the girl choose the clothes--casual, sporty and dressy. Then go around town and take a few photos. Have her choose the best. Here's a real life dating game. You have to ask out one woman a week that you meet in person. If she turns you down, you must ask two the next week. And so on. Eventually you'll have a yes...probably many. To the victor goes the spoils...and the victor wins because he does not give up...ever.

curlytop2

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Dating in the workplace? Posted: 8/17/2009 3:32:11 PM
It's always a risk. If it doesn't work out, you have to still see that person all the time and it can create some bad feelings even if it ends well....because you will hear about and even sometimes see the new person that she is seeing after you break up. Perhaps it's better to just be friends and get to know her better. You can still hang out on your off time and enjoy her company.

curlytop2

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Just A Friend Or More? Posted: 8/17/2009 3:21:12 PM
It's a risk either way. Either you put yourself out there and see if there's a possibility, or you lose that opportunity. I'd say go ahead and ask her how she would feel about dating you. Sometimes a good friend is more worthwhile to keep than to risk turning him into a boyfriend that may not last. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

curlytop2

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Are preferences dealbreakers? Posted: 8/16/2009 9:40:07 PM
I think preferences are dealbreakers. "Must be fit and take good care of themselves"...translates to must be a hardbody or you will be rejected; so why contact them if you know you are overweight. For me I say I'm looking for a Christian man and I mean it. I won't budge on that. I don't want a smoker since my father died because of emphysema from smoking. I appreciate when I see someone has a preference. I saves me wasting my time contacting them only to discover it later.

curlytop2

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Bad Date Posted: 8/16/2009 9:11:12 PM
Okay, the smart aleck in me says he died in the bathroom like Elvis. Seriously, I guess he knew he couldn't provide the kind of honesty you required....his leaving was probably his most honest behavior ever.

curlytop2

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Worst Date. Ever. Posted: 8/16/2009 9:01:59 PM
You win the award~! I think you would be in your power to shut the date down much earlier and appologize and say you are sorry to have wasted "her" time, but she isn't your type - and leave.

curlytop2

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Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger? Posted: 8/16/2009 8:52:17 PM
If you can be content with a relationship that could possibly be very short term you could take the chance. It depends on what you want and if it matches what he wants.

curlytop2

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Hugs: Harmless or Meaningful Posted: 8/16/2009 8:49:01 PM
Pelvis in or pelvis out? That makes all the difference.

curlytop2

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The marrying type? Posted: 8/16/2009 8:33:01 PM
In order to survive a long term relationship like marriage you have to be good at a few things: 1. Only battle over the things that really matter and let the small stuff go. 2. Let the other person have their way so they are happy too. Anyone who wants their way all the time will be hard to live with. 3. Have a good sense of humor so when things go wrong and the s#it hits the fan...you can laugh about it instead of blame the other person. 4. Clear communication, not manipulation or hidden agendas . 5. Respect and genuine affection for the other person. 6. Ready, willing and able to be devoted to the other person. Some people can't keep sexually exclusive and it will destroy their spouse and their relationship so they should not marry. Some are too tied to their parents or family; or are distracted by alcohol/drugs/hobbies/or work to hold up their end of the relationship. 7. Each person has to be adult enough to take care of their own business and emotionally stable enough to keep the relationship at an even keel. 8. Someone who wants to share all of their lives at an intimate level with another person who is devoted to them and in it for the long haul. 9. Acceptance for who you are, understanding for your mistakes and support for your weaknesses. (not in a co-dependent way - let's hope) This person adds to your energy and brings out the best in you. 10. If you were to become ill for a time, this person would be willing and able to take up the slack. In otherwords, they will stand by you in your time of need. Sometimes it's impossible to know if a person has these qualities until you've known them for a while and been thru some hard times together . This is why I would never recommend someone rush into a marriage. Marriage can be a wonderful thing with the right partner but hellish with the wrong one. Who you choose to marry has more to do with your happiness in your lifetime than any choice you make.

curlytop2

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My First Date With Patricia (im 59 she's 53) Posted: 8/15/2009 8:40:46 PM
At last, she is vulnerable. She is human. So cute now, I fight back the urge to just bite her!......I think I like her a lot now. Are we in someones movie? I want to possess her. I will swallow her whole. I thought he was going to say they sat down to dinner and he ate her! "Zombie Date" - the new romance horror novel available at bookstores near you.

curlytop2

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Have you Started an Odd Profile Photo Collection?? Posted: 8/15/2009 1:22:05 PM
I wouldn't use any of these photos publically - I don't have the right to do that and wouldn't if I could. I'm not doing it to humiliate anyone or to try to make them feel bad because they don't meet my standards. I respect people who take a chance and put themselves out there...but wonder about their choice in photographs sometimes. I just was trying to create an unusual topic for the forum as I get tired of seeing the same topics rehashed.

curlytop2

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Have you Started an Odd Profile Photo Collection?? Posted: 8/13/2009 9:39:57 PM
After looking through all the photos of potential men here on POF I started saving the occasional odd photo that they put on their profile. I also like to check the competition so I've got a collection of odd women's photos too. People are so interesting...I find it amusing. Any one else??? My collection has certain catagories: Men who look like Santa (but don't have 8 magical reindeer). People who don't smile and look angry or half dead but describe themselves as "fun" Strange object in the background (usually looks like it is sticking out of their head) People who look much older than their age (sort of Ripley's believe it or not) Odd poses, positions (not the mundane laying on a bed/couch, but more wtf?!!?) Women who look like trannies Men who look like old lesbians

curlytop2

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Should women write first? Posted: 8/13/2009 8:30:23 PM
I've written lot's of guys here on POF and have been ignored too so I have very little empathy for men whining why the top 500 hot girls on POF don't write them back. Yawn. Women can write to men, but if they aren't his target woman (ie; young, thin, busty, blond) - he will just ignore them. It's the nature of the beast. Hit on every good looking prospect at a bar and see if your odds are any better.

curlytop2

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Older men for the younger women Posted: 8/7/2009 6:51:30 PM
When I was in my early 20's I was attracted to 35 year olds. Then when I was 35 I was attracted to 35 year olds. And now that I'm getting near 50...yeah you guessed it. Still attracted to 35 year olds. Hah, ha!! But that can cause its own problems! Seriously, I tend to date 3 to 5 years younger...and have been involved with men 10 to 20 years younger. Just happens that way. I'm trying to stick closer to my age because there is more compatibility and sustainability that way. I would suggest that is a smart strategy for a younger woman like yourself as well.

curlytop2

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Communication gaps, and breakdown of failures Posted: 8/7/2009 6:43:49 PM
I suppose if you are sending emails to the top 100 beautiful women on POF you'll have to recognize they are busy answering a lot of emails and don't have time for more than "Hi" or to ignore you. I figure the form letter or Hi, how are you? notes are just something sent to every possible lady. In Texas, Hi Howru? is a throw away greeting that no one expects a real answer to. A well formed question is indeed worthy of an answer - and sometimes that answer is "no". I've sent some pretty creative things to guys and been totally ignored. That's the way it goes. In your profile you say you like steak: So I'd tailor my question to you and say "how do you like it rare, medium or medium well?" We should go check out Steak Nite - yadda, yadda. Why is that so hard??? Yoda says: No question formed, but the profile the answer has.

curlytop2

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What does it mean to give and take Posted: 8/7/2009 6:12:14 PM
Non-sequiter. It does make sense in the context. Just send the same message back to her plus a "?". Let her explain herself.

curlytop2

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what would you rather have, peace or passion? Posted: 8/7/2009 4:40:10 PM
I want a piece of passion...sliced nice and wide, please. And like cherry pie...sweet with no pits.

curlytop2

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Are you afraid of widow(er )s??? Posted: 8/7/2009 4:38:40 PM
A friend of mine married a widower with small children. They were several years apart and both fell head over heels in love and he wanted to get married. She was a little tenative because it hadn't been more than a year since his wife died. A counselor helper he a lot explaining that someone who has been happily married and loses their partner from an illness/accident aren't afraid to have that kind of happiness again. So perhaps they aren't afraid of widowers, just afraid themselves to risk getting into a relationship where they might feel unhappy.

curlytop2

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Does she need a girlfriend? Posted: 8/7/2009 4:14:04 PM
She needs girlfriends for that because it isn't your thing. I was married to a systems engineer and the last thing we wanted to discuss was relationships between people and the little things. He like to discuss ideas. It sounds like you are similar. It's not a bad thing, just different. She needs someone to chat with...but be careful and do not assume that all men are like you. They are not. Some like that kind of daily life exchange about who did what and how and like long phone conversations. Make sure you give her more than 23 seconds to communicate stuff like that...even if it's just 5 minutes at the end of the day. If you both keep it short, you'll be spared and she will be able to share. Win/win.

curlytop2

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Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX? Posted: 8/7/2009 4:04:53 PM
There's a blessing: May the Lord bless and keep my ex....as far away from me as possible. Hah, ha. I was lucky in that he was good to be married to, good to be divorced from and a good father to our children. Just not a good match for me.

curlytop2

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Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women. Posted: 8/5/2009 10:48:24 AM
Judy Tanuda says "have you ever found your self dating because you were too lazy to commite suicide?" I love Judy Tanuda....Resigned to the hopeful hopelessness of internet dating.

curlytop2

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Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE? Posted: 8/5/2009 10:41:03 AM
Do we try internet dating because we have a particular or even peculiar issue about us that makes it more difficult to find the right person in our everyday life? I read this in an article online about internet dating and it got me thinking. For me, it's pretty true. I am a Christian yet I am also a progressive politically which living in Texas makes it much more difficult to find a compatible person. I hoped that by going online I could search for men who have more compatiblity in those areas. Could it be you are older and are looking for much younger girl? Or a guy with a hobby like motorcycles and you are looking for a play partner...but know it is hard to find that interest in most women? Or maybe you have a conservative life but are looking for a wild sex hookup on QT? Or you are middleaged, fat, bald, short, a single parent, socially inept, overly shy, multiply divorced, separated, unemployed...? Anything less than the young, beautiful and successful singles who easily meet potential partners --do we come online to increase our chances of meeting a partner that we aren't able to meet in person because of an issue? Do you agree with this? What is your issue that makes it harder to meet people in your everyday life?

curlytop2

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Wierd Habit? Posted: 8/5/2009 10:08:19 AM
It's a personal choice when you are not in a relationship. Perhaps you like to eat the food off your plate one item at a time. Some like to mix it up.

curlytop2

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who recovers faster after a breakup men or women? Posted: 8/5/2009 10:04:44 AM
I don't believe it is gender specific. The one who leaves...and has someone waiting in the wings feels the loss much less. Rejection hurts even when you aren't that into the other person. "How dare you not love me, eventhough I don't love you." :o)

curlytop2

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do you look like your pictures? Posted: 8/4/2009 6:17:55 PM
Yes. I've made a special effort to keep my photos labeled and current. I also had some friends review my site and give me feedback and suggestions to keep things accurate. They are me, the are recent, they look like me. But I have no control on what you do with your imagination before you meet me.

curlytop2

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Would you reject someone because of something in their profile? Posted: 8/4/2009 5:46:11 PM
I think I do screen for things that would eliminate the man because of incompatibility. If you say...I can't drink wine because it give me headaches, but I don't mind if you do...you'll do fine.

curlytop2

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Cold unfeeling robotic blokes Posted: 8/4/2009 5:44:24 PM
I agree that written words are very powerful. This is especially true when men are not very verbal and the women are. A well expressed profession of love (poem, lyrics or original) can be read and re-read and treasured. My ex husband was not very verbal, but he was hard working, generous and helpful. I still respect him. It is harder for ice men to form close relationships but the do care. They just have trouble expressing it. Just because women like expressions of affection doesn't mean men should deny it because it's expected. Hah, ha. That's like denying the bees the pollen to make their honey. Everyone wins when affection is expressed and returned.

curlytop2

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Msg: 377 (view)

Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man? Posted: 8/4/2009 5:32:51 PM
Different people have different ideas of romance. There is a book about the 5 different love languages. Some want to hear verbal praise, some want something special done like baking their favorite pie, some want to hold hands and cuddle, and some want to be surprised with tickets to their favorite sporting event. They all want good sex. The problem is when I think what he wants is gifts or me to do something for him when what he wants is to hear how I appreciate him. This is why two way communication should come before romance.

curlytop2

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Msg: 38 (view)

Are all women nuts?/Where are all the good ones at? Posted: 8/4/2009 5:27:33 PM
You've either had very bad luck or something about you is either encouraging this or causing you to pick women like this. I'm just saying that two failed marriages like this indicates a possible pattern. Before you get serious with anyone else...you need to learn about yourself, look at the patterns in your family and realize that when you get hurt by someone cheating on you it harms you in a way that makes having a normal relationship more difficult. You may need couseling and a lot of self discovery and self improvement in your relationships. As you become more emotionally balanced and heal your past hurts, you will be ready for someone that is also balanced and whole. You must be the person you want to attract.

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