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Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 122 (view)

I don't care that he did, but WHY DID HE HAVE TO LIE? Posted: 11/14/2009 3:00:03 PM
sometimes, we unfairly assume the worst about people. Yes, we do. I hate to say it but I've become somewhat jaded when it comes to online dating. I used to believe everything I was told unless it was proven to be wrong. Drove my friends crazy, but I sure enjoyed dating more. Life was simpler then. OP - I just have to ask. Is your girlfriend actually going on a date with him??

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 656 (view)

Very long hair on a woman is very femine and sexy, but few women have long hair Posted: 11/11/2009 7:42:26 PM
^^^^^when you get too old and too lazy to have long hair you're too old to be attractive to men so you may as well learn to live without us and date your B.O.B. no wonder we like 25 year olds!!!! Ouch. Other than that, I'm speechless.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 24 (view)

Sex...Hurts? Posted: 11/6/2009 7:09:25 PM
You might not be stimulated enough. It happens to me every once in awhile if I'm not ready and my vagina hasn't expanded enough to allow the full penis inside, and the penis will hit the cervix. If that's the case, take more time in foreplay, or change positions until you're warmed up. I can't handle more than a couple of thrusts before I have to yell out in pain, and if you're allowing it to happen while you're biting a pillow, I'm not surprised you're cramping the next day. It's more apt to happen with someone new for me.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 73 (view)

What if the woman makes more money than the man. Posted: 11/4/2009 9:47:41 PM
I'm sure a lot of men feel emasculated when they're with a woman who makes more money than they do, especially in my generation (I'm 53). I don't really care how much a man makes as long as he's a productive member of society and enjoys what he's doing. I have a lot of girlfriends who make a lot more than their husbands or boyfriends, and those women have more control in their relationships but the men seem to be fine with that. I have another friend whose husband is a sometimes-employed university professor, and he enjoys having a wife with a steady income so he can work when he feels like it. She wants him to be employed full-time and holds resentment towards him. It totally depends on the individual personalities. Me? I'm very easy going with lot of things - and this wouldn't be an issue for me.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

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Dating In The Dark Posted: 11/4/2009 3:48:58 PM
I've known many people who would be termed "average" looking in most people's eyes, but after getting to know their personalities, they become "above average" looking and are definitely preferable to a 9 or a 10. That's what's difficult with the weeding process of online dating - we might be crossing someone off, and they might a real gem in personality in real life. Sometimes it shows in profiles, but sometimes not. Maybe those dating videos from the '80s were on to something.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

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How long b4 date Posted: 11/2/2009 5:46:19 PM
I think that was sweet. And if she reads this, even sweeter!

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 134 (view)

sugar mommy? Posted: 11/1/2009 9:41:03 PM
I was contacted by a young man from Italy who wanted to be my sugar baby (my term). He was a successful architect living in FL. As tempting as it was, I just couldn't see myself introducing him to my family.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 54 (view)

Never kissed a girl Posted: 10/27/2009 7:30:58 PM
I think I was playing spin the bottle the first time I got kissed by a boy. It was fun. LOL! Don't take it too seriously, and don't worry about what the girl is thinking. We like getting kissed. Follow her lead - cuz we like to lead in gentle kissing. And sometimes we like rougher kissing, too. But start with the gentle ones.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

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Insecurity issues Posted: 10/24/2009 1:58:58 PM
First of all, congratulations on losing all that weight! That's a major accomplishment and not easy at all. Heck, maintaining takes a lot of work! Secondly, not all men want a hard bodied woman. My philosophy is that I am a woman and I have some soft spots - they remind the man I'm with of my femininity. I do take good care of myself, but I never intend on making myself muscle-bound. I prefer to be healthy and enjoy life. And enjoy men!

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 42 (view)

Lip gloss Posted: 10/18/2009 7:52:15 PM
I like to wear a very light coat of clear lipgloss to keep my lips from getting dry. My lips are usually rosy colored without lipstick, so I don't see a need for lipstick. I like to protect my lips and lipgloss feels better than chapstick.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 57 (view)

Cell phones and the first date Posted: 10/9/2009 5:24:42 PM
I'm going to leave mine at home next time I go out. I kind of like the idea of being able to feel like I'm not wearing pants even when I have them on. I'll make sure it's a warm enough day and I'm not expecting an important call. Good one!

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 562 (view)

Sleeping naked Posted: 10/8/2009 7:35:10 PM
Nekkid feels best.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 162 (view)

Who Does All The Work In Bed? Posted: 10/8/2009 7:28:18 PM
Most men are much stronger than women (thanks to testosterone), and are able to sustain some positions longer, so it's easier for men to "work" harder. Like many others here, I wouldn't consider it work, and have never compared who put more into it. It's all about mutual pleasure.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 106 (view)

Sex Toys... (....for men!) Posted: 10/8/2009 7:09:48 PM
If a woman has trouble with orgasm, doctors will advise her to masturbate and get familiar with her own body Exactly! And "Use it or Lose it!" Nothing wrong with toys for men or women. Using them together just adds a little spice to the mix.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 305 (view)

WHY R OLDER GUYS SO SEXY???????? Posted: 10/8/2009 6:38:39 PM
If they've taken care of themselves, it's confidence and experience. If they have a young attitude, even better!

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 57 (view)

I get too nervous to go on dates so I always cancel Posted: 8/7/2009 10:15:02 PM
OP - I think you need to "practice" dating more. Just like anything you're not comfortable with, it will get easier with time. I recently went on a date with an attorney and about half way into the date, he told me I was his guinea pig - he had been married for 30 yrs and had only been out with 2 other women in his life. He was extremely nervous, which surprised me, given his occupation. I wished him good luck and we parted ways. No harm done - he got in some practice dating and I helped him build a little courage for his next date. It was all good.

bionic kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 53 (view)

Ladies, Is Walking You to Your Door Important? Posted: 8/3/2009 5:45:12 PM
Needing to find a distancing workaround would seem to foretell a a pattern for as long as the relationship lasts of: "Well, if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you. . . ." Which is, in the end, death to communication. I think I'd consider myself well out of this one. Exactly. If I do something wrong, I want to know about it right away or I run the risk of doing it again!

bionic kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

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STRESS. Got some? Posted: 8/3/2009 11:21:14 AM
Yes, of course I have stress. Some stress is healthy - keeps us on our toes. I'm having surgery next week and will be homebound for a month, with limited mobility for another couple of months. I questioned my sanity for continuing to date, but it's a good test to see who can handle it. LOL! I know that you men feel you have to "fix" everything. I'm not looking for anybody to fix me, I just want companionship while I'm in recovery. And maybe some meals brought in.

bionic kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

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Ladies, Is Walking You to Your Door Important? Posted: 8/3/2009 10:58:40 AM
I like getting walked to my door, especially at night because you can't see my front door from my driveway. When I drive myself home, I drive right into my attached garage so I don't have much of a safety concern. Your date could have asked you to walk her to her door if it was that important to her. I wouldn't hesitate to ask myself.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 40 (view)

necessary losses, hidden treasures.... Posted: 8/1/2009 9:06:38 PM
Serenity - I'm sorry for the loss of your pup. Your post has brought up all kinds of emotions in me - some good and some sad. I've had to make the difficult decisions to put down a dog and a cat in my lifetime. I stayed with both of them through their last breath. I didn't think I'd be able to stay with them, but I found it incredibly peaceful, like I was trusting God to take care of them from that moment on. I opted for both of them to be cremated with a group of other pets - sort of like them all going to the "other side" together. I've had peaceful dreams about both of them - I dreamt my dog was running through the fields, as happy as could be, and I dreamt my cat was sleeping next to me on my bed. I always believed it was their way of telling me they are living on eternally, in spirit. My vet made a little clay paw print of my cat on her last day and I have it on my dresser and look at it every morning - it makes me smile.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 45 (view)

Roses or chocolates? Posted: 8/1/2009 6:57:02 PM
If I had to pick, it would be roses - love 'em! However, a few truffles are nice, too.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 1054 (view)

Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 7/21/2009 7:25:53 PM
Well, honestly, you gotta strike while the iron's hot, and if you've got a few guys interested you have to make the most of it. It seems to be either feast or famine with dating and you have to take advantage of the situations. I don't really like dating more than one person at a time, like I'm forced to do right now , but it's better than sitting at home alone on a Saturday night.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 24 (view)

After a first date, is it okay to email rather than call? Posted: 7/20/2009 8:39:07 PM
I prefer a phone call. It's more personal.

bionic kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 41 (view)

Room mates 45 and over, Does it effect dating? Posted: 7/13/2009 11:22:18 AM
5 roommates is kind of a lot. It sounds like growing up with my 4 siblings plus parents - I couldn't wait to move out! I could probably date someone in that situation, but as far as long-term, probably not my cup of tea. I need my privacy.

bionic kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 24 (view)

Online dating vs Social groups Posted: 7/13/2009 10:51:43 AM
The Meetup group that I joined is 90% women/10% men, so odds are better for men. But I would agree that it is the best way to meet a "real" person that you can actually see and talk to.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 55 (view)

Dating a Married Man Posted: 7/11/2009 6:20:26 PM
I would walk away and not look back. I don't think it's any of your business to tell his wife what's going on, and chances are she already knows, especially if he's on dating sites. I have a friend that went through this with her ex-husband. She could clearly see on the family computer that he was setting up dates with other women, so she gave him him enough rope and he eventually hung himself (not literally!).

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 1370 (view)

Cheating- can you forgive? Posted: 7/11/2009 6:01:10 PM
Yes, I have forgiven, but not likely to forget. You're only hurting yourself if you don't forgive because it will eat away at you and you will become (or stay) a very bitter person. And who wants to hang out with that?

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 33 (view)

What are the odds...really?? REALLY???? Posted: 7/9/2009 6:08:19 PM
Its almost too easy to meet people and such that you find yourself holding out for better the longer you are a part of this evilness. Is that what's going on? That might explain some of what I've been seeing.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 355 (view)

He brought his Fanny with him... Posted: 7/8/2009 10:29:11 PM
Nothing wrong with a fanny pack - guys don't always have pockets deep enough to carry all their belongings. I have no problem with them. There are other things that are more important dealbeakers for me.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 66 (view)

When are you most happiest? Posted: 7/7/2009 7:40:10 PM
These things make me happy: 1 - long, luxurious bubble baths 2 - kitties in my lap while getting lost in a good book 3 - balancing the checkbook at work 4 - slow walks on the beach 5 - watching the sun set with a glass of wine Of course, all of these (except maybe #3) make me happiest with a special guy by my side.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 83 (view)

Easier or harder to experience heartbreak as we get older Posted: 7/4/2009 4:56:08 PM
For me it's the same as when I was younger. I'm a hopeless romantic and I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and it hasn't gotten any easier. I'm a sap that way.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 18 (view)

healthy snacks Posted: 7/1/2009 7:55:00 PM
I'm enjoying an oatmeal banana shake right now: I put 2/3 cup oatmeal in a Magic Bullet blender w/ 1/2 tsp cinnamon and blend until the oatmeal is almost flour-like. Add 1 frozen banana (cut in slices), 1 cup milk and 1/2 tsp vanilla and blend until frothy. Yum!

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 91 (view)

Beating the heat at our age Posted: 7/1/2009 7:21:49 PM
No more short-shorts for me! I wear walking shorts and skirts in the summer to stay cool. I stay out of the sun in the heat of the day - don't need anything to encourage more hot flashes!

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 52 (view)

How important is a sense of humor anyway? Posted: 7/1/2009 6:44:05 PM
I don't like being around a man who is "on" all the time. That can be exhausting. I like a natural sense of humor where someone can laugh at me or themselves easily. I've made a LOT of UNintentional blunders (in words and actions) in my lifetime and can usually laugh it off. It's nice to be with someone who can laugh along with me because I'm pretty sure I'll be making a few more.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

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To wear make-up or not - 1st date Posted: 6/29/2009 8:13:27 PM
I'm sure you're on your date by now, but my vote is some makeup -- although not so much that you feel uncomfortable or unnatural. <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> I wear very little, but I must wear some eye makeup and lip gloss at all times. EDIT: Oops! I didn't see the second page here, and you're already back! Glad you had a nice time and hopefully the second date will go as well (with or without makeup)!

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 52 (view)

Addicted to running? Posted: 6/27/2009 7:53:07 PM
I love to run, too, but I just found out I have to have surgery on my feet this year. So no more running until next summer - I'm severely bummed about it. I've been having so many problems from my glutes to my toes for the last 6 months and finally went to the doctor, only to find out I need to have surgery to have bunions removed, need to shorten my second metatarsals, and have my calf muscles cut to loosen them. I can only have one foot/leg done at a time, so the first one will be in August and hopefully if all goes well, the second one in December. I'll be out of work for a month after each surgery - good thing I have LOTS of vacation time to cover the time out. In the meantime, I'm spending lots of time on the recumbent bike and elliptical at the gym. Not quite the same as a solitary run when I can get lost in my thoughts...

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 49 (view)

Loners vs. lonely Posted: 6/27/2009 7:28:01 PM
I'm naturally a loner/introvert - I need my alone time to get energized. I get exhausted by being around people all the time. I enjoy being in small groups as opposed to large groups and can get serious stage fright! I've dated extroverts, and they've understood that I need to withdraw at times and just be with me. My adult son is a natural extrovert and he loves to be on the go, all the time, around as many people as possible. He obviously got that from his dad!

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 84 (view)

Are there some women that PREFER bald guys over guys with hair? Posted: 6/26/2009 4:38:15 PM
As long as a man's hair is shorter than mine, it's all good! Although I do like a little something to run my fingers through.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 72 (view)

What's your deal breaker? (re profiles first glance) Posted: 6/17/2009 5:49:37 PM
- whining - frowns (I like smiles) - pics of men my age sans shirt

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 56 (view)

Favorite romantic movie scene Posted: 4/22/2009 7:51:45 PM
The kiss scene in The Whole Wide World has got to be the most romatic ever! When Vincent D'Onofrio suddenly turns and kisses Renee Zelwegger - WOW!

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 45 (view)

Are old people starting to look good to you? Posted: 3/20/2009 6:07:43 PM
I think men my age are a lot sexier than the younger ones. Well, at least the ones that have taken care of themselves. They have more self confidence and in my book that's sexier than a six-pack of abs any day!

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

Thai food Posted: 3/18/2009 9:12:55 PM
My favorite Thai foods are Pad Thai and Sweet Green Curry Chicken. I can't cook these as well as my favorite Thai restaurant - so I usually end up getting take-out.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 110 (view)

Body image Posted: 3/9/2009 7:58:07 PM
I'm 53 and feel pretty good about my body image. Although I do work hard to keep it that way - running 5-6 days a week and lots of squats! But I am a woman and prefer to have some "soft" spots.

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 23 (view)

Sex drive after hysterectomy or menopause Posted: 3/3/2009 6:30:41 PM
Thanks for sharing! I have my annual physical on Thursday and I'm going to talk to my doctor about this. I've been taking Effexor for hot flashes and it doesn't work at my current dose, and I don't want to increase it anymore. If I miss a dose I feel like I'm a walking zombie. I haven't noticed a decrease in my sex drive, but a little boost wouldn't hurt!

Bionic Kitten

Joined: 12/18/2008

Msg: 320 (view)

Should men color the gray Posted: 2/28/2009 11:30:16 PM
Don't color the gray! I love natural-looking men.

northern1130

Joined: 12/18/2008

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Dinner in under 30 minutes Posted: 1/17/2009 8:51:15 PM
Spicy Noodles 1 small package spaghetti noodles 2 chicken breasts cashews Sauce: 1/4 cup honey 1/4 cup soy sauce 2 T olive oil 2 T sesame oil 1/2 tsp garlic 2 T rice vinegar 3/4 - 1.5 tsp cayenne pepper Cook noodles. Cut chicken into bite-size pieces and saute until light brown. Mix sauce ingredients and pour over noodles. Add chicken and cashews. Can substitute shrimp for chicken. Bon apetit!

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