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Posted In Forum: All Forums Alabama Alaska Alberta Arizona Arkansas Art/Music Ask A Girl Ask A Guy Australia British Columbia Broken Hearts California Colorado Connecticut Dating & Love Advice Dating Experiences Dating Sites Delaware District Of Columbia Event Hosts forum Florida Georgia Hawaii Health & Fitness Humor Idaho Illinois Indiana Introductions Iowa Kansas Kentucky Louisiana Maine Manitoba Maryland Massachusetts Michigan Minnesota Mississippi Missouri Montana Nebraska Nevada New Brunswick New Hampshire New Jersey New Mexico New York Newfoundland News/Current Events North Carolina North Dakota Nova Scotia Off Topic Ohio Oklahoma Ontario Oregon Over 30 Over 45 Pennsylvania Plentyoffish Get Togethers Plentyoffish Site/Suggestions/Help Poems And Quotes Politics Prince Edward Island Profile Reviews Quebec Recipes & Cooking Relationships Religion/Supernatural Rhode Island Saskatchewan Science/Philosophy Sex and Dating Single Parents South Carolina South Dakota Sports Stories/creative writing Technology and computers Tennessee Testimonials Texas Uk Forums Utah Vermont Virginia Volunteer Moderators Only Washington West Virginia Wisconsin Wyoming Home   login   MyForums   Show ALL Forums      Author  Thread: how do you flip the switch so easy?  tjhutz Joined: 12/21/2008 Msg: 16 (view)   how do you flip the switch so easy? Posted: 1/23/2009 12:04:28 PM he didn't serve , he went a a civilian mechanic, got lied to .a private benjamin thing ,so after 5 months, he hated it found out other companies pay alot more! decided to come home ...check some other sources.etc.  tjhutz Joined: 12/21/2008 Msg: 12 (view)   how do you flip the switch so easy? Posted: 1/23/2009 10:49:40 AM o.k but why not just say that? he was always up front and honest , that's why I took a chance to begin with. I'm not into drama so he knows there wouldn't have been any!  tjhutz Joined: 12/21/2008 Msg: 10 (view)   how do you flip the switch so easy? Posted: 1/23/2009 10:27:46 AM yes that's the question , How do you do it so easily?I've lost love before, this one has me so confused!the no explanation , not so much as my feelings have change  tjhutz Joined: 12/21/2008 Msg: 1 (view)   how do you flip the switch so easy? Posted: 1/23/2009 8:40:29 AM Hey guys please help us out here .................. How can some men act Loving, caring,considerate,say I love you , I never met anyone like you ! etc, etc, then after a long time ,lived together never had an arguement,blah,blah, just push you away without an explanation of any kind??? WTF? I can't get over it I can't move on !I know I should and have tried.  tjhutz Joined: 12/21/2008 Msg: 3 (view)   why did he turn into someone else? Posted: 1/21/2009 2:52:25 PM Thanks for that , the thing is I have been Patient for 7 months now , I'm miserable,I cry all the time I think I need to move on , but can't or don't know how!!  tjhutz Joined: 12/21/2008 Msg: 258 (view)   Losing a loved one to death Posted: 1/21/2009 12:07:29 PM hey there I have lost alot of people in a very short time , my mom was only 57, my husband was only 51 , his father just a week before. the tears will stop eventually , its been 9 years since my hubsand, I still cry , but it doesn't hurt as bad, as the cliche says "TIME DOES HEAL ALL WOUNDS" and don't let anybody tell you they know what your going through ! nobody really knows how you feel, best wishes to you sweetheart , and know that it will get better  tjhutz Joined: 12/21/2008 Msg: 1 (view)   why did he turn into someone else? Posted: 1/21/2009 11:58:27 AM I wrote this on ask a guy , but i'm going to try to reword it ,so hopefully it can be understood better....................... for 2 years I dated and lived with a wonderful, caring considerate man , we talked about everything including why people put on a facade?he was having alot of finacial issues and decided to go to Iraq to work for awhile , after he left , thinking he would be gone a year , I moved back to my home 4 hours away , he called all the time told me how much he loved me and miss me , then he decided to come back early , I went to get him, spent a week with him he didn't seem different , but said people where making him crazy , and I should go home for awhile . he visited a couple weeks later seemed fine , then all the sudden he turned into someone I don't know , he says he don't know why we're not together, he loves me ,i'm his best friend,etc then he'll ask me to do things and blow me off!! I know Iraq is a bad place to be , but he won't talk about it , he also says there is only two people who he felt didn't treat him differently when he came home , (his mother and me ) and we are the 2 people he has distanced himself from ??? any Ideas? Thank you  tjhutz Joined: 12/21/2008 Msg: 13 (view)   why is he being so mean? Posted: 1/19/2009 2:39:33 PM that was my thoughts also , but he was so not like that!!! thanks for your honesty and time  tjhutz Joined: 12/21/2008 Msg: 12 (view)   why is he being so mean? Posted: 1/19/2009 2:38:19 PM I really am not Brash at all , he has been home for 6 months now , he wanted my stuff out it was his house, i have backed off and been very patient , not alot of questions, just a few , then when he started blowing smoke up my ass , i quit asking any thing.i am the type of person that questions everything!!!  tjhutz Joined: 12/21/2008 Msg: 11 (view)   why is he being so mean? Posted: 1/19/2009 2:34:34 PM he started bringing my stuff back , he didn't want anything of mine there, when I asked him why we are not together he says he don't know what will happen between us , and tells me he's never met anyone like me and I'm is best friend.....then he'll ask me to go places with him , and blow me off!!not answer his phone , then call a few days later , and act like nothings wrong. I'm not pushing him , i'm not calling him its been 6 months since he's been home , I've only seen him 4-5 times. hopefully this new info will help you not be so down on me , I backed off and have been very patient, jealousy has never been a factor in our relationship.. thanks for your opinion, and time  tjhutz Joined: 12/21/2008 Msg: 1 (view)   why is he being so mean? Posted: 1/19/2009 12:50:55 PM I dated a wonderful guy for 2 years , moved in with him for 9 months, after having finacial problems he decided to go work in iraq for a while , i moved back to my home a state over, he called every other day , told me how much he loved me and missed me,he then came home in june , i was with him for a week , didn't seem to different, i had to take a trip so came home , he visited once everything seemed normal , then i told him i needed to come get some of my stuff, he said fine , but when i got there he wouldn't look at me at first , he never made a pass at me actually acted very uncomfortable , i asked what's up? he just says he don't know (well who does then),so i left broken hearted thinking i was going to give him space to get it together , he would be fine , now he starts messing with me , asking if i want to do something , then blow me off? he just says I don't know when i ask guestions or blow smoke up my ass!! I can't get over this ! I can't move on ! we never had a fight ot argument the whole time we were together!!!!any ideas? Thanks for any imput you have   Show ALL Forums