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 Author Thread: Told I gotta be fake because I am deep
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Told I gotta be fake because I am deep
Posted: 10/24/2009 6:14:28 PM

What the heck is "sounding like normal problems are inferior to you?"


Some people are addicted to chaos and drama and spend thier whole life reacting and gyrating over every minor issue, having their actions and their life dictated by whatever blows through the door.

Others have the ability to see the bigger picture, and don't get bent out of shape over trivial things. I suspect you are the latter, and the whole concept of handling things in that manner was so foreign to him that he just couldn't find a comfort level with someone more mature/enlightened.

He's calling you 'too deep' so that he can lay the 'blame' at your doorstep, and not feel bad about himself.

The bottom line here is that you two have some major differences in fundamental values, and are not a good match. That doesn't make anyone right or wrong, it just is what it is. Wish him the best, and keep your eyes open for someone who's values and priorities more closely match your own. Best of luck to you.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Gurgle gurgle what?
Posted: 10/22/2009 8:31:52 PM
itsallinthesoul.... lol oh right, i almost forgot the swear words... that can be embarrassing, no? We tried to replace them with silly words that were fun to say. I think dammit was dingdangdiggetydog.... OP this thread was so fun, i think i'm gonna have to go get the videos out. Just gotta hear that sweet little baby voice
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Gurgle gurgle what?
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:49:15 PM
When my oldest son was tiny, he always told people his birthday was knocked over... (It's in October) And to this day, we chase flies with a flyswapper.... Gawd, I can't wait for the grandkids to start showing up!
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
I need some help and advice, please.......
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:39:14 PM
He moved in with her after knowing her for a week? Highly unlikely that she'll be around long term, so I wouldn't worry about any kind of bonding going on between them (aside from the short term, temporary, superficial, meaningless kind) Make the most of any time you get to yourself when he takes them there. He's making decisions out of desparation, and that has a way of backfiring. Just focus on keeping YOUR relationship with the kids strong, set a good example, and be there to help them make sense of things while they watch him go through his gyrations...I know it's hard, but seperate and distance yourself from him, let him own the responsibility for his unstable decisions. Hold your head up, keep give your children an impeccable example, and your self esteem will surge when his house of cards falls apart, and there you are, the epitome of stability and grace.... kids understand a lot more than we give them credit for.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
same age dating
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:25:36 PM
lol "normal"... now there's a subjective word...

Obviously, something in that age range clicks with you... if it works for you, then it's obviously right for you.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
 
after you cum.. (mainly for guys)
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:20:28 PM
OP, if you've never collapsed, exhausted, into a quivering pile of mush and felt the chi swirling around your bodies, vivid colors exploding like fireworks inside your head, and felt overwhelmed with satisfaction and joy, then sweetie, there's a whole other level of passion and extasy that you still have to look forward to.... That kinda connection is way way way beyond how hot she is.... when you're lying next to the right girl, you'll know.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
food off my plate is better, why?
Posted: 10/22/2009 7:11:18 PM
He wants to have that one on one interaction and bond with you.... So cool, watching all those little quirks emerge that make them thier own unique little person.....
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
how old is too old to be a parent
Posted: 10/22/2009 6:25:19 PM
66? That's insane! My boyfriend and I talked about it a lot, especially since we both have all boys.... If we were guaranteed a girl, we probably would, but since I just turned 40 last week (so happy i could puke) and he's a few years older than me, we decided it would be much smarter to just wait for the grandchildren to come.... This weekend when I was freezing my toes off standing outside in the dark at six am walking my son's dog, that pretty much confirmed we made the right decision...Looking forward to getting all these kids, and their respective animals out of here, and having it be just us.... gonna be some spoiled grandkids tho....kinda can't wait for that!
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 63 (view)
 
What do we like about men/women?
Posted: 10/22/2009 2:09:02 PM
I love how he holds my face when he kisses me...
I love how he's always warm already when we get in bed at night...
I love how patient and kind he is with my puppies...
I love how he takes the initiative to help me out with things, and be a part of my family and my life
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
When your friend marries your ex
Posted: 10/22/2009 12:45:45 PM
I can't even imagine how difficult that must be to deal with, especially having it put in your face constantly due to the required interactions with the children.... I really feel for you on that one. It's hard to find anything positive to take away from a situation like that, other than the fact they have cleared some space in your life to develop some truly supportive, non toxic relationships. And Wicked Cricket... I don't even know what to say. More proof that some people are alive only because it's not legal to euthanize them. Looks like I'll have to go take that "Most Vile Douchbag in the World" trophy off the ex's mantle...
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Opinions and Honesty wanted!!!!
Posted: 10/22/2009 12:35:35 PM

he says he cares about me now.. but he dont want to be with me.


'Nuff said.... c ya!

(In two months I would have forgotten his name)
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Curbing your relationships
Posted: 10/22/2009 12:15:48 PM
For me, it's more a matter of knowing we have to accept people as they are. Especially as we get a little older, it's unrealistic to think we can alter another person's personality or behavior, and it's selfish to think it's our place to try. People are who they are. That's what dating is about....learning to know who another person truly is, and that can only happen over time. When it's compatible with who we are, things are smooth and wonderful... When the differences are too great, it makes interactions a source of contention and frustration. Much better to let people be who they are and set them free to find someone who is a better match for them then irritate and nag each other endlessly. Just my personal viewpoint
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Saying sorry to our kids....do you think it is important to do?
Posted: 10/22/2009 12:03:34 PM
Being far far from perfect, I've apologized to my children on many occasions, anytime I feel I've acted rashly, or in frustration.... that time I forgot it was Thursday and didn't have the baseball uniforms washed on time.... Why would I treat the people I love most in this world with any less curtesy and respect than I would treat any other human being?
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
should i continue with her
Posted: 10/22/2009 9:34:28 AM
hello high voltage... let's chat soon
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Still love her!
Posted: 10/22/2009 6:16:18 AM

it seems she just doesnt care about me or is even bothered


You know Scott, it could be that she just doesn't care, or it could be that she cares about you enough that she's trying to make it easier for you by not being in contact, so this doesn't drag out and you can start healing... but either way, she's sending you a clear message that, for her, this relationship is over. Unrequited love is likely the most painful feeling known to man, but it's something I think everyone experiences, at some point in your life. How you handle it makes all the difference in how long it takes to move past it.


I just cant help thinking about her and its driving me mad

Yes, sitting around dwelling will drive you mad... and it makes things hurt a whole lot more. You have to make a conscious decision to refocus your attention, and stick to it. At first, you might have to force yourself to do so, but the more you do it, the more natural it will become. Take a class, join a sports team, volunteer your time at an animal shelter, teach yourself to play euchre.... whatever you can come up with to keep your mind actively focused elsewhere. Hard to believe, but at some point, you'll realize that it doesn't hurt as bad as it did, and eventually, it will just be a faded memory from long long ago that really doesn't matter anymore. Hope the journey from here to there is a fast one.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
If the Bee Gee's can't figure it out, there's no hope!
Posted: 10/22/2009 5:52:07 AM
And now ~ I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end ~ the way it all would go
Our lives ~ are better left to chance
I could have missed the pain ~ But I'd have had to miss ~
The dance
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Is it bad to compramise our values?
Posted: 10/22/2009 5:46:26 AM
Tis true that no one is perfect, but people that say "everyone lies" are simply rationalizing the fact that THEY lie, because after all, if EVERYONE else does it too, then it must make them a little bit less of a sh!t, right?

As far as finding peace with cutting people off, I think it's important to examine the situation, and the intent. Something like "no, that haircut doesn't look that bad" when being used to spare someone's feelings.... I'd at least appreciate the motivation behind it.

Something like "no, I didn't sleep with your sister" is just malicious, with no intention other than to avoid the consequences of their behavior, and that would be a whole different animal.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Texting endlessly
Posted: 10/22/2009 4:45:52 AM
Remember back in the day when you actually had to use a telephone that was attached to a cord? the times, they are a changin.... Kinda makes you wonder what's next, doesn't it? I wasn't a fan either, but with kids, well, you gotta communicate with them on their level, so I broke down and learned. It did seem strange at first, when I started dating my boyfriend (both in our 40's) to be texting, but we both have teenagers, so it was habit. Now, I actually prefer it.... The phone ringing seems so demanding "stop what you're doing and answer me right now" whereas my cell phone just makes a tiny sound like a cricket, so I know someone is looking for me, but I can read the message, and reply to it at my leisure, rather than jumping up to answer the phone every few minutes. It also gives me a few minutes to think about my reply, as opposed to being expected to respond immediately. I can also have a private conversation while I'm sitting at my desk as well, rather than having to stop what I'm doing and go outside. (I do get a kick out of sending "flirty" messages in the middle of the day, planting that thought and letting it simmer all afternoon..... by the time he gets home, guess who he's been thinking about all day?) It doesn't replace face to face for serious conversations, but I definately think texting has it's advantages.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
what to make of this
Posted: 8/25/2009 10:20:19 PM
Thanks for all the responses. This is a great place to get a lot of different perspectives, and I appreciate every one.

I'm wondering, if it is an insecurity issue, is there anything I can do to help resolve it so it doesn't keep coming around? I really do think this guy might be 'the one' for me, and I feel so lucky to have found him at this point.

I don't think the stories are made up, he's extremely well built, and he's taken good care of himself over the years. I've often seen women checking him out, (which I actually take as a compliment to my great taste, lol) but I'm uncomfortable with how he immediately looks to me for a reaction... Is this normal, or is it a sign of disfunction? If it's dysfunction, how serious is it on the grand scale of things? I mean I'm not looking for perfection, but something really feels off bout this, and I don't want to be blindsided later.

I'm really curious to know, wouldn't that whole jealousy thing be a turnoff to most guys? Especially in mid forties? I'm very curious to know what men's feelings (ugh, i know, i dropped the f bomb, sorry) are about that...

I guess I just can't tell if I need to adjusting, or he needs to be adjusting... I'm just not the type of girl that falls apart like that, but I don't want to keep disappointing him, or making him question my sincerety, or the security of our relationship either. Is there a win win here?
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
what to make of this
Posted: 8/25/2009 6:14:12 PM
I've been exclusive with my boyfriend for several months now, and overall, I feel things are really great. We were both about two years out of 18+ year marriages when we met, and had each dated a few people in between there. I find him incredibly sexy and attractive, and we both have a strong sex drive, so we're a great match there.

He has told me that over the course of his marriage, his ex wife was very critical of his appearance, (and him in general) and had very little sex drive, so he tends to be a little insecure in that area. Having been in the same situation in my marriage, I feel I can relate to these feelings, and I pay careful attention to his feelings in this area, complimenting him and reassuring him whenever he needs that. I have no problem with any of that.

About a month after we started dating, he came to my house one afternoon unexpectedly, telling me about a female neighbor of his who had approached him while he was out doing yardwork, and was hitting on him pretty aggressively. I asked him how he handled it, and he said he told her he had a girlfriend, but she had been very persistant, and he just wanted to let me know what had happened before I heard it from anywhere else. I didn't think too much of it, other than the fact that he had made a special trip to my house to tell me this, when we already had plans to see each other later that night. Several days later, when I stopped by his house, I noticed her sitting on her porch, glaring at me when I got out of the car, which seemed odd, but nothing else happened, and he told me she has pretty much just left him alone since then. I found it a little strange that he had been in such big rush to let me know about it, but other than that, it was never a problem or issue.

So here we are several months later, and he is currently vacationing in Cancun. ( he and a male friend of his had planned this trip before he and I started dating.... he offered for me to come along if I wanted, but I wasn't able to, due to work obligations.) He's been calling me every night around 11 and we talk a few minutes before we go to sleep, which is really nice.

Today, he called me several times in the middle of the afternoon, which was odd, and as it happened, I missed the calls. When I called back, he was falling all over himself to tell me that a "very attractive woman" at the resort had been 'stalking' him hardcore, begging him to have a threesome with her and her husband. I thought it was kinda cute, and I'm sure he must have been flattered. I laughed, and asked him if he had any desire to do it, and he got a little pissy. Now, I trust my boyfriend implicitly... I have never felt any concern in regard to cheating (we take excellent care of each other in that area) But in this instance, it almost seemed like he was upset that I didn't get upset about it. We have had conversations about this before, and I've told him that I love him, but if he decided he wanted to be somewhere else, I would accept it and life would go on, which he also seemed unhappy to hear.

So I'm wondering, what's up with being in such a hurry to report anytime another female makes a move on him? I mean, I appreciate the honesty, but does it really warrant a special trip, or an emergency phone call? And why be pissy because I don't react like a schoolgirl? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 292 (view)
 
Does the size of the ring matter ?
Posted: 8/24/2009 12:15:47 AM
I work hard to live a conscious life. I put my very best effort into every single thing I do, most especially when it comes to people I love. There is part of me in every task... When I'm working, I keep in mind that I'm earing those dollars to help our family have the best quality of life possible. When I'm making a meal, I keep in mind that I'm nourishing the bodies of those I hold most dear...this is why I plan our menus carefully so our health is optimized, and prepare each dish patiently, never shortcutting or skimping... if anyone on earth is worth going the extra mile for, it's those who share my life. Sometimes, at the end of a very long day, I respond to my partner's sexual advances, when my first preference would be to sleep.... just because I know it's his way of feeling closer to me, and I'm thrilled that he's reaching out like that for me.... I'm always glad I did too, because lying together in that afterglow is something that just never gets old.... when I'm shopping for something for my partner, I first budget a reasonable amount of money to spend on the item, if anything, leaning towards the side of generosity). Then I search long and hard to select and item I know will be meanigful, and accurately reflect my sentiments towards that person. I typically spend a great deal of time making sure I'm getting the highest quality possible withing my predetermined range, and that I'm getting the best possible value for my money. I do these things because at the end of the day, whoever I share my most intimate connections with, the feelings we share, the memories we are creating, are the things that give the most joy and meaning to my life.

I serve an acceptable, appetizing meal every day, on clean dishes, but on the holidays, I prepare a huge feast, and get out the good china... I try to look my best every day, but on days when I know there's something special going on, I get my hair done, and wear my favorite outfit, and 'those' shoes.... I give the best I have to give every day, but on those special days, I go above and beyond, to make sure my loved ones feel spoiled and special.... to make sure they know they are worth it to me. As for "The Ring" I wouldn't want some gawdy monstrosity... but considering what it symbolizes, I would certainly hope my partner would bring his very best, as am I.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 43 (view)
 
37 and still single? Why won't a woman date me?
Posted: 8/23/2009 7:51:50 PM

But I ask myself, am I being punished by most women of dating age for no reason by their ignorance and prejudice, for who I am and what I have? Have they got a complex issue with me and if so why? I love myself but why won't any decent woman who's single and unattached, want me? What have I done, that makes women not want to date or have me as their partner? I'm a decent, friend, kind, trustworthy and respectful person, if someone got to know me properly vice versa, but nobody wants to know.


One of the things about Aspergers is an inward focus that comes across as self absorbtion. I feel your posts really demonstrate this... You might want to spend some time working on becoming very aware of how you're coming across to other people.


What have I done, that makes women not want to date or have me as their partner?

I think you need to be asking yourself what you have done that would make a woman want to date you or have you as a partner.... Relationships aren't something people are automatically entitled to... There has to be some mutual benefit and satisfaction. A learning disability isn't a free pass on the work... it may be a disadvantage, but it isn't women's fault you have this issue... it's something YOU will have to work to get past.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Honesty and what women really want?
Posted: 8/23/2009 7:00:28 PM
I'd like to second what midlandtom said.... My perspective is limited, as I only have what I read in your profile and your posts in this thread to draw from, but I see several things that would void any interest, and being a recovering alcoholic isn't one of them. I'm not trying to be rude, just suggesting that maybe your openness about some of your history isn't the issue.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/9/2009 8:29:48 PM
Hey Imbrunette,

Hugs to you. So sorry you are dealing with that. I hope you're taking in the lessons he's teaching you about who he is... I have to agree with Kendra here.... nar nar indeed! You know, if someone can't be there for you when things are less than perfect, they really don't deserve to be in your life at all. You're a lovely girl.... YOU CAN DO BETTER!
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Uh oh...I think I'm bitter...
Posted: 7/8/2009 7:52:39 AM
Hey computer guy...


I just had to laugh when I saw the comment about rolling our eyes when we see a couple kissing in the sidewalk....Haven't we all been there at some time or another?

I think sometimes after we've been hurt, it's easy to start living too far inside our own head, and that's when we start taking things too personally.

When someone agrees to go on a date with another person, they're agreeing to spend some time getting to know the other. There's no obligation other than that. We're not going to buy every pair of shoes we try on, and we're not going to marry every person we date, so if a girl tells you "You're a hell of a guy but..." or "You'll find someone..." and "You deserve the best kind of girl out there..." it's hardly a baseless rejection... it simply means she thinks you're a worthwhile human being, but she doesn't feel you're the right person for her, and she's being honest about it.... It doesn't mean somethings "wrong" with you, or something's "wrong" with her....It just means you're not a good match, and that's ok.

You'll regain the confidence you need by reframing your perspective. We honestly don't NEED anyone else to validate our worth... that's the delusion....You know who you are and what you have to offer, and when you yourself can know and believe that that's enough, without looking to anyone else to make you feel confident about it, that's when other people will start to see it too. It all starts in the mirror.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Suggestions Greatly Appreciated on Profile Gracias
Posted: 4/27/2009 4:17:29 AM

I am getting responses and e-mails, just not from the good looking girls but I have high standards.


Hmmm, Maybe they read your posting history.

Be very forceful and aggressive and just kick her ass, slap her around, and make her suffer.

she is one of the ugliest creatures I have ever seen, I would be insulted if she was interested in me

Take a good look at me, I am the definition of a real man.


Don't pay attention to the sensitive crap, no woman likes that.

My advice to you, become a tough guy, step on people, Hit it and Quit it, and Bros before Hoes. Don't take crap from anybody, go to the gym, bulk up and start pushing people around, and all the hot women will be all over you, I guarandamntee it.

Be a bad guy, Hit it and Quit It, take revenge always, and become a controversial guy who get all the hot women, like Mike Tyson.

If anything goes wrong, animals are always an option.

My advice to you, Hit It and Quit It. Just use them to your advantage and the say "Goodbye" and don't spend money on them unless you are 100% sure you will get a greater return from them, namely sex.

I realized the male physique is superior to a female's on average, that's a proven fact.

I used to be a nice guy and did not get any nice looking women, then I became arrogant, narcissistic, got some money in my wallet, got a six pack, and all the women started coming.

Don't be a nice guy, you have the potential to change, be aggressive and take charge of a woman, teach her who is the boss, women love to be put in their place and spanked.

Any woman telling you otherwise is a liar or a lesbian, or both.


Hope that helped you, man, good luck finding your b!tch.

The circus is a great place, you can deduct that she is therefore flexible and kinky, which is great in bed, so bang her and get out of the relationship very quickly, and try to spend the least amount of money before you bang her, so the net present value of your investment (NPV) is the greatest.

I realized you ladies are coming on to me, you want me to bounce my pecs all over you and you want to touch my six-pack, chest and shoulders. Well, too bad, only for a hefty sum of money will I allow any of you monstrosities to breathe the same air as I do.

Its not about the size of the meat, its about the size of the wallet, spoken from experience.

Get money and no woman will be able to resist you, any woman who says otherwise is a liar and deep down know that I am right.

And my rabbit has a six pack just like I do as we exercise everyday together and I trained him to jump, he is sexier than any guy or girl will ever be.

I sure showed you who's the boss, didn't I

Donald Trump is a motivational speaker, and he helped me become more successful. I don't care about making friends here, I got enough at school and work. He is brighter and more successful than anyone on POF, you are all just jealous of his money, the real important thing in life.

I only admire the male physique

That depends, do animals count in your equation of virginity?

I am no hulk but if you see me upclose you will appreciate me and compliment me like the rest.

I a moving back to Mother Russia and starting my own religious,

However, I believe the male physique is superior to a female's and is thus more attractive on average.


I also admire rabbits as a fantasy but that's a totally separate story for bedtime I will tell my Grandchildren one day.


and let's not forget the classic

the pic does not do me justice, and as I said I don't expose myself to them, so they don't know the size of my meat, which is average.


This stuff is all attached to your profile, you know. No sane woman would want anything to do with you after reading this garbage, regardless of what she looks like.

You could always make a new profile, but that kind of damage is hard to hide, and women can smell a mile a way. Your denial doesn't change that. Your best hope is professional therapy.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Would you catfight/wrestle to satify a curiosity?
Posted: 4/24/2009 2:56:39 PM
OP you need to buy yourself a subscription to UltimateSurrender dotcom. WARNING ADULT MATERIAL. Have your girlfriend check it out, and if she likes it, take her out to California and sign her up.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Being a gentleman, going slow. Is it the kiss of death?
Posted: 4/23/2009 8:11:13 PM
I don't even pretend to have the answer to this question....I think men and women have programmed each other to expect the worst from each other. Of course women don't want to put out 'too soon', (even when we are equally interested in 'consumating' the relationship) because we know the negative connotations that can be attached to that. And it's the same for guys...they can be afraid to initiate a sexual relationship, because of the negative conotations that can be attached to that. Each individual has their own idea about how much time is the right amount, but instead of putting that on the table, we puzzyfoot around the topic, and play guessing games as to what the other person thinks is the right amount of time, and try to pretend that we are on the same page with that. I can't help but think that there is no one right answer. Honest, forthcoming communcation wouldsolve the problem. Each person puts their thoughts on the table, and then everyone compromises a little bit until some middle ground is reached that each person feels comfortable with. Problem solved... But I know how unrealistic it is to think that could always happen, so I guess we'll just have to keep winging it.

But I did want to tell you that when I read this

I even bought her daughter a small gold ring with a tiny heart on it, so she would know I was in love with both of them.
a tiny piece of me melted inside. That was an amazing thing to do, and I think when you do meet the right girl, she'll be very lucky indeed.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Reality Check!
Posted: 4/22/2009 8:38:59 PM
Reality check indeed... On this site, intimate encounters implies people that only want to hook up and have sex, as opposed to developing a committed, long term relationship. Of course there's intimacy in other types of relationships...it's just not the ONLY thing. Some people enjoy having casual sex with practical strangers....intimate encounters are their thing. Other people have no interest in that lifestyle, and no interest in associating with people who do.


Guys? Are any of you really letting them get away with making you lie about your intentions?


Yanno, there are plenty of men on this site who are just as put off by people looking for sex only as some of the women are....

Another sweeping generalization based on limited perception.... oh well, at least it's not another "I'm such a nice guy, why can't i get laid" thread.... Thanks for at least having the nutsack to be totally honest about why you're here.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
What's up with the women on POF? Lmfao
Posted: 4/21/2009 6:14:49 PM

My advice to you, Hit It and Quit It. Just use them to your advantage and the say "Goodbye" and don't spend money on them unless you are 100% sure you will get a greater return from them, namely sex.

Try to meet girls in real life, you are a handsome man (no homo) and you can get anyone, just come here for quick fixes.

Most women on here are liars, so great chances of being mislead.


OP. Be sure to read this mysoginistic toddler's posting history before putting any of his brilliant theories into action....

There are lots of people who misrepresent themselves, here and in life. Sometimes they know they're lying, while others have done very little introspection, and truly see themselves in a totally different light than others do. I know it's frustrating, but try not to get too angry...Think about how sad it would be to feel so bad about yourself, you can't even be honest about who you are.

All we can do is keep a close eye on the behavior, since talk is always cheap. People's true colors always show through thier actions, good, bad, or ugly. It seems as though you have good instincts...Just keep trusting them, and eventually, you will come across the right girl. Happy fishing!
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
girlfriends daughter
Posted: 4/21/2009 4:11:33 PM
Unless you and the mother are on the same page in handling this, this is a recipe for disaster... The animosity this kind of thing generates will eventually undermine the whole relationship. Best to wish her well and move on.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Why Women say 1 thing and act another way
Posted: 4/21/2009 2:13:51 AM
You know, any time a guy starts talking about what 'all women' or 'most women' want or think or do, it's like he has a tattoo on his forehead that says "I'm clueless".
You don't know 'all women' or even 'most women' sweetie, and the sweeping generalizations are getting to be quite the snooze around here.

My question to all the women is why do you want one thing, yet yearn for something the complete opposite and still **** about it either way???

So now, in your opinion all women are a bunch of retarded, starry eyed idiots who can't figure out what they want, and refuse to be satisfied with anything? hmm... it almost seems as though women are being attacked because of 'own insecurity'... abrasive, to say the least.

you want a guy that will treat you like shit and won't do anything to help you
I don't, and neither does any other woman I know...your theory is crap. I hate to burst your bubble, but it would be impossible to take you seriously after reading such asinine comment.

I have done more and seen more than most will see in a single life time

Where are we, Romper Room? I don't doubt that you've had many life experiences, but some of us have been around for awile and seen a thing or two as well. Of course you're special sweetie...just like the rest of us.

There's a lot of underlying hostility and derogotory statements and insinuations in your posts, which I'll go out on a limb to say 'most women' would find offensive. Clearly, you're having problems meeting a nice girl who is interested in you, and I understand your frustration. But the solution to your problem is in the mirror.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Why Women say 1 thing and act another way
Posted: 4/21/2009 12:40:58 AM
Wow, you've got women all figured out at your tender age...now that's impressive. Thanks so much for telling me about myself, and helping me unlock the secret to life, sonny. You should write a book...no sense in giving all these pearls of wisdom away for free.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Just looking for opinions outside the box
Posted: 4/21/2009 12:21:46 AM
I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. She's treated you with a complete and utter lack of consideration and respect. I really admire the way you decided to handle the situation. It shows a lot of maturity and integrity. It's so hard to let go of someone we have strong feelings for, but honestly, the two of you are worlds apart in terms of core values. I highly doubt that this can be resolved on an authentic level. She may pretend that she's changed, but in reality, that's highly unlikely. If she was ready to commit to you and be your wife, there would be no confusion. The trust between you has been totally destroyed, and the wondering will haunt your thoughts for a long time, if not forever. She may be your everything, but you're clearly not her everything. And Sweetie, you deserve to be someone's everything. Only you can decide what's right for you, but in my opinion, you're moving in the right direction, and it would be in your best interest to keep going. It gets easier with a little more distance. Congratulations on all the positive things you've accomplished, and I wish you the very best.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
What's with girls not wanting military guys?
Posted: 4/19/2009 5:51:44 PM

I disagree with the notion that military men tend to be regimented and disciplined throughout their personal life

Obviously, I wasn't speaking for every person associated with the military..it was an observation based on my personal experiences, which is where all my perceptions come from. I must have been mistaken. You see, I thought you started this thread to gain insight into why women might opt not to pursue relationships with military men. I was assuming that, as a defender of freedom, you had a healthy respect for that freedom you work so hard to protect. I wasn't aware that you had so many preconcieved notions and were so harshly judgemental about people who didn't see things the same way you do. That's why I found these comment so surprising:

If you think that committing to someday who has a greater chance of dieing from deployment then you should apply risk assessment to all your dating. For example, motorcycle riders have a far higher mortality rate than deployed troops. Therefore if you won't date a serviceman because he might be killed then you shouldn't date motorcyce riders, firemen cops, etc.
I didn't realize that it was up to anyone else to dictate how people make decisions for what they want in their lives. I thought one of the main things our country stood for was freedom of choice and the right to pursue happiness, for ourselves, however we see fit. I'm not trying to be a jerk...I am just really surprised that someone willing to lay down their life in the name of freedom thinks so little of people who excercise it.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What's with girls not wanting military guys?
Posted: 4/19/2009 3:08:25 PM
While I'm extremely grateful to all the men and women that dedicate thier lives to protecting and defending our country, I have never had any interest in a romantic relationship with anyone in the military. The ambiguity surrounding where they will be and when they will be back would simply not fit well with my personal needs. Also, people with military background tend to be very disciplined and regimented in the way they conduct thier lives, while I tend to be more laid back and casual in my approach, so I don't feel there would be much compatibility. Personally, I just don't think the military lifestyle assimilates well into my personal ideas regarding family life. It's very hard on relationships and families, and I just don't feel personally equipped to handle that stress. I am in no way speaking for all women, just offering my own perspective.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 182 (view)
 
not being honest about impotency
Posted: 4/19/2009 2:41:32 PM

'Attractive' has'nt a thing to do with sexual compatibility of two people


With all due respect, that is one of themost absurd statements I've ever heard.

Obviously, 'attraction' needs to occur on several levels for the connection to be satusfying, but without it, there won't be a connection at all.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
so ladies, why do you all want me so badly
Posted: 4/19/2009 10:56:50 AM
I can't answer the question...it must be one of those inexplicable phenominon that exists in nature. I do, however want to thank you for taking a moment out of your busy schedule to grace us with your majestic presence. I know I for one, feel truly blessed.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 178 (view)
 
Why Can Women Critic Women but Men cannot critic Men on Appearence/Sex Appeal?
Posted: 4/19/2009 9:16:48 AM

you are older and should behave more mature than me, so its your responsibility to ensure peace.


At 20,you're legally an adult, and responsible for your own actions. People generally respond negatively to the bizarre and the deluded, so if you are uncomfortable with the response you're getting, it's your responsibility to change the way you present yourself. Your overblown sense of entitlement and superiority is unrealistic, and is not likely to be well recieved in any public venue.

Speaking of personal responsibility, did you know that your bunny fetish constitutes beastiality,so not only does the general population (not to mention the bunny) find it disgusting and offensive, it actually carries criminal penalties as well. Given your current mindset, however, spending some time in prison may not be such a distasteful prospect for you. After all, many inmates spend thier days 'working out' and would be sure to show their appreciation for your admiration.

If you're just a bored kid posting random garbage in order to get a reaction from people and entertain yourself, congratulations. The plan worked out well. But if there's any truth to any of the things you've expressed here, you really do need to be speaking with a professional, otherwise you are in for some hard lessons and a lonely life.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Vagina Sensitivity or Lack Thereof and Solutions
Posted: 4/18/2009 10:54:51 PM
My first suggestion would be not to overthink the whole thing too much. Many times, the pressure we put on ourselves through worrying about how a future event will turn out ends up sabotaging the whole thing. I haven't tried any of the creams you're referring to, but I would suggest that if you do purchase one, you use it very sparingly. The only times I've had problems reaching climax through penetration have been when my mind is too distressed or distracted by something, or when there is too much lubrication present. Its similar to the decreased sensation men speak of when using a condom. A thick layer of lubrication can actually act as a barrier to the sensation created as the shaft massages the labia and vestibule, and decrease your pleasure.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
wat is the matter with fat people!
Posted: 4/18/2009 9:54:35 PM
I think the thing that tends to stand between smaller and larger people in the dating venue is priorities. Smaller people typically make many lifestyle choices specifically designed to maintain a certain weight, or fitness level. They make sacrifices in their food choices, and take the initiative to pursue more physically exertive activities in order to meet their goals. Larger people tend to make different selections, according to their priorities. Neither is wrong, but in the big picture, couples need to have some similarities in these areas in order to be truly compatible.

Also, there are many people that feel that excess weight is associated with undesirable personality traits, and they really aren't interested in associating with someone they feel may possess those qualities.

A good rule of thumb in dating is that you really need to bring to the table the same qualities that you're looking for in a partner, whatever they may be. It's simply not reasonable to ask for something you're not willing to give in return.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 172 (view)
 
not being honest about impotency
Posted: 4/18/2009 9:06:53 PM

And some men can see a woman who is 'attractive' and may pursue her, but how she speaks or a general intellect defect over time will be a turn off and no matter how horny he is, he just cannot perform.


Excellent point. Conversely, I would think that a pompous, condescending attitude could have the same detrimental effects on sexual performance, regardless of the level of one's intellectual development. Indeed, when either party considers themselves superior to the other, it's unlikely there will be a satisfactory sexual connection.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 169 (view)
 
Why Can Women Critic Women but Men cannot critic Men on Appearence/Sex Appeal?
Posted: 4/18/2009 10:50:11 AM
LOL Actually Sylvir, it's a condition known as 'plushophilia'. They like to be called 'furries' and when they have sex with each other, it's called 'scritching'. They select animals that are meaningful to their personalities, with the bunnies representing fear and skittishness...

How's that for 'things you wish you never heard of'?
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 167 (view)
 
Why Can Women Critic Women but Men cannot critic Men on Appearence/Sex Appeal?
Posted: 4/18/2009 10:28:47 AM
^^ speaking of that, where is that wascaly wabbit wuvver? he must be getting hungry for another feeding....
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 67 (view)
 
When His Moustache Comes Between You!
Posted: 4/18/2009 10:13:25 AM
I love a sexy goatee and well groomed stache.... But when the mustache starts wandering up my nose when we're kissing, something's gotta give!
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Help choose a Sexy Smelling Aftershave
Posted: 4/18/2009 9:09:51 AM
I love Romance, by Ralph Lauren....mmm so irrisistable.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 164 (view)
 
Why Can Women Critic Women but Men cannot critic Men on Appearence/Sex Appeal?
Posted: 4/18/2009 8:55:12 AM
^^ of course...if you're a woman, or a fellow 'weasel chaser'
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 168 (view)
 
not being honest about impotency
Posted: 4/18/2009 1:37:25 AM
Beth,

I'm so sorry that happened to your family..it must have been devastating. Your husband was a very lucky man indeed, to have you. I certainly meant no offense to you, or anyone in a similar situation. With all due respect, those circumstances are entirely different than the ones that I felt were outlined here, so none of what I personally said would apply in that case.

My boyfriend is 40. He deals with occasional ED problems, which his doctor tells him can be attributed to his high blood pressure. We do our best to keep it under control through diet and excercise, but sometimes, he requires Cialis. Other times, we just wrap up in each other and go to sleep. Both are wonderful. Frankly, I'm pretty certain I would still want to be here with or without sex that included penetration, although I guess you can never say that for sure until you're in that situation.

Your circumstances are truly heartwrenching, and I can't even imagine being in your shoes for all those years. The things he missed out on are a tragic loss, however I'm sure he continued to be your best friend and confidante and add as much value to your life as he was capable until he passed. That in itself made him a man.

For the record, I hate drunk drivers with a passion, and everyone that knows me knows that they can call me at any hour and I will go anywhere to pick them up, rather than allow them to drive when they've been drinking. I only have one rule...if you puke in my car, you foot the bill for a professional detail. (Fortunately that has only happened once. lol)

Once again, I meant no disrespect for you, or your situation, and you have my greatest empthy and admiration.
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Body piercings on men? Ladies whats your feelings?
Posted: 4/18/2009 12:58:37 AM
I watched my son get his caught in the safety net around the trampoline....It wasn't pretty. Three years later, the sight of nipple piercings still makes me squeamish. ~shiver~
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
What is meant by Good Things Come in Small Packages?
Posted: 4/18/2009 12:33:31 AM

they don't know the size of my meat, which is average.


As much as I hate to admit it, I'm starting to have some sort of morbid fondness for you too Only Darling...you are entertaining, to say theleast. No one's made me laugh so much for a long time. Don't get 'soft' on us now...it would spoil all the fun.
 
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