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SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 51 (view)

My First Date With Patricia (im 59 she's 53) Posted: 6/24/2009 2:24:39 PM
I sooooo thought you were going to say Patricia was a transvestite and you figured it out at the end of the night. Darn. Darn. Darn. In any event, I'm glad you had a nice time, and I hope it works out.

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

Messages from women you have tried to contact first, months later? Posted: 6/24/2009 2:10:30 PM
I think it's worth it. On occasion, I've opened up a well written, well crafted email and not responded at the time (because I didn't have the time to write a proper response) only to realize a few weeks later (when I wondered why he never responded back to me) that I never did get around to writing him back. And, I realize there may be some well crafted emails to which I never did respond. A reminder would be appreciated.

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 32 (view)

Some people just can't take criticism Posted: 6/24/2009 1:56:00 PM
Dude, she was probably the head cheerleader in high school and she didn't make it to English class very often because she was practicing the splits. You may have totally missed out.....

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 12 (view)

2 questions about a first kiss with a new person Posted: 6/23/2009 8:31:53 PM
Ughhhh. Don't ask. If you're doubting yourself, don't try it. Probably means I'm not that into you and you picked up on it. If I'm into you, my eyes are shining; I'm looking you in the eye; if I've gotten into my car, I've rolled the window down. If you ask, it feels like junior high school (no, I wasn't doing that it junior high, I'm just sayin'.....).

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 4 (view)

okay i think i need more tact Posted: 6/23/2009 7:41:24 PM
Ok, you get points for knowing some big words, but you need to be more cheerful. If not, the only one you're going to attract is another angry person. And, is that really what you want? Really? And, some of your pictures are very good, but a few are quite blurry. Get rid of those. Can't you just make a list of your favorite things and list those? I know it sounds trite, but trite is better than grouchy.

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 12 (view)

At least My Profile Looks Better Then Yours !!!! Posted: 6/23/2009 7:02:49 PM
Ok, here is what I think (you asked for people to be blunt, so here is the truth). When I first looked at your pictures, I thought "Ok, he seems to be attractive. But, I want to see a close up shot of his face." And, the quote above the last picture (I forget what it said exactly, but it was something along the lines of "this is me at 4 a.m. after I drank a lot of some kind of alcohol or other") was a bit of a turn off. I mean, a few drinks are okay, but do you regularly stay up until 4 a.m.? I know you're 25, so that might be acceptable to girls your age. But, you might want to tone it down a bit. Once I read the profile, I liked the part about you being a chemical engineer, because I really like smart guys. However, you had no articles (a, an, the, etc.) in your writing, which made me wonder whether English was your second language. Sorry, that may be completely untrue, but it's the first thing that came to mind. I'm going to rewrite it for you below adding the necessary articles (see the capitalized terms below; don't capitalize them when you add them to your profile). Finally, the other poster was right. There aren't enough things in here that girls like to do. And, that's fine; no one is asking you to hang out getting pedicures, gossiping, and going shopping and watching bad reality tv shows. But, if I were considering you as a potential mate/date, I'd want to know that we could at least share a few hobbies. So, what else do you like to do that a girl might enjoy doing with you? Perhaps you could give an example of the sports you like (volleyball, hiking, running, soccer, playing frisbee at the beach, etc.; if you like any of these activities and you list sports like these, a girl might envision herself playing with you). And, is there anything else you are looking for (qualities in a girl that you could list that she could hang her hat on ; and say, oh I think he would like me because I'm athletic, or because I like to travel too, or whatever.) Other than that, I think your profile is fine (because you are attractive, seem reasonably intelligent, have or after you graduate will have a good career, and you seem confident without being overly****). Good luck to you! Rewrite it like this: "My name is Sal. I am currently A senior Chemical Engineer student at A&M. I was born in London and was raised all over. I love outdoor sports (such as _______________). FOR FUN I FIGHT for A couple OF "muay thai" local clubs in Houston. THIS KEEPS ME IN PRETTY GOOD SHAPE. I also like to _________________________________________. SOME OF MY GOOD QUALITIES ARE THAT I am very open minded, and i love to have fun NO MATTER WHERE I AM. I am a sucker for AN honest and confident woman. What I am looking for is a nice gal who can hold a good conversation, BUT at the same time be goofy and just be herself. And that only comes when you are very comfortable in your own skin."

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 59 (view)

Yes. Posted: 6/21/2009 12:59:54 PM
I have been on ONE coffee date in my life. And after that, I vowed never to go on a coffee date again. It was awkward, felt kind of like a job interview, and I don't drink coffee anyway. Besides, if I'm going to get my hair done, get my nails done, possibly get a new outfit, and if it's at night after my kids go to sleep, get a babysitter, then I want to go out and have some fun. I am a great conversationalist and a great flirt, and I doubt anyone would ever feel like they wasted money by taking me out. I mean, all I'm going to order is a house salad and a domestic beer anyway. Most girls don't like to eat a ton on a first date. Or, at least I don't. And, so what, if we don't have chemistry? We can still enjoy one another's company. All the guys I go out with, I know well enough to have a decent conversation with because we've been talking on the phone, IM'ing, and emailing for 2 weeks or so ahead of time. The worst that happens is we end up buddies. Big deal. Sheesh! Why do guys get all weirded out by this? (I mean, I live in the south, so "yes" I will expect the guy to pay on the first date. But, I guarantee my portion isn't going to be more than about $12 or so. And if we go on a second date, then I'll definitely pay.) I can't believe how many threads there are about this. Coffee dates, lunches, and other 15 minute meet and greets are silly. It doesn't have to be a love connection every time, guys. Go on and spring for dinner. You might be glad you did. And if you don't like her enough to spend $12, then perhaps you should be more selective about whom you choose to date.

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 90 (view)

What's your deal breaker? (re profiles first glance) Posted: 6/18/2009 2:30:37 PM
People who say they dislike those who use poor "grammer".

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 415 (view)

What is your favorite type of sex? Posted: 6/15/2009 8:59:06 PM
I vote for rough sex with a man I love.....

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 74 (view)

What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation? Posted: 6/15/2009 8:42:08 PM
Both. And, this past year I have figured out that if I go out for a run or take a really hard aerobics class that after my workout, I am incredibly horny. It is amazing. I think that guys must walk around like this 24/7. It only lasts for an hour or so after I leave the gym, but what an amazing feeling. I size up every guy I walk by wondering if he would be good in bed. My personal trainer told me that when girls work out, it temporarily raises their testosterone level. I have no idea whether this is true, but it would make sense. Too bad I never have enough guts to act on it. Anyhow, that was a tangent. Other things that make me horny? Beer. When a guy I've been dating tells me I'm beautiful, or better yet when we're in a prim and proper situation (say a dinner with people from work) and he whispers something really naughty. Or, when he massages my shoulders. Hell, I guess everything makes me horny.....

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 137 (view)

Favorite physical quality of the opposite sex. Posted: 6/15/2009 8:29:04 PM
his biceps light colored eyes with short dark hair those little lines that guys get above their hip bones when they work out a lot a nice warm chest for me to rest my head on

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 119 (view)

Women Boxers or briefs? Posted: 6/15/2009 7:13:09 PM
Boxer-briefs. Briefs only if they have abs like a Mens Fitness model. Otherwise, boxer-briefs. All guys look sexy in boxer-briefs!

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 74 (view)

good kiss / bad kiss Posted: 6/15/2009 7:10:32 PM
Ok, I know this is kind of dumb. But, I kissed someone at the end of a first date, and I wouldn't agree to go on a second date because of the way that he kissed. He would move his lips and every third time he moved his lips, he made this smacking kiss sound. It was completely distracting and annoying at the same time. I mean, generally I LOVE kissing, so this was entirely disappointing and weird. Shallow, I know.

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 20 (view)

Expectation Management Posted: 12/29/2008 8:01:36 PM
One day I want to be hopelessly in love; married to the man that I can't stand to be apart from. But, in the meantime, great sex will do.

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 152 (view)

Why are so many women over 30 Cynical Posted: 12/29/2008 7:59:05 PM
I'm 37, and I'm not cynical. Even though my marriage eventually ended because of my ex-husband's cheating, I loved being married. I was a great wife, and I believe in love despite my ex's proclivity to stray every time the military sent him away for months at a time. If anything, I am hopeful.

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 61 (view)

Enough with the emails, lets meet already... Posted: 12/29/2008 7:29:23 PM
Well, I'm not looking for anyone right now, but when I was, I always preferred to correspond by email for a week or so and then to talk on the phone for 2-5 nights & then if I liked the guy, we'd meet for dinner. A few times I met someone right away (without much email or phone correspondence), and it didn't really work out. I was nervous because I didn't feel like I knew them very well. In contrast, when we corresponded 1-2 weeks before, it felt like I knew them & we had much more to talk about and got along well (plus, I could weed out the ones that just weren't right for me- why waste their time or mine?)

SweetFloridaGal

Joined: 12/25/2008

Msg: 35 (view)

NEW YEAR RELATIONSHIP RESOLUTIONS Posted: 12/29/2008 7:12:26 PM
My last year's resolution was to be less inhibited. This year's resolution is to keep it up. My sex life is much wilder and more satisfying. I should have figured this out years ago. . .

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