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luckyhot777s

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Are we to demanding? Posted: 5/7/2009 3:38:53 AM
I wouldn't say that, when we are young, we think love is all it takes, after a few failed relations most find it takes compatibility and a certain type of person to better the odds of a successful relationship. We also get to know ourselves better with time, and seek a person who will maximise our time with them, again compatibilty comes into play here.

luckyhot777s

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luckyhot777s

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Wondering where to go with this Posted: 4/16/2009 6:23:11 PM
I think you are going to have to just be the initiator, when the time feels right just tell him, you both have hinted at going out, and now you really want to.

luckyhot777s

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How rare are really good Lovers? Posted: 4/4/2009 10:11:57 AM
I agree with the above poster, it takes two to make that work, the right blend of two people, I have had only a small share of women who can really send me both physically and mentally. Thats a big part of it, being able to please the mind as well as the body.

luckyhot777s

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the drug of choice Posted: 3/31/2009 3:13:38 AM
The feeling you describe is the roaring blaze, but in time if two are right for each other, it simmers down to glowing embers, these embers need re kindling to keep the flame going. As humans we have more than chemicals, we have emotions and the need for love, stability. If the love actually dies, or two are terrible not right for each other and despite all efforts, that is when it should end. I prefer you say some, instead of we (not me).in your statements....I think there might be a rare few who end a relationship meerly because the initial stages tame down a bit, there are many factors of why relationship may not last.

luckyhot777s

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Best sex ever, can it cause problems? Posted: 3/29/2009 3:15:01 PM
Maybe I should have made this all more simple.....when you reach this high of level of sex both mental and physical, could the problem be that if you do not reach that same level or quite near enough to it, can it effect how future relationships go, because you may not feel as satisfied, or fofilled if you do not reach that level ? I realise love and other things can fill a small void, then again this answer may be different with each person.

luckyhot777s

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Best sex ever, can it cause problems? Posted: 3/28/2009 7:36:58 AM
My last post was written out of frustration, and was a flop, because the words and meaning were blurred by my frustrations at the time....I hope I do better this time... ....there is no particular person this is about, its meant in just a general sense.. I was married just once and it was a long marriage, sex was "good" for the most part, but it never reached the progression thats happens when two people are together for a long time, if they are really compatible sexually. The woman I met after my marriage, we just clicked so well sexually, were so much alike sexually, were so at ease with each other...that to make it short, it was the best sex ever for both of us, others things being important in a relation, we are not together anymore. So the questions, once you have reached the ultimate high sexually with someone where you have spend a lot of time with them,...if you have experienced this, how did or does it effect your future relations if things don't reach that level...once you've been there, is it hard to regress if others are not as on the page as that best ever person? I do understand sex is not everything, but it is important, and that we shouldn't judge people too quickly, cause it takes time for people to be at ease and discover themselves with you. I know too its probably better not to use that "best ever person" as a yardstick to measure other people.... I know too that in a relation maybe the sex is not a great as that one person was, but other things can be better, so the balance of the relation is better over-all. This question applies to both sexes, and I was just wanting to hear some imput and feed back.... Thanks

luckyhot777s

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emotionally attracted but not physically sexually attracted? Posted: 3/26/2009 8:19:05 AM
Well, this kinda sounds a bit shallow, just going by what is written....but sex and getting pleased is important...most women are looking for a great personality, and someone they can have fun with....you found one, but there is this issue. If the problem is meerly his large body, and his small penis, then it would be like me saying I met this wonderful, honest women, but she has extra pounds and small tits, and its a turn off, and she cannot please me because of this....could you imagine the responces I would get..... A man who is smaller there, can use positions and angles to get maximum depth, and you say he cannot please you in any way...well, there is intercourse, but there is touch, oral, mental, etc stimulation....does he fail in all of these area's too ??? Some people are adept in discovering thru body lanquage how to please each individual, but even these types need to be shown at times where and how to do things. Did you try showing him what works for you??? But if you have and no matter what he does not please you in bed, then its a done deal...for most of us some things are very important, and others are not, but sex and being pleased well, is an important issue....good luck!!!

luckyhot777s

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Women & Sex Posted: 3/26/2009 1:16:09 AM
First off, sorry to hear what you went thru, thats tough....and it might have happened because she was not pleased with the sex you shared, or was just destined to cheat, some people are that way...Sadly. As for when to bring up sex, thats a tricky question....All normal people like sex....I would say this much, its not a great idea to start with talking about sex, because it will give the impression thats all you are looking for. But, there is an issue....some people like or are used to certain things they enjoy in the bedroom....so, is it better to find out if there is compatibilty there, before you venture too far into a relation? I think in some ways....Yes, because there are certain things we will compromise on, and others we are better off, not compromising on....because later that can come back to haunt the relationship. As far as when to bring up the subject...its never the same with each woman or man...the comfort zone, Is all I can say... Some may disagree with talking about things, but it beats developing feelings, only to find out, there is not enough compatibility in the bedroom. But I think you will find women want sincerity, a true meaning from a man, but as far as sex. most this age are more attuned to the sexual person inside themselves, than the younger counterparts who are held back by upbringings, and societies taboo's...etc, and are hitting a peak of sorts.... This is a good thing.....so, if you thought mature women decline sexually...not true...just hope you can keep up and hang on....lol.

luckyhot777s

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What kind of music do you like when having sex? Posted: 3/19/2009 6:22:09 AM
I prefer not to have music playing, leading up to it is fine, but I like to communicate, maybe share some erotic talk, here our sounds, moans, sighs, etc....and don't want music to drown that out. The woman I am with, the way we interact, hopefully will get us in the mood.

luckyhot777s

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When to approach the relationship talk Posted: 3/19/2009 6:16:54 AM
Thats the problem sometimes, you damned if you do, and damned if you don't.....I'm with one now who developed feelings kinda fast with me, and has brought up this often, its not that I don't have feelings for her, but life taught me, there is more to making a relationship work, than just feelings alone....compatibity, personality mix, and the fact it takes time to really know someone...so, I am staying somewhat reserved....I don't want to get hurt again, or to hurt someone.... But I think its right, when it feels right, when you feel you have developed true feelings and feel they are right for you, and get that indication they feel the same way. Or you can just do as you feel, and bring it up, if they reject ther notion and move on....then so be it...sometimes we just have to do, what we have to do, and let the c hips fall where they may.

luckyhot777s

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Strawberries and whipped cream Posted: 3/19/2009 6:07:35 AM
I think variety is great, and keeping things new and exciting , nothing wrong with that....I guess with imagination, its an endless menu. I even heard of filling a hot tub with spaghetti sauge and jumping in...but maybe that taking it too far, but if they enjoyed it...good for them. If I had been with someone for a while, I would hope to have an indication, they might like this, then again the thrill of surprising them might be fun, as long as it doesn't start a food fight...lol.

luckyhot777s

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Ever meet a religious zealot who suddenly starts becoming sexually suggestive? Posted: 3/19/2009 6:00:27 AM
To me there is a difference between true belief and religion, but I get your point....no, I never had a pamplet toting door to door religion pusher, attack me on my door step.... But I do remember a preachers daughter while growing up, that was quite promiscuious. But maybe this shows people can be religious and sexual too....I guess though you are suggesting, they are being hypocrites. I think perhaps this just just shows, there is more to a book, than the cover. As for these types of people....I don't know...seems most on dating sites have more to them, than what is disclosed in their profile, nothing new about that.... Sorry to disappoint you, but I remain open minded about people, and do not conclude their whole self, by meer profiles, and try not to judge them too quickly upon a meet or two.

luckyhot777s

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Talk about the Neanderthal days Posted: 3/16/2009 7:47:41 AM
well....seems I should have worded this in a much tamer way...so far, only defensive comments...I should have known, I couldn't get an honest answer to a real issue and problem....sigh...next time I will sugar coat it, so I disturb the one sided fragil minds out there.

luckyhot777s

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Talk about the Neanderthal days Posted: 3/16/2009 7:42:28 AM
I should have expected these kind of comments...women can do no wrong...give it a reast....if I wanted material to masterbate...really I would watch porn...not read comments on here... If you don't want to offer help with a real problem...and be open minded about it...then just say....you don't give a shit. If you read the question...I did not meet with any other women and have sex with them, this was found out thru meerly conversation....on the phone, before I met anyone....quit putting things in it that are not there....read...its good for your mind.. Da...and my knowledge of women..give me a break....have you met me?....I expect an answer like this from a ten year old... Please sell me your crystal ball....I might use it for the nest lottery drawing...lol

luckyhot777s

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Talk about the Neanderthal days Posted: 3/16/2009 7:30:55 AM
no..this was not to get my kicks...I prefer live action....actually I like this girl, but this issue is a problem..I wrote this, and let her read it before I posted it...I wanted her to see other points of view to better her understanding...that there are women out there who enjoy pleasuring their men, that there is more to foreplay, then just to be used as a stepping stone to intercourse...

luckyhot777s

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Talk about the Neanderthal days Posted: 3/16/2009 6:53:26 AM
heres the situation...my girl came over last friday...we ended up having sex where she came several times, but I can delay myself, but when it came time for me, we were both tired and I said I could wait till tomorrow, tomorrow night came we, we were getting started, suddenly she came up with a physical problem, upset stomach, it was legit, but after mostly I did things to her...hmm...the next morning, we only had a few hours, I had not cum yet, not being in the mood, she offered me a hand job...please how boring... Another thing, she is from a small southern town, another I was talking to one here was from a similar small southern town, both at the age of fifty were so limited in their sexual knowledge and experience....meaning, never shared fantasies, erotic talk, doing things beyond brown paper bag sex, neither will let a man shoot in their mouth, seems sex to them is just giving it up and letting the man do everything, with exception of a small amount of time of token head...but neither had just laid a man back and pleasured him individually to orgasm, like he does them... I am a giver, and love to please a woman, but enjoy receiving pleasure to.....am I being scammed? are most small town southern women this way? being both claim they don't know of any women who give this kind of pleasure to a man.... Or is this just a coincidence and these two are just stuck in the neaderthal days....last time I ran into women like this, they were girls from my teen age years... Please give your commentts, and to the sexier ladies here, please explain the ways of pleasuring a man...so to perhaps enlighten these cave women...thanks

luckyhot777s

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Once just friends... Posted: 3/10/2009 4:34:29 AM
Well usually when it gets to the point of constant fantasizing, then a person should act upon it, unless either are in a relationship with someone else.... Being you have been with him before and going by your other imput here.... Maybe you missed your calling as a cartoonist for a sex magazine....lol.... So you find sex and penises funny....? I hope you don't roll on the floor laughing before each time you have sex with a guy.. You could seriously damage his ego....maybe this is why he is no longer your Bo....lol...

luckyhot777s

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March 14/Steak and Blow Job Day Posted: 3/10/2009 4:26:58 AM
hmmm...never heard of this Holiday....I wish they would make it an official Holiday.... But just like Valentines day......people shouldn't wait for one day of the year to celebrate their feelings to another.... It should be spontanious.....lol...you would think this day could have been made during Football season..... Steak, blow job and football, sounds a bit better....

luckyhot777s

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Different level at different time. Posted: 3/10/2009 4:22:09 AM
Well, not sure how much imput I can give you...seeing I was married to one for so long, and had more girlfriends before that, than casual dating.... I suppose if one of the half is wanting more than casual dating and getting strong feelings for the other, and realizes the other is never going to feel the same way....its time to move on... I feel if one gets too strong of feelings for the other, and the other feels they can never feel the same way...that person is going to feel squeezed, and realizing they can never feel the same way, will want to avoid seeing you get hurt, so likely they will want to move on... I doubt the dating can be fun anymore if one feels strongly, the other looks at it like casual dating...and they both realize this is where the feelings are at... So, if the feelings aren't exactly the same, its no problem....if one gets strong feelings, the other can never reach that level..then its better to move on.

luckyhot777s

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How to deep thoart? Posted: 3/9/2009 12:07:52 PM
Best way to please any partner, is to realise everyones body and mind is different...so, getting to know their individual mind and body and doing to things, they way they physically like them, and mentally turns them on, is the best way to please anyone. As far as deep throat...since you can do it for a short time, is to practice proper breathing and relaxing your through(gag reflex)... But you don't have to stay there forever to knock him out...visual turn on, the right erotic words, literally make love to his member all over, eye contact, him knowing you are really enjoying doing it to him, then work the middle cause its easier for you, then deep throat as you can, will surely do the trick...

luckyhot777s

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Dating and having Sex for Men.. Posted: 3/9/2009 11:59:12 AM
Whatever. I don't pay any attention to T.V. shows and their B.S....they need constant material to keep the show going.... There are both men and women who are attracted to the wrong things...just looks, money, etc... But not always the case..today I saw a knock out blond with an average, or below average looking plain, we talked, they are boyfriend and girlfriend... I pay attention to my own life, and the women I meet....thats what matters to me.

luckyhot777s

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When a woman is squirting...exactly what is squirting out and from where? Posted: 3/7/2009 12:05:07 AM
There is such a thing as squirting and its not urine...it is basically the same thing as the natural lubricant a woman puts out when aroused, but when the g-spot is stimulated in a certain way, and a woman is so attuned to her sexuality and capabilities, she can do this...it is said not all women can, and also said all women have this capability....what the exact truth to this is...I don't know. The one I was with, that did this, did it after real long sessions of intercourse...it surprised her, because she had never done it before....there is info. on how it can be done, but it takes more than technique....she has to be atuned to her body, sexual free mentally...etc..... But too much emphysis is placed on this.....not accomplishing this, does not mean both were not pleased, etc.... But, I suppose its a visual of accomplishment, perhaps similar as a woman sees when her man cums...plus, the erotic nature of it too. But it is real, not urine, and again there is much mix up of whether all have this capability, or can do this.... I think the object of pleasurable sex, is to be satisfied and fullfilled, both mentally, emotionally, and physically.... So squirting is not a true measure of that....and a woman not squirting, or a man not getting her to squirt, should not be an emphysis on whether it weas great or not.

luckyhot777s

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what kind of women advertise on sex sites? Posted: 3/5/2009 5:01:10 AM
Quote I don't think there is anything wrong with using a sex site. But I wouldn't use a sex site. If I was looking for casual sex, I could go to a bar or club or some other establishment and find a man to satisy my needs. quote The ones who go to sex sites for casual sex find it better to email, call, then meet a man, before considering sex with him, than picking up a total stranger in a bar, or elsewhere.... You might be surprised many women go to a sex site to find a relationship.

luckyhot777s

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what kind of women advertise on sex sites? Posted: 3/5/2009 4:56:03 AM
Here's food for thought....there are a variety of women who go to those sites....women looking for relationships, sex only, couples..etc... You cannot put one label on all of them....just you can't put on label on all women or men here.... Some are there just looking for sex, others want more...a relationship, but most all, need the connection and chemistry, before encounters....just like women here. The impression you seem to have they will jump into bed with just anyone, seems to be the same impression most men get when they join those sites, and end up with no success...lol. To some sexual compatibitity is important...some feel the chances of pre-screening that or finding that is greater there... Also, the odds are much in favor of women on a sex site....so, they can pick and choose better there.

luckyhot777s

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My peep's on the fritz. Posted: 2/26/2009 4:13:18 AM
Hard to say(no pun intended)....but I would suggest getting checked out physical first..then you can rule that in or out...if its mental, you need to examine your self and mind and figure it out....you did say, you have a hard time getting off during intercourse, but did not say if with other ways you do, or do not have this problem....so, if you get off with other ways, than you need to spice up the intercourse, sex is not just physical, its mostly mental..the mind needs to be stimulated, erotic talk, exploring fantasies might help....for some people just going thru the motions isn't enough, but to go soft at your age after only 15 minutes, doesn't sound right....if not physical, then it sounds like frustration...why get frustrated...sex is more than just cuming by a certain time...hell let it go on as long as you can.....enjoy the many aspects of it...when you cum..you cum...there is no time limit.....

luckyhot777s

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Our sexuality Posted: 2/26/2009 3:48:18 AM
You say evolve......I feel a person is born homosexual, and that involves more than just wanting sex with the same sex, where bi-sexuality is just involving sex with both sexes, but can only love the opposite sex(typically)....this is more a choice, not the same as homosexuality...Both are more in the open due to societies acceptance...I think because of the fact it is more accepted, is why we see more choose to be bi-sexual, than before, when it was more taboo.

luckyhot777s

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Silent Sex Posted: 2/26/2009 3:35:44 AM
Uh, not me....I have no problem expressing my thoughts....hmmm...interesting uniform, perhaps a different form of role play might be in order, you might consider being a pizza delivery boy....they seem to talk a lot....

luckyhot777s

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submissive guy in the bedroom. Posted: 2/19/2009 4:13:38 AM
Good to see some women like to switch up......and I sure like it when a woman gets aggresive...but when doing things for a woman, oh, I'm doing it to please her, but since I really enjoy doing those things I am pleasing myself too...but I enjoy receiving pleasure too, as much... So I wonder do the women who say they would enjoy a man like this....do so because of the "kink" of a submissive man, or are they reasding into this a certain way, because it ensures they will get the attention and pleasure "some" men don't seem to be able to give(takers)....or is it because, "some" women prefer to receive and not give back(takers) (perhaps selfish)...... hmmm...I am curious to the answer to this.. Again to me...I like it when both enjoy pleasing each other, and take turns depending on the mood....switching up the roles....

luckyhot777s

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submissive guy in the bedroom. Posted: 2/18/2009 9:41:37 PM
Interesting question.....there is dominant and submission..then there is the being aggresive... Who knows what normal is....sometimes I like to switch roles according to moods....sometimes be more the dominant one and a woman does like to be taken in a sense, but at times its nice to let her be the aggresive one and be ravaged by her....sometimes both ravage each other... I love to please a woman, but I also love to be pleased........what you describe sounds like it would be that way everytime...seems to me repeating something over and over could prove boring after a while.... Also many women enjoy pleasing their man.......so, for them, and the many who enjoy a man talking on the initiating role, or who like to switch roles... I doubt that going to quite get the job done.

luckyhot777s

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What do u do when the 'parents' dont approve Posted: 2/16/2009 6:10:55 AM
Its easy to answer love knows no bounds, but if you read many profiles in here....you will see many have specifics in searching for a LTR...these things are listed out, but the one main ingrediant I see missing is "true, deep, love"....lol..it makes me wonder...do these people find this so called perfect person then...just conjure up love...to make a complete picture ? Personally I feel real true deep love is a rare thing, and you cannot conjure this up just because you think you found the perfect mate....besides there is no perfect person... But this all does show many realised by past bad relations, it does take more than just real love for a relationship to last and work, where both stay happy... So with this, sometimes parents try to use there best judgement to try to give their opinions to their children, in hopes their kids will not end up wasting their time in a realtionship that won't work in the long haul.. That said...the parents only see the relation on the surface..not the details or if there is real love and compatability in the two people , they only see these surface things.. That said if he is so influenced by what his parents say, and not what he sees in the two of you, to me without further details.....that you are not compatible....you are older and use your own judgement...he at his age shows he lets others influence his decisions... Or he is expecting to inherent a large fortune from his parents if he plays up to everything they say..meaning money means more to him, than you... Either way, this doesn't sound good......but he may actually have love for you, but has doubts in the relationship...either had them before and/or these words from the parents either re-affirmed them or put them in his mind... Bottom line....if he doesn't make up his own mind....he is not right for you.... I believe in that fairy tale deep rare true love too, but realise as I am older now, it takes being with the right person too make it last.

luckyhot777s

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Old love versus new love Posted: 2/16/2009 5:52:01 AM
There is love, and there is in love....if you spend lets say like me twenty years in a marraiage that ended, but have come to terms with it, and are on a good basis with your ex....if asked that question, I might say because of the years spent together, there is a small love, but not in love for my ex.....and it is completely over, and no chance of anything ever re-kindling....and if in love with the new person...I doubt I would have to re assure them of my feelings for them, because I show my feelings easily, and talk openly and am quite effectionate... As for assuming someone is a control freak....and and leaving them based on just this one topic....sorry, no...I'm not like that, it takes more than just this to deter me....and it depends on other things I see in them.... Personally I think there is too many people who though up red flags at the first sign of a potential situation or problem...and bail out, before giving things a proper chance, based on relationships from their past. Personally to me "that" is a true sign of baggage and over anylizing.....we all have our issue's.....and I feel some pass up great potential partners, based on fears generated from past relationships....these types tend to blame everything on their exes, I think in even small ways both contribute to problems...

luckyhot777s

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Do Women Know If She Will Sleep With You In 10 Secondes? Posted: 2/11/2009 3:05:05 PM
I think they know fairly soon, if they won't.....meaning if a man is not in that catigory..he has possibilities...its up to how things go after that.

luckyhot777s

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any emotional attachment after a few months? Posted: 2/11/2009 6:29:37 AM
There are men and women who have FWB and have no strings, they are either cheating or just want sex and no attachments, and keep their emotions in check, some have the ability to show passion, and sensuality, etc, but not become attached....humans have a wide range of emotions, some cause you to become attached, others may not it depends on the individual...just because a sexual relation is nothing more than that, doesn't mean a person cannot be romantic, show feelings, and passion. Some people have the ability to do this without attachment, others do not, and cannot let out these emottions, because they will become attached... So this is something you cannot generalize with all people....some can have a sexual relation, and it not just be empty sex, because they can reveil certain, yet not get attached, others can not... As for your last question....I think most people when even searching for a sex partner, want there to be a connection, or chemisty with the person they choose...that way the sex is better... The problem with FWB.....there is the fisk one will get attached and the other one wont, but then again in a regular relation, there is the risk, one will lose their feelings...if all regular relations worked out great. We would not be here

luckyhot777s

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Dealing With Lonely - Women vs Men? Posted: 2/10/2009 7:27:53 AM
A lot of that might depend upon the circumstances causing the split up......that goes for both men and women....I don't think this can completely be generalized like that. but people can get to a point where they lose trust, or just don't want the hassle of a relationship, and take a leave of absense....

luckyhot777s

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Should evolution continue to influence our sex lives? Posted: 2/10/2009 3:16:13 AM
I think you've been watching the discover channel too much....that theory doesn't hold water with everyone... There men who want just one person, there are women who have multible partners....there are men that care more about the person inside, and women who need looks in a man to be attracted to him... All these things can be reversed too....who knows what will happen in a 100 years, but you theories I don't think are correct at least for every age group....

luckyhot777s

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How long till u give up on a relationship? Posted: 2/10/2009 3:03:52 AM
Sounds to me she is staying with you but not in the way that you want her too......there's nothing you can do about that......I'm reading between the lines, you being suspecious of her and all....your being obvious about yourself way too much, back off like it doesn't matter, go do other things, not just be with her....see if she comes around....if, not move on, its not worth getting that upset about...there's someone else out there for you.

luckyhot777s

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Life??? Posted: 2/9/2009 4:33:24 PM
By the way, we have all had broken hearts....they do heal in time....I've had four so far...I'm still hanging in there....

luckyhot777s

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Life??? Posted: 2/9/2009 4:31:49 PM
Well, you should be old enough to go out on your own ans make life what you want it to be, its not perfect for any of us.... Sounds like you need to do volunteer work for the disabled....who wish they had your youth, good legs and arms, and appreciate what you have...which is opportunity to do changes , to better yourself...

luckyhot777s

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female best friend? Posted: 2/9/2009 4:15:06 PM
A little confusing here....you say he spent a night with you that he usually spends with her.....???? What does that mean....? They were an item for a year, but not for two years, yet this is going on between them? He is her only friend, they are best friends? Either you are being duped, or this is material for the Jerry Springer Show....his priority should be you, but then again you have only been seeing him for a few weeks.... I think you need to have a talk with him, or if you want to move on, or wait and see... But the answers are with him, he might just still be hung up on her, she doesn't want him for a relation, and she is just using him....this is what it sounds like.... But honey....sit down and talk with him, the feedback you get will give you some more insight, into what is really going on...

luckyhot777s

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Msg: 15 (view)

Nipple Tweakers Posted: 2/9/2009 4:04:16 PM
I see your responces to the responces...we are not there in bed with them to know exactly what goes on..so its second hand one sided imformation.... Bottom line if they are not a match...then it ends....I'm straight, but never heard, or read that every gay man does this.... I think you've been feed some B.S.

luckyhot777s

Joined: 12/26/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

Nipple Tweakers Posted: 2/9/2009 3:59:57 PM
I'm, just curious if they are face to face...why he doesn't have her do this for him....seems to me a woman on top gets attention done to hers...that makes more sense than him doing his own....doesn't It.....? Most people like being stimulated in more then one place at the same time...his just happens to be his nipples...seems to me to be communication or willingness to please breakdown...

luckyhot777s

Joined: 12/26/2008

Msg: 4 (view)

Dating article i found Posted: 2/9/2009 6:50:05 AM
I can't see the coorelation between having a lot of male friends and low self esteem, or how that would relate to not really wanting to date. People go thru bad relationships haven't we all ? When we rebound from it(hopefully without baggage) then we are ready to date again and try to find another one to be in a relationship with again... I think undatable....would be someone who has totally given up on love ever happening, doesn't even want to try, and has made up their mind , they would rather spend their life alone, even never have sex again either... That doesn't mean they will become a hermit, not being around other people...but just refrain from going beyond friendships. I don't see it as a trait issue, just a decision they made ....based on how thier life went..

luckyhot777s

Joined: 12/26/2008

Msg: 65 (view)

Talking about Humor and Comedians Posted: 2/9/2009 6:38:53 AM
So you don't think Don Rickles put people down??....sure he did....Maybe its a sign of the times...stand up comedy seems to do this a lot...In the U.K. this type of humor is about all they do, perhaps its a carry over from there....but there are some who don't do this, but there are so many more comedians these days, than back then...so material without this, maybe harder to come up with... If you look there are some who do traditional comedy, but back then we were more united as a country....these days we are more broken down into separate groups...so maybe its a natural...but the good thing about just plain comedy, its funny to everyone....no matter which group they belong in..

luckyhot777s

Joined: 12/26/2008

Msg: 21 (view)

How to tell best friends I'm losing respect for him due to cheating thoughts? Posted: 2/9/2009 6:30:19 AM
I thought I would throw in a different point of view...you say they only see each other on the W/E....and have only been talking about him moving up there.....do you know for a fact they have a one on one relation? Do you know how both feel about each other? I have a long term cyber friend, a woman I respect, she has been in a two year relation with a man, but she is not sure about certain things with him, to continue into marriage...she has dated a few men, she feels its helping her sort this all out...not that I agree with her doing it this way. It jusy could be, because they don't see each other on a daily basis, and moving in together is a big move....he just might want to date a few others, just to help make up his mind. But if they are promiced to each other he should stick to that, or just be upfront to her about dating anyone else... I would talk to him, but not just say I am loosing respect for you, or you are being just like someone who cheated on him, but simply discuss why is he wanting to do this, while he has her, etc....could be for now they have an open relationship...because of the distance between them, if it turns out you are right....then in the course of the discussion, that is when you can tell him how you feel, if his reaction doesn't suit you, then he might not make good friend material either.

luckyhot777s

Joined: 12/26/2008

Msg: 8 (view)

Are we all commitment phobic?? Posted: 2/7/2009 1:22:20 PM
I will continue emailing with a woman...if something drastic comes up where I have a real concern...first I will discuss it with her...If my assumptions are correct...I will politely let her know...there is no point in going on....but I will look into it, to make sure I read the signals right.... If it continues to phone calls and everything is still good....then I will follow thur with meeting... I cannot say the ones I have emailed with gave the same consideration, though some have.... I'm not here to play games...and I don't judge a woman, because she might have worded a sentence wrong, or was in a mood....it may be the right person....I am not throwing in the towel...till I'm sure.... I would hate to pass up a great prospect because my criteria list is to high...or fears from past relations cause a red flag panic over scutinizing every word..

luckyhot777s

Joined: 12/26/2008

Msg: 7 (view)

Are we all commitment phobic?? Posted: 2/7/2009 1:15:02 PM
I agree...I see this a lot, others do to.....Most people have gone thru many relationships...it leaves scars, some get baggage from it..and form pre concieved notions of what the perfect person is and the ones to avoid....ETC, unfortunitely , some carry this to far...a couple of wrong words here, going too fast, too slow, etc can cancel a good thing....Keep in mind we are not face to face...where we can say...."NO" I meant this....people have gotten "red flag" crazy....because they want to find the perfect person, and avoid anymore heart break... There are times they might be emailing several people, and choose one, and shine the others on. I feel there are two points of concern here....one being people should have the decency to get clarification of things said, if the person gave them real interest... Two....why leave them wondering what happened... On the other hand.....You tell some people why you quit emailing, and they might get nasty with you. This is the world of cyber dating.....anything you do on a computer involving people ...means you can hide behind your computer, and do things you would never do in a face to face situation.

luckyhot777s

Joined: 12/26/2008

Msg: 12 (view)

Would you prefer being friends or lovers Posted: 2/7/2009 1:02:43 PM
Sorry...I cannot make this choice....I want a lover to be a friend as well.

luckyhot777s

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Msg: 5 (view)

Are people TRULY this HEARTLESS? Posted: 2/7/2009 12:24:55 PM
Yes , they can be...some justify it in their minds, some don't care....But why put up with it that long.? After we have gone thru bad relations and get older, we tend to try to find ones who have the same character as we do, its not easy, but experience is a good teacher, so is just life itself.. Out of the four major relationships in my life...two of the women cheated...I was younger then, and thought love is all it took, and might have thought, what if it I never find it again.. These days I know better...it takes more than just love, it takes compatibilty, and a whole lot more.

luckyhot777s

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Msg: 10 (view)

I have two questions Posted: 2/7/2009 12:18:17 PM
Okay....above me...4realru....put a quote in a white rectangle how did he do that?

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