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classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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MFM threesomes and sharing your girlfriend? Posted: 4/7/2009 2:11:16 PM
That is exactly it..."SHARING". If it's an experince that both in the couple enjoy and he enjoys watching her with other men without jealousy...than go for it. Just make sure everyone one is on the same page, set rules or guidelines for what's ok and what's not ok, and everyone knows their limits...because there are always limits. TRUST and RESPECT are a MUST HAVE by all, including the other guy. Any "other guy's" reading this...know your place and respect EVERYONE all the time and you'll be invited back again!!! Unfortunately society has secretly set limits on what is "normal" for a sexual relationship...MFM, Threesomes, and Moresomes have been around since mankind has kept a written record. Just never do something you'll regret later, you both have to enjoy the experience, and never never take one for the team.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

Msg: 272 (view)

why dont most men keep it trimmed ?? Posted: 4/7/2009 1:14:54 PM
100% bare...it feels good and women like it.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

Msg: 64 (view)

What makes a woman a good lover? Will take both, but especially from a ladies perspective Posted: 4/7/2009 12:46:08 PM
I believe a good lover can not be defined by what gender you are or what you like or dislkein a sexual relationship, but rather better defined by what creates a good relationship...therefore making a great lover. Trust and respect are always my big two difinitives....this allows 2 partners to lose their inhibitions and challenge each others fantasies without repercussion or judgement. The willingness and desire to explore and share together...just like life and a good relationship...makes a great lover.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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How and where to find a tasteful threesome? Posted: 4/7/2009 12:23:27 PM
Interesting question...my recommendation would be to search out websites like SLS and AFF that specialize in that type of hookup scenario. It also depends who you are in the 3some. Are you the 3rd player or part of the couple lookiong for a third? Websites are a safe and discreet way of exploring a couple's interest...getting to know the third person or another couple by email or chat first to see if there is a connection before meeting. Truthfully...websites help screen out the rigtraft, pretenders, and the wannabes...Good Luck in your search!

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

Msg: 287 (view)

Tasting yourself after you cum inside girlfriend Posted: 4/7/2009 12:02:16 PM
I don't understand the double standard I guess. But sure...who does not enjoy pleasing his special lady orally after cumming inside her. Turn on for both I suppose.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Men Shaved??? Posted: 3/17/2009 5:04:17 AM
I personally enjoying the feeling of being shaved or "smooth" down there...but to each his/her own. I find it to be extremely comfortable and slightly erotic. There are a million products or methods for clearning the shrubs, but nothing wrong with a fresh razor and a steady hand. I need to look into laser removal, that would be so awesome to never have to shave again. It also seems women I have dated in the past enjoy a "smooth" man...maybe because it's different, maybe because it's inviting, or maybe because they like to see their man's willingness to experiment or express himself.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Can a man truly love you if he wants to see you with another man? Posted: 3/16/2009 8:35:00 PM
I think many have a misunderstanding or a preconceived opinion on watching wife/girlfriend have sex with another man, MFM, or even wife/girlfriend going out on a "play date" and coming home and sharing the experience with her spouse or significant other. "Different strokes for different folks" certainly hold true in this scenario...been there done that...would do it again. The first thing you have to understand and learn is the couple's heightened level of TRUST & RESPECT involved in "sharing" such an experience. There is no room for jealousy and the scenario can't be just for one partner's sexual benefit...it is a shared emotional moment of physical gratification and explortation with judgement or recourse. For myself it is a huge turn on to watch her please and be pleased and let go of her sexual inhibition....understanding there is a line between sex and making love. Even couples that are madly in love and are 100% "monogamous" still share moments of sex vs making love...right??? As long as everyone is consenting and there is mutual respect by everyone involved (including the other male)... what is the harm done? In fact...statistics will show that couples involved have longer lasting & loving relationships than those who don't. How often does one get to have their cake and eat it too without fear of judgement or ridicule and get the opportunity to express and share their sexual desires with the one they love?

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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What is your biggest turn on Posted: 3/16/2009 7:47:09 PM
My biggest "turn on" is when a woman's confidence exceeds her inhibition with a partner she trusts and respects enough to relinquish her confines only to express her deepest sexual desires. It ok to express your desires and fantasies without fear of judgement...if it's with the right person. It's ok to like sex and to please and be pleased. BTW...confidence is just as HOTTTTTTTTTTTTT out of the bedroom as it is in the bedroom. Oh, I also have a thing for a well dressed woman and imagining what she is wearing under her clothes. Not what she would look like naked, but rather what she is wearing underneath and personal grooming choices (ex. thong, panty, brief, commando, lacey, silk, cotton, shaved, trimmed, pass on au natural ~sorry~) But that's just me...I'm almost 40 and still have the same libido as when I was 19.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Spill the beans...What makes you a freak in bed? Posted: 3/16/2009 7:19:20 PM
I don't think there is such a thing as being a "FREAK" in bed as long as everyone is consenting and respectful. Sure, we all have different likes/dislikes ... but sharing your tinner most houghts and sexual desires about what "turns you on" with your partner should never be considered "freakish" or judged by anyone. Chances are trusting partner wants to please you and share your desires to please and be pleased.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Does sex get better after you hit 40? Posted: 3/7/2009 8:33:14 AM
Uh Yeah...with age "cums" wisdom and experience. I also think as men mature we learn to be more patient and take pleasure from pleasing her not just ourselves.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Are most guys only into one night stands? Posted: 3/7/2009 8:06:15 AM
Absolutely not. A true gentleman is just that...a gentleman. A first date should consist of respect and sincerity... a gentleman will appreciate a woman's company not for her body but rather her conversation, wit, and charm. Don't get me wrong...all men are "pigs"...but some of us have very realitic expectations and are looking for more than a one night stand.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Looking for...? Posted: 3/4/2009 8:41:51 PM
Thank you...it's a work in progress. Just trying to find my footing.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Looking for...? Posted: 3/4/2009 8:11:57 PM
Ladies...if there was one thing you could find/have in "your" perfect male match...what would it be and why? Money...honesty...kindness...loyalty...etc??? It seems difficult for a decent average looking guy to "connect"...especially online. I believe there are a lot of guys like myself that have a lot to offer, but don't know how to market ourselves effectively...any insight or advice is always greatly appreciated.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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having sex with 2 guys at the same time!! Posted: 3/4/2009 7:28:31 PM
I personally enjoy a 3some with two men and one woman MFM over FFM. FFM is a lot of fun, but a lot of work physically, and women tend to either get jealous you're spending too much time with the other female OR preventing them from receiving the other woman's attention lol. MFM, it's all about HER and her desires to please and be pleased. If you are in a LTR committed relationship based on trust and respect, there is no bigger turn on to watch her please and be pleased by 1 or more other men. Somtimes you participate, sometimes you watch and maybe participate later, or maybe she goes on a "night out on the town" and hooks up with a strange guy and comes home later and shares the details with you while you make love until sunrise. Or ummmm so I have heard

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

Msg: 469 (view)

The Kinky Test Posted: 3/4/2009 6:31:37 PM
628 601 to 700 You're a Major League Kinkster!!! Shucks...I thought I had done better

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Do you embrace or fear your deeper sexual fantasies? Posted: 3/4/2009 5:35:26 PM
I think honesty and openness is KEY to a great emotional and physical realtionship. Now tact is always important. I enjoy watching a girlfriend having sex with one or more men at a time, but it does not define me sexually nor is it something I would bring up on a first date. Hey nice restaurant huh? Glad you like it. Would you pass me the bread please. Hey, btw what would you say if I told you it I think it's hot if you think our male waiter is good looking and you want to bring him home with us? Oh...pass the butter please and thank you.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Short Changing Myself ? Posted: 3/4/2009 5:22:45 PM
If you're looking for a cowboy...then ask for a cowboy. It's all about "you" and not settling. There's guys that wear $2000 dollar suits that still consider themselves coyboys I'm sure. Plus, your tag line opens up many potential emails I'm sure.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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sexual tension, overthinking, or what? Posted: 3/4/2009 5:19:14 PM
I personall think the guy is "fishing" or "trying you on" by playing it safe as not to put himself out there emotionally. A positive with a negative or negative with a positive approach as to test the waters. " Are you dating someone?"...cuz if so ... women are usually weird "Are you dating someone?" ... cuz if not ... I still have a chance Putting on actual porn without knowing if appropiate is just not appropiate, BUT: Putting on R rated movie and fast forward until she tells you to stop cuz you wanna watch or Putting on a R rate movies and fast forwarding through sexy parts without you interrupting makes him look sensitive and classy. Either way...it's just a safe way of testing the waters and your interest level and let him know he should or should not work up the courage to be more than a "buddy". There is nothing wrong with having a "buddy" of the oppoiste sex...but most guys have active sexual imaginations and have mentally undressed their "friend who is a girl" on more than one occassion.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Do I need a manicure? Posted: 3/4/2009 5:07:05 PM
Don't ever do anything for a guy that you would not normally do for yourself. I tend to like a woman who takes the effort to pamper herself...nails, toes, waxing, etc...but it's wrong to be something you're not and I would be disappointed that a woman was just doing it for "me" and not doing it for "herself" and I just happen to like it. Hope I am making sense...I tend to ramble lol

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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exciting night Posted: 3/4/2009 5:03:14 PM
Is this a first date in the "bedroom"? I know personally an "Exciting First Time" is just the opportunity to share ourselves physically and emotionally and enjoy each others pleasure. The evening should be filled with giggles, moans, and "protection" If it's a second or third date in the bedroom...why limit it to the bedroom????

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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how/when do u ask a guy if he is seeing other girls while your seeing him? Posted: 3/4/2009 4:56:22 PM
I would think you would just ask. It may not be what you want to hear, or maybe it's the perfect opportunity to get things in the open. Men are generally more concerned or worried to admit there feelings towards a woman and are waiting for her to make the first move. The fact of "roses: and what have you...well could be playing the field or leaving his options open. Sharing sex is an intimate moment, but unfortunately does not determine or commit someone to a "relationship" unless it was previously discussed. Chanes are it's just sex, BUT maybe it's not. Better to address it instead of assume and hold back. How is a realtionship to flourish, without being honest with yourself and your partner?

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Watching wife/girlfriend have sex with another man Posted: 3/4/2009 4:45:45 PM
As you have NOT experienced...it's about mutual respect and the ultimate trust in a relationship. This is your wife or girlfriend's integrity and self-respect you are sharing, not just her body. That being said...couples look for decent minded, mutually respecting, attractive men that "know" there place and respect a couple's willingness. It's not about the "guy" ... it's about the couple's likes, trust, respect, and desires physically and emotionally.

classy585guy

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Looking for any profile advice from the guru's Posted: 3/2/2009 7:34:34 PM
thank you...I agreed...needed to be classed up some

gladdad69

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Looking for any profile advice from the guru's Posted: 3/1/2009 6:30:13 PM
Hey everyone. I am pretty new to POF and figure if I am going to give it an honest try it would be best to put myself out there as I would appreciate any constructive criticism. Please me gentle...I am "nearly" a forum virgin. Thanks and take care.

gladdad69

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Watching wife/girlfriend have sex with another man Posted: 2/22/2009 6:28:26 PM
For the record. It has never been about humiliation or degradation. If anything, ultimate trust and respect. perhaps Cuckold is the wrong classification for myself if that is the case. I just have always been turned on by watching partners be pleased and be pleased...sometimes joing in, sometimes watching, or somtimes getting the details when they came home after she went out and picked someone up.

gladdad69

Joined: 12/26/2008

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Watching wife/girlfriend have sex with another man Posted: 2/22/2009 8:23:29 AM
Hi folks...I am new to the Forum Section of POF, so thank you for your warm welcome and understanding. So my question for the Forum is in several parts I suppose. I have learned at nearing almost 40 years old that I enjoy watching my female partner have sex with other men and sometimes the ever eluisive single female. In the past few relationships my girlfriends expressed mutual interest in having sex with other men, sometimes while I was there or she would dress up for a night on the town and hook-up with an attractive guy, go to his place have sex with him and come home and share the sexy details with me. The last girlfriend I had (we dated for almost 2 years) took a vacation to Hedo III last year and we walked around nude during the day and she found additional recreation around the naked jacuzzi late into the night. During this vacation was invited guys to join us in our room for more one on one private time after the jaccuzzi. My questions are: 1. Have I somehow infulenced the past 2 girlfriends to do something they don't want too...because it had never been suggested they "had" too or they "must" to please me? 2. For me it has always been about watching them have sex and enjoying pleasure and afterwards "us" sharing the experience and shared trust while making love or having wild sex afterwards....Is my point of view wrong? 3. It seems more socially acceptable for women to have sex with other women, but do women fantasize about having sex with opther men or 2 or more men? 4. It is something I like in the bedroom but it's not something you post in your profile, so how do you and when do you bring it up while first dating? I believe in full disclosure and have nothng to hide, but fear it would scare many women away...at least at first. 5. I am a very scuccessful guy with his head screwed on right , just apparently have a "cuckold" fetish as I never really have any interest in hooking up with other women. Any insight? Thanks and I am sincere.

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