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ohio07

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Sex, before marriage. Still a virgin. Posted: 2/19/2012 9:15:27 PM
A postive first experience with the right person goes a long way to having a healthy attitude towards other people and sex in general. Don't fall into the peer pressure/society crap. Do what is right for you. You know what you want and what feels right. Let that guide you, and don't let anything pressure you to do something that doesn't feel right for you. Having a healthy attitude towards sex, and escaping all of the baggage that many others accumulate, goes a long way towards finding the right person to have an awesome, compatible sex life with.

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Why cant I have casual sex? Posted: 2/19/2012 9:08:27 PM
You could be a late bloomer. I wasn't into dating and hooking up with people all through my 20's. I was fine without it. When the right person found me, it clicked from the get go, nothing was forced. No guilt, completely natural. And it was fun learning about each other and how to make each other happy. I tried to be like everybody else a couple of times, and I had opportunities, but something just didn't feel right. I didn't trust them enough or feel that connection to let it go and be vulnerable, physically or especially emotionally. You can say you won't care, but a part of you always does, no matter who you sleep with. Some people just accept it and get jaded to it all, while others know themselves well enough to know what kind of emotional involvement they can handle, and what they can't. I wouldn't regret anything that led me up to the point where my soulmate found me. And I'm glad I didn't settle and miss out on having her fill a great need in my life, that went way beyond physical intamicy, to the only kind of real intamicy that matters between two people, that is much deeper than the physical kind. You obviously know yourself, I'd trust myself to know when the person was worth it, and when they were not. I wish you the best of luck finding what you need to be happy. It's much better than settling for less.

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Multiple Orgasms.How do men achieve them? MYTH?? Posted: 1/10/2011 8:36:08 AM
Don't jerk off, and really, REALLY dig who you are with and trust them... Believe me, she will be just as surprised as you are...

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Looking at the clock during sex. Posted: 11/10/2010 6:58:17 PM
Never have looked at the clock during sex... But once I was told to keep my eye on the clock before the person went down on me... And honestly I tried, but between my head moving back and forth, side to side, me biting the pillow, the excessive moaning, and the fact that after a while I just couldn't stop telling her how good she was in between multiple O's... It was only afterwards that she told me: "by the way that was 45 minutes in case you didn't notice... I'll do better next time..." Meanwhile all I knew was for the first time in my life, I was actually prepared to purchase a very expensive peice of jewelry for an individual I was dating at the time... Then again, I guess I found the right one, because after I got the hang of reciprocating in kind, she was more than prepared to accept that particular peice of jewelry...

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Mature and oral sex Posted: 9/29/2010 3:41:57 PM
I plea the 5th on "gummies..."

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft Posted: 9/26/2010 4:56:17 PM
It's never a problem with morning wood... Maybe you should jump him in the morning... Do a reverse cowgirl and spin and face him while your on top... If he doesn't get "up", trust me... He's DEAD!

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Physical attraction verses Sexual attraction Posted: 9/24/2010 11:05:16 PM
Is this the same thing as: "I love you, but I'm NOT in love, with you???" (Or lust, etc.)

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Going back to being friends Posted: 9/1/2010 4:54:34 PM
Your not a friend, as Chris Rock would put it your " a d!ck in a glass case... in case of emergency break open glass..." I mean your there for her, you hook up and she immediately looks for another man. Jesus, get the hell out of there and lose her number. It's for the best if you move on and turn the page. Why needlessly suffer??? Your just wasting your time. These are NOT the actions of a friend who values you. These are the actions of somebody who is using you, front and center. Period. This yo-yo BS has got to end. And you have to be man enough to stop it and respect yourself. Cause she sure doesn't.

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Reintroducing Condoms to a LTR Posted: 9/1/2010 4:27:23 PM
(10) Tell me you are kidding, that is BRUTAL! OMG!

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Injuries During Sex Posted: 9/1/2010 4:20:14 PM
You can always request her to wiggle instead of hop... But in the heat of the moment, they are gonna do what they want anyway...

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Will you marry me? but then he gives her no ring???? Posted: 8/19/2010 9:10:42 PM
Honestly, I think the bigger "commitment" is moving in together. Ring or no ring. My GF doesn't want a ring. She would rather have us live together... Especially if both people are very young or lower middle class/poor, the ring isn't probably the best expense at the time. (Not to mention people can and do lose them from time to time!!!) If you truly want to be together, you will make it happen. Ring or no ring. Marriage ceremony or not... Wanting to commit to each other and being together is far more important than some cliche that was invented by the kind of advertising Edward Bernays to help his jewelry client DeBeers find a new market for their expensive jewelry, other than elite rich people of the upper class... all the way back in the 1920's. On that note, don't forget to light up your "liberty torches" and smoke a pack of cigarettes for "womens equality..." I swear some of the true history of this country is too damn bizarre to make up!!!

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Gangbang Posted: 8/18/2010 11:38:19 AM
^ I wouldn't have believed this statement until I experienced myself. I wouldn't trade the sex I have now in a relationship for any of the sex I had when I was younger... Night and day. Not only can I remember it now, it is actually worth remembering, for a change...

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Ex issues Posted: 7/6/2010 4:20:51 PM
You either deserve better, or you don't. The choice is yours.

ohio07

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Jack Hammer Sex and checking the merchandise out Posted: 7/5/2010 1:57:43 PM
From my experience if a woman on POF wants to know your size she offers to blow you. If she were to take a look and suddenly makes an excuse to leave, your too small. If she slowly and sensually blows you to multiple orgasms.... I think you qualify. If your not that bold, women I've met have also not been shy about shoving their hand down my pants while making out with me to get an idea... As for being a "size queen", just because he has inches, doesn't mean he knows what he's doing. According to some women, long and thin aint much; where average size with decent width make them go crazy. And again, if he knows how to work it, you will be more than happy. If you prefer "rough sex" that's one thing, but you can have satisfying "rough sex" with a variety of men, who aren't "mandingo size." Seems to me you'd be satisfied working in porn. (Great sizes and plenty of "jackhammering"!!!) And you could make some good money at it if your talent is as high as your expectations.

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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When Do You Know You Are Going All The Way? Posted: 7/4/2010 3:39:59 PM
^ (37) Bingo... Especially the last part. This is usually when I tell her: "Don't be gentile!"

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Women can't fake it Posted: 7/3/2010 12:07:51 PM
Usually when she's having an O' she's screaming, breathing heavy and thrashing around a little. You ask me, if your breathing heavy, with your mouth open, naturally the air is going to make your mouth seem "cooler" than it would be if it were closed. That may be all there is to it.

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Me and my girlfriend living with my dad, Bad or Good? Posted: 6/24/2010 10:53:30 PM
Not that much different from living with a roommate. I mean we all have had to live with at least one who hated us, our friends, the volume of our music, our personal habits, having people over, et. al.. College and particularly THIS economy is a biatch! So if your dad respects your privacy, and you guys get along okay, that's just fine. Take some of that money you saved and take her out every once in a while. Even married couples with kids take holidays with each other to keep the spark going...

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Why a virgin? Posted: 6/16/2010 7:08:16 PM
This reminds me of the Adam Carolla quote about the Muslim terrorist awaiting 1,000 virgins in heaven: "Trust me, three virgins into it... your looking for a "pro"!

ohio07

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190 degree turn around Posted: 6/9/2010 7:46:11 AM
We have a Winner! (#8)

ohio07

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Issues with the past Posted: 6/5/2010 1:34:04 AM
This is typical late bloomer regret and insecurity. What is her past is her past, period. If she has moved on that is all that matters. I can't believe you are willing to blow up a good relationship over something in the abstract you cannot control. This is textbook, as clear as it gets. You lost it, want more experience and are jealous of the fact that she has more. What you are forgetting is what she already knows. Quanity is not the same as quality!!! OMFG!!! Having no strings sex, is not the same as making love to a person you care about, as they for you... That is as good as it is ever going to get... What is the solution here? Break up? You have sex with more women "to even it up" ? It won't change her past, and you won't gain anything... You only have everything to lose with your resentment and insecurity. Trust me, if you break up or kill this relationship, you will regret it. As no woman will give you what she has. My advice is to realize that you are getting worked up over nothing. You have her, she loves you, she has opened up about things she actually regrets to you. It shows how much she cares and values you. I hope you realize what you have before it's too late. All that matters is how you are together. If your happy, your happy, who cares about anything else. Past, what if's, so what? Making mistakes is a part of life. Learning from those mistakes is essential to growth and maturity. Not learning from those mistakes is a red flag. She obviously is of the former and not the latter. That should count for something and you should value her for that. Believe me, there are plenty of women out there, who haven't gotten that far. And if you want to start all over and have to pick through all of them to find somebody as good as the one your with right now, that is your decision. (mistake) Live and learn... As you get older, you will be competing for women with even more experience/baggage... To lose something very special for no damn good reason is the worst kind of regret imaginable. Don't sabotage the best thing that has ever happened to both of you, for "water over the bridge." I know women her age that have hit the century mark in "experience". She apparently isn't like that, so why treat her and judge her like that? Value what you have man. It's right in front of you. Otherwise, you'll have to date a virgin, that is.... if you can find one. (And do you really want to hang out at middle schools for one, cause most are losing it by high school these days....) Come on man! Trust me the older you get, you will not care about stuff like this. Why ruin it now? Unfreakingbelieveable! Swallow your pride and wise up. After all.... She loves... YOU!!!

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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They wanted to hold my hand at the first meeting? Posted: 5/3/2010 9:28:47 PM
The first time I met my GF she was so shy, she wouldn't even look me in the eye, and looked at the ground. (This after phone and email for a month) Then we decided to go with her friend to get something to eat and talk... When she held my hand as we began to walk to the car after we met, I knew I was a goner. It just felt right. I can't explain it. After our first "solo" date, we were a couple. And have been for over a year now. Without chemistry, yeah holding hands is awkward and damn uncomfortable. But when things are right, it's just perfect. And completely natural, even if it's the first time you meet them. I knew after taking to her for a while, that I was going to find her attractive barring some kind of disaster. But I didn't expect to fall for somebody the first meet. I really didn't. And when you consider the last two women I met before that: One blowing me off at the first site of me, while the other kept trying to have sex with me all night... Falling for this person after the first meet would have seemed unlikely. Compared to women who are trying to sleep with you, holding hands the first meet, isn't that big of a deal, in a sense. Hell I saw women go down on guys, and have car/bathroom sex at a few POF parties... No joke. (Even with multiple guys at the same party) And something tells me they didn't meet before that night, either...

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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GUYS, do you like seeing ur girlfriend masturbating?? Posted: 5/3/2010 8:58:32 PM
The first time I saw a girl masturbate in front of me... Speechless. And even more when she didn't take her eyes off of mine, and was looking right at me while she came. I can't think of anything more intimate for a lover to show her partner... Holy sh!t...

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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my gf and her umm.. addiction... Posted: 5/1/2010 1:11:30 PM
I know people who pay their WoW bill, and then buy food...if they have anything left over. I feel sorry not for these people, but for those who care about them, and have to watch the level of this kind of addiction, take over the person's whole life. It is tragic...

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Why some women don't like receiving oral Posted: 4/30/2010 8:37:04 PM
Usually by the time I'm licking a little, she's begging me to fvck her... I've never really had to lick for too long before a woman is screaming for me to take her. (This being later in the foreplay, of course) I can get a woman off with my fingers, rubbing my co*k in her until she squirts, or just plain cumming in her... But just from oral. Nope. Not yet anyway. But then everybody is different. If she likes other things, and I like doing those things, then I'm not worried. As long as we can get each other off, that's all that matters. Doesn't mean 69 isn't fun, though!

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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I'd like for us to be friends... Posted: 4/30/2010 8:20:41 PM
This used to be so damn hard for me. My problem was I'd only be attracted to people I got to know a little. By then I'm the friend, and they'd move on... You can imagine the frustration. They tell you every detail about some guy, and it eventually not working out. And you just have to sit there and take it with a smile. And avoid the elephant in the room. Or listen to their play by play of their latest "conquest." Just like the guys... It turned me off from alot of people back then. ALOT! Time after time when I was younger, I'd be the nice guy, the one who would listen, and it bite me in the ss. Luckily after I got older this either didn't happen, or I could recognize when somebody legitimately wasn't interested, or was only interested in stringing me along until I wised up. I stopped caring about people and just said "It's their life, let them uck up..." Besides, how else will anybody learn. I guess I just wanted different things than people my age. And as I got older I finally found somebody along those same lines. But it is a delicate line from being somebody's "friend", and somebody's doormat... As for finding people to be social with as you get older. Most people are with coworkers or classmates. If you frequent certain places (not just bars) like coffee shops, people will know you. Their always is Meetup... But that's about the same as this really. So I'd try getting out of my comfort zone if I was the OP and see what came of it. It is possible to find friends as you get older, but it isn't easy. Nothing however comes to those who don't make the effort, unfortnately. Just make some effort and take the good with the bad. If you find others with common interests (politics, sports, drinking) you can enrich your life a bit. It doesn't always have to be about sex. Unless....

ohio07

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What are you looking for? Posted: 4/30/2010 1:06:35 AM
"Of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most..."

ohio07

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What is too kinky? Posted: 4/26/2010 11:59:55 PM
I pray the story about the lonely lady, her dog, and a jar of peanut butter is apochryphal... However I'm afraid it probably isn't!

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Erect for what duration ? Posted: 4/26/2010 2:18:32 PM
First of all, don't masturbate. Next sometimes if your too hard, depending on wether or not your cut, you can't cum. It's too stiff. You need to let it go down some until the flexibility returns. Then you can go at it, and probably cum after that. You don't want to masterbate because it decreases sensitivity. You also don't want to dry-O. It sucks for her. And you'll want to continue until you shoot your load. Besides the less you jerk off the bigger the load anyway. Make it worth her while. She will feel bad if she blows you and you can't cum. She will feel even worse if your having sex for an hour and can't cum. Stop jerking off at least a day or two before you have sex. You don't need to be fully erect to cum. So I wouldn't worry too much about that if I were you. If she's on the pill or your wrapped, just think about her, and what you are feeling. Your body will take care of the rest. Just take in the moment, and your body will respond. Believe me.

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

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Thoughts on women who know what they want/like with regards to sex Posted: 4/26/2010 2:01:46 PM
Everybody flirts online or on the phone about sex, that's a given. But if the first meet, she's going on and on about how good she is or what she likes... take a hint. She just wants sex. Don't plan on another meet. Now if after the inital meet you discuss this, that makes more sense. Not that it meshes with the so called "three date rule", but hell usually the first meet is visual compatibility. The next is the physical compatibility (i.e. touching and personal space). If you are compatible physically and socially, usually either the second or third meet, both of you will want or have sex. I met one chick who the first meet went on and on about how good she was at oral, and loved sex... We went to a POF party the next time and she blew the janitor in the bathroom. Hint ladies, if your at a party and you come walking out of the MENS room, the guy walking behind you's face is red and you have cum on your neck and shirt, we know... Okay, we know.

ohio07

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Dating Male Virgins Posted: 4/26/2010 1:20:23 PM
I think most of the younger women, and men, fall into what's expected of them to have sex in their teens, and just go along with it. But if you are shy, this isn't so easy. I can see how more experienced women would rather be with somebody with a compatible level of experience. In a sense they have the same value system, or attitude about sex, and relate on that level. That's a bond. It's superfical, sure... but a compatibility nonetheless. However if you have little to no experience, there is no such shared premise. So you are naturally opposite. If people are threatened or intimidated by virgins because of this, I understand. I just don't buy the "quantity over quality" argument. Never have, never will. You can have loads of experience and still be a bad lover. You can have little to no experience and be amazing because you know more about yourself, what gets you off, and how to do more than just plug away until you (and only you apparently) shoot your load, with a woman. And the experience excuse is a non starter for me as well, because sex with a new person is almost always different. No two people get off the same way. ("You should like this my wife did..." Ring a bell???) So just because they can get off, or get other people off, doesn't guarantee they can push your buttons the right way, any more than a virgin who is ready to learn and do whatever it takes to please you. This is the one thing most women I know who "de-flower" virgins love the most about having sex with them. The fun in experimenting and finding different ways to get each other off. And if the woman likes feeling valued as a consequence of that, so be it. As for the guys trying to get laid post virginity, I think if they were a "mercy/pity/casual fvck", that's just them reinforcing the established dynamic. But if the act took place in the context of a established relationship, I think the only person they will want to fvck is that particular person. If you don't want a relationship, this is "clingy", but with the right person, it's just the natural progression, and nothing to be picked on about.

ohio07

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Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop Posted: 4/25/2010 9:14:04 PM
:modhammer: What do ya say mods, can we put this thread to bed?

ohio07

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Do some guys go from being a quick draw to not being able to finsh? Posted: 4/25/2010 6:24:44 PM
All the posts so far have valid points. But there are other things to consider. Stress, tired, high expectations, rushing before your both ready, too much sex, too infrequent sex, et. al. It could be any one of a number of things. Changing it up is the biggest help for me. Change a position every few minutes, buy her an outfit, watch a sexy movie together while enaging in foreplay. Get her off, better yet... watch her get herself off! I was too scared of being premature when I first started having sex. Later, I couldn't figure out why it took so long to finish, either. Part of it is physical, but alot of it is mental, at least for me. If I'm distracted, I'm distracted. I can't help it. It's very difficult at first to train yourself thinking: "Whatever you do, don't cum", to letting yourself know it's ok, to let go, and just let your unconscious do what it does best. The best way for me is to just not think about anything. Empty my mind on everything except for her, what she's doing, and what I feel. Sometimes I can have very physical activity and no matter what I do, nothing. Just a full boner. (Hurts like hell, trust me) Then I stop and think about how much I care about this person, how we feel about each other, and it provokes a full on response. When just before I was not even close to getting to that point. At all. I can't explain it. Sex is equal parts mental and physical stimulation. But you have to have both working for the best result. I've had that removed, out of body experience before during sex, and I know that I never want to feel like that again...

ohio07

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is this strange or inapropriate? Posted: 4/25/2010 5:58:15 PM
If we have to hear the parents going at it, down the hall, turnabout is fair play... I plea guilty, but with a smile on my face... If they aren't gonna be quiet, I see no reason why we should be. Besides, it's cheaper than a hotel all the time. Although that still has it's place... Sometimes you need to get away to ensure intamicy. Not just sex, but time to be close, without interruptions or obligations. Having their parents yell at them to do chores, while your in bed talking with each other or otherwise, gets kinda old pretty fast. (Shrug!) Circumstances being what they are, you can't change them. As long as nobody has an issue, I see no problem though. If they want her to pay for herself while living there, they have to give her some sort of autonomy, right? It's only fair. I've seen forums here on this topic before. Do a search and you should be able to find them...

ohio07

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Post orgasm torture Posted: 4/23/2010 4:50:26 PM
This reminds me of the guy who tied up his wife and got here "right there" with a pocket rocket, literally begging for him to fvck her... and he grabbed a chair and lit a cigarette and watched tv... while she was tied up, and screaming bloody murder at him! But yeah, sometimes it's fun to draw it out and make the orgasm more intense. Male or female. But I've noticed too that the pain/sensitivity only last maybe ten seconds. In my just post virginal days, I once had sex six times in three hours and at the end after the third time, I thought my c*ck was going to rip apart from all the spasming and being so stiff. But I survived... And so did my partner. Sometimes my GF will go down on me, right after orgasm. Yeah, I'll cum but the sensitivity alternates the pain/pleasure threshold no doubt. Then if she keeps going, after the next orgasm, it get's worse. Kind of like the OP's example. Just a different form than a handjob. That being said, it's always fun when you fvck them so hard, for so long that they lose the ability to speak anything but jibberish for ten minutes. (True story) It may not classify as torture, but it sure as hell is fun.

ohio07

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Does great oral sex giving depend on how much you like/love that person? Posted: 4/23/2010 4:23:59 PM
I think it adds to the desire of the act. And knowing that they are truly getting off/excited at getting you off takes it up a notch. The intensity and with the added intamicy of an already intimate act, can make it more pleasurable recieving. As well as giving. Just think of a woman robotically blowing you and "getting it over with." Now think of a woman who slowly undues you. Stares at you, makes enthusiastic sounds before and during the act, and can't take her eyes off of you while performing... And either shows you and/or swallows the result... with a wink and a smile. Much, much better, right? I think women like the fact that they have their guy in a vulnerable place. One slip, and intense pain can result. Both people know this, and it creates a nervousness. Add to this the pure excitement of a woman willingly and entusiastically (wether genuine or contrived) pleasing you in this way, it just makes your senses heightened and more intense. There is the trust to let go and surrender to the moment. I've recieved from women casually, and didn't get anything from it. One session from my GF when we were in the process of falling in love, and I had a double-O. (Yes this exist) There was a difference between those acts absolutely. Even though the act itself was nearly identical. I can't explain it. I think most women feel obligated to do oral as a tease or an expectation these days anyway. Kids in school do it, so the taboo is gone. It's just ordinary. This makes recieving from somebody who actually wants to give it, and wants to please, a different experience alltogether. At least in my experience. And I am anxious to return the favor as well. Orally or manually she's gonna get a reward right then, or the next time because I want to give it to her... It's a selfless act, rather than an expected one. I think that makes a difference between a "casual BJ" and a meaningful one.

ohio07

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The Ladder Theory Posted: 4/2/2010 11:19:18 AM
In other words, you are as loyal as your options.

ohio07

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What if Prostitution was Legal? Posted: 4/1/2010 10:19:29 AM
Forman: "I should just give up and get a prostitute." Hyde: "You idiot! Dating IS prostitution, except you don't always get what you pay for!" (That 70's Show)

ohio07

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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 3/31/2010 9:20:28 PM
You want worse... How about waking up to their parents doing it, in the middle of the night... OMFG! The next morning, trying not to laugh or look anybody in the eye... it's brutal! Now I know how other people felt when I had people over, but... parents... YIKES!!!

ohio07

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Oral Sex Disgusts Me Posted: 3/31/2010 11:30:52 AM
OP I breifly dated a woman on here who felt the same... yet (wait for it) had unprotected sex with "her men" (plural). Figure that one out. You'd be surprised when you find the right physical chemistry (or fall in love) with a person, what happens to preconcieved notions. (Out the freakin window.... Evaporated!) As long as she's clean, I can engage in oral til my jaw hurts. And when that occurs, I still have ten fingers to substitute. This isn't a lost situation here... Now if you felt the same about A to M... I could understand. But oral. Jeez, do you let her kiss you after she goes down on you? What's the difference? Apparently you'll never experience a woman fvcking your face... and screaming "Fvck me... NOW!!! Oh God, stick it in me... Come on, Hurry... I NEED your co*k in me!!!" (True story) Your loss.

ohio07

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So I know this guy..... Posted: 3/31/2010 11:17:41 AM
Be social. Talk to people. If they like you, they will find you attractive. (The mind works wonders) Then if you get mentally compatible, you will desire to get physical. If you have both, you get a relationship, or a mutually benefical arrangement. That's about it. Tell him this. And maybe take him out on some group outings with friends so he can socialize. All it takes to be comfortable, is somebody taking an interest in your mind or your body... preferably both. Oh, and the experience thing. Do what we all did back then... LIE! If he is as good as you say, they will have no reason to suspect. People are FOS when it comes to experience. You can be a bad lover with loads of "experience", and you can rock somebody's world the first few times with someone, because you are into them, passionate and want every inch of their body... and they vice versa. It's chemistry that creates great sex. Not necessarily "experience."

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

Msg: 144 (view)

What do men think about during sex to stop them from bustin? Posted: 3/31/2010 11:09:39 AM
Your brain and your co*k do not work together. I can think "don't cum" til the cows come home, but if my GF ramps up the intensity, hops and grinds on me violently... it's gonna happen... It's a foregone conclusion. There is nothing I can do to stop it, short of telling her to get off of me (her on top) or pulling out. (me on top) I just focus on what I'm feeling and when I feel like it's imminent, I pull out or cum if she's on the pill or I'm wrapped. (My favorite story on this was when my GF told me she could actually see the regret in my eyes after I pulled out, she got a kick out if it... I on the other hand was DYING!) Sometimes though you do have that moment where you conciously try to delay it. But it's still gonna have to happen. At least if the sex is any good.

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

Msg: 60 (view)

The Myth Of The Magnums.... Posted: 3/31/2010 10:59:16 AM
David Brenner has a joke... "Condoms come in three sizes: Large, EXTRA Large, and Traveling with the Circus... HUGE!!!" There even are condoms for anal sex. (Scruffy) My GF's cousin's GF Melissa brought some home for their activities recently. This made me laugh. I didn't know you could have a baby up the butt... I never heard of somebody using condoms for anal... That was a first.

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

Msg: 29 (view)

my bf's got trouble cumming... Posted: 3/10/2010 6:50:18 PM
(29) Best post by far... Good luck OP. (Tip, if he's too excited, the swelling can hurt a little. Just back off. Let it calm down to where he gets his flexibility back and have at it!) Have fun. If your both into each other, and are having fun and lose yourself in the moment, it will happen for him. And he will be ready to go again if you are...

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

Msg: 11 (view)

Does ANYONE out there actually fantasize about the person they're with? Posted: 3/3/2010 4:44:12 PM
I admit it, my GF spoiled me so bad that it killed porn for me... That being said, thanks to her, and the long distance relationship... oh HELL yes! I fantasize the hell out of her.... And I reenact those fantasies when we get to see each other. And she tends to throw in a few of her own, just for good measure. Just because you can't have quanity, does not mean quality suffers one bit! It's terrible when it's the night before we see each other. I'm an absolute wreck. Then when I see her, it's like the rest of it doesn't matter. A whole year and I'm still like this. As is she. Now I guess the only way to screw this up for both of us, is to live together...

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

Msg: 134 (view)

Does oral sex change your opinion of a girl? Posted: 2/11/2010 10:46:37 PM
I've had women offer it the first meet/date and turned it down. I thought it was like sex where if I accept too early, they'd never talk or see me again. Go figure, they got offended and still didn't see me again, thinking I was judging them. You can't win. Then I gave up and let a girl do it after we hung out together a couple of times. It was bad, real bad. As in it fcuking HURT! Yet again, that went nowhere. Later I met my GF and from the get go we just had instant chemistry. The kind where it is hard to say no, because you both want it so bad, but you wait. When we finally got to spent some time together, we just let things go and we rocked each other's world in every way you can imagine. So I've seen both sides of this. I really think it's a matter of chemistry. But for me that translates to a relationship, just as much as it does with sex. When you find the right person, rules don't matter, and you stick together, no matter what you do (or don't do).

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

Msg: 29 (view)

What if she just wanted sex? Posted: 2/8/2010 6:36:37 PM
Been there, didn't go through with it either. She came over after we talked for a week and we saw a movie. We agreed before not to have sex, however she spent the whole night feeling me up and squirming. I didn't know wether or not I should go through with it, despite what she said and risk having her not see me again. (Ya know, "do" ya & lose ya) Danmed if ya do, damned if ya don't. Know what I mean? She got up in the morning and kept saying "I can't believe/nobody is going to believe we didn't have sex." AARGH!!! Lady, make UP your mind, will ya! Naturally she didn't call/write or see me again after that... I could say I outsmarted myself but I feel like I dodged a bullett. I still wouldn't sleep with somebody the first meet or date. When I met my GF she later told me it was hard not to sleep with me on our 1st date, but she was glad she didn't. We've been together almost a year. Bottom line, I think is you just have to meet the right person. If they like you, and value you, it doesn't matter. They will wait and let it build up til you attack each other with animalistic passion... (Been there... Yeah, baby!) OR if it does happen, you find yourself together or friends anyway.

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

Msg: 97 (view)

Sex with the lights off? Posted: 1/24/2010 11:46:31 AM
Funny but it's very rare that I can't see with the lights off. I still seem to see enough to look and speak to my GF. So it doesn't really bother me. And sometimes it is kind of sensual to be doing stuff and not really seeing everything as it happens. Keeps the anticpation up, and not knowing where or what will happen next. Doesn't bother me at all.

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

Msg: 38 (view)

Sex in parents house while parents are home Posted: 1/18/2010 6:38:30 PM
I can echo this statement. (37) I recently visited my GF at her parents place and found the noises and proximity of her brother, mom, dad and brother's GF and pets; quite distracting. With my GF we kind of have a bubble (her term) that we enter into when we're together, and outside influences right then, kind of take away from that closeness and intimacy. It's much more fun when we are together and alone, and free to follow what and where our desire and imagination may take us. Family, let alone any other influences can take away from that intimacy for sure. I sympathize with people with kids , I don't know how you do it. God bless you all...

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

Msg: 12 (view)

What Do You Think? (long read) Posted: 12/14/2009 2:55:11 PM
Well you made it past the three date rule -1. If you talk for three weeks and have seen each other three times before, that's plenty. -2 If you used condoms you did the right thing and narrowed down your chances of catching an STD.-3 I think your overreacting. It's common to freak out after ending a long dry spell. I think you should take a deep breath, relax and not freak this guy out IF you want to keep seeing him. It may be too early to ask for exclusivity. You might want to approach him and ask, "so, what do you think about us dating?"... Make it an UN-loaded question so he doesn't feel trapped or uncomfortable. But seriously this is a classic example of post sex freakout. It's very common in people who have infrequent sex. I think you should calm down, see how he reacts, and take the lead from him. Then if he is comfortable you bring the rest of your questions up. But suttlely, if you change tempo so quick after you have sex, you WILL scare him off! Believe me! But feel free to get tested in a week after the encounter. Some things take time to show up. Only the throat, rght? Well then that's one less thing to worry about.

ohio07

Joined: 12/27/2008

Msg: 518 (view)

Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 12/11/2009 8:40:21 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=akVL7QY0S8A This video sums it up for me... Your not imaging that times are tough, the numbers back you up.

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