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 Author Thread: Augusta, Ga. - Thursday, August 27th 2009 7:00pm - Cadillacs - PoF Singles Mixer
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Augusta, Ga. - Thursday, August 27th 2009 7:00pm - Cadillacs - PoF Singles Mixer
Posted: 8/22/2009 5:00:16 PM
Hey Paul. Your email said that we had 18 people signed up so far for Thurs night.... why are they not showing up under people that have signed up?

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Augusta, Ga. - Thursday, August 27th 2009 7:00pm - Cadillacs - PoF Singles Mixer
Posted: 8/19/2009 4:49:20 PM
Ah man! I missed Speed Dating? I've always wanted to do that. ~pout

Oh well. I was at the first Cadillac's mixer and had a blast! I hope that we have the same kind of turn out for this one.

I missed the last one and the Saturday meet and greet because I was dating someone I had met at the first meet and greet... but, sadly, that didn't work out.

Hope to see you all at Cadillac's.

.... Debbie
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Augusta, Ga. - Thursday, July 30th 2009 7:00pm - Cadillacs - PoF Single Mingle
Posted: 7/29/2009 2:34:11 PM
Hi guys. I'm not going to make it Thursday night. I really enjoyed the last one.... but truth be told, I met a really cool guy at the last one and I am content seeing where things leads. ~grin

Have a ball! ... Debbie
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 97 (view)
 
Does chemistry happen immediately?
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:08:38 AM
Hi. I do believe that you can tell immediatly if there is chemistry there.... this doesn't mean you are commiting yourself to a relationship with this person or that you are mistaking lust for love... it just means that for whatever reason there is a spark of chemistry between you and this person.

I believe that sexy is an attitude and has very little to do with physical appearance. I am much more likely to feel chemistry with a man that is confident and comfortable with who he is and it shows in the way he holds himself and moves... than I am to be attracted to a man with perfect hair or the perfect body.

I will generally give it two dates with a man to decide whether there is any chemistry there.... if I don't feel anything by then I very politely end it.

It is very important to me in a relationship to feel like I NEED to touch this person, to be close to him, to have him want to be close to me... that is chemistry.

I was at a singles meet and greet recently and we were all told to go around and hug everyone.... I hugged all of the men, but when I got to this one man, we hugged and then looked at each other and he bent down and gave me the lightest kiss on my lips... THAT was mutual and immediate chemistry. We have been out on a couple of dates since then and I am looking forward to more !

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
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Augusta, Ga. - Thursday, July 30th 2009 7:00pm - Cadillacs - PoF Single Mingle
Posted: 7/10/2009 4:11:48 PM
I have to say, I agree .... the guys need to sign up so us girls can see who we have to look forward to meeting. ~grin

I had a blast last time and am really looking forward to seeing some of the people I met again and to meeting some new friends as well.

Kathy and Scarlett if ya'll get there ahead of me ... save me a seat.

Looking forward to watching the list of attendees grow over the next couple of weeks.

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
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Augusta, Ga. - Thursday, July 30th 2009 7:00pm - Cadillacs - PoF Single Mingle
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:58:03 PM
The first event was a blast! I can't wait for this one. I'm planning to be there and maybe with a friend. ~grin

 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
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Augusta, Ga.- Saturday, July 11th 2009, POF Singles - Coolout Cookout on Clarks Hill / Thurmond Lake!
Posted: 6/29/2009 5:17:13 PM
Hi. Same goes for me guys.... I had a wonderful time! Anyone that did not get the chance to come to Cadillac's should really try and come to the lake, we really had a good time.

Thanks Paul !
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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
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Augusta, Ga.- Saturday, July 11th 2009, POF Singles - Coolout Cookout on Clarks Hill / Thurmond Lake!
Posted: 6/26/2009 9:20:59 PM
Hi Paul.
Put me down for:

mustard
ketchup
mayonaise
sweet tea

Looking forward to it!
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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Augusta, Ga. - June 25th 2009 7:00pm - Cadillacs - PoF Single Mingle
Posted: 6/25/2009 8:17:11 PM
This is to forgetme1969.. my new friend. I can't email you because you did the same thing I did and set your mail settings to men only. lol

I'll change mine if you'll change yours..... I was serious when I said we should get together and go out.

... later, Debbie
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Augusta, Ga. - June 25th 2009 7:00pm - Cadillacs - PoF Single Mingle
Posted: 6/25/2009 8:06:20 PM
I had a blast! Thank you Paul for the slow dance, the drink and the lap to sit on. lol

I met some wonderful new friends and look forward to going out with them very soon.... I'm serious girls, I will be in touch.

It was wonderful to meet you all and now I look forward to the event at the lake. Sign me up!

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Augusta, Ga. - June 25th 2009 7- Cadillacs - PoF Single Mingle
Posted: 6/25/2009 3:45:16 AM
oooooh, a HUGGY chair... I like the sound of that. ~grin

See you all tonight.
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Augusta, Ga. - June 25th 2009 7- Cadillacs - PoF Single Mingle
Posted: 6/24/2009 5:15:08 PM
Are there going to be assigned seats? lol... my friend that was coming with me backed out and I hate to sit alone. ~pout

Name tags sound like fun.... although why one color for men and one for women.. shouldn't we able to tell that on our own?

Anyone that want's to save me a seat let me know.

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Augusta, Ga. - June 25th 2009 7- Cadillacs - PoF Single Mingle
Posted: 6/24/2009 8:59:52 AM
Hi Paul.... if your response had anything in it that was supposedly rude it went right over this southern girls head. I thought it was very sweet.

I am a Gamecock fan as my 19yr old son and 30yr nephew both attend there... except my son went today and joined the Marines!!! (I am very proud and very scared)

Just so you know, I am not shy and WILL hold you to buying me a drink, AND a slow dance.

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Just found out my 19yr old son has chosen to join the Marines
Posted: 6/23/2009 6:17:26 PM
I just want everyone to know that I have a very strong and loving relationship with my son and while I say he has joined... he has gone to the recruiter and made up his mind but he told me today before actually signing the paperwork... but to me that is as good as done. His mind is made up.

He struggled over telling me, and his Dad, my ex, asked him not to yet because as of late I have been going through some tough times and they did not want to add to my distress.
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Just found out my 19yr old son has chosen to join the Marines
Posted: 6/23/2009 4:51:10 PM
Thank you all for your support and comforting words. I am calming down and doing some research to better understand what he has chosen to do.

He has ALWAYS wanted to travel the world and has always had a love of world history and geography. But he is also very quiet and has always been shy that this just comes out of the blue. I have always known he was a good boy and a fine young man.

Still, if there are people out there that are present or past Marines (are you ever a past Marine?), please, let me know what is like for you.
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Just found out my 19yr old son has chosen to join the Marines
Posted: 6/23/2009 3:32:14 PM
My mind is reeling... I am so very proud and so very scared at the same time. I don't know what to think or to do. I know nothing about what it will be like for him. I am looking to hear from some men and women out there that have served or are serving with the Marines. What are we to expect? If you had it to do all over again.. would you?

Do you live with fear everyday that you will be killed in action? How do your parents deal with it?

I know he's a grown man and can make his own decisions... and I AM proud of the decision... but I still call him Boo-Bear for God's sake!!

What am I going to do?
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Curious... what is sexy??
Posted: 6/22/2009 6:34:12 PM
Sexy is all about attitude in men and in women. It's a confidence, the way they carry themselves.... and a great laugh.

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 145 (view)
 
If you could only have five..........
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:44:19 PM
I love a lot of spices, so picking 5 would be tough, but here goes....

1. Garlic (can't live without it)
2. Salt ( I hate to use a space for this but you have to have it too)
3. Cilantro.... I guess is more of an herb but you can buy dried with the spices
4. Curry... this is a new one for me but I love it
5. Rosemary... again is an herb, but you can get dried in the spice section

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Indian cooking
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:39:41 PM
I have just become interested in Indian cuisine and cooking. I must say I make a wonderful curry lamb and curry vegetables.... but I would like to try something different. Any suggestions?

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
What the heck are grits?
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:36:01 PM
First, is the diner you work for in the south? I would not try what would pass for grits up north... they think cream of wheat is the same thing.

I don't really know how to discribe grits for you other than to say if they are done right they are smooth and thick and very buttery and they are wonderful.

Give them a try, what can it hurt.... just don't go yankee on me and add cream and sugar. lol

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 530 (view)
 
Do children need a father?
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:22:19 PM
I am a divorced mom with 2 boys... but I am not a single parent. YES children need a father. I have been blessed with an ex-husband who is a wonderful father to his boys and I can not imagine the void in their life if he was not around.

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 177 (view)
 
why are men reluctant to get involved with someone who has kids
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:17:27 PM
I have two boys and I always make sure that I let the men I date know that they are dating me not my children. I am not looking for a father for my kids,,.. they have a father who is wonderful with them.

I don't even introduce the men I date to my children unless I'm sure the relationship is going somewhere.

 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Do you know your European geography?
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:07:50 PM
A month or so ago, my 19yr old son made me feel like an idiot in geography while playing a game of Trivial Pursuit. I am embarrassed to say that at the time I did not know that Egypt was in Africa and I could only name about 25 countries.

Then a friend introduced me to sporcle.com. It is a wonderful site for all sorts of games and tests and now I can name 175 of the 195 world countries..... give me a couple more weeks and I'll get them all!

Really.... try sporcle.com

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Ladies 40+, would you review my profile?
Posted: 6/22/2009 5:01:34 PM
I loved it. You come across as strong, confident and intelligent. The only thing I would have to offer is maybe add a little humor. You also did a great job with listing plenty of interests.

If you were near me, I would respond. ~grin

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Augusta, Ga. - June 25th 2009 7:00pm - Cadillacs - PoF Single Mingle
Posted: 6/22/2009 4:57:19 PM
I'm trying to do my part and tell anyone I talk to on POF about Thur in case they did not know. I'm looking forward to it!

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Older woman, younger man...
Posted: 6/22/2009 4:45:30 PM
Tahnk you nextyme for your words of wisdom and comfort... I'm sure you are right.
I actually think the 14yrs I spent never being wanted by the man I was married to has a lot to do with why it hurts me so much now to have this man tell me he does not want me. I have a fragile ego at best and need a lot of ego stroking by men, which has not always led to the best of choices.
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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Older woman, younger man...
Posted: 6/22/2009 12:29:05 PM
Thank you all for your continued advise and support, it has helped and we are now on day 10 without seeing each other.

As for those that think I made all this up..... Who would make up this sh*t? I mean really. lol. Trust me sweetie, I am real and my story, though bizarre, is very real. Maybe later I'll tell you how I was married for 14yrs to a man that wound up being gay... another true story. What can I say, my life is a circus.

Oh, and "alluneedislover", thank you, I hope that you meant that as a personal compliment to me and not just a general observation of the normal sex drive of a 25yr old male.

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Ever been attracted to anyone whose face made you go *meh*...?
Posted: 6/21/2009 7:59:37 PM
I met a man for a blind date about 6yrs ago... he got out of his truck in the parking lot and my first thought was "ughhhh" and I wanted to turn and leave, but he had seen me so I got out of my car and went in to have lunch with him.

He wound up being in my life on and off for the last 6yrs and is one of the sexiest men I have ever known.

So yes, there are definitely those of us out here who have been attracted to someone that we may have, on first look, wanted to turn away from.

I didn't look at your profile or get a close look at your pic, but from what I can see you look like an attractive young woman to me and you should maybe quit being so hard on yourself.

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Let me hear it
Posted: 6/21/2009 7:38:29 PM
Hi. You are a good-looking young man and obviously intelligent. You mention confidence being important in a woman and I think that's great. The only real suggestions I have to improve your profile would be to add to your interests to include some things a girl would enjoy doing with you...... going out with friends, slow dancing, going to movies, going to the beach... things like that.

Only other suggestion is that maybe the body of your profile is still too wordy with talk about the water craft you used to own.

Just trying to help.
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
why look at profile and not make contact?
Posted: 6/21/2009 7:29:23 PM
Thanks guys for the constructive critisism and opinions. You are right in saying that all men are going to want a woman with tattoos.. I didn't think of that. Or think that I only want men that have tattoos.

Also, it is a good point about all the mail restrictions.... I trimmed it down some.

Also a good point about not having interests in common.

Thank you. All of that makes sense and without bruising my ego. lol

I would like to say that I DO send emails to men that catch my eye and tell them if I find them attractive or like their profile.... even if the feeling is not returned, I believe it is important to tell someone something positive if you feel it.

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
why look at profile and not make contact?
Posted: 6/21/2009 6:49:16 PM
Boy, you guys are brutal... I'm sorry I asked. lol

Oh well, you ask for honesty and sometimes you get it. I guess I need to get used to the idea that not every man that looks at my profile is going to be attracted to me....

Thank you ladies that responded... now I know why we are called the gentler sex. lol

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
why look at profile and not make contact?
Posted: 6/21/2009 6:32:02 PM
Hi guys.... I have a question. I seem to have a lot of men looking at my profile and even adding me as a favorite and yet never making contact with me.... why do you guys do that? Are you waiting on me to see that you looked at me and for me to send you an email?

I'm a southern-girl... I want the guy to make the first move. ~grin

Do you guys not do that anymore?

If a guy doesn't send me a message after looking at my profile, should I automatically assume he saw something he did not like? THAT could be ego-bruising! lol

Check out my profile and let me know what I am saying that is putting men off.... I can take it (I think).

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 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Older woman, younger man...
Posted: 6/21/2009 4:18:25 PM
Thank you all, (or most of you ~grin), for your input and opinions. I think I may have not explained some things correctly. HE hit on my 8months ago, HE asked me out. HE told me constantly how sexy and attractive I was. We have been very affectionate since the beginning.... we hold hands and kiss and he loves me to rub his back or play with his hair.... we did not sleep in the same bed for at least 2 months and then we snuggled and slept and were always clothed to some degree.

He is from a different culture and I thought it was normal for him to be in a relationship and not have sex.

Anyway, We have been there for each other through some rough times. Neither of us was using the other. We truly cared for each other. I have just decided that I will never go out and find the man that wants me the way a man wants a woman if I keep spending all my time with him.... I have decided this many times in the last 8 months but we can neither ever seem to "walk away" for more than a few days. This has been the longest and I think this time will stick.... but I still miss him and he still misses me.

He is a good MAN and has done more for me than I can tell you. We are neither of us sick or perverted... we are just two people that bonded for whatever reason and have become important parts of each other's lives. No matter how it turns out I won't let anyone make me believe that there was anything sick or perverted about what we had.

Wikipedia calls it "Romantic Friendship".
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Augusta, Ga. - June 25th 2009 7:00pm - Cadillacs - PoF Single Mingle
Posted: 6/21/2009 2:09:13 PM
Hi Paul. I think the speed dating thing would be fun one time as well... what are the Redneck, Crap and Black Bag mixers? I don't know what that means. lol

I thought mixers were drinks.

 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Augusta, Ga. - June 25th 2009 7:00pm - Cadillacs - PoF Single Mingle
Posted: 6/21/2009 2:04:19 PM
I'll be there and hope to meet a lot of you guys there as well.... a girl needs a man to slow dance with you know. ~grin

I think this was a wonderful idea and I'm hoping it will be a huge success.....

Maybe after this I'll feel comfortable enough to sign up for the day at the lake.

 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 740 (view)
 
What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 6/21/2009 1:57:28 PM
Tried to find your pic to see why Buc thinks you are sexy but couldn't find it. lol

Anyway, to answer the question... what makes women over 40 sexy is the same that makes men over 40 sexy.... attitude. It's the way a person carries themselves and their being comfortable in their own skin. Sexy has everything to do with attitude and very little to do with physical beauty. (In my opinion anyway)

D
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 524 (view)
 
What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love
Posted: 6/21/2009 1:47:58 PM
Hi. The difference between making love and having sex is all in the feelings you have for the person you are with. You make love to someone that you have deep feelings for. You have sex with someone you just met and are attracted to.

That is my opinion anyway. ~grin

 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Older woman, younger man...
Posted: 6/21/2009 7:34:14 AM
We did not sleep together every day. lol

And NO, he did not breastfeed, but yes it was weird and went on for too long.
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Older woman, younger man...
Posted: 6/21/2009 7:32:22 AM
He has my yahoo email address and my messenger address and my phone number...
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Older woman, younger man...
Posted: 6/21/2009 7:31:08 AM
I respect your opinion, but, last I checked 25 was an adult... and I did say that I was not sexually attracted to him either... just hurt my pride that he was not attracted to me.

Would it be as "gross" to see a 48yr old man with a 25yr old woman.... you see it every day. Why should it be different?
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Older woman, younger man...
Posted: 6/20/2009 6:19:21 PM
Me again. Thank you all for your advise and opinions. Today is day 8 and he and I have been IMing. I have been ugly and mean-spirited... but I finally told him that I can not make him want what he does not want, but I deserve to have someone that wants me. I think this time it has sank in for each of us and I think it is finally over.

I thank you all for listening and giving me your input. You were ALL right... this relationship was going nowhere and needed to end. It is time for me to move on and find a man that will treat me the way a man should treat a woman. lol

...hugs to you all.
 carolinadebbie
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Older woman, younger man...
Posted: 6/19/2009 9:05:34 PM
For 8 months I have been involved with a 25yr old man (I am 48). When I say involved I don't mean sexually. We were affectionate, we would hold hands and kiss and sleep in the same bed and could not stay away from each other. (We have been apart now for 7 days which is the longest I have been able to stay away in 8 months) In the beginning he told me he was attracted to me and found me sexy... now, 2 wks ago, he told me that he is not sexually attracted to me. It has hurt me to the core and bruised my ego. I don't know that I am sexually attracted to him either, but the thought of him wanting someone else or touching someone else kills me. I told him we could not see each other anymore because he does not want me and I deserve a man that wants me the way a man wants a woman.

Am I right to walk away? Is there hope that it could work out? Should I stick to my guns and stay away from him? What does it say about me if I can't stay away? It's easier to say it's over when we are on the phone (we have both been out of town for the last 7 days, but I am home now and he is due back on Sunday), if I allow him to come over my resistance is shot.

People tell me he is using me, but I don't know for what.... and he can't seem to walk away from me any more than I can from him.

Since telling him that we are over this past Saturday, he has called or texted me on Sun, Tue , Wed and Today, Friday) I continue to tell him it is over and he continues to say it is unfair. I have tried to walk away so many times in the last 8 months that I'm sure he is not even taking it seriously and believes that I will give in after a few days and call him and tell him I mi him and want him back on his terms.

Tell me if I am the only one who has gone through this. Tell me what to do. Tell me is it possible for a gorgeous 25yr old to be attracted to a 48yr old woman when there are 20 yr olds running around out there?
 
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