High School was FORTY years ago. My memory is quite hazy.
Hmm, maybe 'cos I was in a smoke haze as I graduated?
It WAS 1969, after all. I mean, Woodstock and all that.
Wow, come to think of it... sure... wouldn't mind it all over again.
*snicker*

So what ARE the benefits of a (mature) partner?
Beyond the mutual satisfaction of primal urges, what will your partner provide that you don't want/can't get from others?

It's about finding a partner with whom I can really communicate. Someone I can feel safe and relaxed with - I'm not saying for a moment sexual compatibility isn't right up there as well. But a real man, a kind man, a man who likes women and likes me...bring it on. Bring it on.

I say "you probably know this already but your butt looks amazing in those slacks"....she smiles and is blushing like a house on fire and says "eheheh thank you" I say "have a great day" and carry on.....

i miss having him scoop me up off my feet and swing me around as soon as he saw me:) i also miss the way he looked at me, as if i were the only woman on the planet. he would toss his pillows to the end of the bed and share mine. he would rub my back and watch me put on my sunscreen as if were a forbidden ritual. wow...i guess i miss alot of thing

........ Simple, because women are not programmed to pursue. They are programmed to be pursued. There are women that are direct, but the majority are not. Look at an attractive woman. She puts lipstic and wears a beautiful dress and shoes to attract a guy. When she sees a guy she likes she will do the hints, but she does not want to come across as if she is the one approaching because she doesn't want to be seen as easy, and she wants the type of male that is willing to take a risk and pursue.

Everyone can make a mistake once in a while, but I proffread any message I write here or back in the world. It doesn't take that long.




Namaste,
Ginny

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Women hit their sexual prime in their mid thirties. So, if you think the young ones have sex drive.... wait!

If it's just one or two words then I know myself that sometimes typing in a hurry can cause spelling mistakes.

However if the whole email is ridiculously hard to understand or they think it's cool to write to me like "how ru 2day? well then they've already lost my interest. It doesn't take much longer to type the actual words and it is very quickly becoming my big pet hate..................

So, yes it is. Then again, I'm 12 on the inside

You like working on jet's date someone who has a jet.
If you love to cook, fine someone who loves to eat.
If you want to be with someone you feel superior to find someone with low to no self esteem.

Or keep dating and getting in to relationships where you can run around carrying a cross and play the fecking martyr. Makes no difference to me. I like the person I see in the mirror. I seek no validation for the things I have the abilities to do!

I know what you mean op, these days women need direction to boil water. Then half the time burn it. They get confuse on how to make instant water, hello, you just add water.

So I learned a new trick. Try it, you will be amazed at how good food can taste. Make your own damn sandwich's!

And save me the whole "we should share those responsibilities" bullshet. Because they are never out there when it's time to crawl under the car to change the oil! Of climbing on the roof when there is a leak.

I think the reason guys resort to being "wussy" or overly agressive, is so that they don't have to think about the girl much, or use any intuition about her or situations they're in.

For me, it depends on how interested I am, how much I know about the person from email and phone calls, etc., and how they've handled the cancellation and rescheduling. If they cancel, rescheduling efforts are up to them.

If I'm not that interested, the first strike may be the last. If I'm very interested, they may get as many as 3 chances, but almost never more than that unless it's clearly a valid and unusual situation that causes the cancellation. If I have other good prospects, I may be less inclined to reschedule, and it would have to be fairly convenient for me. I'm flexible, not desperate!

I am not complaining, that my bf has the libido of a teenager.....

Being walked to the door is nice, but, not necessary if the house door is in full view from the car. Just don't speed off before I get my door open.

A couple days later I get an email from her saying she wants to be treated as if she is special and I didn't make her feel that way because I didn't walk her to the door.

We could see her front door quite clearly, no boogeymen in the bushes. Now, from my perspective, getting out and walking her that short distance would have implied I expected to be invited in.

You need to talk to your friend. Honesty between friends is always best. Let her know this guy has contacted you. Ask her if she has a problem with you dating him? If she does, then walk away from the guy. If you start sneaking around behind her back, you are sure to lose her as your friend. Is any guy really worth that? Honest = best policy.

And hey, chances are, she will probably say go for it! Have a great time!

Never date more than 7 at the time.

It gets confusing who is buying you drinks, making you dinners, doing your laundry or who's panties were left in the bathroom. So I do not recommend it.

But you can put cheat cards on the bed board with their names so while having sex, you know exactly which name to repeat.

Now, if they offer to support you, think first, does she make a ton of money?

Is she going to then try to manipulate you into just sex and more sex.

And be careful how you answer. Remember, you're not a piece of meat.

I think for many women it isn't a deal breaker, but being skinny will rank you lower than someone more muscular or with an average build...

In my neck of the woods (the folks in the marketing/Advertising world) it is the skinny, trendy guys that win out. For some reason, if they have a beard (to get that Sam Roberts look), the better.

We get to pay taxes with very few deductions with the said taxes supplementing the incomes in varying degrees of those who have children. Our taxes go to support elementary and secondary school education as well various social programs that we will reap no benefit from. As far as I can tell, we are not draining any resources but rather adding to them.

i am aking is a lady told me i didn t dress up a nufe i don t dress up if i ant getting married or if some one don t die i say y dress up for a one time thing that may nrve get no were any way

How insulting and insensitive to people who cannot have children either due to infertility or an illness.

So you mean that unless I have children, I cannot have a spectacular life? Are you for real? What are you going to do when your children are grown and away from you? Will you stay in bed all day? How narrowminded of you...

Capitano - might that not be the best time to say the gushy stuff? When her mouth is too full to talk?

100% But I also believe I should be the kind of woman he is proud to have next to him as well. It goes both ways

There are nasty people in both genders, and wonderful ones in both as well.

This may sound like a bizarre perspective, but I try to keep in mind that there's a big difference between the person we are and the packaging we appear as. Although we experience ourselves here as male or female, in fact our bodies have genders; we who occupy them don't. Looking at it that way, behaviours are really individual, not a matter of gender, age, social standing or any other demarkation.

Both sides of the 'disappear vs. say goodbye' controversy has been fully detailed in this thread. The bottom line is, if we're watching for indicators of compatibility or lack thereof, we have our answer whenever we receive silence or a rejection. The only difference is that one is better manners than the other. But 'no match' is still 'no match', no matter how it is packaged.

It's pretty obvious, because it's unattractive, and any woman that is honest would know that guys who are bald/balding/shaved are a huge turn-off. I would never date an unattractive person like that!!

I personally find bald men very attractive. ..........look younger then those who try to hang on to what is left of their hair.

Guess I'm not the one to be asking.....because I have absolutely no problem with it. Last 3 men I've been in relationships with are balding ..... but they are balding gracefully......And if a man can still carry himself w/ dignity ( which means no combover.....).....he'll attract my eye.

Truth, for me, is that I only "need" air, water, and food to sustain life. The rest is based on personal growth and development. I have gone as much as six years without sex, and still lived happily, so that is not a need.

I want a best friend to share life with, to grow together with, and I have every intention of contributing as much dedication as I require.
And I don't feel even a bit needy for it either.

There comes a time in someone's life where they have to take a stand, for their own self respect, and their own conscience. When that day comes I firmly believe that a person has to have the backbone to draw a line in the sand and say no, I will not accept this, I will not continue to enable you to persist in this destructive behaviour, and allow you to destroy my life along with yours.

Doing that does not make you a quitter or a looser. It makes you a survivor, and older and wiser.

This also makes me think that people just don't have the "work ethic" needed to make a relationship work. Too many are quick to judge and blame. Too many think that because they have had poor relationships, they are experts and that the ultimate solution is to GIVE UP. Maybe that is why there are so many people flocking to websites like this as they would rather start over, than work on what they had.

I don't get where some posters got the idea that POF is a singles site. Obviously one of the options is to select married. POF for that matter isn't just a dating site or there wouldn't be options for hang out, email, friends, intimate encounters, activity partners, etc...

Usually when one lists undesirable qualities they do not want .......

Learn to live in the real world with the rest of us. You'd like it here.

You're supposed to say 'it was my pleasure' .

"Please" and "thank you" are powerful words... especially in the bedroom. If you're hearing them for the first time in your late 50's... well, sorry to have to be the one to break it to you, dude... but that means you haven't been doing it right.

I have learned that being attracted to the mind is much more important than looks. I want someone I am compatible with mentally. I need communication and all that comes with it. That's what attracts me. Just because someone is good looking doesn't mean they have the qualities to make for a lasting relationship with me.

Good looks are a great bonus, but not a requirement.

BDJ.. You are known for your black and white view on most things .. but I've never said to you that you live in a vacuum, even though it could be said that people who can't or refuse to see anything other than their very own experience and therefore it couldn't possibly be so, are the one's in the vacuum.

I have yet to meet a lady who is untethered by her family or job or friends. None I've met thus far are willing to just drop everything, give up what they are comfortable with in their own lives to come into mine on a full time basis and I certainly am not going to give up what I am interested in and comfortable with here.