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thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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would anyone acept a wedding proposal after knowing eachother for only one week? Posted: 5/16/2006 5:22:45 PM
I was engaged after 2 weeks and married after about a month to my EX!!! I think it could have worked if she was older at the time. We definitely had the love thing down but everything else by way of compatibility was missing. I lost a lot but overall it's the way my life went and I wouldn't change a thing about it.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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How much information do you really want? Posted: 5/15/2006 1:02:35 PM
"It's better to be silent and thought the fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt." This is the truest thing you can think of when forming relationships of any kind. My best friend is quite a bit younger than me and kinda still learning the ropes when it comes to "making acquaintances". He continuously talks his way out of the game. I've told him a thousand times just to keep his mouth shut, look pretty and let them do the talking but get a couple drinks in him and the fool is sure to follow suit. I was the same way when I was his age and I think over time you learn not to divulge too much about yourself right away. Of course, we are both young and more interested in playing the feild, I'm sure if we where interested in a more meaningful, deeper relationship, the effort of talk would have to be suited to more than just being able to get a laugh outta someone.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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ok I met him now what? Posted: 5/5/2006 5:35:43 PM
Well wouldn't it just be a perfect world if that was truly the case. I'd sure like to hear the consensus of people who, in a new relationship, such as the OP is in, never had to question whether or not they were exclusive. But I respect what you are saying So, wouldn't you agree that the majority of people shouldn't be in a relationship until they feel a high self-worth? I mean, it's my personal belief that most people are in a relationship becuase of the way the other person makes them feel, not the way they make the other person feel. This only leads to duress! If you are in a relationship becuase you know you are adding to the other persons life and you know they are adding to yours, you are in the relationship for the right reason. this is why so many people only find themselves running into roadblocks when "seeking" a relationship. Becuase they went into it with the wrong intentions, self-gratification. Not too many people sit back and think to themselves, "am I a good addition to this persons life?" the majority think "am (I) better off with this person?" Again, WRONG!!! WRONG!!! WRONG!!! Mutual benefit makes for a lasting relationship.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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How to win BF's and influence men. A.K.A Manipulation 101 Posted: 5/5/2006 5:29:30 PM
The key to success in relationships is honesty, and communication. Typically, those couples who communicate the most will also last the longest. In those types of couples, problems are most easily dealt with It's called intimacy, being able to shed light onto any part of your life and not worrying about being judged for it. She actually covered that... the whole "Be honest, never lie" thing.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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ok I met him now what? Posted: 5/5/2006 5:20:05 PM
He doesn't care if she wants to be with someone else?? Well what the hell is that then?? Maybe I'm ODD or DAFT or something but I like to know when I'm being initimate with someone that I am the only one they are with and vice versa. I'm not trying to be difficult, but love is a SELFLESS act! To truly love someone is to want them to be happy regardless of what that means to YOU. just look at the amount of times you used the word "I". If two people are in love, truly in love, they won't have to worry about asking or even wondering if the other is with another person becuase they both KNOW that they are in love with one another. It's only when you have to worry that you have to question your security/self-worth. If, and that's a BIG IF, I'm in a relationship with someone and I'm committed to them, it's only becuase I know they are committed to me. Not becuase I asked them, but becuase I'm secure enough in myself to know my own self-worth.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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How to win BF's and influence men. A.K.A Manipulation 101 Posted: 5/5/2006 5:14:38 PM
I love this girl! You are awesome! Come home with me and meet my mother! Scratch that, I don't want to scare you off. Just come home with me!

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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ok I met him now what? Posted: 5/5/2006 5:11:57 PM
So then, is she free to be with others while she "let's it progress naturally" .. because really, why waste her time on one when she's not allowed to know if it is going to become anything right?? Absolutely! If a guy is secure with himself, he doesn't care if she wants to be with someone else. IF that's the case, then he has to respect her wishes. At no point in time does a constructive relationship ever deserve a title... Hold that thought, up until marriage it never deserves a title. Marriage is more a business decision than anything else. If both people are truly in love with each other, there is no need to worry about being with others. If not, then it wasn't meant to be. Just roll with it and enjoy the good times.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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How to flirt with girls outside the barscene Posted: 5/5/2006 5:08:54 PM
ughhh, I hate to sound like a cheesy used car salesman, but pick up a couple "sales books" and read them. Dean Gould is a great author, also "Closing the Deal" by James Pickens is good for that kind of thing. Anyhow, there is a ton of insight into how to speak in order to get people to act the way you want them to. Good luck!

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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ok I met him now what? Posted: 5/5/2006 5:02:22 PM
Stop being a woman and let things progress naturally! You're going to scare him off with your "COMMITMENT" talk. Listen to me!!! LISTEN!!! Don't do it! Don't! If you take one more step in the commitment direction I'm going to roll up a newspaper and smack you with it! Just enjoy what's going on and don't put too much thought into where things are going. Let him bring it up. If he brings it up, you know you've got him where you want him. IF not... that's another story.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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When is to soon? Posted: 5/5/2006 4:45:48 PM
When six months goes by and you've been web-camming with him/her with the same excitement the whole way through. Of course, I've never been in that situation but this would be the only way I would feel comfortable even thinking about the "L" word with someone I'd never met in person. Sending video tapes is a good thing too. Lets you see body language.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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You know… Posted: 5/5/2006 4:32:53 PM
hmmm, comparing internet dating to buying a horse, huh? I guess I can see the correlation... For me, I just like to skip the b.s. and meet her. Just make it a public place and work out an exit strategy with your buddy. Bring your cell and have him call you about 15 minutes into the meeting. If there is a problem use code words like "Oh, she's a NICE girl. I'm really enjoying myself." this means... "Get me the F*ck outta here!" Next make up a story that your best friend just wrecked his car and BAIL! Shallow I know but you've gotta protect yourself. Or you could just sack up and say "I'm sorry, I'm just not feeling it."

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful? Posted: 5/4/2006 3:25:13 PM
eyceprincess, I have a question for you outside of the dating realm. Would you mind Emailing me so I can Email you back? Unfortunately, your filters make it impossible for me to Email you directly. It's a question in regards to our line of work. Thanks in advance.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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Parental Nudity Posted: 5/4/2006 2:44:30 PM
This subject freaks me out, I didn't even hug my parents growing up much less see them nude. I think I would have nightmares to this day. Ewwww!!!

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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Will you ever get married? Posted: 5/3/2006 3:49:33 PM
I loved being married, just hated being married to the wrong person. I can honestly say that it was the toughest (mentally) thing I've ever been through trying to decide between my religious beliefs and my sanity. I will make sure that the next person I marry is on the same page as I am before jumping into it. I personally don't believe in divorce, but my ex did and took the easy route.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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Male Contraceptive Posted: 4/28/2006 5:13:51 PM
Hell, not only will I take it, I'll buy stock!!! Wish I could have been on the pill a couple times in the past. I escaped fatherhood, luckily, but escaping the whole ordeal would have been much easier.

thegoon

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Calling All Men - Insight Needed!! Posted: 4/28/2006 5:06:31 PM
Maybe he had to get off the computer for some reason and will get back to you later... If not, then maybe he just came to the realization that nothing will ever come from talking to you. Either way, I'd blow him off and not worry about it.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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Dating on a budget... Posted: 4/28/2006 4:56:04 PM
I like Doc's advice! This is pretty much what's been going on for the last few months now.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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Dating on a budget... Posted: 4/28/2006 3:31:39 PM
there are lots of things you can do that wont cost the earth...or anything... go for a walk...a picnic...go to the beach and sit watching the waves with a beer and a blanket...go hiking......those kind of things are what girls like....well i do and i dont think i am vastly different to most girls out there. Hey Buffy, is that really you in the pic of you sitting on the chair??? It looks like that internet girl "Keyra". If so, good at ya girl! OT- I live in an urban jungle and the beach is cold this time of year. Summer is coming up so I guess I can hold tight til then.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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Dating on a budget... Posted: 4/28/2006 3:21:49 PM
What are some good ideas for dating if you are flat broke! There's only so many times you can tell a girl "I'd rather just stay in tonight, I've been going out WAY too often." I'm in school and paying back a lot of debts so even when I get money, it just goes to pay off a ton of bills that have piled up. Most girls are willing to accept this fact and think that it's nice to meet an honest guy when I tell them, but once a few weeks go by and I'm still not able to do anything interesting (except go to Disneyland cuz I got a season pass) It gets boring. A lot of times it works out to my benefit cuz I am getting tired of them anyway (kidding folks, calm down now) but seriously, it kinda sucks. Should I just put off dating until I pay off my bills and just look for random hookups? It would be cool if I could find a girl who was willing to work through this period with me but lets face it, this isn't a perfect world...

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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Why we didn't hook up? Posted: 4/28/2006 3:14:53 PM
Just say what women say "I cherish our freindship too much to jepordize anything." Works like a charm!

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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How does one stop having sex with an ex? Posted: 4/27/2006 7:15:00 PM
In situations like this its best to bring another girl into the bedroom and fulfull all of his fantasies. That way he looks at you as a slut and doesn't want anything to do with you ever again. This is a sure-fire way to end things for good on a good note... Ok, I'm only being partially serious. But, if I was your ex, I would really like my advice!

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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What is a good way to get over a past Relationship? Posted: 4/18/2006 1:08:43 PM
It's about 80 today... Good move on taking him with you to vacation. better to get arrested for lewd conduct in a far off place to save embarrassment from the locals.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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What is a good way to get over a past Relationship? Posted: 4/18/2006 1:01:45 PM
It was a JOKE DAMMIT!!!! Lol But thank you for the compliment! OT: I sat in my house for months after my ex took off on me, I didn't start getting over her til I went back out in the "real world" and started enjoying myself. Of course all the celebrities and camera crews here in "The OC" make things a little harder to enjoy but we manage.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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What is a good way to get over a past Relationship? Posted: 4/18/2006 12:51:33 PM
^^^^ See, he gets it

thegoon

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What is a good way to get over a past Relationship? Posted: 4/18/2006 12:50:53 PM
ummmmm, ok... twas a joke Jaws, just a joke

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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uncomfortable hugs Posted: 4/18/2006 12:38:42 PM
I think it's only uncomfortable when I have a boner and I don't want the other person to feel it running down my pant leg.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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What is a good way to get over a past Relationship? Posted: 4/18/2006 12:34:43 PM
Tons of cocaine and alcohol work for getting over an ex. Soon enough you'll have bigger fish to fry then dealing with "feelings". Works like a charm! Either that or just hop back on that pony and ride! Get back on the market and see what's out there. Have some fun, go skydiving, rafting, deep sea fishing, rock climbing.... Occupy your time and start living a life so fun that others are envious. Occupy your (sorry his) time.

thegoon

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uncomfortable hugs Posted: 4/17/2006 5:42:37 PM
I for one like being hugged. It depends on the setting but I mostly hug everyone I come across in a social atmosphere. Remember "Brothers don't shake hands, brothers hug." I want my male friends to feel like my brother and my female friends to feel like they can touch me anytime they want! It would be a little weird for me to hug my work associates but I do it on occasion, I don't make it the rule.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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the question after sex Posted: 4/11/2006 7:34:21 PM
I'll clarify that I had hoped to ask a question under an assumed profile but for some reason it posted it as my own. What I originally posted would have been looked at as self-promotion even though it was a legitamate question that I had. I guess I'm just stuck having to assume what it all means.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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Hard luck or pricey gal Posted: 4/11/2006 6:28:36 PM
thegoon: sometimes when i feel really lonely i think of playing around to get what i want... but then my self-conscience... aaaaah You shouldn't feel bad about it at all, If you truly believe you are a great catch, you have nothing to feel bad about. The ends justify the means!

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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Hard luck or pricey gal Posted: 4/11/2006 6:17:12 PM
Everybody's got thier reasons but I'd say this stinks of her assuming too much. Personally I think she was assuming you had non-platonic intentions with her. I would have thrown a couple "Que words" in the conversation to make her more comfortable with you. Maybe even make her assume you where gay... You might laugh but I've done it. Don't ever come out and say you're gay just sway her thinking that way and get them to lighten up a bit for comfort. Then once she's comfortable enough, Ask her again for her number making it evident that you don't have any romantic intentions. It's all a freekin game! it sucks but just like the game of money, we are all stuck in it and have to live by the rules. Learn everything you can about bending the rule as much as you can. That's the only way to win becuase there is fierce competition.

thegoon

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the question after sex Posted: 4/11/2006 5:42:49 PM
I just figured they would delete it on thier own...

thegoon

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the question after sex Posted: 4/11/2006 3:51:40 PM
sorry, messed up...

thegoon

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the question after sex Posted: 4/11/2006 3:51:04 PM
1111

thegoon

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Why Do Some Women Want To Marry So Quickly ? Posted: 4/10/2006 3:24:40 PM
The last 3 women I dated wanted to get married early in the relationship. I am not sure what the reason is. Are they sick of the dating scene ? Are they scared of competition? Are they afraid of being alone? C'mon usmale45.... It's becuase you are an irresistable piece of man! You don't have to play modest with us buddy!

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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To the authors of all these 'Will I be single forever' post: Posted: 4/7/2006 3:36:06 PM
I'd say 1/3 of the girls that I go out with I meet on the freeway. Just something I tried once and it's worked well for me ever since. I guess living in a busy area helps as well. Ok, back on topic, I get stuck in traffick every day coming and going from work. I like to listen to music and "rock out" in my car. I'm lost in my own world when this is going on but every once in a while look over to see a girl looking to see what all the fun is about. From here I smile and if I feel she's attractive, I ask for her number. I'll call her right then and there! find out what she's all about and if it all checks out, I've got a date. I guess this portrays confidence, that's the only reason i can figure girls are so anxious to give thier number out to strangers on the freeway.

thegoon

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Question on Phone Numbers for Guys & Girls Posted: 4/6/2006 5:33:56 PM
the only girls I have had do this to me where previously eye fcking the sht outta me while they where sitting next to thier date for the evening. They would casually walk by on thier way to the bathroom and slip me a note with thier number on it telling me to call them.

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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Accepting/Declining Phone Numbers Posted: 4/6/2006 5:28:40 PM
I always use this one 1-206-376-9798 Try it and see for yourself. Just tell them you have an out of state cell number

thegoon

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heres how to make a profile,pass me the stamp.lol. Posted: 4/6/2006 4:18:44 PM
I'm a little tired of the dancing pickle. That does nothing for me but seems to appeal to alot of the men Im sorry but I'm going to have to draw the line at the dancing pickle! I will not stand for you or anyone talkin sh*t on the dancing pickle... Mmmmmm K?!?!

thegoon

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heres how to make a profile,pass me the stamp.lol. Posted: 4/6/2006 4:17:43 PM
I think my biggest pet peeve is "I LOVE TO LAUGH" WHO THE FKUC DOESN'T??!!

thegoon

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Falling asleep after orgasm?!?!?! Posted: 4/5/2006 4:52:06 PM
^^^ that guy (Stankypuss)scares me!

thegoon

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I need help Posted: 4/5/2006 4:34:42 PM
haha, well since the competition in Alaska is fierce (Like 1 million men to each woman) I will take that as a BIG compliment. haha Yeah, that was reeealllly corny, so???

thegoon

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Sexually Frustrated Posted: 4/5/2006 4:29:43 PM
There's a word for this girl.... "TEASE!!!!" Tell him to dump her til she comes to her senses. If he's a good enough catch she will come begging for him to come back and at least reach a compromise with him. Til then, MOVE ON! No man should ever have to put up with this kinda garbage from the inferior gender!!!! disclaimer I was making a funny! In reality I would think this guy should do the remarkable and actually TALK to her about his issue. Hmmmm, communication between man and woman, now that's something to think about...

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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Silly ignore syndrome when you fancy someone? Posted: 4/5/2006 4:19:18 PM
hell yeah we do this too. I do it on purpose! Make friends with the friends and when the time is right move in on your target! There's nothing abnormal about you, it's human nature to shy away from direct contact but the more you do it the more you get used to it. Kinda like a fighter getting in the ring for the first time, you are going to shy away from getting punched but after a few matches you will keep your composure. I see you're divorced so I'm sure you've been out of the dating world for quite some time. Just hop back on that pony and ride. And remember, don't settle for the guy you are less into just becuase that's the way the marble fell... Good luck

thegoon

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I need help Posted: 4/5/2006 4:14:50 PM
Maybe you can scare him away with your big eye! j/k yeah, he can see your posts, you should've created a different account and used that. No use crying over spilled milk. but maybe the embarrassment will be enough to scare him off. I say post his page and let us all see who the weirdo is. btw... Very nice big eye you have there!

thegoon

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A little advice might go along way Posted: 4/5/2006 4:09:49 PM
it's the hardest thing to do but just let her go. She's OBVIOUSLY found someone else. I'd bet my shirt on it! You need to come off like "Hey, no problem. Maybe we can catch up sometime in the next couple weeks", She will be more into you and possibly not want to let you go. However, if you chase her you are just going to end up chasing her away. Nobody likes weakness and in a situation like this it is VERY hard to be tough but it's the only way to go. Besides, if you really love someone you want what's best for them, not what is in your best interest. Good luck! Stay strong! Drink til they look good and have plenty of random sex! LOL

thegoon

Joined: 12/6/2005

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E-bay Posted: 4/5/2006 11:22:57 AM
Sure, I'll sell myself to the highest bidder but you better believe I have a reserve on me. I wonder what the going rate is for a "ME" these day???

thegoon

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The other man Posted: 4/4/2006 7:10:07 PM
You realize that no matter what can come between you two, this girl was (At least at one point in time) head over heels enough to MARRY the other guy. You will always play second best in her mind and if you end up taking on a relationship you will only end up getting your heart broken. She sees in you what she WISHES her HUSBAND would portray not the other way around. Think about it for a second...

thegoon

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Is this girl too perfect to be real? Posted: 4/4/2006 7:05:25 PM
Well regardless of whether she's real or not (which it's my contention that she isn't) She has already lied to you. She told you that she "Was starting to form deep feelings for you". If that where true why is she still on several dating web-sites??? Think about it, reverse the roles and put yourself into her imaginary shoes... If she is that hott, why doesn't she have more pictures. Hott chicks love nothing more than to be photgraphed 1000x a second and post pics all over for the world to gawk at thier immense beauty. (sorry to all the hotties out there for generalizing) I for one call B.S. i wouldn't even deal with this chick anymore. Play a game of cat and mouse and if she doesn't chase she wasn't real to begin with.

thegoon

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Some advice please Posted: 4/4/2006 2:33:00 PM
I'd like to hear the other side of this story. I am hearing too much "Victim" coming from arealangel all the while she's on a dating site asking for a real man to come into her life who will respect her. I'm 100% sure you are doing things to piss your partner off. It's not my place to judge but I just don't buy that you are totally innocent. Now, with that said. Your buddy needs to work in his anger issues and maybe get a punching bag to take out his aggressions on. Throwing stuff around and yelling are really childish things and it shows a lack in development. "Bonds that make us free" by C. Richard Lewis... Buy it, read it, have your partner read it. Good luck and do yourself a favor and accept the blame where it's due.

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