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Joined: 12/30/2008

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Why the Rush to Coupledom? Posted: 2/14/2009 7:45:03 AM
rush, whirlwind.. bloody tornado!! Ive met with about 10 guys so far off pof. 1 didnt want to see me again after the first coffee- distance he said. the other 9 - my god - from - i havent felt like this in years" , "i think you're the one," can i see you tomorrow, etc etc.... how can men tell so fast that i might be "the one" and telling me that so soon only makes me want to back off, if they think thats the way to get me into bed its not, is it that if they have a "short list" of requirements- slim, healthy, decently intelligent, not on drugs etc that that's all they want by 40+ ? I honestly dont know if i should take it as a compliment or if I am being duped but its got my head spinning!

Joined: 12/30/2008

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Date A or B or neither??? Posted: 2/7/2009 11:26:44 AM
I have been fortunate to meet more than one , what I would call , "good men". Intelligent, quite attractive, solid fiancially, not much "baggage"., both very sweet, loving men who have expressed to me that they think I may be "the one" for them. I have seen both "A"and " B" 3 times each. I like them both, have enjoyed their company, but can't say I've left with wondering excitedly "when will I get to see him again" After the 1st date with each I thought- " well here's a real posibility" but after the second doubts crept in. "A" and "B" are both not very fit at all- one overweight, one underweight , A"doesnt seem to have anything much new to talk about , mostly talks about something to do with money or his late wife, seems to have only 1 or 2 friends, only hobby poker,reminds me a bit of Tony Soprano "B" a little more sociable but seems to get "tired" easily, hobby is woodworking, reminds me a bit of Mr. Rogers(Neighbourhood) Question- once a woman is over 45 is it too much to think that the "fireworks" feeling will happen like it did before? or should I be lookingmore at mutual comfort and see if something develops? I feel like the Oklahoma Girl " I'm Just a Girl Who Can't Say No" !! I dont want to hurt their feelings I dont want to string them along, but what if I am giving up on something possibly with a really good future? and would I know that by now if that possibly was him?

Joined: 12/30/2008

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What's so Wrong with Being Jaded? Posted: 1/14/2009 7:59:23 PM
if hes jaded maybe he needs to learn more about life

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long distance... Posted: 1/14/2009 7:56:23 PM
my mom lived miles away, then she died, that was further

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What's so Wrong with Being Jaded? Posted: 1/14/2009 7:53:24 PM
if he's jaded its bad if you're jaded you're careful!

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who recovers faster after a breakup men or women? Posted: 1/13/2009 12:47:35 PM
Between what I have experienced and what I have heard and read it seems to me that after a breakup the woman tends to move on and start dating - even if just chat or coffee, before men do and that a larger percentage of men get really disturbed, threaten to hurt themselves or someone, end up drinking or depressed . Opinions?

Joined: 12/30/2008

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in love with alcoholic Posted: 1/12/2009 6:34:06 AM
If you really felt this person was your soulmate, and you broke up, but he hit his "rock bottom and finally sobered up and asked to try again how long would you wait- til he was sober a year? til he had worked at one job full-time for a year? or never- just not any chance it could work?

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