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 Author Thread: looks or profile, what attracks you first?
 g360
Joined: 1/1/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/2/2009 2:28:14 PM
Good pics are typically always what are going to capture your interest initially. I think we're all guilty of that - there's nothing wrong with it. I've never reached out to someone without having read her profile and at least trying to get a sense of who it is I'm messaging.

I'm sure we've all had many occasions where we were drawn to someone's photos, only to realize there wasn't much in the profile - maybe a couple of lines - once clicking on it. Kinda difficult writing to someone and commenting on something within their profile that you liked, were drawn to or thought you had in common when they haven't left much, if anything, for you to work with.

In the same vein, I might find I'm really attracted to someone's photos, yet they've written the entire profile in CAPS. I never bother looking any further whenever I see that and simply move on.
 g360
Joined: 1/1/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
One day she's day...Next day she's gone...???
Posted: 7/2/2009 2:01:19 PM
It's lousy that people do that - both men and women - especially if you're communicating pretty regularly and/or have seen each other a few times and things seem to be going well.

What I find difficult to understand (yet fully believe) is that they were the ones to initiate the "I really like you, etc." dialog. That just makes no sense! If you're really into the person and hoping that it leads to something more, those are the types of things you're hoping to hear from someone - why wouldn't you think things are going well when someone tells you that? I think we'd all be left scratching our heads a bit and be asking the obligatory "what happened" or "what did I do". If you don’t really feel it, why bother leading someone on in that fashion?

It'd be nice if people would have the courtesy of telling you something like "I thought about it but realized that I'm just not as interested as I thought I was" (name your reason/excuse here) - at least you could use it (hopefully) as a learning experience and maybe a growth opportunity - but the reality is that very few every really do that sort of thing.

As discourteous as it may be, all you can really do is chalk it up to experience. In the end none of them were ultimately the one you wanted to be with long-term anyway. Look at is as their loss, not yours.
 
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