. He, of course always got what he needed....it was myself who did not. The ability of someone to be a good father, who they are as a person.....sometimes weighs heavier. But....like I said....over time...your priorities change on what you want from the relationship

For 3 months have been dating a woman who grew up in Russia, a rather good life I'm told. She seems to have a different attitude towards dating. I'm always the one making plans, calling, sending cute text messages, etc. with no reciprocation. Although I really like her and we have a great time together, I'm a little frustrated. She seems interested in me, but I can't tell if the behavior is typical hard-to-get or typical European.

You've lost any credibility as far as knowing what you want. Talk to him and find out what he wants. Then you can think over whether you can agree with that or not.

do him a favor and just move on, do yourself a favor and go fix your childish ways.

When a woman comes along who inspires us to do so.

So yes very, very important to make sure your potential partner has the compassion and empathy to be there for you, and help you go through your journey.

You cannot wait to be whole, as for many of us it is a process and you cannot let your life pass before you in waiting to perfect you.

My ex husband fell into that category and didn't know how to cope with my past.

It is interesting that you don't mind having too many friends, how about facebook? BTW all my postings were in jest, POF is a great place to start meeting friends, I think.

My only question is, have you ever heard a heartbreak?

Read POF forums a lot it will give you a headstart into the common "themes" and "problems" in the dating world and how to avoid pitfalls.

There are many people outside of your circle that are very dateable if you can learn to know people who are not like you.

The other part of your question, what might I have done differently, the only logical (and honest) question I can give, is that I wish I'd made MORE mistakes earlier, so that I could have had more of my life left to live with the benefits of what I've learned from them.

Honestly IMO when you compare someone to warm milk it isn't looking good in my experience.

I don't want to end up hurting him IF in conclusion, I find that I really don't feel any sparks with him.

How do I get to know him without diving in too deep?

I usually just ask questions about what they are interested in but it seems like it becomes a list. Example: What movies do you like? What are some of your favorite bands? Do you play any sports? What shows do you watch? So it becomes sort of a list but if I only ask one question it seems I didn't put enough time into the message. lol. How do I get girls to talk about themselves while doing in a creative way?

here's lotsa great guys who work a pretty regular job at your relative ages, but who have the smarts to end up set pretty well later in life. You just have to keep the faith, be supportive of a young man who gives his all to you, and recognize his efforts for what they are, where his interest in you is concerned...

then why does he keep leading me on then. He just emailed me yesterday! lol if hes taking the easy way out he would have not emailed me and said we would hook up again. Jeez, this guy is not a rebound to me. I am really digging him and sometimes people get nervous especially coming from where Im from.

I guess what I am hoping to find is someone who is the opposite of the last. I can live without this guy. I have my life together and I am stable. I just havent dated in so long its hard to start again. Im not a big fan of dating around with different men. When I find someone I really like, I stick to it. If he doesnt want to see me again he should tell me right? not beat around the bush, and Im not sure if hes doing that!

but I think those who are looking at the family with kids and all, may have missed the boat by their late 30's.

I don't see how it's selfish to be honest that time is passing the clock is ticking and you really are wanting to begin a family immediately.

It's honest, it's open and it's not selfish to desire to be a family or a part of one.

Why should it take years?

I'm not certain you're seeing the picture very clearly. And perhaps you're seeing it more from your own perspective than a woman's. And I'm guessing that the reason you're seeing it from your perspective is because you aren't wanting to be pushed or rushed into anything at all. Look you're 33 and not in a relationship that's committed or adult. You're a turtle mover.

Nothing wrong with that at all - but you're asking everyone to jump on your slow moving wagon and make it all about this female being selfish...

Instead of you being resistant to advancing in life....

which it could just as easily be.

If I'm wrong about you, isn't it possible that you're wrong about her?.

Kindly explain why a 44 yr old woman wanting children is worse than a man in his 50's, 60's and, yes we've seen them here, men in their 70's. There are plenty of threads by men wanting to start a late life family. Guess what - they've also linked older sperm to birth defects.

so you are smart and read alot of books. pssssssssst cmere kid here is a hint, the fckng world doesnt live in a book.

I can see by your profile you are a statistician by nature and would like to increase your probabilities in meeting a woman on POF.

Your profile made me laugh out loud ... mathematical calculations instead of what you like and who you are looking for ... and quotes in latin.

So why high tail it out of there the first you hear that she might be taking a turn in the road?

If she has come to mean anything to you at all - you should at least invest the next few months and see where it goes and how you feel then.

Your profile says nothing about you being in a relationship. Surprise surprise

He didn’t even walk me to my car.

she if 3 months pregnate and has a 2 year old kid.

So after talking to several guys - and most of them are just looking for FUN

I'd have to wonder at what age do guys grow out of just that fun stuff.

Even at 24 I've had my share of fun - I'm looking for something more stable in life. I'm not saying let's get married, but more so lets get to know each other and see and see what comes of it.

So again I ask... what age do most guys grow out of their play stage - and realize its time to have something a bit more real in life?

Either that or wait for women to approach you.

does this make me a no hope for a long relationship and can anyone help me with ways to improve myself in this regard

i have heard from a lot of girls that i am like a sweet, big teddy bear, even like winnie the pooh type personality. how can i use that to my advantage or change it to where girls still think i know i can be sweet to them in more of a just friends way?