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 Author Thread: When to say I was engaged before?
 Liliana_LC
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 23 (view)
 
When to say I was engaged before?
Posted: 11/26/2009 6:26:13 PM
This sounds to me like "OVER ANALYZE" something we tend to do so often....
I think you should be yourself and mention when the time feels right, just be natural about it, and let him think whatever he needs to think....

Life happens....One can never make conclusions, since every situation is different. You not being good enough..only one thing that comes to mind so many other possibilities......he cheated, you cheated, ect. Just go with the flow...!
 Liliana_LC
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Communicating every day
Posted: 11/21/2009 6:14:02 PM
Usually for me if it's in the beginning there seems to be that daily type communication for at least the first couple weeks, since we're getting to know each other.."can't get enough of each other phase" daily phone calls, and frequent outings.

Once you get settled into a relationship phone calls seems to cease perhaps day in between or 3x week type of thing, since there's more security in the relationship, it's more settled in. That's the way I usually go about it. But I def don't mind the calls if it's someone I'm interested in, it just shows they really want to get to know you and how else can you do that without seeing each other or chatting it up on the phone?
 Liliana_LC
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 217 (view)
 
WHAT'S THE WORST DATE YOU HAD ON POF
Posted: 11/13/2009 11:00:03 PM
Haha I love this thread, funny stories all around...

Haven't met alot of people off here, definitely under 5.

But one AWFUL date does come to mind. I guess I should of seen it coming, since the moment we exchanged phone numbers his behavior became extremely odd. He would call me and if I wasn't available to chat..he would give me a long speech on how I was "directly disrespecting him, and playing games, giving him the "run around". I tried to be a little tolerant, and give him the benefit of the doubt. I decided to give this a chance and meet up. We decided to go for drinks.

Physically he definitely wasn't my type, and looked nothing like his pictures. He would tell me he got that alot, and wasn't very photogenic. Terrible conversation, he thought a compliment was saying "I'd like to get you pregnant" which he kept saying the whole night. He insisted we go to his friends barbeque since it was his birthday and had to "show up for a bit". I decided to go with the flow, we arrive at this barbeque and his entire family is there including his three children. He introduced me as his GF to the whole room, and kissed me on the spot. I was in such shock I couldn't find the words. His sister who was half drunk kept grabbing me and telling me his life story and his baby mama drama. Needless to say I got out of there ASAP and cut off all contact with this lunatic....

LOL
 Liliana_LC
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Are there women/men who wait as long as 6 mos. before sex?
Posted: 11/12/2009 10:14:38 PM
Yes I've definitely waited this long. Not exactly planned before hand, but sometimes relationships progress at different rates. It was definitely fulfulling and interesting relationship, we connected on so many levels prior to it getting physical. A couple months are definitely important before taking that 1st step-atleast in my book.
 Liliana_LC
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 85 (view)
 
how many women have orgasms whil giving head
Posted: 11/10/2009 1:43:33 PM
Not on all occasions or with every partner....

But it does happen, I mean orgasms are strongly influenced by psycological factors. I've definitely experienced this, when you can cum at the same time with your partner...it's always wonderful ! :))
 Liliana_LC
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 75 (view)
 
What do you make of this? Is this BPD?
Posted: 11/9/2009 10:33:04 PM

There are sites that cater to that, check them out, hundreds of women will tell you that a horrible match is better than no match at all, you'll feel all warn & fuzzy.


LOL !
 Liliana_LC
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 74 (view)
 
What do you make of this? Is this BPD?
Posted: 11/9/2009 10:31:15 PM
Sorry to say this because I enjoyed your other post, but these aren't even REAL issues. Just sounds to me like a man that has ZERO respect and ZERO consideration for your feelings. I mean.....answering a phone call, and chatting with you a little more than 5 minutes during the week is not really "shooting for the stars" or being "clingy"...all these actions are the most basic in a relationship. And that time frame 2-3 months? Shouldn't this be the time when you can't get enough of each other? It doesn't even make sense.

I'm all for working things out and hanging in there but how can you do that with a man that is "emotionally unavailable" actually seems like he's just unavailable PERIOD. You mention these "hard times" he's supposedly going through that may be the cause of this behavior....but in all honesty don't you deserve someone who cares enough to want to include you in his life or at least clue you in into what's going on? Instead of shutting you out ? Sounds to me like he's irritated by everything you say or do. I'm not saying you shouldn't expect problems to arise in a relationship but these issues are just ridiculous.



sounds like he has a wife or gf somewhere too me instead of spending all your time and energy thinking about him and trying too cure him of any disorder he may or may not have why don't you think about yourself and question why you put up with it, i mean come on not answering his phone keeping you at a distance and a total lack of feeling towards your needs thoughts or opinions maybe he just wants you for sex at the weekends but has too put up with your personality which would explain why anything other than making him feel good annoys him, maybe he does'nt respect you for all the time and effort your clearly putting into the relasionship it sounds like he's getting everything his own way what would happen if you drew a line in the sand would he walk away? months is long time but short enough too still be considered the honeymoon period maybe you need a hobby because it doe'nt sound like he has much time for you except when it suits him you really have too question if he even cares for or respects you at all, some guys are not nice but then some women put up with it.


sorry but I'm inclined to agree with this guy ^^^^
 Liliana_LC
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Do you ever think about how much time you have left?
Posted: 11/9/2009 9:48:16 PM
I can definitely relate to this post! Even though I am relatively young, I keep coming across people who have such an "idealistic" view on love. They want this "dream partner" in this fairy tale romance.

When in all honesty in a commited relationship especially a marriage life gets monotonous, things fall into a routine, challenges come up, people inevitably fail our expectations, our partner fails to be there at times, things fall out of place, out of balance, we all have to face very real and serious issues in a LTR or a marriage. That's what unconditional love is all about...making it through.

I strongly dislike when a person proudly admits of being "picky" and "Selective" as if it were a good thing and the reason why they've been single for 10years plus. I mean that to me....just screams NO tolerance, no real grasp on being intimate with someone. I rather go through it all with a person but say I tried at the end if things eventually never work out. Instead of "jumping from person to person" like the OP stated.

True there are real reasons why sometimes LTR/marriages fall apart but in all honesty most people are just too lazy to put in the effort waiting for the next best thing/ or grass is greener on the other side mentality. Especially MY generation...that's another topic all together. Slightest problems and people bail out, there is no real respect for marriage anymore.

VERY good thread...Good luck to you OP! You have a very sweet way of viewing the world...that certain nostalgic feeling of knowing we only have a short time and we should really learn to love. That doesn't seem to be the behavior of a worry wart or whatever people have called you...instead it's symbolic of sensitivity.
 Liliana_LC
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 138 (view)
 
Is she too young for me?
Posted: 11/9/2009 12:41:43 PM
Relationships are very unpredictable. I don't think it's wise to analyze many factors and try to play it safe all the time by having the "ideal" circumstances"...

Because as we all know even in the best and safest of circumstances, relationships don't work. So I say...Go for it, Life is too short and give her the benefit of the doubt don't immediately jump into the relationship thinking she will be inmature, or unstable or not want to fully commit.

You may be pleaseantly surprised. Give the relationship a real chance and rid yourself of preconceptions!
 lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 35 (view)
 
How to know if he Likes you, Likes you
Posted: 10/29/2009 10:46:13 PM
he turned around to catch a glimpse of his "dream girl" before he truly left her side, he just needed to look at her one last time to see if it had all been REAL....

this means...he is..head over heels in love with you.
hahahahaha Maybe I've been reading too many romance novels...

but honestly what are you trying to figure out by this? doesn't really seem like anything important
 lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 39 (view)
 
when did coffee become a first date?
Posted: 10/26/2009 9:49:33 PM
Op: I'm glad you brought this up..sooo true...

I personally won't even go on a "first meet/date" unless I've connected prior via numerous emails or phone conversations so then IF we do actually meet up it doesn't have to be coffee in case one of us lied in our profiles LOL

All these people meeting for coffee without even exchanging last names I can see how that would be convenient...big turn off for me..
 lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Ladies what is more acceptable: divorced or never married as a guy at 39
Posted: 10/26/2009 9:22:13 PM

what coward might be afraid of a seemingly strong bungy chord even though it is known to fail 78% of the time... =)


that comment you make is exactly what I'm talking about...
mentioning statistics and this and that, you are already someone who doesn't believe in marriage, already bitter, sure that marriage will fail...

Usually if you wait that long to get married is because people share the same views with you on the subject.
 lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Ladies what is more acceptable: divorced or never married as a guy at 39
Posted: 10/26/2009 9:17:59 PM
This is a very interesting thread....

Since I date guys in their 30's, this is always something I think about.
And personally I would take the guy who has been divorced or been common law 10x than the one who is close to 40 and has never made that commitment to someone.
I think we can ALL agree that is speaks VOLUMES on who you are.... sure some words that come to mind...
cautious, waiting for the right time, responsible, blah blah but it also can mean other things such as... selfish, low tolerance, commitment problems, intimacy probs, and so forth.. I've dated both and find the man who has been through the experience of a divorce to be first of all MORE of a man since he has dealt with serious issues "Around the block if you will" there are just so many reasons...but main one depending on what you're looking for. If you happen to be more of the "career person yourself and not married at almost 40 then that would be a perfect match.

Again not making generalizations just speaking from experience...and preferences.
 lili_c
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 51 (view)
 
dirty things to say in bed
Posted: 8/23/2009 2:23:21 PM

when i'm on top i say babe, i wanna take care of your baby. girls love that

wow that would be scary to hear LOL !!
 lili_c
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Screamers
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:20:05 PM
I don't like guys that can't handle a couple screams in bed or somehow relate it to "faking" ....
I mean sure there def has to be a limit! you have to be considerate of the other person ear drum lol if neighbors can hear it my suggestion it's too loud! I had an ex who had major issues with this he would always roll his eyes and tell me there was no way in hell he was that good in bed! LOL go figure I agreed with him later on....what do they call that? self-prophecy LOL ...
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Flowers?
Posted: 8/21/2009 6:00:30 PM
Flowers, roses, ... yes anytime after the first date though! It definitely says a lot about a man who likes sending flowers even on a random day to let you know he's thinking about you. how sweet is that? I hate receiving flowers after a fight though! hate it .... it seems so manipulative to me. Like I'm suppose to forgive you because I get a bouquet of roses????
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Is he lying?!!
Posted: 8/21/2009 5:33:50 PM
OP: Why would you think he's lying to you? Don't understand the doubt, I mean you got him off, he enjoyed it, you enjoyed it, where does the insecurity lie? It was a nice compliment! Take it for what it is and roll with it
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Doesn't EVERYONE like oral sex?
Posted: 8/21/2009 5:10:36 PM
Ok so to make one point clear, I have no problems with sexual preferences, I don't! And I definitely wouldn't break it up w/someone over their inability to enjoy a BJ as some previous posts suggested, it's not a deal breaker! I was more curious to get some feedback from the guys, to see how common this actually was, if at all. I was intrigued as well to know if it was somehow connected to sex drive or indicative of a certain type of man.

I am surprised however at the replies that suggest oral sex is somehow degrading for a woman? I thought we were past that whole "women who perform oral are sl*tty" bit from high school.



I must say I'm a little surprised, not that i have taken a poll or anything but I honestly thought that all men LOVED BJ's...right up there with regular sex.... I have read a few things lately with men saying they don't always cum during oral sex......again... just sorta surprises me.

I agree.... I guess it's what these forums are all about... you learn something new all the time!


I would think because of statements like yours OP, men that AREN'T into oral sex would feel inadequate for saying so, and therefore don't say much if anything at all about their preference.

Hold on, what statements? They more,inquiries! Can't blame a girl for being curious!



I'm not sure why I did it. I think I partially want to flatter them and make them think that they are too good for just because of their looks. But another reason is that I'd rather be giving her head if she is really hot, than receive it myself.

what a weird reply? don't understand the logic behind it? attractive women are "too good" to perform oral?? huh

OP..he has mental issues dealing with his penis...you better check yourself into another hotel hun...this one has bugs
muahahahahaha
 lili_c
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Doesn't EVERYONE like oral sex?
Posted: 8/17/2009 10:48:14 PM
I'm a little confused....

Aren't all guys supposed to love oral sex? Or at least enjoy it? But to completely dislike it? Seems a bit odd to me,
I'm recently dating someone and the subject came up, and I was very surprised to learn that not only is he UNABLE to cum during oral sex but admitted to completely disliking it. Should I be concerned? Is this indicative of a low sex drive?

Or perhaps it can be attributed to his ex partners not performing to his satisfaction??? Does this say a lot about a man....?
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 45 (view)
 
It was my fault, but I want him back.
Posted: 8/2/2009 10:50:32 PM

Depends on the DVD and the brand of popcorn....


hahahhahahahhahaha
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 713 (view)
 
Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep?
Posted: 8/2/2009 8:48:57 PM
Completely unhygenic in my opinion

I can't believe some of the posts on here...well atleast my dog doesn't "bother me" and "ask for money", "leave a mess", "ask me for sex" ect ect.

I mean seriously??? Why in the world would someone compare an animal to a human being...OBVIOUSLY a dog will give you unconditional love and not require anything in return..it's wired that way...no matter who the owner is, "it" will behave the same way..

a human relationship...as many challenges as it may present...this person CHOOSE to be with you...how can you disrespect another person with a statement like "well too bad the dog was here first"?????? especially a man who wants to be a part of your life??

and honestly in the same bed??? To each it's own! But If I met a man who slept with an animal on the same bed....I would be turning the other way! and fast! It's okay to have a pet but why the "personifaction" factor...let the animal be an animal, don't use them as "comfort for a lost spouse?" when does it end?? can you say MAJOR issues!
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Shaved Armpits on a man.
Posted: 8/2/2009 8:09:28 PM
And you're a very fine, very attractive woman, too...


what a cutie, thanks for the compliment ;-) Like I say it's prefrences..but then again you can just ASK the girl that you're dating (in a not very obvious way of course) whether she prefers hairy/non-hairy...girls usually have a set opinion on that. and i'd say go for what your partner prefers...after all it's her who's gonna be enjoying/pleasing your body so she should have the say :))!

I tend to prefer more hairy type men....but I think I'm an exception most girls like bare chests, bare arm pits ect. (Neatly groomed though! Important clause!)
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 29 (view)
 
role playing..is it a turn on or no?
Posted: 8/2/2009 7:31:18 PM
a baby? hahahhahaha I had a good laugh with this thread!

Guess now a days there is a fetish for pretty much anything. To answer your question not only would it "turn me off greatly" but also feel sympathy for this poor man..that request has *issues* written all over. LOL!

In regards to role playing, I LOVE IT...one of my favs.. dress up as the bad girl, my bf the cop. ;-)
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Has any women ridiculed a guy during an intimate moment?
Posted: 8/2/2009 7:21:25 PM
Hmm this thread verifies guys are more sensitive than we think...ESPECIALLY when it comes to sex.

I would never ridicule anyone I'm having intimacy with, no matter what happened. But then again...there are some people that view sex in a very casual uncompromising way.

Dear OP, I definitely think this was an exception and the age when it happened could definitely be a factor. I don't think any decent woman would dare ridicule a man's performance. If satisfaction is an issue, I'm sure it could be brought up in later less *vulnerable* state, in a mature, encouraging way.

In addition, a man's ejaculation is influenced by many factors. It's not as black and white as people portray out to be.
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Shaved Armpits on a man.
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:53:27 PM
Completely shaven off??? Not a fan...perhaps trimmed off a bit is fine otherwise yes as you say..it can get a bit out of control.

Hair on a man's chest is good too ;-)) I guess it all depends on prefrences...I for one, wouldn't like a guy that shaves off his armpits.
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 95 (view)
 
I had girl ask me to suck anoher guys juices out of her is that gay act
Posted: 8/1/2009 11:01:53 PM
Geeez I'm all for carrying out kinky fantasies between a couple and what not...

But this is beyond...do you honestly have to ask if it's GAY? what do you think?
Obviously this is a very gay act indeed not to mention gross, can't believe this girl would be turned on by something like this.

I think you guys need help
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 270 (view)
 
what is your opinion on phone sex
Posted: 8/1/2009 10:44:49 PM
Def has to be w/someone that has experience, or is generally good on the phone and comfortable with the whole thing........then it can be amazing when the right buttons are pushed (no pun intended ;-)

Otherwise it's just ridiculous
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 29 (view)
 
This constantly happens...
Posted: 8/1/2009 10:26:04 PM
Girls like this are obviously only playing games...
They have no respect for you or their "boyfriend"... you should keep away from girls like this, since this behavior tends to repeat itself.

sometimes girls want guys for different things...if they already have a boyfriend perhaps they want you to fill a void in their lifes of something that's missing-emotional, financial, sexual, ect. But it usually has to be with someone that will play along..which ultimately causes lost of respect. so my suggestion keep firm, and cut off contact from these type of girls.
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
How to know if that person is truly interested
Posted: 7/29/2009 3:45:12 PM

So should I bring up to her about being serious with each other or not?


Yes, if you're sure you want to be in a relationship with this person. I definitely take a man more seriously if he opens up to me and lets me know what his real intentions are. Otherwise, I admit I lose respect because I think he doesn't know what he wants in life, or he just goes through life without any real purpose.

You'll get your answer either way, if she says no then you will know she wasn't serious in the long-term sense.
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Does kissing automatically indicate you're a couple?!?!
Posted: 7/29/2009 3:31:34 PM
Yes, yes it does. You are now in a fully commited exclusive relationship and are his forever.You now HAVE to marry him as soon as possible and live happily every after..........
Oh dear. I can't believe you seriously asked that question.


hahhahahhaha!!! Obviously the original thread question was made in a SARCASTIC tone!!!
Logically making out with someone doesn't immediately imply we're a couple. EVERYONE knows that! What I wanted some feedback on was MORALLY how much does kissing really commit you to? I didn't want to seem like a heartless person on my views/ideas on the subject. Especially since I wanted to remain friends with this person, and he made me feel a bit guilty.


Implications don't work when it comes to relationships. Conversation is required in order to validate couple-interest. A kiss means "I wanted to kiss you". Nothing more.
The OP is right, and the butt-hurt guy is wrong.


Seems like the OVERALL concensus...

some people take a kiss seriously...it is obvious you do not


No ...I don't really READ that much into a kiss... I feel everyone is a little too sensitive now a days...and everything one does has a special meaning....Casually Dating or not.... kissing is sometimes just that...
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 342 (view)
 
Hair pulling during doggystyle
Posted: 7/28/2009 11:19:29 PM
It's really not that extreme of a request! I personally love it...of course not to the point where it causes pain, but with enough force to make her feel it.


It's sexy when a man knows how to do this

trueeeee
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Does kissing automatically indicate you're a couple?!?!
Posted: 7/28/2009 10:54:27 PM

The standard of "WTF" questions has just been lowered once again!
Seriously, WTF?.


LOL! I admit the question is silly...but this guy gave such a speech on how kissing someone automatically commits you to something more, I felt I was lacking in sensibility.


Mature people discuss these things---they don't make assumptions.

I completely agree...I don't feel it's fair to accuse someone of intentionally leading on if no official commitments have been made.


But you should be mindful of what you do to lead a man to believe something you don't feel.

True, although being attracted to someone doesn't necessarily mean you want to be in a relationship with this person.


kissing with closed mouth = you like each other
kissing with tongue = true love
letting his wee wee touch your hoo hoo = WHAT?! Ewwww! No WAY... that's just GROSS!!!

LOL...love the sarcasm!


Tell him to grow up and enjoy a little fun. bah..... sissies.... god I hate them.

Exactly! Here I am dating guys in their 30's expecting this type of inmature behavior to be inexistent yet I come across these guilt trips over a few make out sessions.


As to the OP, I feel you got your answer. A kiss is but a kiss, but it's important, although uncomfortable, to do the talk of, "Hey, I enjoyed kissing you last night, but I still only want to be friends."

the akwardness of "casual dating" it never ends...lol
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Does kissing automatically indicate you're a couple?!?!
Posted: 7/28/2009 5:51:45 PM

So it might not be that a feller thinks you're establishing a higher relationship status, he just may never have considered you loose until you mention it to him.


I never said I sleep around...just didn't want someone to automatically assume I'm making some t ype of commitment if we make out...but then again good answer, I guess a kiss will inevitably always say more than words......

Thanks ;-)
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Does kissing automatically indicate you're a couple?!?!
Posted: 7/28/2009 5:21:51 PM

Sleeping with someone doesn't automatically make you a couple.


I guess this one is more complicated, because if you're already in some type of relationship...This step can definitely cause confusion for someone.

If it's a one -night stand or stg along those lines it's different.
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Does kissing automatically indicate you're a couple?!?!
Posted: 7/28/2009 5:18:23 PM
That makes sense...it's what I thought as well...

But I was recently in this situation...and I want to remain friends with this person, but he made me feel bad because he said "I led him on" ...

but yeah it should be automatically "assumed" just because you make out with someone it doesn't necessarily mean this person is commiting to anything!
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Does kissing automatically indicate you're a couple?!?!
Posted: 7/28/2009 5:12:33 PM
I'm interested in hearing some feedback? I was in a 3yr relationship a while back, I'm now in the "dating scene" if you will....and I want to know if kissing someone (french kissing) automatically commits me to a different level in the relationship...

For me sometimes it's just the excitement in the moment, but I don't really want to be in a relationship with this person...is it wrong for them to automatically assume we're a couple...or is it wrong on my part to kiss someone before I'm entirely sure I want to be with this person??? Can't a kiss just be a kiss sometime? Or is it naive for me to think that way?

Confused....
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 229 (view)
 
Astrology
Posted: 7/22/2009 10:26:57 PM

If you don't know what your moon sign and ascendants are, if you don't know how many planets are in what sign, then I don't give a crap about what your external viewpoint is about astrology, based on what you've heard others say about it,or what you've read against it, because you DON'T KNOW what it is.


I CONCUR!!
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 228 (view)
 
Astrology
Posted: 7/22/2009 10:23:51 PM

Prove it.... science is provable... can you prove astrology...? Can anyone? Can they provide reproducible results?


Research and thoroughly read your natal chart including your sun, rising and moon sign , house, planets ect.

And see for yourself...
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 225 (view)
 
Astrology
Posted: 7/22/2009 9:57:03 PM
Astrology is not a "belief" or a "hobby" It is an accurate science based on astronomy...

Horoscope and Astrology are not the same things at all, Horoscope supposedly "predicts your future" which is completely irrational.

I have read astrology for many years and it definitely is very TRUE no matter what anyone says.

It's not only the SUN sign take into account, that is like not reading the book just judging the cover.NOT all "cancers" or "taurus" are the same...AT ALL..

Very interesting subject to study.

I'm a sagittarius and although I don't necessarily believe I'm more compatible or less with one or the other, it's about what you are looking for at the moment in time.

 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 59 (view)
 
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 7/11/2009 2:16:21 PM

So, which is it, 6 months, or a couple weeks if he really means it?


Well for me, I would have date someone for ATLEAST 6 mos. to be sure of my feelings...no matter how "in love" I seemed to be, just seems after a few months the words have more meaning, stablitiy, validity.

If however I was dating a guy who happened to say the words to me, I wouldn't be totally turned off like some of the previous post suggested, if of course, at least a couple weeks had gone by....it's cute to be open and not afraid to say what's on your mind/heart.

But not too soon like after just a couple dates!! Especially not, when they're just so obvioulsy trying to get some! It's so obvious, sometimes
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 56 (view)
 
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 7/11/2009 1:04:21 PM
Definitely after being together for a while....for me, minimum of 6mos.

However it's cute when a guy will say it after only a couple weeks of dating ....if he really means it of course!

Not so cute if it's too soon!
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Who is bored....
Posted: 7/9/2009 10:17:10 AM

How crude some guy will compare woman's virginity/or no virgin to a commodity, well I personally thank God that I know how to motivate guys into nice clean fun and nice conversations other wise I will feel like an old Honda,test driving me all the time but not buying me..


hahhahahah!! well said!!
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
POF brings men and woman together?
Posted: 7/8/2009 11:06:30 PM
I don't think it can be defined as *bashing of the sexes* necessarily...

Just commenting on the differences that set us apart, bring us together, and make us confused as men/women and always will ,here on the cyber world, and in real life...

Other discussions are frequent as well not only gender based...

That's the way I perceive things
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 267 (view)
 
What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:09:04 PM
Well as a 20yr old, I have to sadly agree with this thread....

But what I don't understand is why the gender specifications? BOYS at this age are just or perhaps more inmature at times!!

Like a previous post mentioned, I do think it's how our new generation is being brought up...It's definitely irritating at times dealing with the lack of accountability, superficiality, or priorities being screwed up that so generally define our age group.

I definitely believe upbringing, society, technology and many factors are directly connected to this issue, like many in life, very complex.
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 65 (view)
 
dirty pictures
Posted: 7/8/2009 9:34:39 PM
I can't believe some of the replies on this thread!!!

I can almost guarantee many of the guys trying to justify this type of disrespectful action are the ones that do most of the sending !!

I don't have any " boob shots" or whatever everyone is saying provoked this "normal" behavior and I still get sent these UNSOLICITED shots.

And not in any way shape or form do I think it's acceptable to blame the OP for "provoking" this behavior no matter how revealing her pictures were, she definitely wasn't NUDE!! Like a previous post stated: "What would the difference be then when a girl is on a beach"??

This type of mentality is so common around the world today when a girl gets raped, or in other religions, when they're showing too much skin...it's always her fault for being too sexy, or too revealing...

The type of guys who do this are sick, deranged and PATHETIC. Period
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 33 (view)
 
am i boring?
Posted: 7/8/2009 8:58:34 PM
Again with it all the weird examples....

Not saying you have to go that extreme....

But different type of role playing, or a man that's not afraid to get a little dirty is sexy to me.... then again, some people are not into trying new things and prefer to go the "every day" route...so....whatever floats your boat I guess
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 30 (view)
 
am i boring?
Posted: 7/8/2009 8:37:29 PM
Why does everyone associate getting creative with your partner to all these sick things like weird fetishes, sex with animals, peeing on people, ect?

I personally, do think it's kind of boring dating a man that's not willing to try something different everynow and then...but then again that's why it's important to be with someone on the same page as you sexually & otherwise.

Actually this whole thread kind of turns me off
 lili_c
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Women's Favorite/Least Favorite Conversation Topics
Posted: 7/8/2009 1:21:30 PM
hahahahahaha LOVE it.....sadly holds alot of truth
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 43 (view)
 
FANTASY RAPE
Posted: 7/7/2009 7:29:24 PM
I would just like to say dayummnnnn to "Windloverr's" reply...

Call it what you call it, but the description does sound sexy...sign me up please!! lol

Mr.Windloverr should kindly offer classes to all men who aspire to be better ;-)
 Lili_C
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men?
Posted: 7/7/2009 6:19:35 PM
I don't know about the rest but when it comes to this subject... I'm definitely guilty in having an old-fashioned mindset on gender roles, and a preference as well.

I don't really like a guy in the kitchen all the time...and I feel if he's a REAL man he deserves to be treated special. I personally take pride in my cooking skills, and on the flip side I wouldn't want to date a guy who couldn't help me out if my car breaks down or doesn't know how to fix things around the house (all the "manly" chores) since I certainly can't lol.

The cleaning issue is different however, if he can't pick up after himself then he's considered a slob in my books...nothing sexy or put together about that

In conclusion, I agree with a previous post it's important to be with someone who shares similar values on the subject.
 
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