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Joined: 1/2/2009

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What's all this about opening the door for ladies business? Posted: 1/30/2009 12:02:48 AM
Doors smoors! A real man's man would trudge across the moors in a torrential downpour to rescue me. Heathcliff, where are you?

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girls, how should a guy warn you when he is about to finish the 1st time? Posted: 1/28/2009 6:53:29 PM
Nothing like the crescendo of guttural sound effects!

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If you had a chance to leave CA, would you do it? Posted: 1/28/2009 6:15:50 PM
I probably would leave California, at least for awhile, if I didn't have the remainder of my family here. I've lived in both the north and south of the state. They both have their good and bad points, but they are as different as night and day. I'm not sure where I'd move to if I had the opportunity, but it would be somewhere with better job opportunities and a lower cost of living. California's out-of-control spending and lack of insight is ruining the state's economy and driving us to bankruptcy. The housing market is flooded with REO properties, but lender's aren't lending. Consequently, housing prices continue to fall. Guess California isn't the Golden State anymore.

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I guess I just called my girlfriend fat Posted: 1/28/2009 5:32:15 PM
Help me understand this, OP. You're a personal trainer who insinuated (intentionally or not), in a public place, that your girlfriend (who I guess you care about) is fat. And she "shushed" you (probably because she was angry, hurt, and embarassed), but you are upset with the shushing? And to make matters worse, you didn't even know the inferences in that rhyme, but tossed it out there anyways? I'm guessing that you must have had some clue that she was sensitive about her weight. I mean, she is trying to lose it, right? Were you thinking that you were being supportive of her efforts or conscious of her feelings while you had this little conversation? You are her boyfriend, right? Instead of giving her some time to withdraw from the conversation though, you got angry. What!?! Am I missing something? Did you really want to continue talking at that point? Were either of you ready to hear what the other was going to say, while both of you were fuming? Instead of waiting until you were both calmed down to discuss things (like two people who care about each other and their relationship), you go and look up the nursery rhyme to see if you were right?? Incredible! Did it not occur to you that an apology and an explanation of what you thought the poem meant might be a bit more productive? It would have also have given you the opportunity to bring up the ongoing "shushing" issue that is bothering you. Where do you think your relationship will go, OP, if you value being " in the right" more than you value being together? Hope all works out well for the both of you.

Joined: 1/2/2009

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BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 1/24/2009 5:54:10 PM
For me the hardest part about being full figured is being marginalized by some people because of my weight. I KNOW I'm a fun, funny, good-hearted, intelligent, and sexy woman, but I've been hurt by those who think that they can judge who you are based solely on looks alone. Now I know it's human nature for people (especially men) to be visually oriented, but looks are not the sum total of a person. Looks are merely the wrapping paper. Personally, I'm more interested in the gift. Maybe it's just that I'm a woman. It seems to me that women are more forgiving in the looks department. I don't know. What I do know is that there are many people (men and women) who think that being overweight shows a lack of self-control or will power. They will tell you all about how to eat and exercise. Some will even ridicule you and use derogatory and intentionally hurtful words to describe you. This has never motivated me to lose weight. Never. I don't understand why some people are so incredibly judgmental. If it's a matter of personal taste...fine...go seek what you want, but there is no need to try to rip into another person's self-esteem. And please don't attempt to "fix" a full figured woman with helpful advice (unless asked). That is often counterproductive, at least in my case. There are so many reasons why a person might gain weight and/or retain weight that it is overly simplistic and incredibly ignorant to put all of the blame on the individual, as so many like to do. There are probably several contributing factors. That's why diet and exercise alone just aren't the cure all. I, personally, have struggled with a number of factors that have effected my weight. I lost my parents and grandparents within the space of ten years, emotionally devastating me. I took care of my mother for nine of those years. I eventually had to quit my job to take care of my mother full time. Stress and depression were my constant companions. I ate for comfort and an attempt to assauge my grief. My own health was put on the backburner out of necessity, and so it was no surprise when I was diagnosed with type II diabetes (it runs in my family) and depression (also runs in my family). So does obesity. Some of the medications I must take "may cause weight gain" and my metabolism isn't what it use to be. Even the economy effects my choice of foodstuffs and my weight (cheaper foodstuffs are often loaded with carbs), but I've been trying to stretch the buck, so I don't dig into my meager savings. I offered my own little tale in the hopes that some who read this might have a little more understanding and sympathy for the less-than-svelt. I didn't gain my weight because I was lazy or a glutton. And I am working on losing, but it's not going to come off overnight. I can accept that; I wish others could. Try to be nice to the big girls. We have big hearts and big dreams, too!!!

Joined: 1/2/2009

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Men that brag about money in an attempt to attract woman. Posted: 1/24/2009 2:59:57 PM
In dating, as in fishing, what you catch depends on the bait. But please guys, don't whine about golddiggers if money is your bait. Isn't that what you're going to attract? And gals taking that bait ought to suspect that there's a hook in there somewhere.

Joined: 1/2/2009

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Wealthy men give women more orgasms Posted: 1/19/2009 10:39:12 PM
To me, it is the size of the imagination that matters most...not the wallet. And Duckman, silk sheets feel better than satin or nylon, but I've never had more (or less) orgasms based on the material of the sheets.

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Are people still roleplaying as much these days? Posted: 1/19/2009 7:25:41 PM
I hope so. I still have my kitty costume. Halloween has always held a special place in my heart! But it's great fun to play with someone creative and imaginative. That really makes me purrrrrr!!!

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Msg: 147 (view)

Do you believe a woman when she says ... Posted: 1/19/2009 6:00:48 PM
OP, please tell me you aren't serious. Women don't need fainting couches anymore. We like much more than shopping. I have never scrapbooked in my life. I do love bowling, shooting pool, and fishing. No I'm not pretending. And I do not believe these are things just guys like to do. I also love opera, theatre, and ballet, but I'll bet I can still outfish you!

Joined: 1/2/2009

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Bf unemployed for 4.5 months... Posted: 1/19/2009 5:33:16 PM
Sorry to say it, but this guy will run you into debt and ruin your credit. If he quit a perfectly good job to advance his career, but has done nothing but sponge off you for the past 4+ months, he isn't seriously looking for anything but a Sugar Mama. Do you really want to shackle yourself to a man that won't make much effort at home and has no job prospects? Be thankful that you aren't married to him and/or have children with him. If you really want to know how serious he is about finding work then tell him flat out that you will no longer be resposible for his bills. Don't let him "play house" with you. Draw a line in the sand. I'm betting he either runs home to Mom and Dad or he finds a new girlfriend to support him. Either way, you're better off.

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why do people stay on POF after meeting someone? Posted: 1/19/2009 4:55:04 PM
I'm just looking for friends, so I enjoy chatting with people. I also love the forums. That's one of the neatest things about POF. The forums are great!

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older women younger men Posted: 1/16/2009 11:35:47 PM
In my particular case, it worked out great! He approached me. I was a little hesitant because of the age difference (BIG), but he assured me it was fine. And it was! I think it really depends on what both people want out of the relationship. For me, it was pure play and fun. He liked older women. It worked for both of us.

Joined: 1/2/2009

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How to Dominate? Posted: 1/15/2009 2:54:39 PM
Wait..... a submissive can negotiate; a slave can't. There are some very big differences there!!! Plus there are many shades of grey between lifestylers and play partners. Open discussion with any potential partner is the place to start, in my opinion, and there are many people who find their kink in just this way. Have fun! So nice to see some kink in the threads!

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How can you tell you are over someone? Posted: 1/8/2009 9:18:19 PM
When I'm not under them. This was "borrowed" from Friends.

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would you date an actor? Posted: 1/7/2009 11:46:34 PM
Oh Yeah, if it's Johnny Depp.!!! That boy has cheekbones you can camp under. Delicious!

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Favorite Hell-Raisin' Songs Posted: 1/7/2009 11:24:55 PM
Rebel Yell....Billy Idol This one always makes me wanna dance.

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Is my husband odd or just a real kinky guy Posted: 1/6/2009 12:13:05 PM
Or read him some erotic literature.

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