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littleone12484

Joined: 1/4/2009

Msg: 79 (view)

The fear of military men? Posted: 7/5/2009 12:25:37 AM
I have different feelings on this, I would date a man in the military in a second, not because of the "man in uniform thing" because I don't believe in that, but because I think enlisting and serving our country is a very brave and honorable decision to make, and something about a guy like that, would make me feel very protected, and proud of my man. However my concern would be how I would do with deployments. I know I wouldn't cheat, because that is the ultimate form of disrespect in my eyes, but I don't know how I would be able to handle knowing that he's going away to war for months at a time, and there's a chance that he might not come back. But then again I've never been in a relationship with someone in the military, so for all I know, I could be strong enough to handle it. But at the end of the day, the fact that they were in the military wouldn't turn me off.

littleone12484

Joined: 1/4/2009

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maybe he didnt look like he does in his pic? Posted: 7/5/2009 12:10:35 AM
He could be a clingy guy, I've run into quite a few of those myself, but another thing to look into is the fact that this website is free, and it's probably very easy and entertaining for people that have nothing better to do with their time than to come on here, and lead people into thinking they're serious, when they're really not. I remember going to college with a guy that got fooled online by a girl, that proposed him and claimed she was a street racer and made $25,000 a night, and when it came time to meet him, she had every excuse for why they couldn't meet. She lived in another state, and strangely she broke her arm before the day before she flew out, and then her mom passed away. This guy fell for it, and bought a plane ticket to Florida, only to get played, so it's sad to say but you can't always trust who you meet on a site like this. You really never know.

littleone12484

Joined: 1/4/2009

Msg: 1151 (view)

If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 7/4/2009 11:57:57 PM
It all depends if they seem to be accidental typos, I'm okay, but if the entire message is written in slang, or mixing both capital and lower case letters, I will read it and delete it. First impressions make or break you, and emails like that, give me the impression that a guy may not be as mature as a guy I'd look to date. I think most of us are old enough/mature enough to use proper grammar, especially when we're contacting someone we're interested in dating.

littleone12484

Joined: 1/4/2009

Msg: 18 (view)

does he deserve a second chance Posted: 4/5/2009 1:13:53 PM
I understand what you're saying now, and I have contacted him, and at least expressed intrest in continuing to get to know him, and if he responds after everything that went down, I will bring up potentially meeting again. If he doesn't respond, then there's more fish in the sea :)

littleone12484

Joined: 1/4/2009

Msg: 16 (view)

does he deserve a second chance Posted: 4/5/2009 12:44:17 PM
Sorry, but if some woman stood me up, I don't think I'd be going out of my way to ask her out again. Yes, we know all the excuses, but at the end of the day, you didn't show up for a date. I said it once and I'll say it again, lose the BS pride. If you really like this guy, show some initiative on your part and and YOU ask him out. First and foremost the fact that I was in a parking lot, in the general area trying to call him clearly shows, I had no intentions of standing him up. Secondly in my defense, I gave him my number, and went back to my sent messages to confirm that I had given it to him, so after a 15 minutes when I wasn't there, why not call me to see if I'm on my way???? Maybe it's different for guys, but the reality is, this is online dating, and no matter how much you talk, you really don't know who the other person is until you meet in person, and I feel like any girl that was going out to meet someone she met online for the very first time, would have her guard up, if all of a sudden, she gets the wrong number while she's on her way to the "date" I'm not claiming I'm not at fault, I'm just as much at fault, I should have called the night before or the morning of to confirm things, and then I would have figured it out, that I had the wrong number, which would have eliminated the confusion all together.

littleone12484

Joined: 1/4/2009

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does he deserve a second chance Posted: 4/5/2009 9:51:36 AM
Thank you all for the input! I can see everyone'se point of view on the issue, at the end of the day it was miscommunication, and in my eyes 7897 instead of 7987 is a pretty forgiveable mistake. I reacted the way I did because he was the first guy I would have met on a dating site, so I was already nervous, on top of that I had been driving around for a half hour trying to find the place, so when I got the wrong voicemail, the first thing that went through my mind was that he wasn't who he said he was. But I figure like a lot of you say it could be a case of he's just not that into me, so I emailed him, and let him know it was miscommunication, and I'd love to continue getting to know him, and meet up one day, but I'm going to let him take, the lead, and if he's into me, he'll ask me out and if not then it's time to move on :)

littleone12484

Joined: 1/4/2009

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does he deserve a second chance Posted: 4/4/2009 11:24:18 PM
I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible, I don't know how successful I'll be with that though, so bear with me. I met a guy on here about a month ago, he sent me a message, and I responded, it was as if we instantly clicked, we were close in age, into a lot of the same things, and most importantly being new to the state we were both looking to make friends outside of work. we started emailing each other daily, and IMing each other. I finally gave him my number once I felt like he could be trusted, and then asked if he wanted to hang out. He couldn't hang out that weekend, because he was meeting someone else he met on the site. He told me he hoped it didn't turn me off and that he had good intentions, he just wanted to meet new people. I didn't mind, at all. Well all of this week we talked about being excited to meet up and go bowling and even joked around about who was going to win. Well today gets here, and I attempt to go to the bowling alley, but end up getting lost, so I pull into a parking lot and call him, only to get the voicemail of some other guy. So I immediately go home. I get online to see if maybe I made a mistake and saved the wrong number, which I didn't. But within a minute he IM's me telling me the MSU won......he didn't question that I didn't show up, or seem angry, because if he went I'd assume he'd be thinking that I stood him up. On top of that, he didn't bother to call me, and claimed he didn't have my number, which I went back and looked at my sent emails and know I gave him my number......I kind of gave him the cold shoulder because I didn't know if he was playing games or not. Finally we realize he gave me the wrong number, 7987 instead of 7897, which I can understand that being a mistake. But wouldn't a guy be upset that he got stood up, or would you guys just go back to talking to a girl like nothing ever happened, and talk about sports?? When I asked why he wasn't mad or why he didn't bring it up, his response is that he doesn't get mad very easily..... He could have forgot that I gave him my number, and if he really did, shouldn't he have asked for it, when we finalized our plans to meet?? I guess my question is, is any of this typical behaviour of a guy? and secondly after we talked, he told me he was telling the truth, but we all know that online dating has a stigma, so I don't know if this something that I should forgive, and give him a second chance or, move on. As a male, what do you think, and how would you feel if you were in this situation?

littleone12484

Joined: 1/4/2009

Msg: 339 (view)

rude emails that spoil your POF experience Posted: 1/30/2009 10:04:33 PM
How ironic, I get a message on here, and it's a guy telling me "I bet you suck **** really good" and then I come to the forums, and see this post. But I have to agree that the polite messages outweigh the rude ones, and honestly that was the first rude email I've received. I don't bother taking it to heart, and I know that POF being a free site is open to everyone, including those immature people that have nothing better to do with their time.

littleone12484

Joined: 1/4/2009

Msg: 37 (view)

Why So Long???? Posted: 1/20/2009 10:19:56 PM
I agree with you completely. Just the other night a guy IM'd me out of the blue. We didn't know anything about each other besides what we did for a living before he asked when he could take me out. I politely told him that I needed to get to know him, before he'd be able to take me out, then he starts begging for my number. Call my old fashion, but when it comes to meeting people online, and potentially dating them, I'd like to know about them, and be comfortable with them, before jumping into dating only to find out he's too pushy or wants to move a lot faster than I do.

littleone12484

Joined: 1/4/2009

Msg: 313 (view)

rude emails that spoil your POF experience Posted: 1/11/2009 10:19:18 AM
I have only received one rude email, from a random guy that told me that I wasn't attracted to black guys anymore, and that I shouldn't be dating out of my race. I had never even had a consation with this guy, so I didn't understand why he would randomly email me saying that, but I didn't take it to heart, and just blocked him.

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