I simply do not like talking on the phone.

He made a huge deal of telling me upfront in his emails that he wasn't looking for anything serious, but that he also wasn't one of those guys who leads women on or sleeps around. He wanted me to be aware of his intentions upfront.

His emails seemed pretty clear. He wasn't one of those FWB guys and he didn't want a relationship.

Any good parent knows that kids ALWAYS come first, it should be a given...I personaly feel off when I see it on a profile.

My main pic is about six months old. Since then I have lost about 35lbs. I now go to gym 4-5 times a week.
I have'nt changed my pic on purpose. I am trying to weed out the superficial ones. Is this wrong? Should I update?

And FWIW, my first divorce took three years, not six months. This was AFTER the papers were filed.

You might feel just friends with a guy after a meet and greet, that culminated in him asking for another date. but she doesn't feel just 'friendship' for him obviously.

I don't feel 'just a friendship' with a guy who I've gone on a meet & greet with, with the intention to move forward into an intimate dating relationship. my feelings towards my friends is very different than the feelings I have towards a guy I'm attracted to. For starters, I don't ever intend to have sex with my friends. and I don't care if my friends date people.

If I meet a guy and feel 'just friendship' towards him, even on the first meeting, then guaranteed it's going nowhere, because he's been 'friendzoned'.

.i dont think men truly will settle down with someone right after getting done with a divorce because they havent had a chance to even relax and date and breathe....i think they just date to keep themselves occupied and because their lonely or horny....i would recommend letting them go until they get everything out of their system, you'll just end up with a broken heart and being dumped later on...

Really?? So that wouldn't bother you..not one little bit..if it were you in her shoes? Are you sure about that?

the concert shouldnt be off limits because he didnt go with you, after all you went and had a good time with your friends....the way i see it is, unless you are in a committed relationship then you can see or go wherever you choose...once you two decide to make it serious then he would have been in the wrong. i wouldnt have said anything...it just made u look like u were mad and uptight....i would have brushed it off and if he was worth going out with, went on a date somewhere else...

I think women are more concerned about dating men who are separated. IMO, and it is only my opinion with no scientific evidence to back it up, women are more likely to want a stable LTR.

I might have more credibility in a listing of separated then divorced. A lie is a lie and once they go down that path what makes one assume they would lie about separated any more so than divorced?
If they are honest enough to list separated knowing it brings up possible questions and doubts, then perhaps they are showing honesty against the ease of a lie.

The important issue is the lie. The lie is wrong. This is not to condone the lie but rather explain it.
A vast amount of, primarily, women on these forums have stated they will not date "separated" only will date "divorced" hence the reason for the lie. A person might be a truley separated, no chance of reconciliation and wanting to move on. Aforementioned might feel a need to list "divorced" as too many state they will not even reply to someone who lists "separated". Therefore they see their only recourse as to lie about the status. Again not an excuse for what they do, it is lying, just an explanation.
Personally I choose to be honest and list my status. It greatly limits my possible connections, however the honesty is important to me.
Of note for you though is this:
Just as you feel listing "separated" is not what you want or that listing it might be dishonest as they may have unfinished business. Remember a truly dishonest person may list "divorced" and it be a complete lie. I might have more credibility in a listing of separated then divorced. A lie is a lie and once they go down that path what makes one assume they would lie about separated any more so than divorced?
If they are honest enough to list separated knowing it brings up possible questions and doubts, then perhaps they are showing honesty against the ease of a lie.
Why would you be against truly "separated" people as you formed a good enough relationship with one to marry them?

So now you've learned a lesson, you've had an experience.

What do you do with the experience?

Date who you want to date, but at least make some efforts to use PoF correctly- send emails, build a rapport, then ask them what they mean by "divorce" explaining your story above.

Are you someone who just sees a profile, accepts it, likes the photo, and goes on a date? You're not using the tool correctly. PoF is the tool- use it.

You have a PhD, so clearly you can count to potato, ask questions in advance- stop entering blindly into situations.

If you've had 4 out of 5 guys with this situation, and you haven't learned something by then (clearly you haven't, no offense, but you wouldn't be in the forums if you had), then something is wrong. Use PoF correctly.

Use PoF Correctly.

In closing- Use PoF Correctly.

P.S. Use PoF Correctly.