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footballmom77

Joined: 1/5/2009

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Why Didn't You Get Married When You Had Your Children? Posted: 7/8/2009 9:54:01 PM
^^^ Gadget, wow, some women are real a88holes huh? And you are actually open to meeting someone new? Good For You! I think your open-mindedness, your compassion and your strength are great attributes and I wish you the best! It's not a great quality to pre-judge a person or situation, even though sometimes you may hear parts of it and think you "know it all". None of us are perfect and it's sad to me when I see people judging other people, or boldly pointing out people and questioning them like they're no good idiots who have no morals. People aren't perfect, they make mistakes and sometimes even do things they regret. But to recognize those faults and to openly admit them in a forum like this takes courage and can even be a helpful part of a healing process, so sometimes I wish some posters on here would lighten up and not question every little thing that people say that may not sound "right" to them. A lot of people have a strong set of morals and ethics, but throughout their lives may have taken a bumpy road here and there or lost site of their path, but that doesnt make them horrible people. Again, life isn't easy, and sometimes the best lessons learned are the ones we learn the hard way.

footballmom77

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This is kind of explicit... Posted: 7/8/2009 9:35:24 PM
I recently read an article about how guys are pickier in what women they consider physically hot than women are when it comes to guys. Can you refer us back to that article because I seriously doubt that. In my experience, it's quite the opposite. Maybe guys are picky about who they will 'get serious' with, but as far as attraction and sex, I know a lot of guys who will point out a less than hot woman and express how he would bang her if she let him. YUCK!

footballmom77

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but WHY do guys love it when a girl swallows? Posted: 7/6/2009 9:30:55 PM
If at that last momment the stimulation is stopped or removed, the orgasm is not as intence. This is where I get confused,,,, not just this comment, but several people mention something similiar. What is the difference when a man pulls out to 'go' on her face, or if they are having sex and he pulls out to put 'it' somewhere, doesnt that distrupt the flow of the orgasm for him as well??

footballmom77

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Interracial dating & single parents Posted: 7/5/2009 9:59:24 PM
If I have a family gathering, for example, I wonder how a fully white, black, or Latin child of mine would react to my Chinese side of the family. The child will react the same way you do, especially over time, so if you are weary and worrying and wondering what other people say or how a CHILD will react to your chinese side of the family, try to remember, children are taught to discriminate. They aren't born that way and when they are kids, everyone is the same to them. Someone has to teach them to not like other ethnicities. The great part about being in a childs life is that it gives you some power to make a difference in our world, by raising a child to be a better person than half the closed minded, racist jerks that are out there ;-)

footballmom77

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Interracial dating & single parents Posted: 7/5/2009 9:53:58 PM
Well, if you did get with that girl OP, what other people thought really shouldn't have mattered right? I mean, for all the strangers know, you two could have adopted that child. Or the child could have been yours, but looked just like the mom? I mean, if you meet someone and you fall for them, I wouldnt let what other people might think get in your way of happiness.

footballmom77

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Why do women scratch your back and bite your lip during sex? Posted: 7/5/2009 9:43:50 PM
just a guess here, but i think younger girls tend to do the back scratching thing. for some reason, when you are a teenager just learning about sex, somehow that rumor goes around about if you scratch his back it will be good sex, and he can show his buddies how he got laid type deal because the scratch marks will prove it. Maybe OP is doing a bunch of youngens,,,, I mean, I might do a little nibbling but i totally stopped the back scratching thing when I was like 19.

footballmom77

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Marriage vs LTR Posted: 7/5/2009 8:06:25 PM
I know a guy (he is divorced btw) that states that "marraige isn't anything but a piece of paper and he would never get married again!!!" - BUT he has a second child with a woman that he lives with and has been with for years. After his bold statement, I asked him "so I take it your not married" and he says "hell no!" - but then I procede to find out he has the girlfriend at home with the kid, living in his house. So, my point here is that he lives with her, has a kid with her, it's his girlfriend, but because he doesn't have that "peice of paper" he acts as though he is free to date other woman, act unmarried, act like he isn't in a serious relationship. My thoughts are, since it's "just a piece of paper", according to him, couldn't he technically be married then?

footballmom77

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Astrology Posted: 7/5/2009 7:58:04 PM
I don't think I could make a bet about astrology, but it is interesting how it does work out that we are more compatible with some signs than others. My two very serious relationships were both with Scorpios. I had a 3 year relationship with an Aries, but honestly, I dont know why were together for that long because I never really felt a really big connection with him, compared to how I did with the Scorpios. I read the astrology guides and learned I was very attracted to Scorpios, Taurus', Cancers and other Pisces. And what do you know, the few guys that I have dated ended up being Pisces, Cancer and Taurus. I purposely dont let myself date Scorpios because my last relationships with Scorpios were very bitter sweet and ended badly and I dont want to get hurt like that again (and I am sure the non-astrology believers here will think that is LAME, lol). So, OP, it can be entertaining, but I am not sure we will ever have PROOF that there is something more to it than mystery and wonder.

footballmom77

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Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control? Posted: 7/5/2009 8:21:22 AM
The OP said birth control and didn't limit that to just the pill. The Mirena implant I have cost just over $600 and the procedure was nearly as complex and abrasive as a male vasectomy. SO, once again, I want to say that I wish that all men understood the trouble some of us woman go through in order to stay protected. It can be expensive, hormonal, painful and sometimes we just need to give our bodies a break, considering they werent made to be on a birth control method, the were made to be fertile and to reproduce. If your woman needs a break from her method (shes been different methods for years, her body needs a break, the doctor takes her off, she bleeds constantly) then fellas, PLEASE pick up some condoms to avoid pregnancy. And remember, she will be MOST fertile right after coming off the pill, so in that case, be EXTRA careful.

footballmom77

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Vagina Size Posted: 7/4/2009 5:16:24 PM
A pelvis is a bone. Vaginal walls are muscle, so No, these two points are not related. Well, some women can take a fist into their vagina because there pelvis BONE is large enough to allow a fist to past through, therefore the vagina can be stretched to accomodate the fist. While other woman have a pelvis BONE that is much smaller and they cant even take a few large fingers. Another example you can use instead of fist is a babys head. My son couldn't dialate me more than 3 inches during labor because my pelvis is to small. SO, I do believe they are related, Sir. And what exactly would a woman COMPARE her 'feeling' to? A woman may know her body very well, but whatever feeling she had would be 'normal' for her, wouldn't it? If I woman grew up on THIS planet and isn't 'completely stupid' she would still need something to compare it to... or have someone who has a way of comparing such things tell her. OK, so now we need to have a penis to be able to tell if our vagina's are large? If you put a tampon in and it falls out, you have a large vagina. If you man is doing you and you really cant feel it and would rather his fist, you have a large vagina. Woman know these things. They may not walk around admitting it, but they know. You could also learn things from all sorts of resources, including porn and having an active sex life, reading, pregnancy and more. So again, a woman would have to be pretty dumb if she had a large vagina and didn't know it. And I never said 'feeling'. BUT to answer you fairly, if you couldn't tell if it was in with that woman you mentioned, dont you think she felt the same way? Remember, woman are good at faking. And if a woman isn't feeling sex, trust me, in time she will have talked to her friends or whatever to find out WHY sex isn't working for her. It doesnt take a rocket scientist to figure out "wow, i can hardly feel that, and he is average size, gee, maybe my vagina is loose" - now some woman dont take care of themselves and/or dont care to take notice in these things, but for the most part, we do take care of ourselves and are very intune with all the lovely female parts that we have. Believe me! It really doesn't. If you do Kegals Constantly and daily believe me it works. Its so funny reading peoples posts saying having children makes you lose down there. excellent point, any woman who has gone through pregnancy knows about kegals. I had c-sections and still know about them and still do them. Any woman who doesnt, being a woman, I would suggest is a bit on the slower side of life.

footballmom77

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Vagina Size Posted: 7/4/2009 11:49:32 AM
Small Penis = Genetics Loose Vagina = out of shape vaginal walls... Most of the problem is from birth, genetics, and a lack of awareness that there's even as issue. There are EXERCISES (kegal) that can tighten a vagina. The only way a woman will ever know is if someone tells her. well dont some woman have like a bigger pelvis that would lead to her feeling larger than one with say a tiny pelvis? and i highly doubt a woman needs to be told about her vagina in order to realize its large. i mean unless she grew up on another planet or is just completely stupid. woman tend to know their bodies pretty well and i am sure she can tell she has an issue if she cant feel sex very well. Usually women who sleep around a lot suffer from large vaginal holes. well, that's a bold statment. what about the woman that simply gets nailed by her big penised man every day and night? why does a woman have to sleep around to have a lot of sex?

footballmom77

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Cum on food? Posted: 7/4/2009 10:17:42 AM
"hunny, would you mind jacking off so i can dress my hamburger patty?" LOL that was freaking great LOL

footballmom77

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Cum on food? Posted: 7/4/2009 10:16:41 AM
um,,,,,,, thinking i am not quite understanding this one. this just goes to show the difference between being KINKY and having a FETISH.

footballmom77

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Why Didn't You Get Married When You Had Your Children? Posted: 7/2/2009 6:13:39 PM
Bosoxfan, thanks for the advice on the Mirena,,, its new and the last time I had the other kind it was nothing but problems for 2 years, but this one seems to have little side effects, thank god! hopefully it will come in handy some day soon ;-)

footballmom77

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Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control? Posted: 7/2/2009 2:13:36 PM
hell yea, and they should also take some hormone supplements to realize what it feels like to be on the pill... it's soooo amazing to me how most men just "expect" a woman to take the full responsibility for preventing pregnancy. Pulling out is NOT a form of birth control either guys. OH, and the guys should have to remind her every day to take the pills, or get a dummy shot everytime she needs an injection or they should have their nuts scraped with a scapel everytime we have an implant put in. They should also foot have the bill for the time missed from work to see the doctor for said BC options. From my experience, men have no idea how much of a chore "protecting both of us" can be.

footballmom77

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Funniest comments made during sex..... Posted: 7/1/2009 8:33:40 PM
Dang it I cant think of any, but i laughed pretty darn hard at some of these!

footballmom77

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Single parent brag! Posted: 7/1/2009 8:13:25 PM
Let's see, what can I brag about? Well, my son is weight training 3 mornings a week this summer with some of the best high school football coaches in the country. He'll be playing for a team that played the National Champions in the playoffs last season, so I'm VERY excited and proud of him. My little one has the cutest biggest blue eyes with long lashes and little freckles sprinkled across his nose. He's at a camp where he goes swimming twice a week and to 2 field trips to state parks a week. He is making lots of friends and is being very well behaved while I'm working. So proud of him! I just put my home on the market and moving into a 3 bedroom/2 bath house that has a huge built in pool in the backyard, it has a garage and a fenced in back yard, a fireplace and 2 living rooms. Finally I wont have to share a bathroom with my two handsome sons ;-) They are excited and we are planning a big pool party, we move in August 1st. I made $1000 dollars in commission alone last week at work. My company is growing, they are very supportive and everyday I work hard, but laugh while I'm doing it. My focus is on my kids, their home and our future. Oh and our dog is on a new flea medication called Comfortis, which is awesome and the vet said she was beautiful and very healthy, so she made me proud as well! Oh, and tomorrow will be the 3 year anniversary of us moving to Florida. We drove our 24' moving truck down here with all that we owned and headed to a place we had never been before. 3 years later, we have close friends that we consider family, we know our way around and we get to enjoy the beautiful Florida beaches whenever we feel like it. It's almost hard to believe this is home now, but it is :-) Thanks for the opportunity to brag, I am truly proud of my family and what life has in store for us!

footballmom77

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Why Didn't You Get Married When You Had Your Children? Posted: 7/1/2009 7:50:29 PM
Then he believed I was trying to trap him, in which case the doctor had to show him the shadow of the IUD in my ultrasound and be in the room to see it be removed. He says he was in the room to hold my hand in case I miscarried, but he was making comments prior to that that definitely inferred I was lying about having the Mirena. Yikes! I have the Mirena now, thankfully I dont really need it and since its not giving me any side effects, I'm going to keep it in, but I'm not too happy to hear it wasnt effective for you. You're in a tough spot and I feel bad about it. Sometimes I think if my ex and I did get married, I might not have left and tried to stick it out with him until he got better, but if I did stay, how much suffering would my kids have gone through? And what if he never got sober? To this day he still parties. And when you are with a guy like you are, that doesn't trust you or believe you, or is controlling, that is tough because you deserve to be with someone that wont bring you that kind of stress. Someone that loves you and isn't affraid to make that commitment to you and your child. But like you said, it's really hard to move on when it's on again off again and you love the guy. I ended up leaving the state. Good Luck

footballmom77

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Why Didn't You Get Married When You Had Your Children? Posted: 7/1/2009 6:48:01 PM
If it was so awful, why did you have a second child? Because I got pregnant, lol. We had the intention of having probly about 4 kids and honestly, when we were engaged and running a business and buying a home, the wedding didnt seem like a big deal, so we were doing things backwards, we loved each other, things were okay and then years after meeting the guy and after my second child was born, things went really bad. He ended up abusing pills, drinking, lying, doing dumb shit while under the influence, destoying the home, etc etc etc. And I didnt want my kids living in that kind of environment. And I tried to stand by him and help him and put up with his shit, but when the little one was about 4 I ended it. I knew if he brought me to an alter, I could not make that vow for life knowing what I knew. In less than a year, he had met a girl at a bar and got her pregnant. They live together now and arent married. Go Figure.

footballmom77

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Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT Posted: 7/1/2009 5:27:56 PM
Great topic OP! I just want to say that a few days ago, I added my main profile picture. It's a cleavage shot. It's the first one I've ever put on POF and guess what?!? All of a sudden, I am getting emails left and right and 3 guys emailed me their numbers today alone. Does my photo make me a SLUT? No. It goes to show that men are visual creatures and that a cleavage shot catches their attention, not my posts in the forums or the interests I list on my profile. So, if a guy is going after a girl based on her looks, do I really think he is caring about if she is a slut or not? In this case, I dont think guys care, they just want a peice. That's how I see it. Maybe I am wrong, and I apologize if any of the guys who emailed me read this, but hey, where were you before I put up the tittie shot? Not that I mind, I dont plan on giving up any sex to anyone, so it would be nice to take the opportunity to get to know some people from here.

footballmom77

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Why Didn't You Get Married When You Had Your Children? Posted: 7/1/2009 4:45:26 PM
I have two kids and never got married. And I am SOOOOOOOO thankful for that. If I had married the jerk I was engaged to for years, then I would probly be stuck in an unhealthy relationship right now. Even though I have the kids, I would rather be single than be with the EX.

footballmom77

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Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time? Posted: 7/1/2009 4:39:29 PM
I think it's possible to love more than one person at a time. Is it politically correct? No.

footballmom77

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single mom and the sex talk..... Posted: 7/1/2009 3:06:39 PM
Regarding the posts between futureshock and LSS145, I have to say, I was a mom at age 16 as well and just because I didnt abort or choose adoption, no way does that mean that I wanted to get pregnant or intentionally did it. If someone were to tell me that I got pregnant because I wanted to, based on my decision not to abort/adopt, I would tell them they have no idea what they are talking about.

footballmom77

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Men Who Father Many Children Out of Wedlock Posted: 6/30/2009 4:45:59 PM
This isn't possible. Signing over rights does not get a man out of child support. If the child is adopted by another man, and the bio father signed over rights, then the bio dad DOES get out of child support. At least in some states. But if there isn't an adoption made, then I dont know.

footballmom77

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taking care of a newborn Posted: 6/28/2009 9:33:41 PM
Hi Tinababy, I think you said in an earlier post that you baby is very young, like less than a month old? Pace yourself. Dont stress. Prioritize, meaning only do what you absolutely have to in a days time while your baby is so new. Relax, in time, you will be able to manage it all without feeling so overwhelmed. Plus, I am sure your hormones aren't helping, so go lay down with your baby, do the laundry later and enjoy!

footballmom77

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Do you hold back in forums to improve your profile? Posted: 6/28/2009 9:31:00 PM
OH and by the way (sorry to barge in here), but now that I put this picture up with cleavage, all of a sudden I am getting 4 times the amount of emails as I was. SO, I dont think what I write matters at all quite frankly. Sad but true.

footballmom77

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Do you hold back in forums to improve your profile? Posted: 6/28/2009 8:22:01 PM
i dont think too many people actually read my profile (unless they are the users that use the forums) because too many guys have asked me questions that are answered right there on my profile, lol. o well. but to answer you question OP, I dont hold back. sometimes if I am a bit ****y, i'll add a few more posts on different topics, just to get those last 5 moved down a bit lol, but other than that, i know they can read the last 50 if they really care to. at this point, i AM here mostly for the forums, so i would be denying myself if i tried to sugarcoat what I say.

footballmom77

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single mom and the sex talk..... Posted: 6/28/2009 8:06:49 PM
yea, i dont like this post at all, reminds me of a creepy guy trying to talk about a young boy, but anyway, OP, i have a 15 year old boy. They will explore, they will try to look at porn. All you need to do is talk about how sex makes babies, how if he ever does choose to have sex, wrap it up with a condom no matter what and then talk to him about genital warts and herpes ;-) You dont need to worry about showing him or telling him or getting him advice about the "how to _____" - trust me, he will figure it out on his own. And another bit of advice from me, if it matters but since you asked, why even talk about masturbation? Its not something a mom and son should talk about if you ask me. He can figure it out. Unless you are Catholic and you practice the religion, you can let him know its a sin and dont do it. HA, or just let the kid figure it out on his own. Yikes. I mean, OP, thats what you did right?

footballmom77

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Choosy Mom Posted: 6/28/2009 7:46:41 PM
I learned a valuable lesson in my mid 20's. Basically, if we have a reason to feel a certain way, it's okay to feel a certain way! Example: If you stub your toe, its okay to feel pain. If your best friend lies to you, its okay to feel betrayed and upset. If your relationship is falling apart and your loved one is treating you bad, its okay to feel depressed. If someone hurts your child, its okay to worry who else will. Its when people get freaked out and paranoid or mad for no reason that they might have a mental problem. Does that make sense?

footballmom77

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Do You Want Your Children To Be Married Before They Have Children? Posted: 6/28/2009 5:25:46 PM
Sure, I want my kids to be married before they have kids. I certainly dont want them to GET married because they got someone pregnant though. I figure if they marry a woman they love and are married to her for a few or more years and decide to have a baby, then chances are they will stay together. You never know for sure, but for my kids, yes, I would love to see them married to a woman they are happy with before they have any kids.

footballmom77

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Piercings, Yes or No? Posted: 6/28/2009 7:46:13 AM
when i see peircings on a male, i dont think about how those peircing would feel sexually. i like peircings, but i see them more as artistical statement, not sex toys.

footballmom77

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Tell me sweet little lies Posted: 6/28/2009 7:43:27 AM
forget that, you tell me one little lie and i will never believe anything you say,,,, lies are bad, not acceptable and a deal breaker with me.

footballmom77

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Do you think that you're pickier on the net than in everyday life? Posted: 6/28/2009 7:42:14 AM
yea, i think your mom has a valid point. but I must admit, i am pretty damn picky in real life too and just as "guarded" about who I trust. Mind you, I just pulled up the sex offender report for my zip code and over 400 of them popped up. NICE.

footballmom77

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tasteful shirtless pics, okay or not? Posted: 6/28/2009 7:39:05 AM
This is a dating site not a circus. Cartoons, Artwork, Drawings, Animals, Celebrities, Joke pictures, Shirtless males, Image effects enhanced pics of yourself etc., are not allowed. Wow, i didnt know that! I agree with a lot of the posters, a casual pic taken when you were out doing something with y0ur shirt off is "okay", but the ones when you are holding your camera phone on yourself taking pictures of your body, PLEASE, no thank you! Guys that do that are generally good for one thing,,,,,, themselves.

footballmom77

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forced to be a father? Posted: 6/27/2009 9:53:03 PM
not sure if this is something I want to get into or not, but i do believe that if a man is truly deadset against children, he shouldnt be dropping his sperm where it could fertilize an egg and make a baby. Men dont know what it is like to be a woman and how it feels when faced with an unwanted, unplanned pregnancy. put the child in the men and face them with the "choice" and see how many of them get abortions. geez.

footballmom77

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Whats an instant turn on for you Posted: 6/27/2009 7:34:43 PM
Turn On: a guy who smells good Turn Off: Self-Centeredness

footballmom77

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Why? Posted: 6/27/2009 7:08:26 PM
Woman want the kind, loving men, but we dont like smelly, boring, kind, loving men. We like a guy who makes us notice him, not one that sits there and just gets passed by.

footballmom77

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Starting over ... scare you off? Posted: 6/27/2009 7:02:17 PM
starting over is a good thing, but it make me wonder where is a guy at as far as readiness... I mean, I moved and started over and wasnt ready for anything for a couple of years, so I wonder the same about a guy. But you said something here that makes me wonder and can be something to make a woman think twice about your readiness: you said: Looking to re-enter the dating scene, yes. But looking to make friends first. So, which one is it? when I guy goes out of his way to say "friends first" what I hear is "commitment issues." I want to be friends with the guy I end up dating too, but I dont make a point of saying it like that. If you arent ready to date, that's okay. If you want to make some friends to hang out with, that's okay too. Only you can tell what you are ready for.

footballmom77

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Camping tips and recipes Posted: 6/27/2009 6:58:01 PM
i love chicken kabobs with peppers and onions soaked in italian dressing,,,, put those suckers in a pan cover it with foil, let it simmer over the coals and cook and walla, the best ever, even when its raining lol.

footballmom77

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What the HECK is going on Posted: 6/27/2009 4:57:31 PM
well you cant see your face good in the pics, that is important to most women i would think. and what are you saying to these women when you get no response?

footballmom77

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Do women mind single dads with kids Posted: 6/27/2009 4:52:50 PM
I only mind single dads with kids if they are jerks. Other than that, they are just my type!

footballmom77

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When your man checks out other girls Posted: 6/27/2009 4:45:50 PM
you can let it not bother you by slapping him and telling him its rude to stare!! a quick glance is no biggy, it wouldnt bother me if my guy looked, but to stare like a creep is a little much. yuck! and if he knows it bothers you and he still does it, i think you have a bigger problem than him looking at other girls. good luck.

footballmom77

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Breastfeeding Question Posted: 6/27/2009 1:10:39 PM
Try to find a bottle nipple that is very slow flowing (one that doesnt leak if you turn the bottle upside down for example). If your baby gets the milk a lot faster from the bottle than she may turn your breast away, knowing it will take to long to get the belly full. It happened with my son when he was about 4 months old. And remember, a baby that young wont know to stop fussing just because you gave them a bottle or breast. They actually need something in their stomach before they feel relief, unlike an adult who can relax if they know supper is cooking and they will be able to eat soon. Good Luck!

footballmom77

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looking for a single dad Posted: 6/27/2009 1:05:22 PM
hey aussie girl, i dont mind the grammar differences,,,,, no problem, as far as single mums looking for single dads, one would think the match would be better and a bit "easier" to find, so I understand maybe changing your search criteria to look for a single dad. I did the same thing, but still havent had much luck. I've decided I am too picky and when I do find a guy, for some reason, he always has some characteristic that I wouldnt want to live with,,,, so the wait continues! have fun and good luck! And to the couple guys here that have said the woman they tell they are single dads to always seem to run in the other direction, are these single woman without kids? As the thread is saying, we wonder if the match would be better if both parties had kids? Single moms have a harder time dating guys without kids, so I would think single dads would have the same problem, no?

footballmom77

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Choosy Mom Posted: 6/26/2009 8:57:37 PM
my first response is dont spend too much time getting attached to someone you never met in person. you can feel good, let your guard down and give a predator all the info they need to actually do harm to you and your family, PLUS, if they dont want to meet in person after chatting a few times, RED FLAG, and what happens if you meet him and find NO chemisty in person? Plus, you can tell a lot from meeting someone in person, vibes and stuff. Either way, you will always have to keep your guard up and watch for signs of any kind of abuse on your kid. That's just life these days.

footballmom77

Joined: 1/5/2009

Msg: 953 (view)

Do guys like single moms? Posted: 6/24/2009 11:10:25 PM
It couldn't possibly be because they did a rational, logic evaluation of the pros and cons and came to the conclusion that there are a whole lot of negatives to dating single parents and essentially no positives. Hi THEARMYLIFE, I was wondering if you could list those pros and cons out for me? Some of the pros i can think are priceless and can't really be compared to the negatives, but that's my opinion and I would like to hear more about yours, please.

footballmom77

Joined: 1/5/2009

Msg: 952 (view)

Do guys like single moms? Posted: 6/24/2009 11:04:31 PM
Shawn, first off, no offense taken and secondly you said: but really.. you are the single mom... you are the one with the extra mouths to feed. You are the one with the extra weight on your back with nothing extra to give... so tell me why bother with a single mom? my response to that is maybe you are a bit jaded like you said? I have to wonder where you meet these single moms that all seem to be the same? I only wonder because the things that you say sound a bit odd to me. I wouldnt never EVER date a guy in hopes of finding and instant daddy, I have several of my own master/visa cards, my extra mouths are perfectly well fed, I dont play head games, so it just surprises me that all the single moms you meet are all of those things you say we are. Maybe the bottom line with you is you just dont like other mens kids, or you dont like sharing attention with kids or you just keep the trashy single moms out of the bunch? Let me ask you this, since you know you are jaded and think very poorly of single moms, do you still date them anyway? Maybe get a little peice of ass and then dump them because you have no respect for them? You said to tell you why to bother with a single mom,,, so here's what I say to that. If you meet her and are attracted to her and she impresses you with her smarts and good job and beautiful home and well behaved healthy kids, why not? I mean, can you serve your own self breakfast in bed and rub your own back? If someone makes you happy, then why not? But if you are really as jaded as you say and sound, I would highly recommend not fighting it and just going and finding yourself a beautiful, single, successful, horny woman that you can make your own babies with. But make sure she's then one, you wouldnt want to contribute to the already outstanding number of single moms out there. good luck!

footballmom77

Joined: 1/5/2009

Msg: 18 (view)

Qualities of a good stepdad or stepmom Posted: 6/23/2009 9:40:35 PM
The kind of person I would want as a step parent to my kids would be someone that displays respects towards me and my kids. Somebody that understands that my kids are individuals and not doormats or "baggage". Someone that is honest, respectful of others, loving, mature, fun, responsible, and has some of the same interests as the kids and I. Someone that knows how to take care of the things he works hard for and isn't affraid to try new things. Somebody that won't be mean to my kids when he is mad at me. Somebody that doesnt abuse drugs and alcohol. Someone that's a positive influence and that can bring a positive/responsible perspective on life when around my kids. Somebody that loves me. That's all I can think of at the moment,,,,

footballmom77

Joined: 1/5/2009

Msg: 157 (view)

why are men reluctant to get involved with someone who has kids Posted: 6/21/2009 5:09:32 PM
^^^ that's two times you have talked to me now and zero times i talked to you,,,, I've been around these forums for years and quite frankly, I always end up leaving for a while because of boring people like you. My intentions are never to meet your idea of witty or controversial, they are simple to voice my own opinion, to myself mostly. Honestly, i only want to feel sorry for the world when i come across people like you, so please, dont ever show me "attention" again, okay? Ever.

footballmom77

Joined: 1/5/2009

Msg: 155 (view)

why are men reluctant to get involved with someone who has kids Posted: 6/21/2009 5:03:43 PM
it's so funny when i see the comments regarding grammar and spelling,,, we are all in the least formal environment ever and none of us need to worry about something as little as typo's and grammar. when i was in college i had to worry about my papers been written correctly and when i write a formal business letter, that's when it counts, but not here. personal attacks in the forums are prohibited and the people who write them never stay for that long, so i guess i'll just keep laughing when i see such insignificant posts. as far as the topic at hand, i find that funny too because everyone is different. everyone has different desires and standards. one mans trash is anothers treasure,,, and the circle of disagreement will continue to go around, i'm sure.

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